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Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by OTEGA1: 6:06am On Jun 29, 2017
This lady only speak half truth..I believe test has shown she can't conceive dats y she is routing for IVF as a way out. IVF chance is only 30% success rate and very expensive.No reasonable man wants DAT option.

In order to cover her infertility she has try to over work by investing in marriage according to ensure d guy c her efforts and do not c d child bearing as issues.

From other threads she is looking for property to buy so as to give d impression she can do anything in d marriage...

I can say to a large extent that she knew even before marriage her condition but decided to trick d dude into marriage.

Wen sex is no longer fun but work den you know continue to waste sperm in punany DAT is not productive is waste of time and energy..

Let her move on dear...At least u can boast u were once married.

Wen u were flexing jumping from bed to bed for cash u did not know d after effect..
I know before a man makes decision he has seen it all and concluded u are a waste of space energy and resourced...

Move on find another mugu to hook...ur case is concluded...
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by Nobody: 6:07am On Jun 29, 2017
Dreamscometrue:
cry cry cry cry..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me... cry cry

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?
What's wrong? Do you have any medical problem? Let me know because you can still conceive.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by Nobody: 6:09am On Jun 29, 2017
Dreamscometrue:
cry cry cry cry..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me... cry cry


How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?

Woman where is thy faith. God shows up when all is than. Did you read that testimony that made front page earlier on?
God is never late. He is always there. You are telling God big your problem is, you are not telling you problem how big your God is.
Let your mockers mock you so your maker can make you.
Did he send you packing immediately or just broke up but allowed you time to leave. If you are still in the house, lock your self inside your room and seek this God from his word. If he could save me from acute heart palpitations. When I had already given up. He can fix you and your marriage.
Hold God by his words. God shows up when the world is against you, show that He can take all the glory.
If you are out of the house but within Lagos, remember now God is all you have left and also, the heart of a king is in God's hand.
Go to your church and camp there. If your church doesn't have any, I will advice you get a mat or camping materials and move to Winners Chapel , Ota. Camp for a week or two with all your focus on God.
How much of God's word do you know and how have you applied those words to your situation.
Eat ate more than enough to confront the devil during His temptation cos God values his words more than him self and God can never lie.
Eat God's words and hold Him by His words and use it to remind him of his covenant that " non shall be barren".
Make a vow with God " the HANAH way" and finally consume christain literature on faithfulness.
I am talking from experience and what I know.
God has answered you already. Celebrate and don't allow people organise pity party for you. You don't need it. Encourage your self in the Lord.
90days is too much for you to return to your home pregnant if you follow the above. Your husband will come looking for you.
Shalom! I await your testimony.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by dfo12(m): 6:10am On Jun 29, 2017
I know of a couple who just had their first child (a boy) after 22 years of marriage. They had faced insults from hell but it never tore them apart. Just about 2 weeks ago their miracle came after 2 decades of marriage. Nobody died in the whole period. Just pray for your husband and for a miracle. Suicide is hell playing with your destiny. God hasn't forsaken you, instead he wants to do his work in your life. Let him lead the way, while you follow patiently. God bless you.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by Nobody: 6:12am On Jun 29, 2017
OTEGA1:
This lady only speak half truth..I believe test has shown she can't conceive dats y she is routing for IVF as a way out. IVF chance is only 30% success rate and very expensive.No reasonable man wants DAT option.

In order to cover her infertility she has try to over work by investing in marriage according to ensure d guy c her efforts and do not c d child bearing as issues.

From other threads she is looking for property to buy so as to give d impression she can do anything in d marriage...

I can say to a large extent that she knew even before marriage her condition but decided to trick d dude into marriage.

Wen sex is no longer fun but work den you know continue to waste sperm in punany DAT is not productive is waste of time and energy..

Let her move on dear...At least u can boast u were once married.

Wen u were flexing jumping from bed to bed for cash u did not know d after effect..
I know before a man makes decision he has seen it all and concluded u are a waste of space energy and resourced...

Move on find another mugu to hook...ur case is concluded...
Hey, you need to be nice. This is not the way to solve her problem. Meanwhile, I still believe that she would conceive if you could open up for further discussion.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by Daboomb: 6:16am On Jun 29, 2017
All these silly and unintelligent stories concocted to stigmatise the male gender.... and all of you are jumping Up-an-down trying to give ill-thought out comment! angry angry

Why must it always be a story that demonises a Man?

All you men that made those silly comment need to step back and use your brains. undecided undecided

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Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by fxkay1: 6:19am On Jun 29, 2017
Dreamscometrue:
cry cry cry cry..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me... cry cry

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?

hello dear,

the truth is that your husband may be the person who is at fault in the fertility issue..

please dont fret it is not the end
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by raheemkeji(f): 6:24am On Jun 29, 2017
I really understand what you are going through.

Well i can't really say your Husband loves you right from the Beginning of the Marriage. Were both of you forced into the marriage? At the same time, he might be receiving a lot of pressure from his parent.

Which ever case, the only thing you can do is to be more prayerful and talk to your own Parent about it. Your Parent, most especially your Mom can give you a wonderful advise here cos they know more about your Marriage better than me here typing.

My Sister, don't be confused. Be more prayerful instead, Hustle more. When there is Life, there is still hope.

I have been in my Marriage for Almost 2 years and There hasn't been any sign of pregnancy from my beautiful wife but i have never thought of giving it a try for another person not to talk of leaving her.

Allah knows best

i hope this helps!

Dreamscometrue:
cry cry cry cry..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me... cry cry

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?

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Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by Excellent4love: 6:24am On Jun 29, 2017
Hello my sister!
l don't know you, but my advice is that you put your hope in God. ln this l've learnt that is only God that can solve your problem and not man.
Like as you said, you invested much in the marriage.
leave that also to God as well.
Surely God'll answer your prayers. He wil restore whatever the palmerworm, the cankerworm and the caterpillar have eaten shall be restored to you morethan a hundred fold.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by yinkslinks(m): 6:30am On Jun 29, 2017
The same way you forced yourself to be with him that is why you guys are not matched. leave him and get another man who can make you have kids. happened to my aunty and she is thankful to God now. He wasnt meant to be your hubby trust me.
Dreamscometrue:
cry cry cry cry..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me... cry cry

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by techlorddsblog: 6:32am On Jun 29, 2017
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked

I'm very sure you had lovely prewedding pictures..

My sister..
Your husband is sure of himself that's why he insists on no IVF.


Are you sure of yourself..

Is there something you aren't saying ('you invested a lot and you did so many things for love')...did you abort before marriage or damage your womb?

Why not try out some one else....if it clicks, you give it to your husband instead of shortchanging yourself.

You should be smarter than this,
Instead of opening a profile here, create an account on Baddoo... I'm sure a thousand and one men will be ready to give you a lucky shot of testosterone.

Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by bayulll011(m): 6:32am On Jun 29, 2017
Dreamscometrue:
cry cry cry cry..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me... cry cry

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?

if your story is true all I can say is you never had husband in the first place,I always tell people If I get married to a lady and getting married to her come rain sunshine,with kids without kids many people don't understand the word marriage,off course there is two side to a story av u done abortions how many,I wish to hear your husband side of the story before I condemned pple.

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Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by Nobody: 6:34am On Jun 29, 2017
Firstly,go for test and make sure the problem is not from you,and then relax, I know a former neighbor who was thrown out by her husband and his mother because she could not conceive,the worse part is she was even the bread winner cos her brothers were loaded and wlll give anything just to make her comfortable, Mr man chased her with cutlass one day, accusing her of witchcraft and eating her babies,my mum bumped into her after 13 years, her twins are all grown up and did I mention her ex ran mad and died two years after they separated,we heard rumours that his mother was responsible. So my dear, just be sure that the fault is not from you,cos personally i am yet to see what men do that will shock me
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by decub: 6:37am On Jun 29, 2017
Dreamscometrue:
cry cry cry cry..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me... cry cry

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?
You mean a year plus or a couple of decades plus! If you ask me, I don't think he deserves you.

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Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by YelloweWest: 6:37am On Jun 29, 2017
pressplay411:
Can you take a minute and shut the Bleep up.
So what you're having marital problems? You're not the first neither are you going to be the last, so dont even entertain that i want to end it all crap.
Worst case scenario, he leaves you and you become a single lady again at whatever your age is. Is marriage all your life achievement and life goal is all about?
Single successful ladies every where having the time of their life, and I don't need to mention names.
Besides what makes you think you won't find love again? So many guys out here don't even want kids maybe cos they're already single fathers or they just don't, so many don't mind adopting.
My point in essence is life goes on. You just have to accept your fate, reevaluate your life and concentrate on what matters... What makes you happy? How about making an impact on your career, business, as a philanthropist, etc I'm sure you have an idea what I'm talking about already.
Really it might seem like all hope is lost but you know what, it never is. Stay positive, stay interesting, stay interested. Live. There's a lot to life.
Damn straight!
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by optimismlaz(m): 6:47am On Jun 29, 2017
Please don't take your life because of a man. Go to God in prayer with a broken heart you will see God in action.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by Blessed16(m): 6:48am On Jun 29, 2017
austinosita:


Do not generalize bros.

I am a man, and I am not wicked! I can never and will never throw my wife out or abandon her cos she couldn't conceive.
yes they are stone hearted, wen u a woman do not bear a child they will reject her and remarry, wen she bears only female children, they still complain of not having male children, etc After LUCIFER FEAR MEN! WICKED SET OF CREATURES
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by alen4smith(m): 6:51am On Jun 29, 2017
GossipHeart:


God ??

You mean the same God that allows his beloved children to die of cancer ??

God can't forsake his people ?? What happened to his people all over the world dying of hunger and diseases ??

God doesn't exist

Wake up my little brain friend
this one is lost
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by genexkid: 6:53am On Jun 29, 2017
hello sis. God didn't forsake you. He did that for Jesus Christ on the cross all for the crown and glory of Jesus Christ. Can you call my number to find a way out cuz we cant be discussing this here. 0816534934, God bless!
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by 989900: 6:53am On Jun 29, 2017
Kudos to all who don't have the full picture and have never been in same shoes before, but have all this soooo brilliant advice to lend.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by Caseless: 6:56am On Jun 29, 2017
Dreamscometrue:
cry cry cry cry..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me... cry cry

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?
don't take any decision now. Be calm, and pray for stability right now. It could be God's way of saving you from a looming trouble. He hasn't forsaken you.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by Kobicove(m): 6:57am On Jun 29, 2017
helpee:
For you guys to be thinking of IVF after only one year could mean only one thing.....your two tubes are irredeemably lost. Maybe you had an ectopic pregnancy they removed one tube and the other is blocked. Otherwise most people don't just start talking of IVF after one year. I've seen it all. A lady had her two tubes removed while single and refused to tell the rich guy. She was pressing me to tell the guy they would need IVF after 6months of marriage. When the husband discovered the tubes were gone the lady called me saying i betrayed her trust by telling her husband. God is my witness I can never do that as a doctor. I dont know how the man got to know. Long story short the man broke up immediately. Spectators will be blaming the man without knowing what happens. Bottomline....OP is just playing on our emotions. Tell us why you want him to raise money for IVF after only one year of marriage

These are exactly my thoughts as well...also she should tell us her age and the husband's age

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Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by Smooyis(m): 7:02am On Jun 29, 2017
Be rest assured in God's love and His saving grace. Stay blessed.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by zuto4u(m): 7:02am On Jun 29, 2017
God bless you bro for this wonderful piece. Indeed He still answers prayers and will never stop answering prayers.
ochobaba:
God can't forsake his people
This is a better opportunity for you to discuss with God am very sure he still answers prayers
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by lelvin(m): 7:04am On Jun 29, 2017
Marriage is just too overrated. Everything failing like vehicles with faulty brakes. The way I see it, baby mamaship is still more profitable until everyone calms down..
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by VeniJu: 7:05am On Jun 29, 2017
Dreamscometrue:
cry cry cry cry..I just don't know where to start from.
I feel like ending it all.
My husband just broke up with me because I am yet to conceive and he said he doesn't want IVF.
We have only be trying for a year plus.

This is someone I did a lot of things for and now he has abandoned me.I don't know how to face my family.I feel so ashamed and devastated.
God has really forsaken me... cry cry

How do I start my life afresh because I am so confused.
It is not going to be easy for me because I have invested so much in this marriage.I have done so many things because of love.It is really hard for me.I am at the receiving end.

Will I be able to pull through this?
Contact me for a discussion.
Only those that has passed through a bridge can advise on how to cross it back & forth.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by oxiide22(m): 7:06am On Jun 29, 2017
are u sure?
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by djman1985(m): 7:07am On Jun 29, 2017
If you are still in ready to conceive, it cost me nothing to pm you what and what to use. In a week all glory will be to God almighty. I will be share your pains. God bless.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by djman1985(m): 7:08am On Jun 29, 2017
If you are still ready to conceive, it cost me nothing to pm you what and what to use. In a week all glory will be to God almighty. I will be share your pains. God bless.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by djman1985(m): 7:08am On Jun 29, 2017
If you are still in ready to conceive, it cost me nothing to pm you what and what to use. In a week all glory will be to God almighty. I will be share your pains. God bless.
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by zuto4u(m): 7:08am On Jun 29, 2017
Good words of consolation bro. God bless you for this. There are so many ways of being a brother's keeper and consoling and encouraging one another in the days of anguish is definitely one of the ways. So keep it up bro.
austinosita:
Dry your tears woman. That man does not love you. He has forgotten his vows: for better, for worse! He has not even started facing the real worse and he has already chickened out!

Love is patient. Love endures!

Don't beg him. Talk to God in prayers. No be you be God wey dey make pikin!

Better still, try and make him go to the hospital with you. Both of you should do a fertility test. He should do a sperm test, so you guys can ascertain the real prob.

If there's no issue after the tests, then just pray!

No beg am! Let him go if he wants! He does not love you at all! You will find a better person!



#whereisthelove?
Re: My Husband Broke Up With Me Because I'm Yet To Conceive. Losing My Mind.. Help! by menxer: 7:10am On Jun 29, 2017
Life is just a game of experience.

You experienced the joy of a wedding day and honey moon,
You experienced married life for a year without conception,
Now you are about to experience the life of a divorcee.

There are still many other stages of game play to experience...

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