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Mature advice please.

My fiance is someone I trust so much and I can never doubt her loyalty. She has male friends which personally I'm not too comfortable with. When I bring up the issue she does React like I'm having trust issues and like I'm caging her.

I think I'm the one having an issue here.

What do I do? How do cope and live with the fact that it's normal for her to have male friends. I have female friends too but I never allow them take a pinch of the attention that belongs to my woman.

Pls guys, say something.

You are only insecure.
She has male friends ,so? Some guys seff

she can have male friends but they must not be much....... and anything like close make friends or male best friend is a no no. a very big one.

While most ladies will think it is normal including your girlfriend.

I think it is really not normal, because as a guy, I know how most of us think and do not let anyone pull the insecurity card on you.

You can have male friends but not a soccer team, and if a girl needs friends, are there no girls?

If you need a friend from the opposite sex, then what is your fiancee or boyfriends status?

Your girl can be innocent but you cannot vouch for her male friends.

Most guys have a predator instinct, and it's not about you being friends with them and all.

Most guys who are friends with a girl at one time or two may wonder what it feels like to get under the sheets with her.

Girls, don't get comfortable around guy all the time especially if you are in a relationship.

If your partner tells you to stay away from someone, they are seeing something you can't and most times instincts never goes wrong

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Oh!! Its very easy nah..since you've got trust issues . buy m16 kill them all and thank me later

I look for female friends to ally with also.

Since u said u trust her, and u can never doubt her loyalty, this should not be an exception. Tell her why u are not comfortable wit her male friends being around her,if she can handle it, fine. And u should knw dat she needs male friends as well in her life.

Its simple, go out there and make female friends, lots of them, make sure they have your attention and see if your fiancee takes it as a normal thing.....
Girls and always playing victims in every situation...Your fiance tells you what he feels you turn the table around and make him look bad....don't let her play that insecurity card on you

Maximus85:
Mature advice please.

My fiance is someone I trust so much and I can never doubt her loyalty. She has male friends which personally I'm not too comfortable with. When I bring up the issue she does React like I'm having trust issues and like I'm caging her.

I think I'm the one having an issue here.

What do I do? How do cope and live with the fact that it's normal for her to have male friends. I have female friends too but I never allow them take a pinch of the attention that belongs to my woman.

Pls guys, say something.

It's Fiancée. Obviously you don't trust her enough, 'cause if you did you won't be with doubts when she's in the company of other guys.

Mariinee:
You are only insecure.
She has male friends ,so? Some guys seff

Are you in a relationship? If yes! What do you do if your man has got loads of female friends and the attention he gives them is leaving you out dry?

Benita27:
It's Fiancée. Obviously you don't trust her enough, 'cause if you did you won't be with doubts when she's in the company of other guys.

Thanks for the correction. I really don't care if it's fiance or fiancee in this situation.

As to your opinion, you wont understand. You're a lady. Our ego as men is far higher than yours as women. To an extent you can handle seeing your man with other women but when it comes to men, it's a different ball game entirely.
Do you understand? It's a man's thing. I'm not saying its normal all I ask is how to cope and handle the situation. I'm not asking to be judged or called names.

Maximus85:
Thanks for the correction. I really don't care if it's fiance or fiancee in this situation.

As to your opinion, you wont understand. You're a lady. Our ego as men is far higher than yours as women. To an extent you can handle seeing your man with other women but when it comes to men, it's a different ball game entirely.
Do you understand? It's a man's thing. I'm not saying its normal all I ask is how to cope and handle the situation. I'm not asking to be judged or called names.

It's not about ego but jealousy. Humans are prone to that, so it's not a crime if you feel jealous when your girlfriend is around other men. That was why I said you lack trust, if you did trust her, probably to an extent if not totally, you won't be feeling how you do when she's around guys. What I'll suggest is; get to know the kind of person you're dating and your worries will be less, that's, if you find her to be trust worthy.

Get yourself some pretty female friends

Mariinee:
You are only insecure.
She has male friends ,so? Some guys seff

he don talk am already say na him get problem why u wan com die untop the matter like this?

Don't feel too insecure bro..

What's for you is for you and no one can take it ... But some babes aint loyal at all

Secondly puna no dey finish so don't be too stingy ,there is love in sharing

RRWraith:
Its simple, go out there and make female friends, lots of them, make sure they have your attention and see if your fiancee takes it as a normal thing.....
Girls and always playing victims in every situation...Your fiance tells you what he feels you turn the table around and make him look bad....don't let her play that insecurity card on you

going with dis advice, u might be having a relationship with dis “new female frnds” dat has strings attached all in d name of revenge. And ur partner is ova dia being her self wit her male frnds,b4 u knw it somting wil happen btw u and dose female frnds and den u will look like the bad guy. U knw her beta and if u can afford to loose her in d name of revenge fine.

Op you are so insecure

@inseceured op

Not bad

zitame:
going with dis advice, u might be having a relationship with dis “new female frnds” dat has strings attached all in d name of revenge. And ur partner is ova dia being her self wit her male frnds,b4 u knw it somting wil happen btw u and dose female frnds and den u will look like the bad guy. U knw her beta and if u can afford to loose her in d name of revenge fine.

I said make friends, not start a relationship, they are two different things...
If you think making friends with girls could get strings attached, then don't you think our guy here is right to tell her to limit her friendship with guys..

Benita27:
It's not about ego but jealousy. Humans are prone to that, so it's not a crime if you feel jealous when your girlfriend is around other men. That was why I said you lack trust, if you did trust her, probably to an extent if not totally, you won't be feeling how you do when she's around guys. What I'll suggest is; get to know the kind of person you're dating and your worries will be less, that's, if you find her to be trust worthy.

It's not about trust, Girls have fallen and more are still falling.....In as much as he may trust his fiancee, he doesn't trust the guys around her, he is a guy and he know what guys are capable of.

do exactly the same thing and she will regret not considering your emotions


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