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Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 10:49am On Jun 08, 2017
please ladies and gentlemen i need your help/advice..........

I was sitting with some friends sometime ago when an extremely beautiful dark-skinned lady (just the way iike dem; DARK/EBONY) oozing confidence walked by and after much debate btw me and me friends i decided to walk up to her and fortunately i was able to get her bbm pin (i had to make do with that cos she no gree give me number after the long talk...........i even had to walk with her to the next street just to get that)


that began the era of a new friendship.............................after just 4months and a week or 2 of knowing each other she wants us to become an item.................this lady is pretty, funny, super cool, kind, a little arrogant, and takes neatness like.......shocked shocked,,,,..but somehow i dont think i want to date her but i honestly wouldnt want to let her or our friendship go........

I dont know if i did anything to give her the impression that i wanted us to move to the next stage (hell i even thought she had permanently glued me in da friendzone) but now i want to remain and stay in dat friendzone till i change my mind


how can i remain and convince her to friendzone me please??


I dont want to date her nor loose her frienship cry
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by gsogbu(m): 10:53am On Jun 08, 2017
talk to her
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by thesicilian: 10:57am On Jun 08, 2017
Tell her she's like a sister to you, and treat her as such.
warning: Be careful as this can render some of them homicidal.
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 10:57am On Jun 08, 2017
gsogbu:
talk to her

ave done that but not in person,,,,,,,,,i told her on whatsapp and just like i expected she didnt reply (shes such a spoilt rich kid dat almost always get what she wants but i like her that way cos shes cool)


i'll try speaking to her in person though
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by Nobody: 10:58am On Jun 08, 2017
You have to lie. If you talk to her you will leave the friend zone. Im going thru same thing as you at the moment...i like her but her arrogance is what i cant cope with. To worsen d case we work at same place so if i just cut off, ppl who have known us together at work will gossip why we dont greet again or so cus I notice she's stronger in keeping quarrel than I do so I have to make it fade off gradually so that we will still communicate as friends. I stay alone but lied that my mum and sister is around to visit me for 2 weeks so as to stop her from coming. We still talk and do some things together but its fading off gradually though it may take time. I know it will get to a time we will just forget about if we ever dated and just relate like colleagues.

So I advice you avoid her chats and calls for long hours and apologize later that you were busy. Then use a family member or whoever you have been talking to her about to lie that that's what have been keeping you busy etc. It will fade back to friend zone gradually.

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Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 10:59am On Jun 08, 2017
thesicilian:
Tell her she's like a sister to you.

dude am so not telling her that......... Knowing her if i do she'd hate me for life shocked
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 11:00am On Jun 08, 2017
RadicallyBlunt:
You have to lie

and tell her what?
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by TY4succex(m): 11:05am On Jun 08, 2017
Dude, why don't you wanna date her? Are you scared you might not be able to meet her request? undecided
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by Nobody: 11:05am On Jun 08, 2017
Baba, put it simply: You just want a situation where you can fvck her without investing so much (no strings attached).

Good. Here's what you should do.

Tell her what you want in stark terms. We both know what you want.

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Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by Nobody: 11:21am On Jun 08, 2017
samyfreshsmooth:


and tell her what?
Ok read my first post again
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 11:23am On Jun 08, 2017
TY4succex:
Dude, why don't you wanna date her? Are you scared you might not be able to meet her request? undecided

bro shes a rich kid and am just an average guy (though dis isnt so much of a reason but its one of them) plus guys are always flocking round her frankly i dont think i can cope with dat shiiiii..........am da slightly jealous kinda guy
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 11:25am On Jun 08, 2017
iamadonis2:
Baba, put it simply: You just want a situation where you can fvck her without investing so much (no strings attached).

Good. Here's what you should do.

Tell her what you want in stark terms. We both know what you want.

lmfao


dude am so not dat kinda guy

i no know wetin u dy talk o cheesy cheesy
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 11:30am On Jun 08, 2017
RadicallyBlunt:
You have to lie. If you talk to her you will leave the friend zone. Im going thru same thing as you at the moment...i like her but her arrogance is what i cant cope with. To worsen d case we work at same place so if i just cut off, ppl who have known us together at work will gossip why we dont greet again or so cus I notice she's stronger in keeping quarrel than I do so I have to make it fade off gradually so that we will still communicate as friends. I stay alone but lied that my mum and sister is around to visit me for 2 weeks so as to stop her from coming. We still talk and do some things together but its fading off gradually though it may take time. I know it will get to a time we will just forget about if we ever dated and just relate like colleagues.

So I advice you avoid her chats and calls for long hours and apologize later that you were busy. Then use a family member or whoever you have been talking to her about to lie that that's what have been keeping you busy etc. It will fade back to friend zone gradually.


wow......i can relate


thanks.....would sure try that...hopefully she wont end up despising me
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by Nobody: 11:34am On Jun 08, 2017
samyfreshsmooth:



wow......i can relate


thanks.....would sure try that...hopefully she wont end up despising me
She won't don't worry. Arrogant ladies never see their wrongs so its not wise to just cut off from them, it will cause fight that you cannot win. Just quietly fade out is better

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Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by gsogbu(m): 11:48am On Jun 08, 2017
samyfreshsmooth:


ave done that but not in person,,,,,,,,,i told her on whatsapp and just like i expected she didnt reply (shes such a spoilt rich kid dat almost always get what she wants but i like her that way cos shes cool)


i'll try speaking to her in person though
I wanted to say more, but i was creating a thread.
My one penny advice.
Talk to her fatally, there is nothing as respectful as that.... It might be hard for her but she needs to accept the reality. Give her genuine reasons. Acknowledge that she is beautiful, and such deserves better, but tell her the reason you can't date.
However, before u do that, ask yourself the following questions;
are u in love with her?
Did u have a relationship? If yes will your partner be comfortable with that?
If no, wouldn't u be jealous when u see her with other guys? Do u want to keep her at bay so u can reconsider later? What if she is out of ur reach then? Did she want to commit in the relationship or just a fling?
Finally if u are already in a relationship don't cheat.

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Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by Jadoskii(m): 1:53pm On Jun 08, 2017
Jux tell her that u just gave Ur life to jesus . so u cannot av a girlfriend but u guys can still be close pals
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 5:25pm On Jun 08, 2017
gsogbu:

I wanted to say more, but i was creating a thread.
My one penny advice.
Talk to her fatally, there is nothing as respectful as that.... It might be hard for her but she needs to accept the reality. Give her genuine reasons. Acknowledge that she is beautiful, and such deserves better, but tell her the reason you can't date.
However, before u do that, ask yourself the following questions;
are u in love with her?
Did u have a relationship? If yes will your partner be comfortable with that?
If no, wouldn't u be jealous when u see her with other guys? Do u want to keep her at bay so u can reconsider later? What if she is out of ur reach then? Did she want to commit in the relationship or just a fling?
Finally if u are already in a relationship don't cheat.


hmmm

cool and thanks

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Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 5:26pm On Jun 08, 2017
Jadoskii:
Jux tell her that u just gave Ur life to jesus . so u cannot av a girlfriend but u guys can still be close pals


hehehe ok boss....will do
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by peacengine(m): 5:30pm On Jun 08, 2017
Why don't you want to date her bro? Niggyrz be looking for tinz like diz
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by Mjshexy(f): 5:33pm On Jun 08, 2017
Tell her u just want to be in the friend zone cheesy
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 5:48pm On Jun 08, 2017
peacengine:
Why don't you want to date her bro? Niggyrz be looking for tinz like diz

yea i know........if i havent known her to well i would have wooed and coerce her into a relationship with me..............infact the first day i talked to her the idea was to date her but getting to know her now i just want to be a close friend (for now sha)

guys are always fighting for her attention and i dont think i can deal with dat plus shes a rich kid whose arrogant (makes her cute though)
and i think am nat ready too

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Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 5:50pm On Jun 08, 2017
Mjshexy:
Tell her u just want to be in the friend zone cheesy

lol did that yday on whatsapp but she didnt reply me,......

She even refused picking my calls (i guess shes not used to being........ )

i'll go see her tomorrow and tell her personally sha


and thanks
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by Mjshexy(f): 5:54pm On Jun 08, 2017
samyfreshsmooth:


lol did that yday on whatsapp but she didnt reply me,......

She even refused picking my calls (i guess shes not used to being........ )

i'll go see her tomorrow and tell her personally sha


and thanks
Lol...no need saying it sir, just do the acting, delayed reply, missed calls, brief calls & polar answers (yes/No)...
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by peacengine(m): 5:57pm On Jun 08, 2017
samyfreshsmooth:


yea i know........if i havent known her to well i would have wooed and coerce her into a relationship with me..............infact the first day i talked to her the idea was to date her but getting to know her now i just want to be a close friend (for now sha)

guys are always fighting for her attention and i dont think i can deal with dat plus shes a rich kid whose arrogant (makes her cute though)See attached file
and i think am nat ready too


Cool bro
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by AHCB: 5:58pm On Jun 08, 2017
Mjshexy:
Lol...no need saying it sir, just do the acting, delayed reply, missed calls, brief calls & polar answers (yes/No)...
You seem to have first hand knowledge in friend zoning guys. Lol.

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Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by Mjshexy(f): 6:37pm On Jun 08, 2017
AHCB:
You seem to have first hand knowledge in friend zoning guys. Lol.
Lol...when it's necessary jare cheesy
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by AHCB: 6:39pm On Jun 08, 2017
Mjshexy:
Lol...when it's necessary jare cheesy
When? That literally means there's a time for such. Care to share when the time is necessary.
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by Mjshexy(f): 6:57pm On Jun 08, 2017
AHCB:
When? That literally means there's a time for such. Care to share when the time is necessary.
Ok, lemme say when u are trying to focus, pay more attention to your relationship & this dude is by the side distracting you, when u make it clear to him u aren't interested in any relationship for now but Mr man wouldn't just give up, it's time to press d frndzone button grin
Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by AHCB: 7:04pm On Jun 08, 2017
Mjshexy:
Ok, lemme say when u are trying to focus, pay more attention to your relationship & this dude is by the side distracting you, when u make it clear to him u aren't interested in any relationship for now but Mr man wouldn't just give up, it's time to press d frndzone button grin
I see. Thanks for the 411. smiley

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Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by samyfreshsmooth(m): 8:34pm On Jun 08, 2017
Mjshexy:
Lol...no need saying it sir, just do the acting, delayed reply, missed calls, brief calls & polar answers (yes/No)...

well said, and like a pro too



thatnks again grin

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Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by Nobody: 10:09pm On Jul 03, 2017
Refiner bae.............

Meeting issa bout to start o

Re: Advice Needed: How Can One Put Himself In Da Friendzone And Remain In It Please? by refiner(f): 10:12pm On Jul 03, 2017
thepussyhunter:
Refiner bae.............

Meeting issa bout to start o
grin....u and who dey go meeting this night?....abeg oo ayam a nwa chineke!

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