I wrote this on Facebook and got a lot of positive reactions.. So I think you all need to be enlightened too.

READ THIS;

As it is not proper for a man to hit a woman, it is also considerably improper to nag as a woman. It is true, a lot of men don't know how to talk when angry(usually timid) and equally don't know how to express it without violence/abuse(although some men can wail even more than women).

Using myself, there are phrases I say that I'd like my future wife to incubate in her for the rest of her life especially when I'm angry. "Stop it!", "Don't do it!", "I'm sorry!", "It's okay!" etc.. These are phrases I say with my whole heart poured into it. And if you had noticed, I used an acclamatory sign to indicate action, anger, frustration, depression etc.

When these words comes out of my mouth when I'm angry, learn to respect it. Though I usually walk out of any argument when I'm angry to avoid any abuse. In as much as I do so often, it's not that easy as everyone thinks, because we all want to proof our innocence in every argument. But don't I deserve coming back to the house to meet a more calm wife that's ready to talk like a real woman? Don't I deserve to come back and meet a woman that has repented from her sins of nagging?

Think of this, You know how uncomfortable you've always been when you do something wrong and your mum keeps repeating the incident over and over again till the following day? I don't think you've forgotten that feeling so soon. That's what some men pass through at home. They get verbally abused everyday and no one notices it, and even if they do, it's normal to them.

Why do we suddenly think men can adsorb any kind of abuse and women can't? Why do women think that nagging is a right while hitting them isn't? These are some things they need to know.. I'm not advocating for men that hits women, but women should learn to respect and acknowledge men's anger, and learn to manage it. Take note of those words he keeps saying.. Those unheard murmurs, those "don'ts" and those "sorrys". We are not super humans. We have emotions too.

He certainly can condone your nags for few months, but what I don't know is.. How long his patience will last. Reduce your nagging tendencies and have a more hitting free husband. It's a two way affair.

To my friends "women activists" I hope you will be humble enough to learn this.

Peace..

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Only ONE thing can be done: MARRY THE RIGHT GUY!

I have seen a woman receiving punches, and in the centre of it, instead of running for her dear life, she still continued screaming: " you must kill me today....useless man..." Infact, more insults more blows, yet she persisted o!

LordIsaac:
I have seen a woman receiving punches, and in the centre of it, instead of running for her dear life, she still continued screaming: " you must kill me today....useless man..." Infact, more insults more blows, yet she persisted o!

And the Mumu man no go stop. It's just insane.



You sef, what did you do?

The tone of your write up makes it seem all victims of domestic violence are females..

What can this OP say about the following real life stories.

1) Lady Stabs Her Boyfriend To Death In Opobo, Rivers State
https://www.nairaland.com/3792216/lady-stabs-boyfriend-death-opobo

2) More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2010/sep/05/men-victims-domestic-violence

3) Domestic violence against men soars to record levels as number of cases treble in past decade
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/1802863/domestic-violence-against-men-soars-to-record-levels-as-number-of-cases-treble-in-past-decade/

4) Domestic violence against men: Know the signs
http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/domestic-violence-against-men/art-20045149

5) 11 facts everyone should know about domestic violence against men
https://www.domesticshelters.org/domestic-violence-articles-information/men-can-be-abused-too#.WRRQCTe1tO0

6) Domestic Violence Against Men In Colorado
http://www.dvmen.org/

7) Domestic abuse against men: Know the signs
http://metro.co.uk/2016/06/08/domestic-abuse-against-men-know-the-signs-5931125/

8 ) etc

LordIsaac:
I have seen a woman receiving punches, and in the centre of it, instead of running for her dear life, she still continued screaming: " you must kill me today....useless man..." Infact, more insults more blows, yet she persisted o!

you got me laughing

Kondomatic:
And the Mumu man no go stop. It's just insane.



You sef, what did you do?

I couldn't interfere o...I just...

MrBrownJay1:
Only ONE thing can be done: MARRY THE RIGHT GUY!

If you get to Meet some men/women, you will say that if God is the one who created them, then God is such a WONDERFUL GOD.

Thank you LORD for creating all the good men and women that have added value to my life, God please bless the mother that RAISE THIS GOOD/BEAUTIFUL SOULS.

In short violence is the answer ko?

No wahala. Everybody should be beating themselves since we all have breaking points.

Wives, start keeping that knife close under your pillows, and keep that pestle nearby.
While at it, always remember to keep water boiling on the stove 24/7. Oh, how about that rat poison from the mai guard next door? Is it still under the staircase?
Any fvckup from your husbands deserves to be treated

Husbands, don't forget to go sharpen your boxing skills daily gym visits please, and equally hone your dodging and diving skills. Its very important.You never know when you'll need it to treat your wife's fvck up.
You're on a battleground, remember?
Survival of the fittest.

Sleeping with the enemy is not for the faint hearted.

Or she could learn karate

They are 100 ways to kill a rat! ...the same ways they are to dealing with a nagging wife! ... beating your wife is just one

...why make use of one that can cause damages in terms of medical bills n a lifetime of regret after spending a few moments of your life serving 18months in a prison yard filled with convicts who admire the way your ass moves anytime you work down d stairs! ...

OR ...the position of your yansh protruding wit a vast amount of sexual energy each time you bend to cut the grass in the prison yard!

Instead choose the avoid n run option ... It might nt b easy! ... But anytime yu want to avoid an aggressively exciting scene wit yur wife ...try as much as possible to say " I know am wrong ... I promise to change ...just give me more time"

Her attention would be shifted from _"your friends are taking care of their wives like iPhone screen ...yu here complaining dat I don't know ao to spend money ...useless man! ..yuar ar as useless as my left hand! ...omo ale jati jati!" __to ___ "ao long will I have to wait for you to change your behavior of talking to me like am your stepsister

Just kip saying ..i will change give me more time ...meanwhile locate your car keys ...or wear your 3quarter n prepare to leave the house to grab a spoonful of fresh breeze skydiving down your spine dat yu didn't end up on the front page of the NATION NEWSPAPER for speardiving your wife after beating mercilessly for provoking you!

Don't let them get into your head! ... They can be your sweetheart in d time of sorrow but become your greatest nightmare in times of argument!

... They don't hate you! ...it is natural for women who care about you to nag n disturb you ...it shows they ar concerned about you! ... But some overdo it by not knowing when to stop!

***Pardon my typo errors ...am not perfect but I will be!

It best to remain calm or block d blow and land a uppercut that will knock out two teeth... I doubt he will try ya again

Aje ku iya ni oje, ajeku iya ni o je, eni ti o to eni no, ton ju uppercut, aje Ku iya ni oje

Nma27:
It best to remain calm or block d blow and land a uppercut that will knock out two teeth... I doubt he will try ya again

MrBrownJay1:
Only ONE thing can be done: MARRY THE RIGHT GUY!

Sometimes,that seems to be impossible... Since its not written on the forehead

DucheSsMerezz:

Sometimes,that seems to be impossible... Since its not written on the forehead

Of course it aint easy, thats why you have to spend TIME with that Person to "discover" them fully.

These violent people don't turn violent overnight. 1st sign of violent behaviour during dating, you bounce!

solbinho:
Aje ku iya ni oje, ajeku iya ni o je, eni ti o to eni no, ton ju uppercut, aje Ku iya ni oje

In English pls...