Women cant be trusted DNA test after delivery For that her best friend , there should be limit to their friendship You are married to her and automatically becomes her best friend

I have always told ladies friendship with the opposite sex must be of limit. In fact, there's a valid sch of thought that a boy and a girl cannot be "just friends",- it is impossible.

Whn two opposite secs becomes emotionally close , they are bound to do it.

The babe is still most possibly yours even if she did or does it with the intruder gynaecologist. Mother of a baby knows his father ... No bastard.

A lot of immature and senseless/biased replies in this thread.

Note to future self: never ever go to the internet for life changing advice.


Over and out

MemphisRaynes:
Dude. Please do not call my wife that. If you got no help to offer, then just read and learn.

I would advice you do a DNA test secretly far away from any know place to your family or friends, your wife seems to be in the medical line, she and her suspected lover could always alter the result, especially if it's his, be calm.

Franky826:


lol bro relax till the baby is born. even though stories cannot be same but...

exactly same thing happened to my eldest brother and his wife. though he doubted the paternity of the child due to the timing of the pregnancy relative to when they had intimacy. bro nothing added up.
he doubted till he let my mum privy on the matter. as oldie with experience mum told him to relax. August 4th 2 years ago baby boy show.

1. Boy had a mismatch on his hairline in same position exactly like my brother

2. Boy didn't start talking on time exactly like my brother

3. boy snores in same pattern exactly like my brother

Now when you ask my brother if he needs to do a DNA test he will even slap you join

Your brother is a fool



I have those qualities and I have donated sperms generously to married women


Tell ur brother to return my baby

Support her for now and try to let her understand why you doubted her at first, then go for the DNA test when she put to bed. But I don't understand why married women still flirt. Some are even on dating sites.

No man unknown to you has the right to call her dear or anything affectionate. why did she not tell her husband she has a new best friend? why did he call another man's pregnancy..."our baby".
play along to confirm the baby is not yours, then you move on with your life without her.

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

with my little medical knowledge, the baby is yours but to clear your mind off every doubt about the baby paternity make sure to go for DNA test after baby delivery and order your wife to stop chatting or calling the said man from this very seconds. the fact that you are monitoring her shows that you truly loves her although excess of anything is bad

Dude,

Do the paternity test and then decide whether to love your wife for the rest of your life or stay away from her before she poison you to be with the other man. Try paying less attention to the crocodile tears and accusation that you don't love her. If the paternity test determines you are wrong, apologize to her and move on. Good Luck!

Mhizgracie01:
Hope y'all know that a DNA test is a big deal in Nigeria. Only a handful of medical centres in Nigeria can actually carry out a DNA test and it's damn expensive. If the o.p is not well-to-do but is really serious about it, he should start saving towards it.

When the child is born, if he's serious, we'll raise the money here on NL.

The years of unfaithful wives dumping bastards in our houses are over. If a father doesn't train his daughter to be faithful, she's gonna be bringing enough bastards to his house as souvenirs.

You already have doubts, only a DNA test can clear that.

So, wait for the next 8 months and the whole thing shall be resolved. Meanwhile explain your rationale to her and the fact that she contributed to it through her rather lucid chat with this guy.

As for her making the house hell for you, those are empty threats...is she not going to stay in the same hell-house with you? In marriage, we begat what we sow, one of the parties cannot sow hell and expect heaven.

Jackeeh:

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You don't need or deserve any help!

Do you think calling the wife w.hore would help his self esteem either?

He is married to her and these are mere suspicions until proven otherwise by a reputable lab.

Ultrasound is never correct.
it is based on scientific calculations on a machine using sound waves .
So as the pregnancy progresses ,the due date will keep changing according to the progress of the baby and even at that the mom will not give birth at the said date.

Have an open mind for now bro.

Goodluck!

techlorddsblog:
Support her for now and try to let her understand why you doubted her at first, then go for the DNA test when she put to bed. But I don't understand why married women still flirt. Some are even on dating sites.

honestly it irritates me a lot

Hi Mr, firstly I think you don't love or trust your wife a bit,
actually you thought you did... A marriage of just 18months? I fear your home will have enough ups and downs. See go and write today's day down, you will be sorry you ever doubted your wife, if I were the wife, I swear I'll make life miserable for you after the confirmation of the paternity... Some of you men are still boys but you jump into marriage. Fine! You saw your wife chat with another guy but to me it doesn't call for doubting the paternity. Those people advising you to chase her out, they're still mama's boy so what advice can they give.... In short I'm vexing right now... Enough said sha... You guys still have a long way to go and more work to do

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

read about pregnancy online, ultrasound will add two weeks to the pregnancy. It is believed that a woman is pregnant since the day of her last menstration.you can try another ultrasound centre, it will not give you same result as per the weeks.

Bros just take ur time,from ur story it might just be insinuations...any test that proves negative will further ruin ur house.if there had not been issues in your affair,you wouldn't have all those dated details.

oglalasioux:

Marriage is not mankind's nature. We are just forcing the fraud unto ourselves and getting hurt for the nonsense.

One day, religion and marriage will be abolished and the world will be peaceful ever after.

Intelligent head spotted right here.

She was away on a job training and suddenly get attached to a bestie who call her pet name...bro is too early to doubt, but may God never allow me to spend the rest of my life with a drama queen who will choose someone else as bestie at any given opportunity and forgetting that her Husband was supposed to be her best friend.

Franky826:


lol bro relax till the baby is born. even though stories cannot be same but...

exactly same thing happened to my eldest brother and his wife. though he doubted the paternity of the child due to the timing of the pregnancy relative to when they had intimacy. bro nothing added up.
he doubted till he let my mum privy on the matter. as oldie with experience mum told him to relax. August 4th 2 years ago baby boy show.

1. Boy had a mismatch on his hairline in same position exactly like my brother

2. Boy didn't start talking on time exactly like my brother

3. boy snores in same pattern exactly like my brother

Now when you ask my brother if he needs to do a DNA test he will even slap you join

Your bro is a dolt if he never did the dna test. All those rubbish mismatch means nothing!
The "toping" he did during pregnancy could have caused it franky826

1. Does it matter whether the baby is yours ?
2. Will you call off the marriage if the baby isn't yours?

Unless you answer yes to both questions above, you have
nothing to worry about.
Wait till delivery and go for DNA testing.

Do not go for a DNA test unless you are prepared for the
result.

MemphisRaynes:
Dude. Please do not call my wife that. If you got no help to offer, then just read and learn.

See who is warning person here, no be you bring your wife's alleged away match to social media?

If you don't want name callings to your wife better delete this thread or take whatever you see here in good faith and stop making noise.

Good p.m Op,

It is very normal of you to have such feelings especially after going through such chat found on her phone.

Firstly, I think your confrontation was too sudden, you should have calm down a little. (Its understandable ).

Some ladies have cool friends guys they could be that close to ( it may be coincidental with your fears what you read). What I'm saying here is that even this particular guy you may suspect may not be Responsible (if its not yours ).

By your calculation, your suspicions are tending to be true and now she has threatened to make life unbearable If the paternity tests proves otherwise.

Here's my advice, stay calm and be more observant.
Concerning the Paternity test be sure , she has no link to the doctor involved if possible run the test at different places.

Because Ladies could go miles you won't believe.

In All of these, please keep praying for your family.

You do not have to keep reassuring anyone that you love and trust your wife. Trust should be earned. I think you are just trying hard to believe all this is a lie but sadly, it doesn't look in anyway like it's your pregnancy. Good luck with your next move but please don't hurt anybody. Better divorced than miserable.

Married woman chating and flirting with another man just after 18months of marriage?

She doesn't even have regard for her husband and marriage. You people are saying he should wait for 7 months, who told you he has any 7 months? Tomorrow is never assured.

She also promises her husband hell because he accosted her... well my candid advise is for you to be careful and let someone in your family know the situation of things. Be safe.

The lady put herself and her marriage in a bad situation. If anyone of you know he or she is not ready for marriage leave it for those who are. It takes maturity, sacrifice and commitment. I can imagine how awkward things will look in the next 7 months.

MicroBox:
Op Are you sure you are old enough to be a husband?
You are expected to quietly play along all through this period, home kit paternity test is available everywhere, Both old and new technology are also available to know 99.9 percent of who the father is.
You have already damage but not destroy your marriage with this suspicion.
When I took my wife for Ultra Sound Scan test, our calculation is far different from the result in-terms of the date she concieve (weeks difference ) but I am keeping cool until....
Though I read that, Ultra Sound Scan result always come with Plus or Minus two weeks.
Please just go tell your wife that you are sorry and make sure she forget about it before putting to bed. Anytime she raise the issue, tell her that you're just so upset about the chat and nothing more. Definitely after she put yo bed, she will immediately ask you to go for the test. Please and please never forget to tell her that you are sorry that she should forget about that....
But Dude, Please secretly collect the specimen, run to the lab and be sure of the baby paternity.

Is this one sane at all? He should keep telling a flirting wife sorry upandan?

Even if the baby turns out to be his own, the wife has battered the sanctity of marriage by having a "best friend" who isn't her husband. A "best friend" who calls her "luv" and other sweet cute name. A "best friend" that "can't wait to see her".

So that she will cry again?

Thewrath:
Just to clearify,Ask her why in the chat did she say she can't wait to visit him?

Secondly she is now married,man and woman cannot just be friends,talk less of best friend to a married woman,that is what they say to always eat their cake and still have it!

Any woman that has more than one sexual partner,can never know who is responsible for her pregnancy!


Women!!!

jokepearl:
[s]1st, pregnancy date is counted from the day of your last period not the day you conceived.

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So if your wife period started May 12th, then she is almost 7weeks pregnant.

2nd, Scan uses the size of the baby at a time to predict the age, this may change and vary everytime a scan done. Also big babies appear older with a scan.

So relax

Whoever that put that rubbish in your head is a dolt!
Menstrual cycle is different from pregnancy...

What if the gyno decides to give her some pills to abort it and make it look like a miscariage if they see that u are ready to patiently wait for the dna test?
What will u now do? Because they can do that to close the case.
Bro Ur wife cheats simple and short.
It's a pity but that's the truth.

jomoh:



Golden rule! never ever doubt the paternity of a pregnancy before birth except you're 100percent sure. What if she terminates the pregnancy and claim she had a miscariage? Then you will never know if she's been cheating on you.
Secondly what if the child turns out to be yours. Nobody ever want to hear the story that his father doubted his paternity during pregnancy.

Have you tried to do another scan somewhere else to get a second opinion about it and if possible a third opinion(scan). The first scan result could be wrong.

Even though there's evidence to be doubtful but not enough to confront your wife.

If the second and third opinion says the same thing then you can wait till after the birth of the child for a proper test.

Also the gyneacologist might not be the one she's cheating on you with, he might be the one she went to for advice after having sex and discovering that she might be pregnant.

Is your wife in the medical line? if not, why is she on a 6months training with a gyneacologist? Try and get to know if truly they were in the same training.

Also what are the odds that she made friends with a gynaecologist in training and she became pregnant shortly after the training then the first person she complain of a stomach pain to was a gyneacologist and not a general practitioner.

It's good to conclude in your mind with these evidences but you shouldn't have confronted her because your suspicion might turn out to be false.

I love your first paragraph suggestion

To me I feel there is a fowl play along d period of d intimacy is too short for a pregnancy to be showing 7 weeks
And mind u OP ur calculation might b 80% accurate

Op sound like a weak man, you allow a man call your wife every now and then and you form maturity? Now those chats?? How will she feel if of a lady calls you every now n then ? The easiest way to get to a woman's abode is being friends with her.

NoToPile:


Thank God someone said this.

I repeat again preggy is counted from the first day of your LMP, so if her period finished on the 16th her period should have started maybe on the 12 th or so , count that down to the 26th of June you have your 7weeks.

So technically if you are five weeks preggy they will say its 7weeks which is gotten after adding 2 extra weeks.

You should have asked questions and made your research on how they count pregnancy length online before accusing her or should have just waited to do a DNA.

You should have honestly, now if and when you do that DNA test and the baby is yours, shey you know trust has been broken.

The simple truth of the matter is your calculation is wrong because that's not how its calculated.

Let's hope she doest make your life hell like she threathened, but ehn if that baby is yours you are in for a long ride.

Shut up with the nonsense of pregnancy started from... Blablabla Rubbish. Who's teaching your people this nonsense!?