adam500hr:
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Divorce is a demon cast it out of your mind.
Because your are very hard headed with her request she might be doing same to you. Ignore what she said and continue with your marriage. At least you're not a saint too, and if you are... Someday you ll stop being one. It's not a curse but sincere fact

Dhayor001:

1. Never yell.

2. Don't call names or use insults

3 Never make statements that you cant back up sooner or later

Obviously you have made a big mistake here. And until you have undeniable proof, I suggest you call your wife and apologise sincerely.

What she said about a Mouth Action and the stylish hanging up may be ploys to get you worked up and raise the money for her, or they may be true that she's cheating. As you have no proof of either, you have to be the man and eat the humble pie.

As for her not wanting orgasms, bros na your wife o. However hard she might act, there are moves you make that (you know) drives her mad. Do them unexpectedly, not too much, just enough to get her excited and see if she will not give herself to you fully.

If she says she wants to leave, bro, the answer is no. Our generation should not be the one that throws things away because it is broken, we ought to mend them and make them work. Our parents did it, we can too. No be say na by force but divorce never makes things easy. Me and that woman will lock ourselves in a room for a week and work things out.

If she has cheated on you (and she confesses) and you are willing to forgive, good. If not, however, let that be the basis of you guys separating and not just cause of some money issues or emotional trauma.

If you must part ways, please the less the noise made and dust raised, the better.

Above all, be calm and meditate. Pray, it works!


Cheers.

nice one bro

HungerBAD:
Interesting.

First,if we knew each other personally i will not say this because i want to mind my business,but your wife is sleeping outside and i am not sure it just started newly.

That she is even planning on leaving the family,to what she considers a greener pasture over your refusal to release that money to her,tells us your competition has really worked on her.

She will not be the first married woman to make this same mistake,of thinking that their lovers really love them and that when they walk away from their families,loverboy will just make them their number ONE.

There is a reason they say women have fish brain. They forget that loverboy sleeping with them when married,can never trust them. As a wife that cheated on her EX while married will cheat on them too,and so she usually ends losing both husband and loverboy.

She is your wife and it is your decision to make. You assumed you knew her,and that is why you married her,so you are in a better position to tell if she can cheat.

But you said she has a store?i always advice men to marry or date mostly professional women. Not saying they are better,but married women who run stores,joints,go around selling (Gold,shoes,Clothes) and stuff in offices usually sleep around a lot and the husbands are usually the last to know.

The problem with a cheating spouse,is that even if you forgive her/him it never stops. It is an habit they cant let go and that is why i tell people,if your spouse is cheating on you,let that person go.

You are compromising your life by staying with a cheating spouse.

bro sorry to say, you will need koboko soaked in a wattery pepper, haba why on earth will you give such advice,
have you forgotten its for better for .....?

nnamdibig:
Hmmmmm, something is seriously wrong somewhere, I guess you tell her to confess so you can forgive her. That may make her open up to you.
But your wife is very very ungrateful sha....... Extremely ungrateful.

when it come to a cheating spouse, their is no such thing as confess and be forgiven.

NnamdiiKanu:


Because he's not a 5 year old boy

That's obvious... but however still not the answer here to my question ?

pesinfada:
wat abt d person weh use her mouth shout Mouth Action?

anybody can make a mistake while talking especially if you had that in mind before

Businessman1986:


Is that not a bit silly and disgusting? The man has made it clear that there's reason, tangible, to distrust, what is there to talk about except extend the "yama yama" situation? The only road now is hard. No spouse should have to manage filth.

smh

luminouz:

U sound like a Pusey ass nigga!!!! Do u need a prophet to tell u where d marriage is heading? What's with these NL kids sef

shut up

The main problem is getting pregnant b4 marriage, having sex!! B4 marriage makes u get suspicious of your partner..so from scratch ur marriage was already stamped invalid.. so bro help ur self do tins d right way

nnamdibig:
Hmmmmm, something is seriously wrong somewhere, I guess you tell her to confess so you can forgive her. That may make her open up to you.
But your wife is very very ungrateful sha....... Extremely ungrateful.

I REPEAT ... IN THIS COUNTRY, NO WOMAN OF THIS GENERATION IS EVER GRATEFUL.... NO MATTER WHAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR A WOMAN , JUST TURN DOWN HER REQUEST ONE OR TWO TIMES , THE NEXT THING YOU'LL HEAR IS WHAT HAVE YOU EVEN DONE FOR ME.

Correct one.
God bless you.

Dhayor001:

1 Never yell.

2. Don't call names or use insults

3 Never make statements that you cant back up sooner or later

Obviously you have made a big mistake here. And until you have undeniable proof, I suggest you call your wife and apologise sincerely.

What she said about a Mouth Action and the stylish hanging up may be ploys to get you worked up and raise the money for her, or they may be true that she's cheating. As you have no proof of either, you have to be the man and eat the humble pie.

As for her not wanting orgasms, bros na your wife o. However hard she might act, there are moves you make that (you know) drives her mad. Do them unexpectedly, not too much, just enough to get her excited and see if she will not give herself to you fully.

If she says she wants to leave, bro, the answer is no. Our generation should not be the one that throws things away because it is broken, we ought to mend them and make them work. Our parents did it, we can too. No be say na by force but divorce never makes things easy. Me and that woman will lock ourselves in a room for a week and work things out.

If she has cheated on you (and she confesses) and you are willing to forgive, good. If not, however, let that be the basis of you guys separating and not just cause of some money issues or emotional trauma.

If you must part ways, please the less the noise made and dust raised, the better.

Above all, be calm and meditate. Pray, it works!


Cheers.

You must have started the journey with money so it will end with money. There is little chance it can be repaired any other way except God steps in.

Things are gradually fallen apart dis days,marriage sumtims looks like a curse( am not saying it is though)

God pls give me a perfect marriage.... Biko

GodnGold:
I have been privileged to be married for a good number of years.

Two wrongs do not make a right in any marriage.

If one tries to show how intelligent he is in a marriage,the two individuals will only head for the gutters.

Ask any couple that has lived together for years...One of the two has being compromising for the train to keep moving.


You did not hear from the OP'S wife of the case and so I think I tried to work on the subject at hand.

Your very right about the necessary compromises needed by both partners and certain politics played and all, I just feel these compromises should come from a deep understanding of the fact that they are coming from different backgrounds with different desires,goals,values,dreams and all so cannot want the same things always,With this deeply understood by both parties compromises sometimes from either don't fester unconscious resentments and is not one sided leaving little or no room for certain minds games and all which may in the long run be destructive to the marriage.
This might all seem like plenty talk and all but I just think certain broad boundaries should be set and not crossed no matter what within which other moment to moment issues can be grappled with and one of those boundaries should include never making ur spouse feel like he/she might loose you if what She/he wants at any particular time is not given.. .not even if u do not mean it. Like you said we did not hear from the bride.

But like you said, you have been married for years nd sure you will agree with somethings I have written, I on the other hand while not married witness daily the bad politics and mind games played by my married relatives and friends witnessing first hand the damage these things cause because Na me them they always come meet to pour their complains and all. In the end I just think.. .to minimise certain things we just need to be better people.
Forgive my long epistle.

NnamdiiKanu:


She did nothing wrong ??

The husband spent 1 million on a new shop, 1 million down the drain, 1 year later, she wants another 2 million naira

Don't be a dumb fucck

I would only tell the guy to pay 2 million naira for a new shop only if he have that kind of money to waste

Stop calling her a hoe ?? The husband is not a 5 year old kid, he knows how the wife acts and what a cheating wife acts like

Why are you defending the woman ?? Do you know her more than the husband ??

This is why i hate people, there are a lot of brainless goats like you with a shitty opinion

You are just reasoning from your poverty riddled life perspective,you have no idea why the woman want to leave the shop beside she knows her husband is capable and know his worth reason she is asking for such amount.You have no idea how large they live or how small they live,you are just there judging as if you are one of their family

Women suck real bad at thinking which explains why they are constantly working against their own interests.


Difficult to form any sort of alliance with someone whose world is ruled by tingles and emotions.

hamzeiy:

so make the man wait untill the cheat of a wofe decides to walk away?.. thats a spineless advice pls

One of the responsibilities of a man is to defend his home against external aggression. He should fight for the survival of his marriage. And if after he's done all he could to make the woman see why the children don't deserve a broken home by changing her ways and insists on walking away, he then can be absolved of any guilt whatsoever. Never forget he made the first mistake of marrying her!

I once had a suspicion about my partner ,well after playing all my mind games to no end ,I simply remotely installed a virus in the spouses phone .

Come and see rain and thunder.

I got access to whatsapp chats, facebook, texts ,hell the virus would capture any conversation and play it back to me complete .

Let's just say I did the needful and I am a happy man ,I feel bad snooping on her like that but my quest for facts/truth is insatiable ..lol

bettercreature:
You are just reasoning from your poverty riddled life perspective,you have no idea why the woman want to leave the shop beside she knows her husband is capable and know his worth reason she is asking for such amount.You have no idea how large they live or how small they live,you are just there judging as if you are one of their family

Why don't she go find a job and stop bugging the husband for money

Is he in a marriage with the husband or employed by the husband ?? Why does she expect millions of naira from the husband ??

Adam my man i have read alot of posts concerning this ur marriage wahala. I never Mary myself but if there is something i know from the experiences of strong married couples i have been around is not to let anybody compromise ur principles whether na ur spouse or not.
You may have been a f*ck boi before paying for ur sins now but u don marry and there are alot of ways you can deal with this situation.
I go only tell u like 3.
First is the silly way- no reply her, care for ur kids and give her the silent treatment to max tune up. For like 2 months. She go mellow by force. No chaw her food too.
If she no dey respond, just know say she dey cheat.

Second is to take this sh*t public to her father. She be pastor pikin so go and shame her in her household and see if heaven does not fall(confront it wisely and traditionally sha. With drinks and family members). If she no heed to her family summons and advise, then just knw u married a Jezebel.

Third is to do what most of the broke chicks and p*ssy niggas are telling u to do in this thread. Roll over and die. Give in to her demands and become a b*tch. I dont recommend this though unless you're not an alpha.

Bro you know your wife pass, if she is not getting orgasms from u, she may be getting it from Somewhere else cos she seems to me like a free spirit kinda girl.
There is no foundation in your relationship, so better go do a secret partenity test on ur kids. You don't want baggage to start haunting your future.
Don't stay in a relationship you won't want for your children in the future..NIP THIS IN THE BUD NOW

UnimkeAk:


I REPEAT ... IN THIS COUNTRY, NO WOMAN OF THIS GENERATION IS EVER GRATEFUL.... NO MATTER WHAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR A WOMAN , JUST TURN DOWN HER REQUEST ONE OR TWO TIMES , THE NEXT THING YOU'LL HEAR IS WHAT HAVE YOU EVEN DONE FOR ME.

Maybe the women you've met. Not everyone is ungrateful. I appreciate every little done by my husband. Not all women are ingrate.


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kneehighbootz:

My Brother, it's like you entered my mind.

please Just show more love to your wife.THANKs

oodua1stson:
are you married?

Yes I am.

Cheers

henryhemon:


I pity the man that will marry this one. God will not allow your kind near me or my family .

Amen!

egedem:
pussy niqqa spoted

Pussy nigga with a good home, a happy marriage and a great wife. I think being a pussy nigga suits me bro.


Cheers

bsonenterprise:



Who is this turd. People like you are footstools for your wife. Op, please disregard this weakling jare.

Turd? Weakling?

Lol.

So i should yell, slap my wife around a bit and make baseless accusations just so I can be "The man"?

Sorry your chiefness, I am not a low life animal controlled by instincts and ego.

Enjoy your day.

Dhayor001:

1. Never yell.

2. Don't call names or use insults

3 Never make statements that you cant back up sooner or later

Obviously you have made a big mistake here. And until you have undeniable proof, I suggest you call your wife and apologise sincerely.

What she said about a Mouth Action and the stylish hanging up may be ploys to get you worked up and raise the money for her, or they may be true that she's cheating. As you have no proof of either, you have to be the man and eat the humble pie.

As for her not wanting orgasms, bros na your wife o. However hard she might act, there are moves you make that (you know) drives her mad. Do them unexpectedly, not too much, just enough to get her excited and see if she will not give herself to you fully.

If she says she wants to leave, bro, the answer is no. Our generation should not be the one that throws things away because it is broken, we ought to mend them and make them work. Our parents did it, we can too. No be say na by force but divorce never makes things easy. Me and that woman will lock ourselves in a room for a week and work things out.

If she has cheated on you (and she confesses) and you are willing to forgive, good. If not, however, let that be the basis of you guys separating and not just cause of some money issues or emotional trauma.

If you must part ways, please the less the noise made and dust raised, the better.

Above all, be calm and meditate. Pray, it works!


Cheers.

U are matured.

Adam, I really feel your pain. Truth is she is seeing someone else and she doesn't love you from your story and your comments. Even if guilty of what you accused her of, which many married ladies do now, it's too easy/ fast for her to think of separation or divorce except if you are the violent or aggressive type and she's thinking safety. It's unfortunate that people now want to eat the cake and have it. We want to be called married yet live like singles. Her primary motivation is materialism and that's the problem which you need to work on. She knew you had potentials before you made your wealth and she played her cards well. This particular issue won't break your marriage cos it will surely pass especially when you don't have a proof. And even if you have a proof show her but forgive her and hope she truly repents. My sincere prayer is that you don't have financial challenges in the future as that may spell your marital doom. Please bro, invest and divest the little or much that you have now for your children's future. You need to take charge of your marriage not just financially. No marriage is perfect so work to save yours BUT marriage is also not a do or die affair. Show her more love psychologically and spend more time with her possibly. However, don't accept a recurrence of cheating as that will put your life at risk.

cruchenuti:
afam500hr

There is an app you can use to find out whatever happens on your wife's phone. Whatsapp chats, screenshots and everything.

Anyway, its always good to marry woman who has the fear of God and not like all this freethinker ladies and feminist wey full Nairaland. Lemme not call names. Let them not come for my head.

Even the marriages of Pastors crash

Christian couples still have a higher divorce rate than atheist couples

No one can say it any better than this 2.

HungerBAD
Acidosis

I live to realize that ones be it a girlfriend,wife,boyfriend or husband cheated ones,it will take only Grace of God for him or her to stop the act.

So from the confines of your bedroom you divined that his wife is not cheating. Wonders!

A person you don't know and have not even seen her psychological profile but based on a few lines that the traumatised husband wrote.

Hmm.

Perhaps if he said he caught her in the act you would have said she was charmed.

Aside from the fact that you share the same gender, you have no reason to tell him that his wife is NOT cheating.

Even if she isn't, you don't have enough data to make such conclusion. Not every woman is as versed as you in psychological warfare.

GodnGold:
As always,I don't like one sided stories.

But oga Adam, you lost my respect when you started getting worked up about her calls and issues...then you went down yonder to call names...oga...e dalu ya (you fail am ).

To remedy your case,those phone calls and etc were done to swing you to action.

You know like get you scared of loosing her and then you do her bidding.

But that lady is brilliant sha.

She is not cheating...she is only working on your mind.

I repeat...she is not cheating...mind games.

Now,play the fool card,bro,the olodo card.

Beg her,tell her how sorry you are, be more olodotic about it by shedding so many shoulder vibrating tears with phlegm oozing out of your nostrils...yes...those tears.

Now,buy something for her and promise to help her with the money ...SOON!

Peace restored at SOON!

Then few days later ...you got her at cloud 99,tell her a touchy tale as to why you can't raise the money.

Be sorry man,Show pain,loose your sleep about it, you feel me?

Let her see the worry on your face but bro,don't you ever agree to do the loan thingy with her bro.

We women can drag one yonder if they let us...I warn you...do not agree...And remember...Show thy pain...let it be written all over you!

You owe me you know.

Joavid:


Were you blind during courtship?
How long did you court?

He was not blind. You were rude with such question. As any man can be deceive by any woman. Some women can pretend during courtship even when you court them for so long. They are expert in that area. So it's not the duration of courtship that matters one needs to pray he don't fall victim of such women.