My husband went through my whatsapp chat...nd he got angry,he broke my phone nd hit me severally......I really didn't do anything wrong....now I don't know what to do....i'm depressed, we no longer talk or sleep in the same room....I think he hasn't really forgiven me for trying to go for family planning.....i really don't know if I should leave for a few days till he's calm......i'm trying to reverse the family planning stuff...nd It's been 1 month now ....i haven't really gone for a test but I'm scared I might be pregnant nd I don't think it would be the right time to have a baby.....i really need your advice guys

all Dis gals once una c a comfortable man with a ride una go jump into marriage without knowing the guy in and out,u all claim he loves cos he buys u gifts and tours u around ..
he might be possed or having issue he need to sort with him self...
meanwhile I will advice u to talk with him cos days d way u can sort una selfs

kill yourself nnw

...and u brought the issue to Nairaland, why don't u invite up ur family for a meeting

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What did he see on your phone?

So We Shud Go And Fight Husband Shey? Most of you are still suppose to be in your parent house recieving home training. Just Imagine What She Saying....

tollahni:
My husband went through my whatsapp chat...nd he got angry,he broke my phone nd hit me severally......I really didn't do anything wrong....now I don't know what to do....i'm depressed, we no longer talk or sleep in the same room....I think he hasn't really forgiven me for trying to go for family planning.....i really don't know if I should leave for a few days till he's calm......i'm trying to reverse the family planning stuff...nd It's been 1 month now ....i haven't really gone for a test but I'm scared I might be pregnant nd I don't think it would be the right time to have a baby.....i really need your advice guys

Your husband couldn't have hit you after going through your whatsapp without indicting stuffs on it. He isn't a mad man. Not that I support him for hitting you, there're other ways to mete punishment on a spouse without going physical so he was wrong on that and it seems it isn't the first time he's hitting you.

As for the family planning, why didn't you discuss that with him as a family?.

what he saw on ur phone is it abt d family planning? If u are trying to do family planning without his knowledge then its wrong, it should be with his permission try to talk to him in a way he will see reasons with u to do it. Mayb its d family planning tin dat got him angry, try and apologise even though no matter how angry he is, he is not suppose to hit u

tollahni:
My husband went through my whatsapp chat...nd he got angry,he broke my phone nd hit me severally......I really didn't do anything wrong....now I don't know what to do....i'm depressed, we no longer talk or sleep in the same room....I think he hasn't really forgiven me for trying to go for family planning.....i really don't know if I should leave for a few days till he's calm......i'm trying to reverse the family planning stuff...nd It's been 1 month now ....i haven't really gone for a test but I'm scared I might be pregnant nd I don't think it would be the right time to have a baby.....i really need your advice guys

Well, first of all you went for Family Planning without the full agreement of your spouse. Also it seems that you brought up the issue just when you got married..

I think you need to consider you husband first, because I think you are the one who is at fault... There are many things going through his head and you need to calm him down and assure him that what is about to be done is for the best..

tollahni:
My husband went through my whatsapp chat...nd he got angry,he broke my phone nd hit me severally......I really didn't do anything wrong....now I don't know what to do....i'm depressed, we no longer talk or sleep in the same room....I think he hasn't really forgiven me for trying to go for family planning.....i really don't know if I should leave for a few days till he's calm......i'm trying to reverse the family planning stuff...nd It's been 1 month now ....i haven't really gone for a test but I'm scared I might be pregnant nd I don't think it would be the right time to have a baby.....i really need your advice guys

you don't only need our advise you need our prayers too.


you and your husband are really meant for each other. keep cheating and he'd keep hitting your sense back.

tollahni:
My husband went through my whatsapp chat...nd he got angry,he broke my phone nd hit me severally......I really didn't do anything wrong....now I don't know what to do....i'm depressed, we no longer talk or sleep in the same room....I think he hasn't really forgiven me for trying to go for family planning.....i really don't know if I should leave for a few days till he's calm......i'm trying to reverse the family planning stuff...nd It's been 1 month now ....i haven't really gone for a test but I'm scared I might be pregnant nd I don't think it would be the right time to have a baby.....i really need your advice guys

u no do anything n him just hit u naim u dey tell us abi

Though its very wrong for him to have hit u, but u shldnt be taken a critical decision such as family planning on ur own. it shld have been with his permission after discussion

Something about your messages upset him AND you're married, you don't get to take decisions without discussing it with your significant other.
Now, looks like he hit you out of a bruised ego. Although I'm against domestic violence in any form, but I think you should try to placate him.
He's your husband- observe a day he seems relaxed, cook him a sumptuous dinner, wear something alluring, go on your knees and apologize to him for upsetting him. Look really remorseful. He's your husband, he won't reject you. He'll cool off, then gently but firmly tell him that his hitting you scared you and hurt so bad. There are other ways to right wrongs.
No one is above mistakes. Enjoy your marriage.

Benita27:
Your husband couldn't have hit you after going through your whatsapp without indicting stuffs on it. He isn't a mad man. Not that I support him for hitting you, there're other ways to mete punishment on a spouse without going physical so he was wrong on that and it seems it isn't the first time he's hitting you.

As for the family planning, why didn't you discuss that with him as a family?.

He has never done it before...he's never raised his hands on me before...nd about the stuff, I told him but he refused

memories1:

Something about your messages upset him AND you're married, you don't get to take decisions without discussing it with your significant other.
Now, looks like he hit you out of a bruised ego. Although I'm against domestic violence in any form, but I think you should try to placate him.
He's your husband- observe a day he seems relaxed, cook him a sumptuous dinner, wear something alluring, go on your knees and apologize to him for upsetting him. Look really remorseful. He's your husband, he won't reject you. He'll cool off, then gently but firmly tell him that his hitting you scared you and hurt so bad. There are other ways to right wrongs.
No one is above mistakes. Enjoy your marriage.

Thank u so much

tollahni:



He has never done it before...he's never raised his hands on me before...nd about the stuff, I told him but he refused

All right ma'. Btw, how many kids do you have and why is he refusing family planning?.

tollahni:
My husband went through my whatsapp chat...nd he got angry,he broke my phone nd hit me severally......I really didn't do anything wrong....now I don't know what to do....i'm depressed, we no longer talk or sleep in the same room....I think he hasn't really forgiven me for trying to go for family planning.....i really don't know if I should leave for a few days till he's calm......i'm trying to reverse the family planning stuff...nd It's been 1 month now ....i haven't really gone for a test but I'm scared I might be pregnant nd I don't think it would be the right time to have a baby.....i really need your advice guys

do your normals as a wife,and anytime you find him less busy especially at home walk up to him and apoloygise even if u did no wrong,add romance to ya style of apology this will kill his anger instanctly

Benita27:
All right ma'. Btw, how many kids do you have and why is he refusing family planning?.

I have a 5 year old daughter

You and your husband are both mad!

Benita27:
All right ma'. Btw, how many kids do you have and why is he refusing family planning?.

what do u think u know? This one want to start forming i-know-it-all.


Wetin person no go see on nairaland?

tollahni:



I have a 5 year old daughter

Just a child?. Well, I think you should discuss your family planning plans with your hubby so you could both come to an agreement. If you ask me, it isn't bad to get pregnant again.

Was it the beating that got you pregnant..
....seems there are some parts of the story that you left out.






BTW....no be you dey form feminist before?

NgoziOkoli:
You and your husband are both mad!

NgoziOkoli:
what do u think u know? This one want to start forming i-know-it-all.


Wetin person no go see on nairaland?

We know you're insane. Yabaleft patient!.

Benita27:
Just a child?. Well, I think you should discuss your family planning plans with your hubby so you could both come to an agreement. If you ask me, it isn't bad to get pregnant again.

Thanks dear...I actually feel pregnant...though,i haven't gone for a test yet

Benita27:
We know you're insane. Yabaleft patient!.

Coming from a kid like you? Respect is lacking here!


Shame!

What exactly did he see on your phone? Am sure the family planning issue is not the only thing.

You ladies are making one scared of marriage these days. Frustrating men Upandan, you said it yourself that he has never done it before so you must have really pushed him hard to the wall.

tollahni:



I was actually chatting with a male friend.....it was a little bit flirty nd I know it was wrong

You see what am saying. You know there is an issue on ground and you think the best solution is to start chatting up another guy.

See, let me tell you the truth. I know you are young and may not have much experience about marriage and family but you really need to get it together. He may find it hard to forgive you for those things, to even forgive himself for hitting you is also an issue.

Don't go around and report issues to outsiders, dont cry or do any form of pity party. Go for that pregnancy test, if you are positive, then you are lucky. Let him know you are also ready to have the baby, do it in a very excited way and when he is also at his best behavior. Swiftly delete those guys off your chat and focus on your family.

Forget your age, now is the time to be matured. A strong woman is the life of the home, be one.

Lastly, stop bringing your issues to social media, PLEASE.

Martin0:
do your normals as a wife,and anytime you find him less busy especially at home walk up to him and apoloygise even if u did no wrong,add romance to ya style of apology this will kill his anger instanctly

Thanks

tollahni:



Thanks dear...I actually feel pregnant...though,i haven't gone for a test yet

All right ma'.

Perspectives:
What exactly did he see on your phone? Am sure the family planning issue is not the only thing.

You ladies are making one scared of marriage these days. Frustrating men Upandan, you said it yourself that he has never done it before so you must have really pushed him hard to the wall.

I was actually chatting with a male friend.....it was a little bit flirty nd I know it was wrong

Blesed are the meek, for they shall inherit d earth.