WORLDPEACE:



You need to read about the Fourah Bay College Sierra Leon. It was established by blacks in 1827. Many Nigerians who were privileged to have university education in that century and early 20th century got it from there. It was them white folks who systematically suppressed the rise of Sierra Leon and the college. That's the reason only few people know about it now. It is still in existence, but you know the state Sierra Leon is in now.

JSmart4u:


If you really envision a future for yourselves,you'll surely respect his concerns,when it comes to his worries about your working environment,especially if it entails working in an area which could promote promiscuity

ZarZar:


Just read about it now & it was founded by the British lol.

WORLDPEACE:

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ZarZar:


Lol, I read that & no, that's not correct. It was ran by the missionary. Its 1st black principal later on was an American.

WORLDPEACE:

Sorry I have forgotten my history a little. The Anglican Church missionary society founded it. But it's first principal was a black man, though an American. But you know a lot of Seirra Leonians were repatriated slaves. It was a place blacks were running until the colonial masters began to interfere in the country's affairs more and more and it fell from what it used to be. Most of the Nigerian Elites of that era had some form of education there.

ZarZar:



Lol, you're re-writing history now. It clearly says it was founded by the missionary with the support of some other white governor of Irish descent, which means that
blacks didn't run it right from inception but later on. It only makes sense because how blacks could have been running it, if the concept was 1st introduced to them by the missionary? That's moving backwards if we're to go by what you're saying. The whites brought formal education. Finish. There's no shame admitting that because it's a well-known fact.

WORLDPEACE:

I have no shame in admitting white people brought formal education. I am also not saying they were not a colony either. Afterall their independence came even after ours. Sierra Leoneans were made up of different kinds of people. There were the locals, and blacks from the uk, Jamaica, and Canada. They had people who were already educated that settled there from all over. Although I must state it did not begin as a degree awarding institution.

ZarZar:


Yeah but still the fact remains, it's the missionary that laid the groundwork, not the blacks from wherever, who also got their formal education from the west. The key component here is western-influence, no matter who ran it when. I guess that's the only thing we can thank them for, bringing us education.

ZarZar:


Lol, that's because most people seem to be under the impression that black South Africans were uneducated under Apartheid, which is a fallacy. Fort Hare (in the Eastern Cape) was 1st black university, established in 1916. I guess that's why most people say the Xhosa are the most educated bunch of people, because we pioneered higher level education

*Edited*

Lovedale missionary institution (also in the Eastern Cape ) was actually the 1st. It opened in the year 1824

All49ja:


I must admit Xhosa people are intelligent, unlike the Xenophobic Lazy illiterate Zulu master!

Hope you good hun?

kayloyal87:
can you allow your gfrd to work in a hotel . is it normal yes or no and beside she has no work she doing before . because me want tell her to let us cutoff the relationship because i dont like the work . plz i need ur advice on this issue plzzzzz
please dont mind my grammar

ZarZar:


It's been a while How are you? Thought you've been killed while gang banging over there in your ghetto

I'm great btw, thanks.

All49ja:


I must admit Xhosa people are intelligent, unlike the Xenophobic Lazy illiterate Zulu master!

Hope you good hun?

JSmart4u:


Intelligent i agree,but most xhosa women are known to leave most of their boyfriends in shambles. Always keep one eye when sleeping with them in your house,or you'd wake up one day and see everything you've worked for,dissapear into thin air lol.

All49ja:


Yea I agree, heard of cases like that.

A Somali friend then had a shop at Belleville CPT, and you know you've to employ SAn if you have a business. The girl almost ruined his shop. Taking things nonchalantly till the Somali replaced her.

Not to generalizing though, I've met few okay ones.

Do you have any awful experience with a Xhosa girl?

JSmart4u:


Nah not really. I've only dated zulus and vendas.Though i have friends who experienced such situations with xhosa girls

ZarZar:


What "situations" with Xhosa girls?

Personally, I don't see a relationship between a Nigerian man & a Xhosa woman working, if the mentality shown by some guys here is anything to go by. With Xhosa women, respect is earned, man or not. We don't believe in the notion that, "a man is a man & should be treated as king of the world", even if he's a POS. Show that you're a man & she'll treat you like you deserve. Try not to be dominant or bossy though because we don't take well to that & we will actually stand up for ourselves. Xhosa women are not for weak men or assholes with a chip on the shoulder all because they have a penis.

ZarZar:


What "situations" with Xhosa girls?

Personally, I don't see a relationship between a Nigerian man & a Xhosa woman working, if the mentality shown by some guys here is anything to go by. With Xhosa women, respect is earned, man or not. We don't believe in the notion that, "a man is a man & should be treated as king of the world", even if he's a POS. Show that you're a man & she'll treat you like you deserve. Try not to be dominant or bossy though because we don't take well to that & we will actually stand up for ourselves. Xhosa women are not for weak men or assholes with a chip on the shoulder all because they have a penis.

Martin0:
don't realy fancy ya idea
Am saying this basically from what have seen
WIFE MATERIAL
Apart from being neat,they also tend to be
very faithful and honest.Which am sure are
some of the basic qualities every man needs
in a woman to wife her.

WELL CULTURED
Xhosa parents are mostly disciplinarians and
give least or no chance for their daughter to
misbehave or even sons,they always make
sure to instill basic and fundamental life
principles into their kids and that always
makes them serious in life.

GOOD COOKS
Am sure if you had the chance to ever taste a
meal from the Eastern Cape region,you will
be very appreciative of the fact that they are
really truly good cooks.

Martin0:
Yeah I know from the way you speak I know,I have one of them in my family,and have not seen such in her for like year's now,yeah they are like that base on what their tradition has impacted on them,but outside tradition I don't classify them to be that!!!


In terms of RELATIONSHIPS
Xhosa have traditionally used greetings to show
respect and good intentions to others. In interacting
with others, it is crucial to show respect
(ukuhlonipha) . Youths are expected to keep quiet
when elders are speaking, and to lower their eyes
when being addressed. Hospitality is highly valued,
and people are expected to share with visitors what
they can. Socializing over tea and snacks is common.
In Xhosa tradition, one often found a girlfriend or
boyfriend by attending dances. One popular type of
dance, called umtshotsho or intlombe , could last all
night. On some occasions, unmarried lovers were
allowed to sleep together provided they observed
certain restraints. A form of external intercourse
called ukumetsha was permitted, but full intercourse
was taboo. For Westernized Xhosa, romances often
begin at school, church, or through mutual
acquaintances. Dating activities include attending
the cinema as well as going to school dances,
sporting events, concerts, and so forth.
ZarZar am a nigerian but I have been oppurtuned to live with such type of pple and also mingle with them,basically if I had never had such experienced maybe I would have agreed to what you pointing at...

Martin0:
Next time don't ask me my tribe again ooo especially when you know were I came from they married,married to my brother like for 9year's now..for me personally they are good compare to assholes we have here,do you know in nigeria they some ladies from a particular tribe you don't dare mingle with hmmmm a Xhosa lady will tell you what she's gonna do to you on the first day when you both started dating like a warning not to be violated,they command respect and above all they will try to make you be addicted to them,they good,I and my Ex dated for six year's though I was not financially ok then for us to get married and she was getting older infact hmmm was terrible though am happy for her and her kids now,and she was a Xhosa though she has relocated back with his nigerian husband...so such is life

ZarZar:


Awwww, that's lovely. Good for them. I mean your brother & his wife. Sorry to hear about the ex, but true, life goes on.

What is the big deal about asking what tribe you are? Are you afraid the revelation is going to be used against you in future arguments on NL? I'm bummed but I respect your choice to remain anonymous regarding that. Kinda sad though to think, people have to protect their identity to such an extent, all because of the pettiness of others. Oh well. So are you still in SA, in Nigeria or elsewhere? Don't answer if you feel I'm probing too much.

Martin0:
no I don't have a problem with that,am in nigeria,ok you can say what u wanna say am all ear's,

ZarZar:


I have nothing more to say, really. I think we've covered all bases.

Martin0:
hahahahahh ZarZar ZarZar thought you said u wanted to say somthing regarding igbos based on arrogance or probably something related to atrocities committed

Martin0:
Yeah you right,here in nigeria they say same here...are you on facebook,there somethings I will us to talk about!!!