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Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 7:37am On Jun 15, 2017 |
well ..he is very caring he gives me money every time I need it he is handsome,tall and has the cutest smile he truly loves me for me and would do anything for me but he is 15 yr older than me ..and my family says I should marry him .. but I want a younger guy ... but all young guys so far are self centered childish not capable of taking care of me handsome sha but just too childish don't know what to do. |
Re: Advice Needed by Loyalblak007(f): 7:43am On Jun 15, 2017 |
Do what you want 4 Likes |
Re: Advice Needed by JeffreyJamez(m): 7:43am On Jun 15, 2017 |
For some reason I don't believe this your "story". 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed by IamSINZ(m): 7:56am On Jun 15, 2017 |
debspauly: The federal government has failed to achieve Its main goal. Buhari's anti-corruption war has simply crashed and I see the opposition using it against him and the APC in 2019. God help Nigeria. 3 Likes |
Re: Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 7:59am On Jun 15, 2017 |
IamSINZ:sir this is romans section not politics. |
Re: Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 8:00am On Jun 15, 2017 |
JeffreyJamez:but is true ..he is just too old |
Re: Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 8:00am On Jun 15, 2017 |
Loyalblak007:how which one .. |
Re: Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:02am On Jun 15, 2017 |
Sugardaddy re oo... I don't even understand d op. He possesses all that quality and u are bothered about age? |
Re: Advice Needed by IamSINZ(m): 8:03am On Jun 15, 2017 |
debspauly: Really? I actually thought this is YouTube 4 Likes |
Re: Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 8:08am On Jun 15, 2017 |
Re: Advice Needed by IamSINZ(m): 8:13am On Jun 15, 2017 |
Re: Advice Needed by MrCork: 8:15am On Jun 15, 2017 |
debspauly: 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 8:16am On Jun 15, 2017 |
IamSINZ:lolz |
Re: Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:18am On Jun 15, 2017 |
Look after yourself then you could be with whoever you like. Crazy concept, I know |
Re: Advice Needed by Splinz(m): 8:22am On Jun 15, 2017 |
debspauly: You claimed all the younger guys you've met are childish... yet, you're equally one. Also, they can't take care of you, but then, your ancestor on the other hand is doing that perfectly. My dear, I'd help you. You need to come before me and kneel down, that I may pray for you. SMH 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advice Needed by MrCork: 8:26am On Jun 15, 2017 |
debspauly: ....u the main reason y we hate our black women so much an will never respet u....u can't find job?....so u loookin for young man to buy u cloths becuzz yorrr husband don't give u Moiney becuzz yorrr 20year old....abi?....white women r 10times better than u!!!(no oofeense) 3 Likes |
Re: Advice Needed by Tobiloba84: 8:27am On Jun 15, 2017 |
I feel if you got the nerves to start the relationship in the first place and he is capable of all you said, then do the rest of the work... Get a life of your own and marry him, no biggy about the age till you get scolded and get words like "am old enough to be your father" or "you are a spoilt brat" or "panel beating in case he is the aggressive type" on some ocassions. Best of luck 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 8:28am On Jun 15, 2017 |
MrCork: MrCork:all the young guys doing what they know how to do best . |
Re: Advice Needed by samyfreshsmooth(m): 8:29am On Jun 15, 2017 |
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Re: Advice Needed by Nobody: 8:29am On Jun 15, 2017 |
You woke up on the wrong side of the bed? You could be so mean sometimes. MrCork: |
Re: Advice Needed by Nobody: 9:08am On Jun 15, 2017 |
20yrs age difference is just too much. Suggar daddy things. Like when you were 10, he was 30. Na wa o!. |
Re: Advice Needed by olac21(m): 9:52am On Jun 15, 2017 |
He gives you money and that makes other guys chidish..e be like say something dey do your brain!! 1 Like |
Re: Advice Needed by Next2Bezee(m): 10:57am On Jun 15, 2017 |
debspauly: You sound self-centered and childish...and consider yourself a baby that a man has to take care off. Seeing as you have no respect for yourself and no way to take care of yourself then its important go let you know that no matter who u marry, u will completely dependent on them and soon u will start posting stories that touch. 2 Likes |
Re: Advice Needed by indodon(m): 12:47pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
how good is the D |
Re: Advice Needed by Dicedpineapple(f): 1:05pm On Jun 15, 2017 |
Milady..hez a bit on the ancestral syd in my opinion o..bt if hez single nd matured nd u don't wanna marry him out of pity nd d gifts he gives u,den go ahead.Bt how old are u if u don't mind?wanna add it up |
Re: Advice Needed by davidif: 8:13pm On Jun 17, 2017 |
Nma27: You dey mind am? |
Re: Advice Needed by Emary(f): 12:49pm On Jun 21, 2017 |
You are right to give it a good thought before jumping in. There are other factors associated with marrying older men which may not immediately be evident while dating. 1. He may be buoyant now but how many more years of his working life are still available for him to cater to you. 2. What is his health condition now? Does he have underlying ailments like hypertension or diabetes that may soon prove health challenges? You might soon find yourself a nursemaid or worse, a young widow if he does not take proper care of himself. 3 What is his attitude to you? Given the age difference, he might be controlling and you would be in no position to express yourself properly as it might appear rude to "challenge" him. He should at least be your friend and hear your opinions before taking decisions. A lot of younger guys are afraid of heavy responsibilities so they might not be ready for marriage. A young man can also die young too as they tend to take more risks such as drunk driving. The main advantage of marrying an older man is that he is usually already established in his business or career so he has more money to spend. He can, however, lose it in an instant in a bad business deal or an act of God. I was just talking to a friend who told me he lost his house to unforeseen structural damage at 55 after 20 yrs of being in the US and the insurance company wouldn't pay so he is basically restarting from the scratch. Pray very well for God to show you if he is truly your husband. If you do go ahead, ensure you establish a business that can sustain you and your kids as well as life insurance policies and educational plans so your children would be well catered for in any case. I wish you all the best. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Advice Needed by naturalwaves: 9:15am On Jun 29, 2017 |
Emary:Same mistakes you ladies usually make. Yours seem more like calculations rather than love. |
Re: Advice Needed by naturalwaves: 9:29am On Jun 29, 2017 |
debspauly:You seem a bit immature from what I have seen. There was no place in your post where you mentioned why exactly you like him apart from the fact that he is caring and takes care of you because you mentioned that other guys are handsome too. Are you incapacitated or something? With the way you saying he takes care of you, gives you money bla bla . It seems like you do not have a regular good paying job thus being vulnerable to such gestures. You failed to name concrete/ genuine reasons why you love him except the ephemerals. What happens if all those things are gone? Huh? It takes more than all the things you mentioned to settle down with someone. You need to think deeply and I do not even know where you have been going that you have been meeting childish younger ones. I do not think this is absolutely correct. You just wanted to use the point to justify your decisions. Moreover, it is obvious he has also extended the financial care to your family or your family can feel it through you. Either way, they won't be the one to live with him and let no one cajole you into making critical, personal decisions. How old are you if I may ask? Why is he still single or his he a divorcee or a widower? Answer these questions and let us pick it up from there. Cheers! |
Re: Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 11:12am On Jun 29, 2017 |
naturalwaves:he is 33 .....and sometimes I feel love for him...sometimes I feel disgusted ..I wanna grow old with someone in my age bracket ..and I dont wanna become a widow at a young age .... |
Re: Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 11:16am On Jun 29, 2017 |
Emary:he treats me like his age mate ..and we roll well together ...the guy is good in all aspect ..just the age . if he was younger I would have married him sharp sharp. |
Re: Advice Needed by debspauly(f): 11:18am On Jun 29, 2017 |
Dicedpineapple:OK he is 33 ...and the difference is 15 |
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