ifenes:
Caring for someone deeply has nothing to do with marriage. Marriage is a meaningless and old institution that does not guarantee love and affection. It only gives satisfaction to our parents who they themselves were subjected to forceful Union. Many married couple live seperates lives nowadays.

Many naija girls use marriage as a selfish tool to tie a man down. They feel old and useless once they hit 36 years old and higher, hence the " marry me" demands gets louder after wasting their youthful years dating sugar daddies or doing irrelevant activities. Worst part is saving their Virginas till wedding night( what a barbaric mentality)

A woman should rather become a happy baby mama over wasting in an unhappy wedlock. Marriage is old and outdated, lets embrace true love and more kids outside unholy- marriages.

Ok, preach this your gospel to your daughters and sisters, and make sure they all follow it. Tell them to just pack their loads and go and live with any man they like, without any ties. Tell them they are free to continue having meaningless relationships, without a future. Forgive me, if I do not attend your sermon.

Please don't fall for this trap o......if he does not have money for wedding....make he do introduction (not elaborate he should come and see your parents off course with his own family members simple) ...next court wedding......union done dey legal be that.No fall for trap ,,,naso some women in the past deliver 2 children for man no dowry no court wedding ......even if na bottle of wine a man carry to do traditional marriage we go know say he serious but money no dey.......A word is enough for the wise

Sorry bro, I just checked you up to take note. I must avoid men who reason like you.

MiddleDimension:



my dear, i have more aiaters than i have brothers. the same advice i gave here a wat i would give to them. infact, i gave one of them the aame advice sometime ago.

how many more failed marriages and men cheatin on their wives do ypu want to see before yu realise that thia old behaviour we have towards life is not ezactly true? how many more meb do we want to see leave their wives before we realise that a man getting married to a woman is not an evidence at all that the said man truelly loves and respects his wife? i am a man and i can tell you that the same way i see my.girlfriend is the way i would see a wife. for me, what you call marriag ia juat.the aigning of a paper nothing more!

if a woman reques me to sign a paper before ahe can be sure my love for her, then i tink there is a truat issue somewhere whic the signing of the paper wont solve in the first place

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fjUoLSRBz2A

Tamarapetty:
uh okay

Abeg lecture this op for me. Some of the topics one reads on nairaland are quite shocking.

lekpaciouse:
Please I need your advice as my guy want me to get pregnant for him out of wedlock that when the time comes we will get married,that other ladies are disturbing him have baby for him.
Please I need your advice
Thanks.

Simply do not yield to him. His reason is so lame. He won't marry you. Allow him to go meet those other ladies outside so that you'll meet a better man. I wonder the thinking. So if you get pregnant those other ladies will stop? Abeg leave that man jor

porozhniy:

Lolz...that bobo is going to chase her out of the house with his verbal diarrhea if they eventually get married.
Which naija woman go gree for that kain condition when you're not 2face
Infact, the babe no even serious, she couldn't tell him off but had to run to social media to seek advice, eh

Lolz

ifenes:
Naija mentality on marriage is really low...... Marriage is no guarantee a man will stay with you. You don't have to get married to raise a family.

Seriously there are so many marriages out there . The wives are living like single parent at home while in the public they claim to be married . The wives virtually pay all the bills and still feed the man join.

Op the issue is this? Do u want to get married and then have kids ? If yur answer is Yes ? Then Run far from your bf.

While the second scenario is ? Do u wish to have kids without marriage , cos u are done with the idea of marriage ?
Then seat down and ask yourself ?
How much do u earn to take care of your maternity bills and care for your baby , if you get pregnant ?
Can u conveniently take care of your kids without waiting for the father ?

If your answer is yes? Then go ahead with your bf and make sure he acknowledges your child as his .And life goes on.

Even Nadia buhari is not married but av lovely twins with the baby father towing along side .

So the choice is yours to make .

Its so simple

Dannmowe:
It will be hard for both parties

dat babe putting on Manchester United jersey is hot@ur PP...hope u're d one

Elizaveta my crush. What's up ... Been a while

lekpaciouse:
Please I need your advice as my guy want me to get pregnant for him out of wedlock that when the time comes we will get married,that other ladies are disturbing him have baby for him.
Please I need your advice
Thanks.

no try it o

sirfee:
Pastor Toseen,what is the name of your church?I'm really interested in your religion.

The church is yet to reach the permanent site
I will tell you when it is ready,lol Baba-ijo

toseen7:
The church is yet to reach the permanent site I will tell you when it is ready,lol Baba-ijo

You never sleep abi my partner in crime

fyxboss:
Elizaveta my crush. What's up ... Been a while

My dear,am fine. Wbu?

ElizaVeta:
My dear,am fine. Wbu?

been good oooo. As u no ask of me now

fyxboss:
been good oooo. As u no ask of me now

Hmmm ... I can't remember anyone's moniker oh ...sorry shaa

ElizaVeta:
Hmmm ... I can't remember anyone's moniker oh ...sorry shaa

that u even said u will add me on fb. Chai diaaris God sha

fyxboss:
that u even said u will add me on fb. Chai diaaris God sha

Leave fb matter ...why are you not on whatsapp?

ElizaVeta:
Leave fb matter ...why are you not on whatsapp?

just for now, I lost my phone.. Will be back soon. What's ur instagram name

fyxboss:
just for now, I lost my phone.. Will be back soon. What's ur instagram name

I'm aint a social media girlie ... You hardly find me on those. Even my fb looks like its unserious because I hate it. ...

Meanwhile,gimme your fb user once again

ElizaVeta:
I'm aint a social media girlie ... You hardly find me on those. Even my fb looks like its unserious because I hate it. ...

Meanwhile,gimme your fb user once again

I recall u once told me that, I like social media oooo. Especially twitter and instagram. My fb name is AY Leader

fyxboss:
I recall u once told me that, I like social media oooo. Especially twitter and instagram. My fb name is AY Leader

Will get my request tomorrow mawin. Goodnyt

African Parents are the best... Proud Nigerian.. Funny things african parents do

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZmhGmqdlR3I

ifenes:
Naija mentality on marriage is really low...... Marriage is no guarantee a man will stay with you. You don't have to get married to raise a family.

some ppl r so stupid. Someone even said a child born out of wedlock is a bastard .so lame indeed they 4get dat in dis present days women r so unpredictable wat if after d marriage she cant give u a child wat wil u do then.then who bear d lost .beside marriage does nt guarantee a man wil stay wit u, beside alot of many great men were born out of wedlock so wat is d big deal

ElizaVeta:
Will get my request tomorrow mawin. Goodnyt

Good night

My Dear Sister don't be deceived.
Let him do the needful. If you take in because you want to satisfy his selfish desire you will regret it.

Don't fall for that cheap game.

Safiaa:
He's not trying to marry you. He's trying to tie you down with no commitment. Dont fall for it. No ring no baby. What does he want to wait for? If he has money for a baby, he has money for a wedding ceremony. Nonsense.

...good one here!

kennygee:


A man who loves you won't put you in that position.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.

I have seen many ladies fall prey to this lie and they ended up as single mothers with no man to marry them.

Most guys these days are just looking for women to bear one or two kids for them so they can eat their cake and have it.

That man doesn't love you, do things the way God ordained it from the beginning.

If you are not born again, repent of this way of life, let the Word of God be your guide and your manual and I promise you, you will not miss it.

Don't allow any man pressure you. Its easy to have sex and get pregnant, but what happens after you give birth to the child and this man leaves you?

A child born out of wedlock is a bastard, forger the sugar they are sprinkling on it to call it "baby mama or baby daddy".

Omo ale ni won pe.

A word is enough for the wise.

guru03:
My Dear Sister don't be deceived.
Let him do the needful. If you take in because you want to satisfy his selfish desire you will regret it.

She will not take it because love is blind.

kennygee:


A man who loves you won't put you in that position.

He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord.

I have seen many ladies fall prey to this lie and they ended up as single mothers with no man to marry them.

Most guys these days are just looking for women to bear one or two kids for them so they can eat their cake and have it.

That man doesn't love you, do things the way God ordained it from the beginning.

If you are not born again, repent of this way of life, let the Word of God be your guide and your manual and I promise you, you will not miss it.

Don't allow any man pressure you. Its easy to have sex and get pregnant, but what happens after you give birth to the child and this man leaves you?

A child born out of wedlock is a bastard, forger the sugar they are sprinkling on it to call it "baby mama or baby daddy".

Omo ale ni won pe.

...blessed are you among ladies my dear and blessed is the home that made you. Everything you wrote is sound. Let her that has ears hear!

lekpaciouse:
Thanks very much,like he said,he said other ladies want to carry his baby and I told him they are just looking for whom to father their baby,and he is very serious about it am just confused about the whole things.

...not to sound judgement but it seemed you lack proper guidance and sound moral upbringing which seemed to inform your reasoning in this matter. You have about 100% of both guys and your fellow ladies here advising you against what you are strongly considering doing but you are still seeing positives against the loads of bad consequences.
Please go, sample the counsel of elderly godly women and men if you do not see any positive in what your fellows are putting up here for you. Also meditate on this wise ancient tested saying "...in the multitude of counsel lies safety[b][/b]".
...may God save you from harm!