TinaAnita:


Don't know whether to believe your story...! It seems I'm not different from your insecure and doubtful girlfriend..

Well, I had to break up with a particular wonderful guy simply because I couldn't trust him no thanks to insecurity. The thought that some ladies with zero self esteem might be throwing themselves at him as he is so cute/attractive and/or that he could be cheating on me worsened my fear and insecurity.

It was so easy for me to opt out of the relationship as I tried not to fall in love with him. How could I possibly fall in love with a guy I don't trust? You can never have my heart if I don't trust you. Thank God we never had *** despite the pressure and temptation.

but WTF do you think I will come online and lie just for likes and mentions?? I'm far from a Ho nigga sis

jmaxjohn:
bros abeg na lagos you dey?

Yes boss.

well I have never had any break up,but might be having my first break up soonest.. she is my first girlfriend, I cherish her.she is nice,not too pretty but unique..I thought we could maintain a no sex relationship,and she said she is not even moved by any sex,but she is ready to give me when I need it..I said okay.but her attitude always seems wrong whenever she is with me and just two of us alone.I got to know she wants us to be having intimacy which I'm not ready to succumb to now..its been a year plus now and still same attitude of wanting sex.although she has supported me finanacially and materially with my academics..just 9 month ago we have not been seeing each other as usual kus I'm holding a religious post in my school fellowship.whenever we see she will be telling me that when I pass on the religious Post to another in the next two month,that she will now pour out her mind to me fully.I already know its about this sex issue..and I have purposed in my heart that if she makes such complain, it is certain I will cut off with her..I know she is cheating on me,kus I could feel she is a nymphomaniac..some ladies anyway.

Fernandowski:
awwww... the day she got really mad was a day I took her to shoprite to have lunch....... a girl just walked up to us and was like ' tallest, pls let's take a picture ' ...... I took a couple of it with her cus I didnt see anything wrong with it..... we left the shoprite and she started giving me attitude.... didn't call me or answer my calls for a whole two weeks..... later came back begging.......


she was so sweet though...... was very nice and supportive but her insecurity and jealousy was damn too high..... she was guarding what's hers but I think what I did was the best........ as for ***, we still meet till date to **** .....

But why would you agree to take selfies with some random girl despite knowing full well that babe would be allergic to it? You might not see anything wrong with it but it sent a wrong signal to her. I could imagine how she felt and her reactions thereafter. You don't do things that fuel a lady's insecurity. My thoughts anyway

ejiskolo:
I pray I could breakup from my own. The trouble don too much. Any attempt, the bobo no gree oooo. I just dey for self bondage............

the point is do u love him?

Thanks bro! I have tried my best to let her see reasons why we need to have time with each other no way bt she wont let me be on own.

BiafranYouths:


You don't tell me what I know and what I don't,... keep what ever you know to yourself!

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U seem like a very calm person... Keep it up

apholaryn:
but it doesn't make any sense u kno? it's possible u lost your future partner over useless insecurities.

Yes it makes no sense but I had to do it in order not to lose my mind. It was no longer safe to keep torturing myself.

mimee9:
He said he wants to move closer to God,that he doesn't want to be in any relationship,and that I should wait for him,till when he is ready for marriage he will come for me.... I still dey Wait o

thts funny thou.....hws u ?

demefa:
If any gal did diz to mi I will rape her nd go to prison,cuz she's bin temid. Which kind mumu reason b diz!!!In a relationship d ones dat look innocent r usually more dangerous mark diz

You are just being sentimental which is not too bad but try to understand what warranted my action even if it makes no sense to you. No one wants to be in a relationship where happiness/peace/security is/are farfetched. It makes no sense to be in a relationship that brings nothing but anxiety/fear/sadness

nibblealittle:
After 5 years, he leaves to do his residency in another state. No call or text. Only when he's back home. I'm still going to school too. We seen each other 2 weeks ago after 1 year of no communication. I told myself that I was going to give him a piece of mind and that he can't just disappear on everyone, especially me.

Well when my moment came to tell him how it is, I broke down and cried instead. In a son of tears I told him "I missed you so much; I thought I lost you; please don't leave me." Please don't leave I know right - I was a hott mess.

He calms me down. He said we need to work on our communication in my face but after making love (once more) and he left, he later texted me: 'I don't want to break your heart'

My friend of several years. He walked in a blizzard to see me. We cooked and danced. I was there with him to prepare for medical school conferences. I taught how to tie his ties (to this day he wears the ones I made). He introduced me to the Nigerian culture. I was just continuing my schooling and patiently waited. We never argued and I NEVER ever nagged him. Only recently I started speaking up because we're older. Almost 30 years old.

Now he's pushing me away and I'm leaving to Botswana in a week.

Hmm sounds heartbreaking tho. Where are you guys resident?

guru03:
Three heart ♥ break before I finally got wedded.
First one was a week b4 youth service, my girlfriend told me is time to quit because she was going out with my friend in my absence, she was sincere to tell me that.

Secondly, my second girlfriend just walked out of the relationship because I corrected her.
Finally the third girlfriend whom I even proposed to had initially told me she's AA genotype only to discover that she was AS few days to pay her bride price and we broke up again, thanks to God am married now.

Rily,are u also AS?

TinaAnita:


Yes it makes no sense but I had to do it in order not to lose my mind. It was no longer safe to keep torturing myself.

nawa o, fear of uncertainty can really mess mind up tho. sorry ..lol

Juliearth:


Contrary opinion already mentioned....There is a reason for every behaviour...that your head hurts doesnt mean you should chop it off,or would you? That your heart palpitates fast doesnt mean you should bring it to a stop or would you?....

It's true sha

I think the main issue of breakup starts from communication, the moment both party are not free with each other to xpress their feeling, that's when things begin to fall apart.
And secondly I think any guy that is a Fault-Finder " will always AV issue in relation(if a girl love u she can do anything to make sure u are not hurt emotionally or get annoy with her) and this make dem to fall victim most time, a girl can love a guy an still find hersef sleeping with another guy(most xpecially if the said guy is her ex, or knw her weak point) and bn the type that always love to keep secret she might find hersef in the problem till it latter affect her relationship,
And for most ladies is not as if they really love the guy 100% , but they stick with him simply because they believe he is their last hope(if he doesn't marry dem, nobody will do) and most guy we believe the lady love them, not knowing she's only dating out of pity, and in some instance the guy started misbehaving believing she can't go, and the moment she see a caring fellow who truly appreciate her, she quit.(but higher percentage of dem enslave dem sef sha, with the mentality of where will I start from,and subjected dem sef to abuse)
I still don't knw y a lady will prefer to protect the year spend in a relationship than her happiness, it's always annoyed to hear dem saying "I can't throw away the years"
The earlier they wise up and move on with life, cos no matter amount of years , if a guy doesn't want to marry , he will still breakup(so why wasting time when the guy had already show u the hand writting clearly?)
And lastly!! In everything if u can't trust somebody , is better u dont go into a relationship atall, it's all about trust.
And let us also remember that what is good for the Greece is also good for the Ghanian and again" the Devil was once an angel.

jakandeola:
is not easy bro am still in pains. if itell u i still cried if am alone am a mature guy i hope to marry her dis year it make me hate her and shes ibo i sware neva to date or married ibo girl, i quarell wit my mum and big bros cos of dis girl spent a lot yet neva sex her

Dude grow up abeg. You are not the first and neither will u be d last. N stop dat she being igbo bullshit and suck it up

yeah.
so I was with someone for 3years whom I thought loved me then he had to travel to Lagos for a while.he was done for just 3months and the next thing was he was giving me attitude.he put up pics of him and a gal and told me she was a girl who loved him and wanted him but she's Yoruba and he can't have anything to do with her, only for him to come back and break up.Told our friends to call me and guess what? He told them we were not in a relationship,that I was the one who loved him and wanted a relationship and that the girl in the picture, Adepero is his girlfriend. Me,i cried oh but I trust God his covenant and our covenant.Becausw God knows best.....

tifany89:

Dude grow up abeg. You are not the first and neither will u be d last. N stop dat she being igbo bullshit and suck it up

guy watch wat u blog am a matured guy dont let me get mad at u

BiafranYouths:
I met this sweet damsel way back 2014, our relationship was sort of perfect towards the end of 2014 I found out she was a virgin @23 I was perplexed. I was reassured I've found my better half, she was everything a man would want in a life partner. She loved me dearly,.... I helped her build her Events, Decor, Catering and Ushering firm financially and other wise as per my future wife.
Late December 2015 I had a massive contract to execute outside the State, I was to marry her immediately after the project, I didn't tell her though bought engagement ring.
I spent close to 9 Months without setting eyes on her though we've been communicating via calls and social media
Our reunion was awesome, we kissed smooch I didn't push further because I know the cooky will be mine in less than a month.
But unlike her that always reminded me of our promise to help her keep the cooky till the right time, she kept pushing, doing things we've not done before
For my mind I was like oh! So this girl missed me like this, I decided to play along to see where it leads to after reminding her of our promise.
We had Sex for the first time since I met and sadly my virgin fiance was de flowered by another!
After the deed I asked her what just happened? She started with the tears narrating how I left her I was not there for her physically that I should forgive her, I forgave and started making plans for the engagement party.
This fascinating day I was using her tablet to help her market her new design so in the process of uploading the product pictures I saw her photos @ golf course with this dude feeling all loved up, the inquisitive me looked further.
I later had a heart to heart discussion with her, asking why she got de flowered by another while I patiently kept my emotions and Dick on check...

Layer found out that the guy that ripped her puuussy apart was a Malaysian based Guy that pressed her mumu button and slept with her, upon seeing she was a virgin proposed there and then, and she said yes!
Heart broke nearly killed me for the first time in my life I cried in a ladies present and begged her, telling her even if she was to be pregnant for the guy I'll claim the baby just to be with her but she said no. I took I'll for a couple of weeks
The girl was too good.
Beauty, respect, intelligence, struggling type in fact she'll be a blessing to a Man that marries her.
Am still heart broken
I used the wedding money to put up a decent structure and move
Ima Ima mmi thanks for showing me that true love exist, I'll continue loving you and I pray the good Lord provide me with a girl just like you

Damn bro, I'm in a similar situation as yours. Babe is a virgin and says she wants to keep it until marriage. I reluctantly accepted, though I have other ladies by the side to satisfy my cravings but I love her more than others. I just hope she doesn't end up like your ex

sheylarhh:

Na d sex dey vex u so?...u kip on repeating sex

am not out for sex

PerfectlyPerfect:

Damn bro, I'm in a similar situation as yours. Babe is a virgin and says she wants to keep it until marriage. I reluctantly accepted, though I have other ladies by the side to satisfy my cravings but I love her more than others. I just hope she doesn't end up like your ex

u beta sex her now or u regret it

ikevictor:


Yes boss.

Abeg reply my pm. Lol

Came to read comments

Khiaa

I think you are just being jobless for wasting your damn tears a sleep over the lost of a girl who said she needs you no more. Simply improve yourself beyond her standard and move on.

Love! A grit in a sensitive instrument. From what I've read here, insecurity, jealousy, communication and as it is called 'cheating' are the main reasons why people break up. But really? Why did it hurt? How certain were you that you were going to spend the rest of your life together with that person?. I'm sure if one could see his or her future spouse, this phenomenon called breakup wouldn't exist.

my break up experience wasn't funny at all, the guy am engaged to just changed for no reason , infact I broke down totally, but have moved past it I wish him nothing but the best,... ...

vicfuntop:


Good

yeah, great!

blessingenyo:
we broke up since late last year n he still very fresh in my hrt, it was a very bad one he had issue of trust am a sincere person wen its comes to relationship, but he refused to note that. If I make call with any guy am in trouble there was a day he even slapped me for receiving call from a client. We lasted for a year n broke up twice already he is here again for reconciliation please some one should help me out with a reasonable advice.

Break up and make up...that would be a continuous cycle if you don't do anything about it. You need to put your foot down and decide what you want in a relationship. Either you find someone better, or if you still see some good in him try to make him understand why you would never take it lightly with a man who hits you.
*i would never tolerate that in the first place*

Let him realise how much his trust issues stifle you...cz you would always have to deal with men, including your father or brother

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Mine is reverse actually, I just stopped calling and all that, stopped taking her calls, ignored her messages n stuff...

It's weird but I can't explain why I did that, though I was having some issues at the time...

I hope she finds a place in her heart to forgive me n move on... if it's any consolation she was a virgin and I avoided breaking her and stuff...if it's any consolation

sekxy:
this is sweet...mine was during last 3years Valentine,,so I went to church because a friend had told me how interesting the program was...it was termed "Valentine for the holy spirit"so i had to attend...it was a 2days program...my then boyfriend called me on 14th February and said that he wanted to spend the Val with me but I told him that I was in church cos of the program. .the bobo said that i should have taken permission from him,,that I should come tomorrow or he breaks up ...I was like ok fine,,I'm choosing my God over you. .

he couldn't believe his ears shaa. .on the 15th I didn't go to visit him...so we went our separate ways..

he has been trying to take back his words and all the beggy stuffs...but I had already moved on. ..I later found the best man in my life ...I guess it was a gift from the holy spirit


hehehehe to God be the glory

Well, I know it wouldn't matter now, but I do believe there was something you did wrong.

You know you had a boyfriend that would have wanted to spend time with you on vals day, yet you made a decision without even the mention of inviting him.
If the program was that interesting and beneficial, why didn't you invite him to share in the grace and blessings of the day?

I don't like the word "permission" or the fact that there was an ultimatum, but I'd say you both acted like kids back then, and all the drama wasn't necessary.

We need to realise that we all are human, and in that we say things we might not mean out of impulse or whatever.

But anywayz, it's good you found someone else, but don't rub it in his face like your post seems

This was actually my first love. We had just written our waec exams and I gained admission likewise her. i Unfortunately OAU changed her admission from medicine to botany. so she didn't resume. We kept talking whilst I was in school for about a month.
I just got back from lectures one day and opened my 2go app. Apparently the love of my life had sent me an offline 2go message saying its over.
I was sick for a week. I practically knew all Bruno Mars songs then. A year later she apologized saying she wasn't just ready and had to break up with me. I don't blame her sha we were young. She probably felt i being in school would cheat on her. Funny thing I didn't date any girl till my final year. This girl really hurt me and the pain never went away because I truly loved her it was a pure relationship we enjoyed each others company because we were friends first and it wasn't about sex or lust or anything like that.
love can be cruel