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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by soflygerian(m): 7:30am On Jul 21, 2017

saabright:
she always complain that am not romantic........am too shy, and can't openly show my love for her in public.......
is it cos I am an introvert?

pls any similar issue here?

i don't think so, when I connect with that person, am really lighted-up. That sense of comfort zone just spring up..

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by olumidev(m): 7:33am On Jul 21, 2017

sorextee:
I hate mixing with crowd..
And wen I accompany my frnds to clubs or a bar,
I begin to get bored of the place.. Wen I stay too long in a place, it gets boring to me. Eg, church.
I sometimes leave and stay in d car, or stroll around for a while.
My frnds are talkatives. They can stand for three hours
Gisting irrelevant things.. My facial expression tells them that im getting bored ND tired.
My quiet time, I listen to music ND read books..
Play candycrush ND scrabble..
I hate long gists.. Keep it brief ND short.
Some pple talk soooooooo long, that they begin to annoy me the listener..

Not that im am introvert per se. Im a noise maker online, but quiet ND reserved in reality.
you are a textrovert

My twin sis is d direct opposite of me. That one can talk forever.. She loves anything fun..

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by SPEEDEPITOME(f): 7:33am On Jul 21, 2017

afoobabs:
there are two way to overcoming being an introvert 1. try and become an IDGAF i.e. I don't give a Bleep in real life stop concerning ursef with what ppl say, think or feel abt you, it doesn't really matter more so who even get ur time the world don't give a Bleep so u shouldn't as well. introverts think and feel all eyes are on them which is wrong everyman has his/ her own problem that he is facing squarely so they aren't looking at you
2. The spirit of street. brb

You cannot overcome being an introvert. Anyone who goes about thinking the world is the watching them probably has self esteem issues. You can only overcome being shy, you can build your self confidence and these things are not just applicable to introverts.
Just like you can't overcome being an extrovert.
Bottom line is, you can't change these things.

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by saabright(m): 7:36am On Jul 21, 2017

I Dont talk much, I hate arguing.....too much talk gives me headache......
I hardly make friends and socialize very slow....I prefer bin alone and doing something important..... I jus prefer working alone and am Eva dependable......av gat every1's back......
back den I can be so shy of females that I sweat a lot wen am close to dem......I don ovacome am sha.

Right now I barely have a friend......someone once asked me y I love walking alone? cos I av not seen DAT person with same lifestyle

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by mattsvibes: 7:37am On Jul 21, 2017

wins18 post=:
Being an introvert comes with some down sides, as an introvert I have my own challenges or should I call it excesses lol.
I miss my chances on getting that pretty crush of mine, I fear rejection and I am yet to device a means of handling such when it occurs, even though when the green light is at its peak.
Another one is that I find it hard to maintain closer relationship with people, they complain I don't call them, truth is I prefer texting instead.
Share yours too lets know ourselves better.

same here

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by pweeryambre: 7:39am On Jul 21, 2017

lereinter:

who is an introvert and how does he or her know he is an introvert and not affected by evironmental and upbringing factors

can an overprotective or over strict parent turn a child to an introvert

iask due to personal experience

yes, overbearing and abusive parents can help turn one into an introvert, especially if the child is quite sensitive and autistic at childhood.

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Lordshola: 7:41am On Jul 21, 2017

hinky:

Why do we find it hard to keep friends?? like i lose friends almost every month... Nd they b lyk m complicated

This thread just make me to observe that am having just ONE friend.

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Nobody: 7:41am On Jul 21, 2017

Iamzik:

I was extremely introverted back in school and being a computer science student who loves programming made it worse. You could be talking to me when I'm doing a mental run of an algorithm... I no go answer you. Always seeing codes in my dream. Funny enough the solution to most problems Ive solved came this way so I don't fight it.

Who school babe help?
Relax you will meet alot of them in the real world and in your profession. By then your only problem will be choice.

Try not to be too uptight. Just take your time to develop your social skills cos you will need to interact with colleagues /bosses /contractors at work.

The introverted nature gets better with time if you work on improving your social skills.

Start with baby steps. Join a volunteer group or youth group in your church /club. As you contribute to achieving set goals of the group you will be encouraged to know that you were part of something exciting and that helps your psyche alot. It helps you know the value of collaboration, accept criticism, offer and accept help from others etc

And remember great men collaborate. No man ever became great by locking himself away from the world. Even computer technology trend emphasize the need to share data, network and collaborate.

thanks for the tips

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by officialdayo: 7:42am On Jul 21, 2017

Okay, on my way back to Nigeria, I missed my train to the airport so while trying to get another ticket I ended up sweating like a goat really bad. Eventually, I got a new ticket so had to rush to the place where I'll be boarding.

Immediately I got there , I noticed two blacks (both girls) there so I just said hi and they responded. As we were boarding, the younger one just said Nigerian right? ....i replied Yes then she said okay.

Fortunately, I am on the same couch with them in the train. However, the younger one caught my attention and had to keep staring at her while she sleeps during the journey.

When we got to the train station, we entered same cab and got to the airport together. They said bye; I and the younger one, we've been talking for some time before the bye and I have made up my mind to ask for her number. After the bye, that was it. angry

I got sooooo bad and had to quickly go to the screen to checkout her flight details since I know the airline she's using. Eventually, I found her and I asked for her contact. I was actually going to need hers alone but being an introvert, I had to ask for her sister's own too to cover my shy shy self.

I eventually messaged her and added her on snapchat etc.

She's not even responding well. Sge was very cool when we met, she was that person willing to talk and I was the guy who wasn't interested in talking to her because of my introvert attitude.

Now I feel bad but tho' I'm still going to talk to her after sometime.

NB: at the airport, I was so shy to go and ask for her contact but one thing is, the worst regret are the Actions and decisions we didn't take.

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by soflygerian(m): 7:47am On Jul 21, 2017

hinky:

Same....
People take me for anti social nd boring...
But funny enough m lots of fun to be with ;'(

lol, i remember that moment my kid sis friend called me boring..

)

) .. She just don't know...

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Nobody: 7:48am On Jul 21, 2017

Lordshola:

This thread just make me to observe that am having just ONE friend.

Hmmnnn

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Nobody: 7:48am On Jul 21, 2017

Cleopatra4:
I find it difficult to make friends...
When I do I just snub them just like that.
People think say I get pride but Na lie I'm one of the most simple person on earth.
Just the introvert thing

same here mehn

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Nobody: 7:49am On Jul 21, 2017

Heterodox:
Extremely introverted. You can only begin to imagine what's like unable to express emotion in every way. Some people just think I am a robot of some kind. However, when it comes to advice, maturity and friendships, we still prove valuable owing to the high level of IQ we posses. I think the same thing goes for introverts as well.

Yes thats true....

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by oluwalewis(m): 7:50am On Jul 21, 2017

Though i am a complete introvert but people hardly believe cos i gel easily with people thanks to my aries traits.

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Suspect33(m): 7:52am On Jul 21, 2017

Divay22:
Staying out for long makes me unhappy..
Going out can be so frustrating, annoying, let's just stay at home Eat popcorn and watch movies, wetin i wan use cinema do ....

But it has cost me alot, I have missed opportunities, words I'll rehearse :Din my head, but wouldn't be able to say it out, memories i couldn't gain....I wouldn't want any of my child to be one.....

Introverts don't mind staying in another planet where they can be aliens, the world seems too populated to them
But i love them because THEY CARE, THEY CARE MORE THAN THEY SHOULD.....i give them A1 When it comes to taking care of others, even if they don't like you.....

Tell an introvert your secret, it's save for life,they barely have time to gossip
Commonly used word :I DON'T KNOW

looking at the bolded, maybe am not an introvert after all, i dont give a sh1t about pple

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Nobody: 7:52am On Jul 21, 2017

Cleopatra4:
I find it difficult to make friends...
When I do I just snub them just like that.
People think say I get pride but Na lie I'm one of the most simple person on earth.
Just the introvert thing

You are right. That's what they are saying to me most times. We introverts are full of creativities and motivations. I can only leave my house for what extremely important(work), if I'm not at work, I am with my books, system and my reliable, trusted hazard.

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by soflygerian(m): 7:54am On Jul 21, 2017

hinky:

Dont worry, m good

Oh this line... cheesy

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by ArcFresky(m): 7:55am On Jul 21, 2017

Cleopatra4:

Yeah...
I feel we attract d opposite of us.
Don't like crowd.
Can't stand a noisy environment likewise lousy people..
Just prefer staying at home when I'm not busy..
Sometimes I wonder if na like this I go take see husband

Lol. Thats why theres fb.

I am kinda introvert myself, I can relate to staying at home and friends complainig.

If you take alcohol, you can try a lil of that, just a lil oohh... Then meet people, u will see a diff.

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by oluwalewis(m): 7:56am On Jul 21, 2017

wins18:

Same here bro, my first lady brokeup with me because I devouted more time to my work online than the way I do to her, lol. Thats the price I have to pay but who cares, though she wanna come back now, but she don't know how to go about it, besides I am not the party type, I don't take girls out, I'd rather buy those things from there and take it home to eat with her, I don't feel comfortable in a crowded area.

Though i am not the outing type and i hardly approach girls but when i make up my mind to do things including females,i get it done.

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by JennyOfOldstones(f): 7:56am On Jul 21, 2017

I wasn't introverted as a child but I've discovered that certain circumstances especially those experienced when you're very young can change your personality for life. One of my biggest challenges as an introvert is that I find it difficult to speak very well in public( I've overcome stage fright to a great extent but after my speech, I continue thinking of a million ways in which I could have made it sound better) and I'm studying to be a member of a profession that requires a great deal of oratorical skills. And there's that confusing mixture of Inferiority/Superiority complex. I can't keep friendships, I hate calling so I rarely call because I'd rather we'd just sit face to face and talk. I hate going for parties because it seems that everyone is enjoying themselves and I'm not. I don't want my friends to think I'm a wet blanket so I leave early and come home unhappy, regretting why I even went in the first place.

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by kinggogo: 7:56am On Jul 21, 2017

Well as an introvert I think friends are overrated. People are so full of shiiit. So to avoid any form of future disappointments i try as much as possible to keep to myself. Though i av friends but they can be counted.

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Nobody: 7:56am On Jul 21, 2017

Cleopatra4:

Yeah...
I feel we attract d opposite of us.
Don't like crowd.
Can't stand a noisy environment likewise lousy people..
Just prefer staying at home when I'm not busy..
Sometimes I wonder if na like this I go take see husband

Exactly, your last point tho,I do keep it in mind too.
I think our nature might influence the kind of man we meet. Its like I am in this shell and I seriously want to break out but its not easy

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Gerrard59(m): 7:58am On Jul 21, 2017

tzoracle:
I'm easily embarrassed
I havent dated ever though nearing 21
meeting people scares d crap out of me

You are an introvert? grin

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Ganja109(m): 7:58am On Jul 21, 2017

kuchikau1:
I dnt date gals dat Menstruates. Gals wey blood dey comot frm deir toto every 28days. Spits

You can come and date my grandma
She doesn't menstruate

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by johnero353(m): 7:59am On Jul 21, 2017

Hehehe... This introvert of a thing sef na wa oo; I just like my simple life of "speak when necessary" and "keep silent when need may be"...

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Nobody: 7:59am On Jul 21, 2017

femi4:
same here....I can't keep friends. I keep loosing them

Aww... It ll take time, i m working really hard on my social skills... I hope d 'friends' i have now wont leave me one day sad

soflygerian:
lol, i remember that moment my kid sis friend called me boring.. ) ) .. She just don't know...

Yh...The day my sister told her Friend i was the best dancer at home, d girl had to ask if she was joking or not... Dat i dnt look lyk one sad

... And there re countless of times when piple will b around me nd if i say sometin funny they bcome shocked sad

...
Its annoying

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by blingxx(m): 7:59am On Jul 21, 2017

Brown14:
I have missed a lot of opportunities(relationship wise) because of this my nature...I ave lots of stories to tell but each time I remember them I just feel defeated and stupid because some of the green lights would be so glaring (full current) but I just could not make that first move.

I can't agree more as an introvert i faced a lot of challenges back in secondary school ,couldn't talk to a girl properly I bleeped up so many times undecided

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Nobody: 8:00am On Jul 21, 2017

saabright:
I Dont talk much, I hate arguing.....too much talk gives me headache......
I hardly make friends and socialize very slow....I prefer bin alone and doing something important..... I jus prefer working alone and am Eva dependable......av gat every1's back......
back den I can be so shy of females that I sweat a lot wen am close to dem......I don ovacome am sha.

Right now I barely have a friend......someone once asked me y I love walking alone? cos I av not seen DAT person with same lifestyle

baba same here o, I hardly relate with people like that unless maybe we support the same football club, or we into the same line of work, or you're very sharp, or you play chess, or we jam to the same type of song(Marley,Fela), a lady still attacked me recently that I don't talk, unintelligent conversations is one thing I hate so much.

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by ArcFresky(m): 8:01am On Jul 21, 2017

JennyOfOldstones:
I wasn't introverted as a child but I've discovered that certain circumstances especially those experienced when you're very young can change your personality for life. One of my biggest challenges as an introvert is that I find it difficult to speak very well in public( I've overcome stage fright to a great extent but after my speech, I continue thinking of a million ways in which I could have made it sound better) and I'm studying to be a member of a profession that requires a great deal of oratorical skills. And there's that confusing mixture of Inferiority/Superiority complex. I can't keep friendships, I hate calling so I rarely call because I'd rather we'd just sit face to face and talk. I hate going for parties because it seems that everyone is enjoying themselves and I'm not. I don't want my friends to think I'm a wet blanket so I leave early and come home unhappy, regretting why I even went in the first place.

Lol, Its like we are connected.

Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Petril(m): 8:04am On Jul 21, 2017

As an introvert, i have my greatest strength when i'm alone. I can be indoors for days.
In class i'm like
Me: I ave to ask dis good question from d lecturer
next moment
me: i know d answer already
I don't like the center stage as an introvert, i'm very cool with close friends who feel, i can attain any height
but in truth i like being d engine to a successful feat but not want to be in the spot light.
My relationship is very complicated, dis moment i want to talk to dis girl 'dat likes ' me d next, i don't want to.
And recently i chose to be a nerd

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by oluwalewis(m): 8:04am On Jul 21, 2017

tobbie247:

you tried na...at least, there's someone after you. I'm just lowkey bro.

We aint as worse as that, hang out with your extroverts friends,they do the calling of females,if you are a phleg,you are definitely witty meaning you can sweep the girl off her feet with choice of words but if you a melancholy,the job has been made easier for you
I am a melphleg in nature and adventurous thanks to been an aries

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Re: Introverts, Share Your Challenges Here by Nobody: 8:05am On Jul 21, 2017

Divay22:
Staying out for long makes me unhappy..
Going out can be so frustrating, annoying, let's just stay at home Eat popcorn and watch movies, wetin i wan use cinema do ....

But it has cost me alot, I have missed opportunities, words I'll rehearse :Din my head, but wouldn't be able to say it out, memories i couldn't gain....I wouldn't want any of my child to be one.....

Introverts don't mind staying in another planet where they can be aliens, the world seems too populated to them
But i love them because THEY CARE, THEY CARE MORE THAN THEY SHOULD.....i give them A1 When it comes to taking care of others, even if they don't like you.....

Tell an introvert your secret, it's save for life,they barely have time to gossip
Commonly used word :I DON'T KNOW

One of my regular sayings....

"I wish the world will just explodes and I am the only survivor: I would live for 5000 years alone."

Funny thing is it seems we can type verbosely on the internet. We can reply "for Africa". Perhaps the need to be alone is well supported by being with gadgets and typing our thoughts without being disturbed. We reflect a lot. We think a lot. And we criticize ourselves a lot.

A lot of us need to know our strengths and how to better use that attractive thing in us. People are usually curious and at times want to impress us. They want to get close. We are strange to them. But a lot of us blow it. We don't know how to suddenly change and swoop on the opportunity. Both in business, romance, and general living.

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