| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by sollybaby(f): 7:43am On Jun 04, 2017 |
Nuezha:
Serious!
Please consider the following before you think of confessing, because he will ask you.
Who did you cheat on him with? Better not be his family member, friend, business partner, a lowlife (his driver, gateman etc), your old timer, because these will make it hard (not impossible) for him to pardon you.
Where did you cheat? Better not be in his home.
When did you cheat? Better not be moments when he was sick or had any problem.
Why did you cheat? No reason is cogent enough if you're legally married to him.
Confession is good, but seeking counsel before confession is the best move. Mehn who be this naa. nice one |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Mbariga1: 7:44am On Jun 04, 2017 |
istoctober:
l lost my three months preggy cos of my depreesion in Jan, 2016. Ever since, l have not been myself. l keep seeing myself as not worth living.
Each time l look at him, l have this guilty conscience that l have disappointed God and my parents. I cry in my lonely hours and it has made me to stay calm even in my right at home, l felt that l deserve everything that is happening to me. ok take it easy with your self ok nobody is above temptation pray very well before your confession there nothing God can not do. I know God will lead your way |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by paragon40(m): 7:44am On Jun 04, 2017 |
So sad u cheated on your Husband.. I think u know the right thing to do..you're just looking for people that will tell you, XYX reasons why u should not confess...better confess, and move on with your life..and those people posting on God's behalf make una well done..just do the right thing ma, and be free from sin.. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by felixomor: 7:44am On Jun 04, 2017 |
istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out. It is well with you in Jesus name. Amen. I thank God that there are still people like you who are Willing to take responsibility for their actions. Some other people will blame others. Firstly you should know that your inner peace is more expensive than anything on this planet. Sometimes, the troubling of this inner peace is a signal that you have to settle things. You may be surprised, that when you eventually tell your husband, he may already be aware. You may then blame yourself for killing your inner peace unnecessarily all this while. Secondly, if you allow the guilt to persist, it may continue to hurt you. Especially on occasions when your husband shows you love. So just open up. Do it once and for all. And give your husband a way to assure him, it will never happen again. By reducing all avenues to cheating in the future. But first confess to Godand Pray that God puts forgiveness in his heart. Have a plan to take care of yourself and kids in case he tells you to move out. But dont use this as leverage to break free. By God's grace I pray he will not tell you to move out. Finally, develop a good relationship with God and study God's word. This is the only way you will get real peace. No man, not even my advice can give you this. I pray God heals you, your marriage in Jesus name. Amen 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by felixomor: 7:45am On Jun 04, 2017 |
realmindz:
I won't be surprised if you are one of those holy brothers smashing girls in church...just pray you dont near those I know cus you will be skinned alive Sharrap!  |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by DeOutspokenKing(m): 7:46am On Jun 04, 2017 |
istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out. Well, i can't help but imagine what is going on in that "seemingly messed up" head of yours regarding what you did. Being genuinely remorseful is one thing, having the courage to face your fears heads on is entirely another thing. I can't directly advised you because even the best advice in a wrong situation can be very disatrous but nevertheless, i will give you some nuggets of truth. First of all, the fact that i and other readers of this thread knew your "secret-secret" without actually knowing you isn't entirely good, your husband deserves to know even if it will bring you shame and disgrace(after all, what you did directly warrants that) but keeping him in the dark while slowly dying inside won't do you, him or your marriage any iota of good. Shits happens, even shameful and despicable ones but life just keeps going on. It is obvious that you love your husband and since i don't have any faint idea of what prompt or triggered your infidelity, i do believe without any reasonable doubt that telling him the truth is for both your present and future good. If peradventure he sends you packing, at least your conscience will be cleared and you can still start afresh because it is never too late. But since it happened 2 years ago, he might just forgive you(though not necessarily immediately) but it is worth it. Hope for the best outcome, but be equally prepared for the worst too. And never ever contemplate suicide, depression can be overwhelming and makes living meaningless, but just don't give up, at least not now and not ever too. I wish you all the best but regardless of what happens, please never think of committing suicide, no matter the hurts, pains, shame or disgrace the worst outcome might bring, fate can still turn the tides in your favor. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Mbariga1: 7:46am On Jun 04, 2017 |
Nuezha:
I think you're giving him enough room to suspect you already. It seems to me that your confession won't shock him but will rather confirm his suspicion. Woman, sorry to ask, how old are you? (Give a range: above 25, above 35, etc) your question makes no sence which age brankate is good for adultry |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Chigorkizz(m): 7:46am On Jun 04, 2017 |
istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out. You are making it look as if You ve done the worst ever. Dont let your mistakes hunt you. Consider these- You will lose your home. You will lose your dignity before him,his family and your family. .Lastly,Dnt ever tell him but dnt do it again. 1 Like |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by humilitypays(m): 7:47am On Jun 04, 2017 |
Onegai:
Istoctober,
Please listen to me. You did it once right? Good.
CONFESS IN 4 MORE YEARS!
If you were a serial cheat or this affair had lasted 1 month long, I would make you confess tonight. Instead, you made a mistake. A stupid, selfish, thoughtless mistake. And you are paying for it. Good!
And let me be honest: ALL CHEATS DIE FROM GUILT. WHEN YOU FEEL GUILTY ABOUT SOMETHING, EVEN RAIN WILL LOOK LIKE PUNISHMENT. THAT GUILT IS PUNISHMENT FROM GOD.
Hallelujah. God never said you would commit a sin and He would forgive you and all would be groovy (which is what churches teach yoi), God said He would restore you, after you paid the price of your sin. You must pay the price but God has bought some of the debt. Like you owe the bank N250, 000 but your parents pay off N100, 000. If you don't pay the price, then there is no Justice in Heaven. Even men pay the price and the longer they sin, the more their debt is (it then spills into their kids).
You have taken Responsibility for your sin so in my book, you owe just like N80, 000. That's great news!
So, go to a women's group. That is whom you need, no more members of the male sexx to give you the emotional comfort you crave and you then cheat emotionally and physically, you did that the first time and have the scarlet letter branded on your head to show as a badge. Unburden yourself to your women's group (preferably this group is not related to your church, human beings can't keep their mouths shut). They will help you. They will help you and give you support while you pay off your debt. They will be there when you need the intimacy your husband is not giving. For now.
Next, identify every problem in your marriage. Starting with you. You must have felt no emotional satisfaction in your marriage (men are not taught how to marry, they are taught that paying schoolfees and rent and holiday and buying car = Great Husband). So, you need to work on identifying what you need. Then go get it from your husband. Say "I need you to spend time with me and not with UCL Juventus vs Barca" (boys, you can watch that football match later, don't neglect your wife for it). Tell him
"I feel secure when you come home early".
"I feel loved when you use soft words to correct me"
"I feel intelligent when you give me a chance to advise you"
"I feel sexy when you come into the kitchen and slap my arse when I'm cooking and leave again",
"I feel safe when you send me 5 messages during the day when you are at work because it feels like you think of me a lot",
"I feel Happy when you come home and unwind then join me on the couch because I feel like that means you love how you feel at home",
"I feel passionate when you see me looking unkempt and you push me into the bathroom, shower with me and insist on rubbing lotion on my body".
Don't even think of blaming him for this. You had a choice, you chose wrong. Same as he, had he cheated, he will have chosen wrongly.
From there, work on your relationship (notice I didn't say marriage, I said work on your relationship with your man). Fix you because you are the offending party (screw a wise woman buildeth whatever blah blah, a CEO builds his company, stop giving guys a free pass to fvckup their marriage till they turn 60 and old age and sickness suddenly gives them brain).
The offending party/cheating party starting to fix the marriage first means the marriage gets rebuilt in 5 years. The Betrayed party starting to fix the marriage first means the marriage gets rebuilt in 10 years. That's why most Nigerian wives tend to enjoy their marriage 10 years plus, not earlier.
Once you rebuild your marriage, THEN you can then confess and apologize. Because to apologize right now, you're only doing it to Unburden your guilt to him. Because it's too heavy, you're not confessing because you are wrong and want to make amends. You will feel a weight lifted off you but finalize the destruction you brought in his life. You will confess eventually, to clear yourself and be ready to keep apologizing for even 2 years.
So this sound like a plan? You got work to do girlie  men are not taught how to marry, they are taught that paying schoolfees and rent and holiday and buying car = Great Husband).   but that's all u ladies want from men na  |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by MisterGrace: 7:47am On Jun 04, 2017 |
AntiWailer:
Forget the native doctor threat. That is a kid threat.
You are not cheating on him. You cheated on him.
Forgive urself move on please.
I repeat dnt yield to the temptation of telling him.
Just guide your unstable heart against future reoccurrence.
Let me tell you how most guys' mind work.
They want to know everything but can not handle it. You will be doing more harm to him than urself by telling him.
Anytime he wants to have sex with u, he will remember and might lose erection. Losing the erectin, he will start assuming he is nt man enough. That is one of the major reason he will send you out.
Also when you say you did it once, he will never believe it was just once just the way I honestly dnt right now. He will assume some one has been fking his wife for 3 years and now she is tired of the d1ck and sant to come back home.
Like I said earlier. You are emotionally unstable and the useless Pastor took advantage of it.
I dnt support ur act but I would have talked sense into ur head if u were just contemplating it. Since the deed is done. Just move on. There's more to marriage sanctity than just forgiving oneself and moving on. The marriage can never be pure as long as she keeps this secret away from the husband. This often bring lacks and premature deaths into homes. But once she confesses and their marital vows renewed, then their home and bed is pure again. Op! Don't keep such filth in your soul. Your soul is important. This earth is just a phase. Clean your soul by confessing to him and tell him how disturbed you have been since the mistake. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by ontruth(m): 7:49am On Jun 04, 2017 |
I see someone becoming an ex wife in the name of confession . 2 Likes |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by lessie(m): 7:49am On Jun 04, 2017 |
You already know the out come of telling him.
Part of the reason why you are living in guilt is probably he is 100% committed to you and your family. This is what you need to do:
1. Enough of going to pastors to share this,each pastor will have something to say which will result in confusion as regards the right step to take.
2.The right step to take is to do exactly what David did. Did David went about telling children of lsreal? No! What did he do? He knelt down and genuinely cry to God for forgiveness and he never did it again. Pray in your closet,go through his words daily and you will find peace once more.
3. As a pay back to the evil you have to your husband and family, give yourself totally to love him and be committed to the family affairs.
Confession won't solve anything rather forgive yourself and never go back. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by OLUWAcypris1(f): 7:50am On Jun 04, 2017 |
Luvdk:
You wanna kill yourself because of one s2upid man
Imagine ds, for ur info, ur type go don turn well finish, till now b4 marriage na two pple sex me d ediet dat deflowered me and my husband. Till now na only my husband DonBobes dd graze me. U r an insult to womanhood 1 Like |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Luvdk(f): 7:50am On Jun 04, 2017 |
realmindz:
lol, I swear I'm sure of what ayam saying....
She's feeling fear and guilt and once she overcomes, she will do it again...shes not the first neither will she be the last.
Gullible people like her are cheap preys for these men of God ok |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by chibuzorAbia: 7:51am On Jun 04, 2017 |
yoho66:
It is God against whom all sins are committed. If God forgives you, then you are absolved. Read this and pray with it regularly:
Psalm 51King James Version (KJV)
51 Have mercy upon me, O God, according to thy lovingkindness: according unto the multitude of thy tender mercies blot out my transgressions.
2 Wash me throughly from mine iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin.
3 For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin is ever before me.
4 Against thee, thee only, have I sinned, and done this evil in thy sight: that thou mightest be justified when thou speakest, and be clear when thou judgest.
5 Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.
6 Behold, thou desirest truth in the inward parts: and in the hidden part thou shalt make me to know wisdom.
7 Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean: wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.
8 Make me to hear joy and gladness; that the bones which thou hast broken may rejoice.
9 Hide thy face from my sins, and blot out all mine iniquities.
10 Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.
11 Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy holy spirit from me.
12 Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit.
13 Then will I teach transgressors thy ways; and sinners shall be converted unto thee.
14 Deliver me from bloodguiltiness, O God, thou God of my salvation: and my tongue shall sing aloud of thy righteousness.
15 O Lord, open thou my lips; and my mouth shall shew forth thy praise.
16 For thou desirest not sacrifice; else would I give it: thou delightest not in burnt offering.
17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.
18 Do good in thy good pleasure unto Zion: build thou the walls of Jerusalem.
19 Then shalt thou be pleased with the sacrifices of righteousness, with burnt offering and whole burnt offering: then shall they offer bullocks upon thine altar Oya go and marry God na, ode! |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by MisterGrace: 7:53am On Jun 04, 2017 |
Chigorkizz:
You are making it look as if You ve done the worst ever.
Dont let your mistakes hunt you.
Consider these-
You will lose your home.
You will lose your dignity before him,his family and your family.
.Lastly,Dnt ever tell him but dnt do it again. May your wife cheat on you either mistakenly or otherwise and keep it from you. Amen |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by judgedredd22(m): 7:53am On Jun 04, 2017 |
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| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Nobody: 7:53am On Jun 04, 2017 |
AgricSalt:
For your own mental health and because it is likely that he is suspicious already. Get your pastor ( or any other authority that he respects) to be present when you confess
Also make your confession a matter of urgency Which pastor again? The same pastor that put in this whole trouble? These pastors are scammers jare |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by sollybaby(f): 7:53am On Jun 04, 2017 |
istoctober:
it will shock him. Am even worried about him hating me including other women entirely..
Definitely, he will send me packing for that. plz don't tell him. even if he doesn't send you packing he'd never 4give you.. in ten years time he'd still be reminding you. and if he sends you packing It will be a disgrace to your family especially your dad.. chai . but it's obvious your husband doesn't love or trust you |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by ariklawani(f): 7:53am On Jun 04, 2017 |
istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out. if ur husband is a bad person and a cheat.u need not to worry.save ur home.nobody is a saint. life gos on..dear keep ur home.most men cheats . |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Luvdk(f): 7:54am On Jun 04, 2017 |
istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out. The man got big cassava abi Pls stop hurting ya precious life for all ds dumb men |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by ndiko: 7:55am On Jun 04, 2017 |
Of course u can confess, but entirely at ur own risk.
Stochastic.
Weigh ur options/possibilities...
1. He may forgive but will never forget it.
2. He may start cheating or send u home (divorce).
3. He may doubt he is the father of the kid(s).
4. He may not find u attractive.
5. Trust/love/attention may be affected.
6. You will always try to please him to earn trust, love and others, which may not be too easy.
7. You may be replaced (2).
8. He may forgive u completely, knowing u r sincere...
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My fellow Nigerians avoid married women, if u shine d kpekus, it's like a time bomb that can be detonated any day any time, while u hope it expires with time. Is it worth d risk?
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Flee from d temptation. 1 Like |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Nobody: 7:55am On Jun 04, 2017 |
istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out. OP, please I want yu to carefully follow what I'm gonna tell you... But befr you do, Pray to wateva God yu serve to see favour in the sight of your husband MY ADVICE : Look for one good day, the day yu think or knw yur husband will be in a very gud mood, just do your normal daily rooutine.. Do not do anything extraordinary( dnt try to make that day diffnt frm any other day).. In the middle of the night, wake him up and tell him every bit of it( don't leave a single detail out). YES, he will be furious, infact very furious, he might evn try to hit you.. Wateva happens, make sure you endure, evn if he shoot you( that's the last thing he could do), just ENDURE.. Untill he says the word "get out of my house" ( if he doesn't, then, the matter is resolvd, may not be immediately but the fact that he doest send you out of his house means he still values the marriage).. Please, don't argue with him, just pack few of your things( not all) and leave. Wait for a couple of days befr you start taking steps to beg him( send only yur very close relative.. Yur mum will be the best option).. With time, I knw he will calm down and take you back unless of course... Remember, Pray to your God bfr you try this |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by aamstih: 7:56am On Jun 04, 2017 |
You've been forgiven already. It is just the devil playing tricks on you, for your conscience to be this alive means you are a good woman and not morally bankrupt. What you need here is to forgive yourself, I know it is hard probably because of your 'over sensitive' conscience. What you need at this moment is to speak with professional therapist/ counsellor, not all pastors are trained on issues of this nature. As for suicide, it is totally off the equation. The email below is one of a top-notch that you can speak to. Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. In all, I trust you would be fine! Cheers talk2me@lekealder.com [code][/code] istoctober:
l had to open this account to tell this story and l know that l will be bashed for this but l really need to get it off my chest.
it was in 2014, that l cheated on him and since then, l have not been myself. l have confessed to Pastors but l can't forget it and my mind keep telling me that God has forgotten about me cos whenever l pray, l find it difficult to concentrate and that's why l want to confess to him.
l know he will send me packing because he said something like that to me and the fear is what is keeping me from confessing to him. l don't want to be disgraced out of my home cos my husband will definitely do it.
l can't blame him for my shortcomings but myself for allowing devil into my home.
l really need your advice for help.... You can curse me but l deserve it for being a loose woman but l seriously need help cos depression wants to take over my life that l think of suicide to escape shame and mockery from people in case he finds out. |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Luvdk(f): 7:57am On Jun 04, 2017 |
OLUWAcypris1:
Imagine ds, for ur info, ur type go don turn well finish, till now b4 marriage na two pple sex me d ediet dat deflowered me and my husband. Till now na only my husband DonBobes dd graze me. U r an insult to womanhood Mind ya business Wht a phuck is your business wt what I do wt my precious puzzy  |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by Nobody: 7:57am On Jun 04, 2017 |
I have vowed never to get married to a Nigerian when in the course of a year u had up to 6 married women with kids fervently hit on me, going as far as feigning being sick at work and driving to my house. It took the grace of God to overcome the temptation. I have seen the wife of my friend (never told him) with guys in a hotel i lodged. My friends ex is married but still comes back for more. Something definately have changed in Nigerian society. Marraige is not the sacred institution it used to be. If you are a very sensitive guy, i will advice to steer clear of matrimony with contempirary Naija girls. 3 Likes |
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| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by singiti(m): 7:59am On Jun 04, 2017 |
kaffy4tope:
Stop beating about the bush. Answer these questions or carry your fornicating life outta here. U are not in any position 2 critise her. She came here for advice (which shudnt av been so cos of numskulls like u). We av all made mistakes in our lives at one point or d other. So @kaffy4Tope, use ur brain to talk and not ur mouth |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by judgedredd22(m): 8:00am On Jun 04, 2017 |
gbosaa:
There is something you are not telling us. I think your story isn't complete.
For almost 3 years, you've been battling with the psychological effects of your action with your pastor. Within this time, you believe the state of your mind affected your pregnancy.
I think you need serious therapy. You need a psychologist or psychiatrist. You need to talk and have sessions with an expert not pastors.
There is something about you that giving your husband clues that all is not well. Why would he be threatening you with a babalawo? What have you done to arouse his suspicions? It's about 3 years since the event occurred!
I'm not going to ask you to simply 'get over it' because you obviously can't. You need an expert.
You are not worried about what happened but the chances of your husband finding out. Why do you think he'd find out? It's 2 years plus!
Why would he threaten you? How did the 'native doctor' stuff came in? You are scared about that...very very scared. I could come in with animal horns, cowries, sea shells and some other funny stuffs and you'll spin the beans...that includes everything thing you might have done before you married him.
I'm not here to judge you cos I'm worse than you. You are a good woman. I think you need to see an expert and if after that you still feel the need to tell him, by all means do so and damn the consequences.  .
I was going to ask you to block this out of your mind and move on with your life but it's taking its toil on your mental state.
Has your moniker got any thing to do with the date of the 'rendezvous'??
Yes? I can imagine your pastor cumming and yelling on that Independence Day..."this is for Nigeria! then he'd erupt and draw a coat of arm around your lokoja.
Whatever happens I hope you find the solution to your problems. May God be with you. 
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| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by verygudbadguy(m): 8:01am On Jun 04, 2017 |
Eniolafagbemi:
You said it your self ,u have told your spiritual leaders. And they pray with you. See something's are better left on told. So move on and don't tell him but just be careful and do the right tin next time.God has forgiven you cos he sees your heart.Wish you good luck.
Stop throwing yourselves to the Pastors.. They are human beings with flesh. Everything you do, you consult Pastors. Why then did Jesus Christ come? He has connected us to God and not prophets. We can do all things through Christ that strengthens us.
Learn from Ese Walters and the Coza Pastor's story. |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by glossy6(f): 8:01am On Jun 04, 2017 |
istoctober:
l have asked a pastor and he said l shouldn't confess but am worried cos he told me on Sunday that his uncle who is a native doctor will know if l am cheating on him.
His uncle should have told him ever since na |
| Re: I Cheated On My Husband And I Want To Confess To Him by judgedredd22(m): 8:01am On Jun 04, 2017 |
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