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Xcelinteriors:
Some men deserve it my dear, they deserve to train up another man's child

Who are those people crucifying me for saying my mind? The truth is that I can't do it to my husband but seriously some men deserves it. Do you know how many men that keep their girlfriend outside, rented a very nice apartment for them and also paying them salary while the wife will be home eating rubbish food and wearing rags all in the name of marriage. SOME men are very wicked and deserve more than raising another Man's child with their hard earned money. Kill yourself if you don't like what I have said

WetSmoke:
You are so pained that it has blinded you from seeing that you men are actually the weak ones

lefulefu:
so true.i see this all the time.there"s this man i know who works as a porter.this man is married with children.can u imagine this man uses his salary to maintain his mistress who happens to be a single mom while he hardly drops anything for his own wife and kids.of recent he bought a plot of land for his mistress but he lives in a rented apartment.some men can mumu ehn.

lajoshua:
And you women are the weaker ones, innit?
Mofo!

WetSmoke:
Be there and be forming superman, at the end of the day we will know the real victims

WetSmoke:
Vent your frustrations on your fellow men that are on the standby to donate the seeds that you will eventually train

Berbierklaus:
Mummy,look at the spelling of my name well,no biggie there.
I am not supporting promiscuous wives,stop misinterpreting my joy on this thread. Just elaborating and letting it known that two can play at the game.

If you condone a cheating husband that's your opinion,which is why I adviced her to ignore your comment.

Its good to know you are enlightened, its a free world,and you are free to express your own opinion.

cococandy:
Good for you.
And whoever said they should? Sleep around to punish their husbands I mean?

I believe your enlightenment should be enough to distinguish what my post is saying and what you're understanding

lefulefu:
so true.i see this all the time.there"s this man i know who works as a porter.this man is married with children.can u imagine this man uses his salary to maintain his mistress who happens to be a single mom while he hardly drops anything for his own wife and kids.of recent he bought a plot of land for his mistress but he lives in a rented apartment.some men can mumu ehn.

solasoulmusic:
Can I disagree with the bold because maturity comes from experience and not with age.

Most times when you experience someone cheating on you it's to teach you the importance of loyalty but most times instead of learning the lesson we keep trying to hurt each other.

The truth is cheating is a freedom a person gives themselves and a total disregard for any union but it doesn't mean when the right person comes around you can't go all the way.

It really depends on their spiritual life

myking95:
Low self esteem + Jazz = Mumuism in the high realms. But sometimes women push men outside...(especially initially good men and if the man doesn't get hardened, another woman will just take good care of him and have his mumu button) Jazz can also never be ignored especially if the lady is from Edo, calabar or akwa ibom somewhat. "Strange" women full there.

lovethchioma:
Of course.. you are also right
Just like a man will cheat even if the wife ain't cheating.... and might even have a child with one of those women he is cheating with, without even knowing and another man will be training his child. Meanwhile he will be the one shouting about DNA the most...

lefulefu:
if you are a lightskinned guy and the pickin ur wife born get face like Egwugwu masqurade and im come dark like wetin dem use crude oil rub u dont even need DNA to tell u na Haruna the gateman dey responsible na
IdeyFindWife
Mylestone
Dextology
i lie?

Dextology:
She must prove who get the pikin or we better ask the pikin the sperm im comot from, no need waste money for DNA

Minemrys:
i never do thing before oh.

cococandy:
all these pained guys on this thread should cry me a river. Humans are polygamous in nature ain't that your anthem? You sleep with someone else's woman and someone else sleeps with yours. Y'all raising each other's kids. We are all one big happy family. One love

saintandsinnerz:
Don't try to be smart by half, all your comments here have been geared towards the narrative that a cheating husband should be punished with a cheating wife. The girl you quoted sensibly told you that instead of pinning a bastard child to a man just to punish his infidelity, it's better you walk away from the marriage. If this is not your stance then tell us what you mean

WetSmoke:
Vent your frustrations on your fellow men that are on the standby to donate the seeds that you will eventually train

cococandy:
A cheating husband does deserve a cheating a wife. QED!

But That's doesn't mean I'll tell all women who their husbands cheat to go and cheat too. Not because I'm interested in preserving any underserving man's ego. This advice (not to cheat) I'll only give to a woman for her own sake. So they don't hurt themselves with STIs over a philandering asshole. Or get into a complicated relationship that might end up messing with her emotional wellness. I'll never put a man's wants, wellbeing or ego above what's best for the woman as you people are accustomed to doing.

If a man does get cheated on by his wife and he himself is cheat too, then GOOD FOR HIM! I hope all his children belong to other men.

The girl you were talking about was 'wisely' implying that women cheating is such an abomination compared to when men do it. I'm sorry I don't subscribe to such sexist standards. And I know that's why she's wise to you.

Freaking hypocrite

thegrace:
I can't believe what I am reading here. It was a sacrilege when I was growing up to bring basterd to a family. They said it brings bad luck. That of course may be superstition but to hear women saying if men continues cheating they will continue training other people's children like a challenge is actuality sickening. I am a woman and when a woman was found out of this secret at my brother's clinic due to genotype incompatibility vs sickle cell, her desperate cry of doctor 'pa mi sile, ma pami sode' was ingrained in my brain till today. I was 23 then and decades later it still make me shudder at the thought of doing something like that. Women, please get it to your head, you can deal with a cheating husbands in a different way but definitely not by making yourself a who re. As a married woman I count is as an insult if a man approaches me for such thing because you are indirectly calling me a sl t.

MrCork:
...so u one of those black womens who trap men wit kids...how many childrens u got?

cuvox:
Asked a few doctor friends online, most claimed it is between 70k-90k now. seems fair enough when compared to the millions spent in raising a child

Xcelinteriors:
help me tell them

Xcelinteriors:
Some men deserve it my dear, they deserve to train up another man's child

Who are those people crucifying me for saying my mind? The truth is that I can't do it to my husband but seriously some men deserves it. Do you know how many men that keep their girlfriend outside, rented a very nice apartment for them and also paying them salary while the wife will be home eating rubbish food and wearing rags all in the name of marriage. SOME men are very wicked and deserve more than raising another Man's child with their hard earned money. Kill yourself if you don't like what I have said

trustyshoess:
I agree with the fact that it is evil for a woman to deceive a man about the paternity of her children but I disagree when you say a woman's infidelity has greater consequences than a man's. What about men who go have extra marital affairs that produce children? What about men that have secret families complete with another wife and children? What about men that cheat on their wives, contract and bring back deadly STDs such as HIV home to their wives and the women, not knowing that they have such a disease ( since they're not sleeping with anyone but their unknowingly promiscuous husband) leave the HIV untreated and end up with AIDs and die in the end?
Infidelity is disgusting regardless of who is doing it

TheUmbra:
While it is easily admissible that infidelity across gender is wrong with far reaching disastrous consequences, it is practically, culturally and scientifically proven that a woman's infidelity has more disastrous consequences than a man's.

Put aside gender bias and buckle up to some uncomfortable realities. Let's take your points one after the other:

When a man has an extra marital affairs that produce children, all is not lost because the child/children can always trace their root or origin to their father. A man or father is the source or origin to a child's identity. In stark contrast, a woman's extra marital affairs which produce children has automatically renders the children as bastards and a product of shame. Such children are without root or proper identity. Without a known father, they remain forever second class indigenes of their mother's community with limited rights and privilege.


When it comes to STDs, except you decided to close your ears to numerous scientific journals, research and publications, you'd discover that a man is very much at lower risk of contacting STDs even when he sleeps with an infected woman than an uninfected woman sleeping with an infected man. It is as good as 100% likelihood for a woman to be infected by a man with STDs with just one act of sexual encounter. While on the other hand, a man has much lesser likelihood being infected by an infectious woman.

What this means is that a sexually strayed wife can bring home deadly STDs to her husband with just one act of infidelity.

trustyshoess:
Seriously? So are you trying to say it's okay for a man to have other children outside of marriage? Are you for real??
Please if you don't know, many of those so called scientific journals have been debunked! Check again! I'm speaking from experience. That scenario I gave, i have seen play out 3 times and once in my extended family
Stop trying to justify infidelity!
So let's assume that a man is less likely to contract STDs, does that make it right for him to be sleeping around ? Why marry someone, and then go somewhere else? If there are marital issues, they're meant to be solved like grown adults or speak to a counsellor.
What's wrong is wrong

TheUmbra:
Emotion is an enemy to facts and bias is emotion on over-drive. This is the chief factor that makes debating with the female folk on factual and logical ground a near-impossibility.

You have failed to read my post without emotional interference.

May I ask you;

What is your understanding of my opener "While it is easily admissible that infidelity across gender is wrong with far reaching disastrous consequences..."?

Scientific research being wrong on what? That women are not more likely to be infected with STDs than men?

trustyshoess:
Smh didn't realise I was talking to a chauvinist. I've made my point and can't be bothered to read any more of your write ups. Agree to disagree it is. Peace