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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by alizma: 11:26pm On Jun 29, 2017

jokepearl:
1st, pregnancy date is counted from the day of your last period not the day you conceived.

So if your wife period started May 12th, then she is almost 7weeks pregnant.

2nd, Scan uses the size of the baby at a time to predict the age, this may change and vary everytime a scan done. Also big babies appear older with a scan.

So relax

very educative, thanks. I hope OP read this. I am not blaming him but he should have done this first before approaching his wife.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by verygudbadguy(m): 11:26pm On Jun 29, 2017

Angelyna:
Hi Mr, firstly I think you don't love or trust your wife a bit,
actually you thought you did... A marriage of just 18months? I fear your home will have enough ups and downs. See go and write today's day down, you will be sorry you ever doubted your wife, if I were the wife, I swear I'll make life miserable for you after the confirmation of the paternity... Some of you men are still boys but you jump into marriage. Fine! You saw your wife chat with another guy but to me it doesn't call for doubting the paternity. Those people advising you to chase her out, they're still mama's boy so what advice can they give.... In short I'm vexing right now... Enough said sha... You guys still have a long way to go and more work to do

You are not being sincere my dear. I think you are a bit bias. The man saw a chat, had some calculations that gave him doubt. He is human for God's sake.

Put yourself in his shoe before condemning him. This guy is not totally wrong with his suspicion. His only mistake was confronting her without concrete evidence like a test.

I believe the wife would eventually forgive him if the baby turns out to be his. Marriage is more complicated than most perceive it to be. One thing is certain, there must be ups and downs.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by beautyoftheLord: 11:28pm On Jun 29, 2017

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

http://www.yourduedate.com/
Kindly click on the link. Following her last period or date you made love, clarify things for yourself and stop the panick.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by warriorPedigree: 11:28pm On Jun 29, 2017

cococandy:
Estimated gestational age usually adds two weeks to the actual age of the fetus. So using your mathematical skills may lead you wrong.

However if you have genuine doubt, take her up on the DNA offer.
You'll have to live with the result.
Negative = heartbroken.
Positive= a wife who will forever make you miserable for doubting her faithfulness.
Not doing the test = consistent doubt about the real father of your child.

There's really no easy way out for you here. Just chose the option that you can live with the results.

I wish you and your new family the best of luck.

look at you sounding all mature and courteous because the man isn't the villain here,.. lemme not say more.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Nobody: 11:28pm On Jun 29, 2017

You were too quick to have confronted her. Since you were doubting the paternity of the child, all you could have done is to wait till the child was born and carry out a test that's all. From the chat you just portrayed, there's nothing going between her and the doctor as it mere chat. "How's our baby doing " is a common term used in this part of the world. In a nutshell, you were just impatient and quick to have confronted your wife. Next time try to have concrete evidence . My advice is that you tell your wife to cut off such relationship from that doctor before it gets out of hand. Am optimistic that the baby is yours so no cause for alarm. But since you love your wife and you're not ready to loose her then you accept the result of the test. Mind you, you must conduct the test in at least 5 reputable laboratory to satisfy your curiosity. Compare the results before drawing conclusions. Thank you

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Jabioro: 11:28pm On Jun 29, 2017

You have a very (beautiful) good evidences at hand but due to emotional, impatient and immature approached you destroyed some of better traces. Your wife can claimed to be saint to you but me as man that had just read your line except if you're lying but if not so she's not a faithful one. No matter how you love her I would strictly advise you to prepared your mind for inevitable eventuality crash....... of your marriage. period!

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by KKKWHITE(m): 11:28pm On Jun 29, 2017

How can you trust someone with all your heart and your soul ? You only do that to God huh

Greatest mistake huh

Seat back and study your wife well huh

Women cant be trusted huh

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by oshe11: 11:29pm On Jun 29, 2017

MemphisRaynes:
She sought medical advise from her Gyno friend when her tummy pains started, the guy prescribed some ulcer medication for her. She said when she told the guy she was pregnant, he replied he suspected it could also be pregnancy

person dey ask u d guy's reply from the chat u read n u r saying "SHE SAID"

GO AND DO THE NIPP TEST BEFORE THE BABY IS BORN, MAKE SURE UR WIFE NOR NO THE HOSPITAL....

TRAVEL TO ANODA STATE TO DO IT IF POSSIBLE.....

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by sagaxity(m): 11:30pm On Jun 29, 2017

The chats, the numbers/calculations that don't add up are real.

Your love for her should not diminish,cos she is ur wife...nurture her and her pregnancy while still keeping an eye on her and also prepare yourself for the worse...if she still suppress the truth from you as normal.... Wait patiently and anxiously till she deliver....

The DNA test well, will tell the whole story...

After the revelation, you decide what to do with her......

Your wife wicked sha..... But come to think of it, IS MARRIAGE WORTH IT?

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by imexg(m): 11:32pm On Jun 29, 2017

my bro,if you are not certain then clear the road and again....i mean go and abort it and put again

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Nobody: 11:33pm On Jun 29, 2017

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

Do you need my honest advice? Be matured about this. All you have is suspicion and if she is smart, you will never find any evidence any more. N

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by s3wealth: 11:33pm On Jun 29, 2017

Mr one thing is for sure, your wife do not hav any business chatting with a man, especially with those words she use.weather the baby she's carrying is yours or not for now you cannot ascertain so it wld b pointless arguing about dat. Ur main issue is dat she has an affection towards anoda man, which is very wrong and inappropriate. I tell u somtin did go down btw d two of dem cos u Dnt just throw words like dat around. Evn when Ur not yet married u no d kind of emotions such words stir up,not to talk of wen Ur married.my Broda, final advice is b calm.and u wld get to d bottom of d matter.if I wer u I wouldn't av confronted her yet till I get to d bottom of it all and deris no escape

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Brugo(m): 11:33pm On Jun 29, 2017

The baby may be his but the wife does not know where to draw the line when discussing with other men. It is disrespectful and suspicious for her to flirt with another man. How could she say she couldn't wait to see him? That is inappropriate to put it lightly. She should have cautioned the gynaecologist when he asked "how is our baby?". She even has the nerve to issue threats.

Well, I hope you have a happy marriage eventually. Your wife needs to learn to keep her marriage sacrosanct. She must protect her husband and of course herself from her risky tendencies.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by alizma: 11:33pm On Jun 29, 2017

verygudbadguy:
You are not being sincere my dear. I think you are a bit bias. The man saw a chat, had some calculations that gave him doubt. He is human for God's sake.

Put yourself in his shoe before condemning him. This guy is not totally wrong with his suspicion. His only mistake was confronting her without concrete evidence like a test.

I believe the wife would eventually forgive him if the baby turns out to be his. Marriage is more complicated than most perceive it to be. One thing is certain, there must be ups and downs.

don't mind the girl. I agree with you on this. the only mistake the guy made was to approach the wife before looking for advice. from some educative comments so far, I have learn one or two things. the guy is human made of flesh and blood not stone.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Nobody: 11:33pm On Jun 29, 2017

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

You owe your wife an apology... From your story it's obvious she's a lovely and homely wife and your love for each other is strong, the fact she answers this guy's calls in your presence freely is a sign of no strings attached relationship. If a woman is cheating she's can't hide her emotions, you will definitely find out. She will sneak out of the bedroom at night to call her lover on the phone, she will be less interested in having sex with you, she will hide his calls from you because she's scared you will find out. Though she crossed the line by chatting him up in such manner this is where you caution her, but accusing her of having a baby for him without evidence? Dude seriously apologies to your wife you've really hurt her man, it's going to take time for her to trust you again.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by AyeeIdris(f): 11:34pm On Jun 29, 2017

"How is our baby doing?" "how my pikin" are very common terms of endearment... Atleast for me. It shows that you consider the other person's kids as dear as if they were yours. Some men just like to address women with sweetie; dear; honey mostly out of force of habit. It may/may not mean anything. Can't wait to see you means can't wait to see you. Since they are close friends as you connote. My point. the conversation can be interpreted differently.

Married people should be allowed to have friends of the opposite sex. Some of these friends have been there for years. Are women expected to cut off All male friends completely because of marriage. The rapport will definitely reduce but don't ask women to only have family members as the males in their lives and we won't ask you to do the same.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Opinedecandid(m): 11:35pm On Jun 29, 2017

Op, my only advice to you is that if you suspicion I anything to go by, then your life is in DANGER. So sort out you safety first, before waiting for the DNA bla bla bla.

In case you couple don know Jesus. It's time for you to receive Him and also introduce Our Saviour to your wife. Other things will fall in place.

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Terrence15115: 11:36pm On Jun 29, 2017

First of all, you do not come to a forum like this to seek answers to such a delicate situation. The most fragile period of marriage is usually the first couple of years and getting yourself exposed to differing opinions will only make matters worse.
In my opinion, There is nothing wrong with the use of 'luv', 'dearie' and óur baby'. A lot of people use it, moreso when they are relating to people they are close with.
That being said, if you have any doubts, you can patiently wait for the process to reach a finale to determine the paternity of the baby. Till then, it is only natural you guys will have some friction. If you want to sustain your marriage till then, it is imperative you take on a little bit more patience and do not become overly vindictive. Remember, if you went to a law court as of now, you will not win. No evidence whatsoever.
You can speak with someone elderly about it just to get a more matured opinion.
Till the baby is born, try and keep calm and continue like all is normal. Difficult but doable. Good luck

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Stallione(m): 11:38pm On Jun 29, 2017

If i shld be in urs shoes,i will insist on paternity test after delivery.She dare not make ur life hell,afterall why would a guy call her luv,etc.Dats rubbish abeg...!!!!

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Ishilove: 11:38pm On Jun 29, 2017

oglalasioux:
Marriage is not mankind's nature. We are just forcing the fraud unto ourselves and getting hurt for the nonsense.

One day, religion and marriage will be abolished and the world will be peaceful ever after.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by antobrige: 11:39pm On Jun 29, 2017

why rush and come here ? hv u discus these with ur spiritual father?.....i believe that's best place u ought to hv sought for advice first..

Be wise"( and know we are human's and medical result and ur maths are done by human's and it has in time proven not to gv 100% acurate result}......Thanks

Trust Her......the child is yours

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Sterope(f): 11:40pm On Jun 29, 2017

Why don't you wait till deliver up the baby and do a DNA test?

MemphisRaynes

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by KillJoy62(m): 11:41pm On Jun 29, 2017

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

my brother go and apologize to ur wife, she is carrying ur baby and stop thinking that the kid is not urs. do ur calculations well nd dont even think of running a dna test, cus u wld regret it later.

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by veraiyke(m): 11:42pm On Jun 29, 2017

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

patient the child will be born for you to take a paternity test. If u ask m though since the dates don't tally oga you are been played fool.

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by jaytime(m): 11:44pm On Jun 29, 2017*

You just made the matter complicated. You shouldn't have reacted when you suspected all that. You should have controlled your emotions and play cool in order to gather more facts. Now that you've started blowing off her lids (that's if she's guilty), what if she terminates the pregnancy in order to supress the truth? You can never believe the extents human beings can go to cover their tracks. Be vigilant bro, something must not happen to that pregnancy o.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Lotechi(m): 11:45pm On Jun 29, 2017

why ask questions you already know the answer to huh

? women are cheap emotional blackmailers. if you must conduct a DNA test, make sure she does not know the hospital. I hope you are wrong on this if not, the trauma can be huge and unimaginable.

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by tellwisdom: 11:45pm On Jun 29, 2017

coolcatty:
This life ehen....I really feel and pity you....you know the truth...your wife knows the truth too....you are just here to hear something that will make you happy.see the wY you turned to a mathematician because of trust....

Oga,you have been played....that baby ain't yours....you need to get yourself tested for any stds....sorry for your loss.

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by TheeDetective: 11:46pm On Jun 29, 2017*

Your wife was the one who gave room for you to be suspicious of her due to the cosy chat she was having with another man who is not her husband and which you discovered. She has herself to blame if you now doubt and have trust issues with her. Dude; you were also too quick to confront your wife and any evidence you have against her, will be lost as your wife now knows you are suspecting her and will do away with ANY/ALL EVIDENCE THAT YOU THINK YOU HAVE FOUND (I would have suggested you install a spyware on her phone to monitor her chat history but that might be taking it too far). She is also too close to male friends and that has to either stop or be reduced as the case may be. DO A DNA TEST WHEN THE CHILD IS BORN. I know this might sound harsh but I will also advice you to do a DNA TEST on any more kids that you will have in the union (Only a woman knows who fathered her child) and save yourself before you start training children that are not yours as your wife is still holding on to flirting tendencies even though she’s now a married woman.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Noctis(m): 11:46pm On Jun 29, 2017

MemphisRaynes:
Hi, please I need honest and mature contribution on this matter. I love my wife so much, and I don't want to have a failed marriage, not so early.

My marriage is only 18months old. This is my wife's first Pregnancy, but I am having serious concerns about the paternity of the baby.

I trust(ed) my wife with all my heart and soul. She was away on a Job training for 6 months. The training finished on May 19th and we made love same day. She told me she last saw her period in May 16th so we both assumed she was in her safe period by May 19th before we made love. Actually we didn't want pregnancy or a baby yet because we are strained by resources for now.

My wife started complaining of strong tummy pain, plus her period hadn't shown up by June 12, so we went for a Pregnancy test and she was confirmed Pregnant. In fact the Lab attendant told me she is very pregnant. Days after I went through her chat while she was asleep and came across her chat with some guy, the chat was very suspicious. Actually the said guy is a Gynecologist, so she had told him she was Pregnant immediately after the test so as to get medical advice. In this chat the guy called my wife "luv", "dearie", talked about she visiting him, and my wife's response was to play along. At some point she even said she can't wait to visit the guy. The height of it was when the guy asked "how is our baby doing?"

I could not control my emotions after reading their chat, so I confronted my wife. She claim the guy was her best friend, that they met at her training. Actually she has always freely spoken to the guy via phone in my presence before this event so I had no suspicions until I read their chat. We quarrelled and she cried and cried swearing that she has never been with any man but me. She said she was heart broken I am doubting the paternity of her Pregnancy.

On June 26th, we were at the hospital for ultrasound scan and medical check up. The Ultra sound scan report says the pregnancy was 7weeks and 6days on June 26th. Now remember we first met on May 19th after about 6 months, also remember May 19th was three days after her period ended, she was supposed to be in her safe period. Now Let's assume she conceived on May 19th, between May 19th and June 26th is not upto 7weeks and 6days. Again I confronted her with these facts and she's been very emotional, she threatened that we must do paternity test after the baby is born to prove me wrong, she also warned that she will make my life hell after that test for doubting her faithfulness to me.

Please I don't know what to do next, my doubt is not fading because the numbers and events don't add up, I need useful suggestions please. Kindly note that I trust and love my wife, a part of me believes the baby is mine, its the maths that don't add up, and her chat with her Gynecologist best friend that keeps fueling my doubt. What is the best way to handle my situation?

Please calm down and don't do anything rash. Pregnancy tests always estimate the date of conception. My daughter's test said she would be born on August 8, but we had her on July 20th, so it was off by almost a month.

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by shineeye1: 11:47pm On Jun 29, 2017

A young woman should live within new moral limits once married. She must be ready to promptly check the excesses of another philandering young man. The poor failure of this lady to do this, is the justified basis for the husband's loss of peace. Young girls should learn. By the way, I think the young husband is also bond by new limits once married.

Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by Obodo999(m): 11:48pm On Jun 29, 2017

pweshboi:
please where are the women right Fighters, this guy needs your advice. I'm here to read reasonable advises from y'all since we know y'all to be the ones to slam a man when things go south about gender. Biko we waiting for y'all
Nah so dem go avoid this thread like flee

These feminists believe women have the right to fvck as many d*ick as possible regardless of marital status of the woman.

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Re: My Wife Is Pregnant, I Don't Know If Its With My Baby. by SycophanticGoat: 11:48pm On Jun 29, 2017

Franky826:

lol bro relax till the baby is born. even though stories cannot be same but...

exactly same thing happened to my eldest brother and his wife. though he doubted the paternity of the child due to the timing of the pregnancy relative to when they had intimacy. bro nothing added up.
he doubted till he let my mum privy on the matter. as oldie with experience mum told him to relax. August 4th 2 years ago baby boy show.

1. Boy had a mismatch on his hairline in same position exactly like my brother

2. Boy didn't start talking on time exactly like my brother

3. boy snores in same pattern exactly like my brother

Now when you ask my brother if he needs to do a DNA test he will even slap you join

Only these three traits? What if the person he's suspecting to have scored the goal also has the same similar traits and even more? If you know what I mean.. cheesy

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