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fatymore:
no..my discipline her has level.. Discipline her in so many ways....Sex. Food.. Upkeep fees. Not eating her food. Let her write an undertaking.. Anytime she beats you.. You won't hesitate to discipline her..

Amberon:
Rubbish excuse. Men also push women to the wall. Violence is never the solution.

Rooneyboy:
What about when the reverse is the case?

When she knows that you can never hit her and she takes that as an advantage.

I'm talking from experience and it's not a funny experience.

Slapping and apologizing

ogobaby23:
I would rather divorce than endure

slawomir:
any body that try such beating nonsense with my Sisther or female relative because you are the husband or boyfriend is gone.

I will put a bullet in your head. have not hit someone's Sisther. i hate that thing with passion not because I have many Sisthers but I dislike that nonsense.
these were the reason I decided to belong so I can protect my loved ones
I remember those days when one guy in auchi poly was always hitting my cousin. I called him on phone not to touch her again. and he thought I was joking not until the day I drove down to auchi with my real guyz then he now realized I was not a Jew man and he even noticed that me and his own close friend was a brother in the same line of game. since then have not heard about any beating from my cousin

I was not a Jew man and he even noticed that me and his own close friend was a brother in the same line of game.

bravesoul247:
what did I say and what are you saying? Did I ever mention that violence is the solution? Did I even give any excuse sef? Read my comment well before typing shit

BaesDiary:
Because the rate of women that die as a result of 'endure-it-and-hope-it-gets-better' is on the rise, I wrote this:


You both loved each other, yes, you were so much in love with him. He was the only one who makes your world go round. You were fond of each other, and you could not imagine life without him. You blessed the day you met him, he was not perfect, but awesome in his own…..


You got married. This was your dream come true. Yes, you are now married to your beau. You had vowed to be with him, come rain, come sunshine… come all that the world may throw at you….


But then, things changed. It started with a smack, it degenerated to tappings, he uses his belt. No, I am not talking ‘the 50 shades of grey', kinda beating, not the bedroom dominant-submissive# kinda thing…..


I am talking about real beating that ranges from slaps to punches, stamping, boxing and every form of abuse you have been receiving.


You kept quiet, he has apologized. He promised never to lay his hands on you anymore, except he wants to caress you…. He showed how remorseful he was…


Then, it happened again… this time you were the ‘cause’. He told you pushed him too far. He would not have done it again, if you had not called him names and if you had not…..


And just before you knew it, he violated you again, this time harder, you sustained bruises here and there. He was sorry, he did not know what came over him this time. He got you that thing you loved most, he appeased you with gifts, you let go. ‘He is human, isn’t he?’


You got to a point where you can no longer take it. You told his people, they apologized on his behalf, called him to reprimand him, and told you he would never try such again.


But then, it happened again and again and again, you reported to people… you have been told never to keep quiet on such issues. His people told you to endure, your parents told you to manage…they have given you out in marriage, you can’t bring shame to them by going back to their house. Your friends told you that you are even lucky, some girls would do anything to attain that married status you have. So, they advise you to stay for your kids. Your clergy told you to pray. The society expectation of you is to keep up with his ill treatment. You don’t want to be single mother, or separated mom, you dislike such label….


But you die every day, with his raging blows… You die daily from his consistent abuse….

Will you wait till you are beaten to death, before you realize you should have run?

Would you rather die from his constant beating, than live for your children?

Many have towed this path…. Many have endured it, till their last breath was taken. Do you know the percentage of women who die yearly as a result of domestic violence?

RUN SISTER, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE, SAY NO TO THE “ENDURE IT SYNDROME”!



This post first appeared on this blog, Bae's Diary.

Source: http://www.baesdiary.com.ng/2017/03/the-endure-it-syndrome-how-it-plays-out.html#more

Seun, lalasticlala, Mynd44, Ishilove

Lunagirl:
Final advice for women, never ever stop making money. Don't sacrifice it for anything. The reason why most women can't leave is because they can't afford to be alone with their kids.

Have the number of kids YOU can personally afford and make sure you keep making money to the point that if violence becomes a trend, you can easily leave with your kids.

If you tell these abusive guys to beat their fellow men for road them no go gree o.

But they will come home to form boss for their wives

curiositymaster:
We know , even before you talk am

BaesDiary:
Because the rate of women that die as a result of 'endure-it-and-hope-it-gets-better' is on the rise, I wrote this:


You both loved each other, yes, you were so much in love with him. He was the only one who makes your world go round. You were fond of each other, and you could not imagine life without him. You blessed the day you met him, he was not perfect, but awesome in his own…..


You got married. This was your dream come true. Yes, you are now married to your beau. You had vowed to be with him, come rain, come sunshine… come all that the world may throw at you….


But then, things changed. It started with a smack, it degenerated to tappings, he uses his belt. No, I am not talking ‘the 50 shades of grey', kinda beating, not the bedroom dominant-submissive# kinda thing…..


I am talking about real beating that ranges from slaps to punches, stamping, boxing and every form of abuse you have been receiving.


You kept quiet, he has apologized. He promised never to lay his hands on you anymore, except he wants to caress you…. He showed how remorseful he was…


Then, it happened again… this time you were the ‘cause’. He told you pushed him too far. He would not have done it again, if you had not called him names and if you had not…..


And just before you knew it, he violated you again, this time harder, you sustained bruises here and there. He was sorry, he did not know what came over him this time. He got you that thing you loved most, he appeased you with gifts, you let go. ‘He is human, isn’t he?’


You got to a point where you can no longer take it. You told his people, they apologized on his behalf, called him to reprimand him, and told you he would never try such again.


But then, it happened again and again and again, you reported to people… you have been told never to keep quiet on such issues. His people told you to endure, your parents told you to manage…they have given you out in marriage, you can’t bring shame to them by going back to their house. Your friends told you that you are even lucky, some girls would do anything to attain that married status you have. So, they advise you to stay for your kids. Your clergy told you to pray. The society expectation of you is to keep up with his ill treatment. You don’t want to be single mother, or separated mom, you dislike such label….


But you die every day, with his raging blows… You die daily from his consistent abuse….

Will you wait till you are beaten to death, before you realize you should have run?

Would you rather die from his constant beating, than live for your children?

Many have towed this path…. Many have endured it, till their last breath was taken. Do you know the percentage of women who die yearly as a result of domestic violence?

RUN SISTER, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE, SAY NO TO THE “ENDURE IT SYNDROME”!



This post first appeared on this blog, Bae's Diary.

Source: http://www.baesdiary.com.ng/2017/03/the-endure-it-syndrome-how-it-plays-out.html#more

Seun, lalasticlala, Mynd44, Ishilove

Amberon:
Take your own advice and reread your earlier comment. Maybe you can understand why I said so.

ogobaby23:
So you are a mind reader?!