Toks2008:
There is one absurdity i have seen in romantic affairs...it's the act of unbalance feelings of love and affection from both parties which usually leaves one party feeling unloved and in many cases will lead to sadness, depression, anger, nagging when they feel they are not getting the love and attention they deserve....If you find yourself expressing the aforementioned then you are clearly begging for love.

If you ever observe this just pause and ask yourself why you are begging for the love and affection...if there is something you are doing wrong then adjust but if it is just your partner who is not just connecting with you please move on.

Stop crying and begging for love from someone who is not willing to give it. Stop begging fot attention,compliments, praise,admiration,hugs,kisses because at the end it will lead to serious depression and you will start thinking you are not good enough and this destructive mindset will prevent you from attaining your goals and dreams in life.

If you are dating someone who makes you beg for love and affection please close your eyes and leave that union...*MOVE ON* cos you are too special to beg for love from anyone because in the real sense. ...such person is not worth it but if you go ahead to marry such with the hope that he or she will change then you are on a wild goose chase cos it will most likely get worse.

And if you are married yet see yourself begging for love and affection please get a grip of yourself and channel your energy on yourself and your kids if any. ..
the constant nagging makes you look desperate. Deal with it by learning how to love yourself, and take care of yourself (mentally, physically, and spiritually).

Stop waiting for that other person to grab your hand, and motivate yourself by moving forth in your life and acknowledging that you are a dynamic, unique, beautiful, talented person with or without the love or attention from another individual.

The problem is that rather than move on,many people would rather remain in that affair hoping things will change thereby sinking deeper and deeper into a sorry state.

Remember that there is always someone out there who is ready to give you all the love and affection you can ever dream of so stop wasting your time and life with someone who does not deserve you.

The strange twist is that in most cases,if you care less and focus on yourself,the other party will realize how valuable you are and will most likely give you more than the attention you deserve.

Always remember that the wrong person will make you beg for affection, attention and commitment but the right person will give you very effortlessly because he or she truly wants you.

Don't know if this makes sense.

Na true talk

Thanks for this special Topic, this happen to me as well because of my flexible heart. I love the girl wholeheartedly but this girl is arrogating herself, doing her own wishes, she always harden her heart, dating several people and she is not faithful. But I a just hoping she will change, and I do disturb her for Marriage but she seems not ready. Please advice

Men doing this presently will be rethinking their lives and ways. I pity ladies market

cuteme88:
Infact ehhhhh! Is like u are even talking to me directly. I ended My first relationship of 3yrs because it so seems like i was the one trying to make the relationship work, and it turns out to be a one-sided relationship thing. I do the calling,texting and check up on my guy i just like what's all this? Na me toast am abi na him come toast me? If he loves me as he claim make him too dey try reach out to me. And now i just ended another relationship of 2yrs because of the same issue. I till do the calling, texting and check up. Imagine calling your Man to say hello after 3months of no communication and he says I'm busy will call u back! And u till have to wait another 3months for his so called statement of calling u back Chei! Na u come and find me. I never ask to be in a relationship with u, na me till go dey call, text and even try to reach out to u. I no fit shout oooh jawe! Kilode

Thanks for the article.

this is one of the reason I always say no one is truly busy, most people use busy as an excuse to ignore. I once saw a meme that says "don't let anyone tell you they are busy,even married men with a career and family still manage to keep an affair.This is why i observe when I hear " I will call you back",people especially guys have now trivialised the "I will call you back" line. my sister like you rightly said ,you didn't beg anyone to ask you out,kudos for having self worth

Your are very right

Nickizoe

yemmit90:


Even with all financial independent in the world or whatever, women will still crying and beg for love where it is not necessary or needed.

Women loving the wrong men are like 5&6.

I swear!

firstking01:
Romeo and juliet...jack and rose...your mum and dad...these persons had balanced love lives .

You will like to think so but and that's a big BUTT, it may not necessary be true. You only see what you want to see. Especially those closest to you

Some people are lucky to fall in love with others that love them in the same way,while some are very unlucky to fall for people that dont even care that they exist.these unlucky ones have a hard time trying to maintain this love,and for them to move on is really hard cos theres true love involved .............
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True talk

Foolish kind of love

Am coming back for this rightnow am buy

experience a huge financial turn around this weekend....

Omotayor123:
You're Right OP. but the problem is people finds "moving on" to be very difficult (I agree it is). but begging and hopping is Not the solution.

Once we are determined it's won't be as hard as we think.

sure, you will cry, feel frustrated and all...but pls. don't beg for love, it's not worth it.

With, Patience, Prayer And Perseverance, the Right Partner will definitely come.

And change or attitude improvement also

Mariinee:
Well said.

for me, i feel like loving every everyone around me..

Life and its silly matrix... I think we should all know when its really over. No need to postpone the day of the inevitable or saddle oneself with an unhappy partner. Highest na one month brooding... Na God kind no dey, human kind full ground jaburata! Maintain your dignity on your way out of the door


Besides, can't the other party be kind? Land the bereaved on the ground softly...Love is a burden.

[quote author=Theyveedo post=56615931]OP, it's been a while

Begging for love is the dumbest thing ever. It hurts when someone ur in love with dosent reciprocate ur feelings but that should be ur cue to dust ur self and move ahead. Begging for love us worst than digging ur own grave, especially when u r begging a lady.

Atlantia:
Hmmm... I've always known this... guess I just needed a reminder.

Nice write-up op.

do you beg??

amakadihot87:
Some people are lucky to fall in love with others that love them in the same way,while some are very unlucky to fall for people that dont even care that they exist.these unlucky ones have a hard time trying to maintain this love,and for them to move on is really hard cos theres true love involved .............
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It's not really about luck; most times u discover that this type of situation occurs wen one of the parties fancies the oda as a lover, without properly defining wat he/she (mostly she) really wants in comparison with wat he/she likely gets.
A lot of ladies think providing amounts to love. Most of the dudes know dat cos wen dey didn't have, dey wr rejected. Do u now think he wld think a lady sticks wit him cos of love? Hell no. So it's all about really giving t situation a reality check and not trying to foist wat one wants on the oda, who may just want a roll in the sack/hay

MyPicsSaysItall:
There are no few occasions. Love is ALWAYS unbalanced in a relationship.


No partner's love for each other can be equal

Seconded..

And the irony of it all is that this person speaking might still be looking for love and not yet married

Nice write up,when u love somebody but that one u love is loving someone else,painful but way of life.

Nice write up op.I just moved on from a one-sided relationship.I realised have been doing most of d calling. I am too big for a one sided relationship.

AyamConfidence:
do you beg??

Lol...no... but it's good to have 'this' in mind. I know what I'm worth.
Do you?

Oyindidi:


Love is a funny feeling, those you fell head over heels for, feels nothing about you and the one you feel nothing for is ready to die for you.

so so true

good to have 'this' in mind.
I know what I'm worth.

Do you?[/quote] its good to know your worth...no one can use you anyhow

Last time I begged a girl was when I was 15 and na small pikin cause am

AyamConfidence:
good to have 'this' in mind. I know what I'm worth.
Do you? its good to know your worth...no one can use you anyhow
Last time I begged a girl was when I was 15 and na small pikin cause am

You don wise up now.
Baba for the girls!!!

it is unfortunate for me to find myself in this type of situation. after reading your post. and am still finding it difficult to let her go. but am still working and try to fight myself out of it. my problem is that we are both course mate. the dear of letting her go and will still be seeing her attending lecture together could not allow me to free her easily..

and its affecting me academically, finding it difficult to concentrate. I just pray I should have the courage to free her and let her go and erase her off my memory completely.

olumidedvd:
Thanks for this special Topic, this happen to me as well because of my flexible heart. I love the girl wholeheartedly but this girl is arrogating herself, doing her own wishes, she always harden her heart, dating several people and she is not faithful. But I a just hoping she will change, and I do disturb her for Marriage but she seems not ready. Please advice

Leave her. Delete her from your memory. Devote that time and energy to love God more and build your future. Delete her totally. Here is why
1. A woman that cheats on you doesn't love you nor respect you. She will still cheat on you during marriage. U don get STD before? Its not a child's play
2. You will have a very miserable sex life. She will give the coochie to others but deny you. Imagine the trampling on your pride. You will become a cuckold.
3. An immoral woman can finish your destiny. Read proverbs 5,6,7. God says by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a piece of bread. God also says somewhere else in proverbs the Mouth of an immoral woman is a deep pit, he who God hates will fall in there. Its God's mercy preventing you from not tying yourselves with such a woman.
By the way,sexually loose woman have a lot of negative spirituality ranging from being possessed (hence the arrogance and pride, ), possesing misfortune to straight forward being demonic agents sent to destroy lives and destinies. U said she doesnt want to marry, u don't know that cud be a sign?
4. Get closer to God, if you have slept with her, cleanse yourself and deliver yourself.. Build your life on the foundation of God and his word.
5. Don't damage your self esteem. I repeat NO WOMAN I mean NO WOMAN is worth it. Even a woman on the 98th percentile of beauty will rapidly lose desirability once she hits 40. The lady in question is not ready to give you her best years neither is she ready to build her own self. A woman's beauty without character qualifies her for a one time hit or at best a non exclusive sex relationship, or as a child of God "don't touch her with a ten foot pole" non- relationship...love yourself and challenge yourself, better women will come.

5. Develop your alpha game. Read the books "the rational male" by tomassi Rollo. Its very important you learn game to avoid women and their manipulations. Don't become a women hater tho, but build your life in such a way that they have little or no leverage over you.

Don't forget the deliverance part, u don't want to waste 20 years in fruitless labour because of sex with a strange woman. I'm not saying u should go do "deliverance shouting fire fire" for 1 year o,spend time with God, study his word, know the principles for your freedom as established in christ, and enforce it. Get a good worded christian..(not magicians acting as pastors o, of not God have mercy on you), take some time and pray. Its good to have a solid spiritual foundation.

In the End NEVER take her back.

As a rule of thumb, my main focus now is to get blessing from my mother and father while they are still alive by working hard and over blessing their lives materially. If you have God fearing parents. You have a large reservoir of blessings. Use it. Dont waste your life on one kind yeye woman.

Atlantia:

You don wise up now.

Baba for the girls!!!

na small thing na

Later the girl wan come put me for brother zone na im I park her aside sharply...I no get power for bestie things or to dey beg upandan

Randy91:



Frm Marine world ?...#i fear u ooo

Yes..so?
Don't fear me,darling. I'm harmless

MyPicsSaysItall:
There are no few occasions. Love is ALWAYS unbalanced in a relationship.


No partner's love for each other can be equal

Please explain ur point more.