ZarZar:


No, I'd rather not go there. That's too personal for me. Like you, I'd like to remain in the shroud of anonymity about my identity

Martin0:
eh eh,no don't see me like that,am not hiding my identity just that hmmmm I wanna keep my focus on why am on NL we all have a reason to be on every forum so mine is very very vital,in other for me not to be distracted out of it,I had to keep my identity private,but it just for a while...

ZarZar:


No need to explain, I understand.

Martin0:
hahahhahah na wa ooo wena eh, hmmm am ezibuza nje lokho u sifane
empeleni

ZarZar:


Lol, that's broken Zulu you're speaking. I don't even understand what you're trying to say.

Btw, it's been a pleasure talking to you. Do return to SA in the future so we can get you hitched

Martin0:
don't know yet,but if possible,or by it's grace I will,but for now fully commited to nigeria...ndinike nau yakho lomsebenzisi, ndinixelele nam ke
my identity nceda

ZarZar:


Hahaha. Now that makes more sense. Nice try but nope I hope you can speak the language better than you write it. Can your sister inlaw speak your language? Can your brother speak hers? 9 years seems like a long time, so I'm sure they picked up on certain phrases, even if they're not fluent

Martin0:
jesus presently she can speak igbo fluently,only my brother still cutting lips to speak her language,last time they came home I was so surprise at her,,,na am using a translation app to speak it's language I can only hear it and sometimes manage to speak,but not fluent,

ZarZar:


Hmmm nice. I can imagine Igbo must not be hard to learn because it uses familiar words like "Ndi". Just not sure if it's in the same context we used it though because in Xhosa "Ndi" prefix for "me" or "I".

Martin0:
it language is not hard unlike other languages in nigeria,Ndi stands for ''they,those'' it a bit familiar honestly she's trying I always want her to come every december because of how she is,very jovial woman,and principle lady,ha first SA meal I tasted came from her,chakalaka

ZarZar:


Oh, it's the opposite of how we used it. Interesting. Lol @ chakalaka. Can she cook your food? I just can't imagine yam grounding lol

Martin0:
hahahahahah I don't know oooo,whenever she's around all the ladies in the family cook together so I don't know if she can cook our food all alone...

ZarZar:


Maybe your brother cooks his own country food then I noticed that most of our ladies don't cook food from wherever the husband is from

ZarZar:


What "situations" with Xhosa girls?

Personally, I don't see a relationship between a Nigerian man & a Xhosa woman working, if the mentality shown by some guys here is anything to go by. With Xhosa women, respect is earned, man or not. We don't believe in the notion that, "a man is a man & should be treated as king of the world", even if he's a POS. Show that you're a man & she'll treat you like you deserve.

JSmart4u:


No matter how much respect they crave for,it shouldn't give them the audacity to steal from their partners. When you're with most xhosa girls,they are always up to something nefarious. Can't they just love a guy perpetually,without ever leaving a caring guy in shambles

Xhosa girls can murder for better things in life,hence their obsession with whites. I Seriously don't believe Nigerian's to be too controlling,and dissing people is actually the way of life of most Nigerians,which isn't actually motivated by spite,but rather,if not often,just means of joking around. If you understand Nigerians,your gonna know that in such situations,you simply gotta tell em' what you don't fancy about Nigerians. They love arguing,so you should expect that alot.But in the end,you'll find out that you both actually learnt a thing or two from one another. Thats how Nigerians usually assess how dumb or smart you really are!

ZarZar:



Well, that means white men must like Xhosa women a lot then, because you simply can't put this one on Xhosa women only when it takes two to tango.

What's there not to like though? Most are beauty, beast & brains all rolled in one scrumptious looking package. Only a mad man would not choose that over the other bland lot

JSmart4u:


Lol that's what i actually wanted you to admit,not stipulating what's blatantly erroneous. All the things you mentioned about xhosa women are true,and i would've equally craved that bootylicous brainy godesses,since beautifully made intelligent ladies are my "krytonite",if not for their minor blemish.

ZarZar:


Lol, but I didn't deny anything, I simply said I have never seen such a couple in my life.

What's the blemish, the "stealing"?

ZarZar:


Lol, but I didn't deny anything, I simply said I have never seen such a couple in my life.

What's the blemish, the "stealing"?

JSmart4u:


Stealing,cheating,unpredictable and most probably control freaks. They claim to know everything,with the delusion that every of their opinions are the best.

ZarZar:


Lol, I agree with most of what you say, with the exception of cheating & stealing Sounds like you had a close encounter with a bad one. Not all are like that though. We aren't thieves or cheats, but we do have the rest of the flaws you mentioned. Hence I said earlier on, we're not for the weak

JSmart4u:


Stealing,cheating,unpredictable and most probably control freaks,unlike zulu women who are down to earth.They claim to know everything,with the delusion that every of their opinions are the best.

Lionessza:









Hahahaha count me out . I'm one of the rare good ones

ZarZar:


Nope, I don't believe you lol. We're all cheeky

Kanti what happened to your today? I saw you posting in other sections & avoiding this one the entire day.

JSmart4u:


Nah not really. I've only dated zulus and vendas.Though i have friends who experienced such situations with xhosa girls

Lionessza:





Lol. I didn't feel like being nice . Plus I was banned since yesterday, I was only able to post emini.

ZarZar:


Hahaha. Spambot?

Lionessza:








Hahahaha nope .....the truth

ZarZar:


Lol, I agree with most of what you say, with the exception of cheating & stealing Sounds like you had a close encounter with a bad one. Not all are like that though. We aren't thieves or cheats, but we do have the rest of the flaws you mentioned. Hence I said earlier on, we're not for the weak