kennies12:
Am not surprised at all. Thats how these devils called women can behave.

you live with a woman, she is doing everything from your money and it won't make headlines, but when she supports a little, then it becomes an issue.

My brother, be patient a little while we await luck to shine one u to get sth doing. but meanwhile, just start sth no matter how little it is.

God ll revenge for u.

Ifyone123:
This is the reason most well doing men dont flaunt dia money wen dating girls. Like i once said "U know depth of loyalty from a woman wen her got noting..and d loyalty of a man wen he got everything" OP jst calmly tell her to b paying bills dat u will refund her back and started lookin fr a job, meanyl if u cn invest d lil u hv in MMM n b looking around fr anoda appoint. Broda if u finally get a job n she brings d list of fr u to refund jst tell her to giv u somtime, u shud go write a list of all u hv bin spending wen u both wia dating, all d money u spent on both white n traditional wedding and all d expenses u cn fabricate and tell her to pay up all diz tinz before u refund her money back. You sef u wud hv opened a shop for her or tell her to hustle as well or look for a job, its easy fr us to get a job, the make it mandatory dat contribution will b 50/50..or 60/40. men u guys hv com togeda to b one..forget dat MAN Provider mentallity nonsense. Oya drop dead n see if she wunt take care of her kid/kids by hustling. Op if u knw hw u cn start pinning ur mouth wen she talks plz kindly do. If she takes ur PEACE plz dnt beat her..Kindly n gently in a romantic way carry her back to her father/mother's house...dats our only refactory and reset mode but before u do dis make make sure YOU hv paid d current house renr and ar earning lil cash...ivn if its lil..Thank me later.

Ifyone123:
This is the reason most well doing men dont flaunt dia money wen dating girls. Like i once said "U know d depth of loyalty from a woman wen her man got noting..and d loyalty of a man wen he got everything" OP jst calmly tell her to b paying bills dat u will refund her back and start lookin fr a job, meanyl if u cn invest d lil u hv in MMM n b looking around fr anoda appointment. Broda if u finally get a job n she brings d list of fr u to refund jst tell her to giv u somtime, u shud go write a list of all u hv bin spending wen u both wia dating, all d money u spent on both white n traditional wedding and all d expenses u cn fabricate and tell her to pay up all diz tinz before u refund her money back. You sef u wud hv opened a shop for her or tell her to hustle as well or look for a job, its easy fr us to get a job, the make it mandatory dat contribution will b 50/50..or 60/40. men u guys hv com togeda to b one..forget dat MAN Provider mentallity nonsense. Oya drop dead n see if she wunt take care of her kid/kids by hustling. Op if u knw hw u cn start pinning ur mouth wen she talks plz kindly do. If she takes ur PEACE plz dnt beat her..Kindly n gently in a romantic way carry her back to her father/mother's house...dats our only refactory and reset mode but before u do dis make make sure YOU hv paid d current house rent and earning lil cash...ivn if its lil..Thank me later.

BiafraBushBoy:


You were making sense till you mentioned MMM.

Make I no land you brain resetting SLA....p

greyboy5000:
Bro the biggest headache in your story is that she keeps records and then she uses it to bully you when ever you get into argument with her

Now everything else seems like normal behavior of ladies, particularly the ones you started dating when you have already made something of your self.

The only solution is for you to remain calm in this period, perhaps these is the period you earn the tittle of the man of the house


I know what you are thinking.
If you remain calm, people and your wife may take you for a fool, but looking at the defination of a fool which is a person who has no idea of what he/she is doing. Keeping calm in your situation will not make you a fool

Finnaly, I know you will have heard these a thousand times, so it will be like music to your ears, but seriously you need to find something doing not for your own or your wife sake but the sake of your boy

Stay blessed

greyboy5000:
Bro the biggest headache in your story is that she keeps records and then she uses it to bully you when ever you get into argument with her

Now everything else seems like normal behavior of ladies, particularly the ones you started dating when you have already made something of your self.

The only solution is for you to remain calm in this period, perhaps these is the period you earn the tittle of the man of the house


I know what you are thinking.
If you remain calm, people and your wife may take you for a fool, but looking at the defination of a fool which is a person who has no idea of what he/she is doing. Keeping calm in your situation will not make you a fool

Finnaly, I know you will have heard these a thousand times, so it will be like music to your ears, but seriously you need to find something doing not for your own or your wife sake but the sake of your boy

Stay blessed

Ifyone123:
I swear if he makes dat mistake of "sake of ur boy" den dats d begging of OPs end. Biko did he force himself to make a child? It is THEIR(Both man and woman) responsibility to care fr dia child. Remove dat "Sake" deceptive crap. Show ur boy love and giv him wen u can but if u do silly tinz ALONE for his sake...den ur doom awaits u..Abeg na both of una get pikin no b only u nor her

mylander:
Please advise.

I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.

When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.

After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.

The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.

Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.

To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.

At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'

Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.

BiafraBushBoy:


You were making sense till you mentioned MMM.

Make I no land you brain resetting SLA....p

Victornezzar:

lmao
dem collect ur money

mylander:
Please advise.

I was in an employment of a bank until recently when my employment was terminated.

When I had the job, I took my family welfare as my priory. My wife and our only son were faring good, I always ensure we do not lack the basic necessities. Meanwhile, my wife did not have a job then. All the house upkeep expenses including the cost of running her postgraduate program were on me and I felt comfortable bearing the costs as the breadwinner of the family.

After I lost my job in the bank some month ago, my wife got an employment with the state govt. With her little income, she has been able to assist in bearing some expenses, even she pays for fuelling our car sometimes.

The drama has now started in the house and our marriage is on the verge of breaking up.

Any little issue, my wife will turn it to quarrel, different abuses. Funny enough, she would be referring to the financial supports she has been rendering in the house. This is a woman that did not work at all for 2 years and I was bearing all the expenses with pleasure. Now she had only supported me for about 4months now and she's is misbehaving.

To my surprise, my wife maintains a record in which she records every penny she spends in the house including food items and fuel. With this, she always ask me when will I pay him back.

At the instance of a simple argument/misunderstanding, my wife would be boasting of 'I paid for this, I paid for that....' 'If not for my support since you had problem at work......'

Please advise me, I am getting fed-up with the situation, my wife had changed totally.