Like seriously this is not a big deal, what matters most in a relationship is understand.

I have been in a relationship with my partner for two years now and we are still very close.

I don't call her first i wait for her to call me (mind you) not because i don't love her but because i always want us to talk at her own convenient time, and she seems to understand me very well.

Just like you said once i see her miss calls or sms i return them back immediately.

So don't feel you're not the right person he may also have his reason the best thing to do is to talk to him about it.

commyluv:
OK like today have called him till now he hasn't call bk but I saw him online.

lol you are not in a relationship oo


it's obvious it's one sided.

my sister pack ur load n run

Jodha:
Lol...if yhu like yhurself do not call him...put on yhur armour of pride...and ignore him until he's ready to be a man...

No be by force ..
Men boku ..dem no scarce..


So if he doesn't call...then I guess he's not interested.. Do not waste yhur airtime to call him..

the same timeframe you used in typing "yhur" is same you would have used in typing "your ". shebi you want to sound trendy ba? that's actually very stupid. your insults are highly invited

commyluv:
that the reason I don't like dating because I don't need all this wahala to be single is sweet oooo

Good for you if that gives you joy. You want her to be like you?
Unfortunately, she can't be: she's the attention seeking type.

Adeyinka1758:
We're in the same shoe bro... But I do chat sha!

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Haha.. Chatting i can.. am not that heartless...
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i just dont see the need of calling every freaking time.. create some space.. miss one's voice and all doz ish..
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Lost 2 girlfriend's tho.. dey still haven't gotten me...

Sambusiness:
Like seriously this is not a big deal, what matters most in a relationship is understand.

I have been in a relationship with my partner for two years now and we are still very close.

I don't call her first i wait for her to call me (mind you) not because i don't love her but because i always want us to talk at her own convenient time, and she seems to understand me very well.

Just like you said once i see her miss calls or sms i return them back immediately.

So don't feel you're not the right person he may also have his reason the best thing to do is to talk to him about it.

Yours is different, you've got whatever going on clearly defined.

Did you miss the part where she called him, he missed it, failed to called back and he was active online? Or, where he told her she's supposed to call first? He thinks he's doing her a favour dating her, trust me.

Tell the Aunty to pack her load and run

Blackhawk03:


Yours is different, you've got whatever going on clearly defined.

Did you miss the part where she called him, he missed it, failed to called back and he was active online? Or, where he told her she's supposed to call first? He thinks he's doing her a favour dating her, trust me.

Sambusiness:
Tell the Aunty to pack her load and run

Okay, uncle Sambusiness.


Aunty Commyluv, Oya pack and go, carry your Ghana must go.

commyluv:
Hi guys

Am dating this guy he said he loves me yes I love him too, but the problem here is he doesn't call first if I don't call him in the morning he won't call, afternoon he wont , except in the evening.

But if he see my miss call he will call me back, I don't understand y he behaves that way have talk to him, am now thinking he doesn't love me .

ladies and gentlemen pls help me out what should I do.

1st who instigated the relationship?

2nd has he complained to you about anything before concerning you?

3rd is he the type that barely talks and stays quiet when he is pissed?

4th has he instigated sex before and you refused ?

5th what's the age difference between you two?

6th does he flare up at a slightest opportunity?

7th what does he focus on as a topic when you guys talk on phone?

8th where did you guys meet?

Answer these questions honestly I'll tell you the issue..

beautyandbrain:
Babe...my boyfriend was like that. We broke up 2 months to our 5th year. (yesterday)

What a way to advertise. Oya NL guys, she is vacant.... Apply NOW!!!

falconey:



If it's not work then mayhap he doesn't love you like you do.

Falconey the truth is work won't stop anyone from calling someone they love...that time you want to go urinate, you cud call them then. There are other times too, during lunch.
The girl isn't the least of his worries, so she shud go

Augustap:

Falconey the truth is work won't stop anyone from calling someone they love...that time you want to go urinate, you cud call them then. There are other times too, during lunch.
The girl isn't the least of his worries, so she shud go

You are right i guess, what do i know? haven't had a good thing so far just olosho business.

Firstly...u said he is an Accountant(a working Class). Secondly...u said he calls during evening time. What other explanation do you need? Why not center on wat is truly important? Must he call morning, afternoon n evening 2 prove his love. I bet you this is among d reasons why most women will continue to be deceived, used and dumped. Choose wat is important young Lady. You can take this advice: slow down your pace...you are too fast.

commyluv:
OK like today have called him till now he hasn't call bk but I saw him online.

its was just 10:02am when this was posted....oh God why are some women like this?

Benita27:
The relationship just started and he isn't calling, I wonder what he'll do when the spark isn't there anymore.

Relationships doesn't rely on a single basic principle.

MissRaine69:

Broke up over him not calling first? That's dumb

Dat gal monicker should be beauty and no brain

walepackage:
I tink u are just too forward,the relationship is still fresh.Some ladies tinks its easy to develop real love, it takes time before it realy matured in the heart of a man, if the man is sincere with u.So i urge u to relax take ur time,slow down a litle bit let him get a good reason why he should be wit u,as soon as he did.I believe he wil change.But,u have to agree wit me dat its not al men that call every time of d day,its just their nature,bt wit time he can improve.

Personally,I hate this every day call of a thing

beautyandbrain:
Babe...my boyfriend was like that. We broke up 2 months to our 5th year. (yesterday)

@OP, it's a 50-50 likely dat tins might turn around 4 gud. i m exactly lyk ur guy. i dally d taut of having her dz gal at heart everyday, cuz i truly av filings 4 er, but d horrifying reality is tins aint going in other depts like; work, stress n demands from my other siblings, a demanding n vry frustrating boss, etc. all dz kind of contribute a mentality dat somewhat confine me to relationship-commitment denial. somtxs, i cant xplain my situations to her, i jst cant. in my job 4 xample, d daily demands from being technically inclined wont just allow me some headspace to call her during d day as i m most out of touch with my own slf. @mornings i dnt want to inconvient her in any way i wuld fink, @evenings, my taut is wired round her completely, she dont lyk it dz way, she wan all of my headspace 4 her 24/7 in d mornings, noons etc. i guess she shud c other ppl nt egg on me

ehix89:
its was just 10:02am when this was posted....oh God why are some women like this?

I would not be able to cope if I was a man. All this stalking it's too much

Benita27:
LMAO @ it's your duty to call. That dude isn't that interested in you. The earlier you realise that the better. Men are everywhere like Johda said. Stop calling him and if he doesn't rise to the occasion dump him.

You can be funny with your ITK comments littered all over NL.

Who is dumping who?

Can you dump some one who does not give a flying fvck about u?

Ssee as dump him dey sweet u for mouth

my dear pple are different, u said he calls in d evening and he returns your calls, y don't u try and be contented with that than to make him feel u are bugging him. I take myself as example I don't like calls much but my partner loves calls and chatting that doesn't mean I don't love him. try not to push it to far especially if he is not cheating on u

falconey:



You are right i guess, what do i know? haven't had a good thing so far just olosho business.

Don't worry, LOVE FALL ON YOU

Jodha:

As usual guys will always defend their selves...

Op I gave yhu a sisterly advice... If yhu like listen ...if yhu like take the advice of a player who's obviously defending a fellow player...nah yhu sabi ...I don tell yhu my own

A guy that has yhu in mind will call atleast once or twice ..a day to check up on yhu...just to show he thinks about yhu ..you're not asking for 24hrs calling...but atleast no matter how busy yhu are if yhu claim yhu love some one yhu should be able to call DAT person to hear from her...

If yhu keep calling him and he senses yhu love him too much or yhu can't do without him... That's where yhur problem..as in real problem will start from..

I've been there ..so I should be in d best place to advice yhu..not a baseless no good Casanova...

Egberi fah ooo..

Call u twice a day to check up on u because u are a baby that cant handle things herself ehn?

If u see my call once in a week sef thank your God.
If it is chattingg,no p.
But call because i want to hear your voice? No way

ThatIgboBoy:


You can be funny with your ITK comments littered all over NL.

Who is dumping who?

Can you dump some one who does not give a flying fvck about u?

Ssee as dump him dey sweet u for mouth

Will you get the fùck off my mentions!.

reminiscing:

Understand the nature of his job

First sensible comment by a chic on this thread

How does calling you every minute equate love? He even calls once in the evening then you should be glad, not in this days when there's whatsapp etc.

uyisteven:


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He still calls at evening tymz and wen he sees your missed calls...
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wow... u should apprc that.. Am freaking worse than him..
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i don't even call..

Lmao

My club members

Benita27:
Will you get the fùck off my mentions!.

The ITK benita

The butterfly who thinks she is a bird

Always dispensing advice as if she is a Miss know all

Fvck yourself bae

Jodha:


Exactly..yhu just typed my mind..a relationship that just started is supposed to have that initial gra gra love.. He's supposed to flood her text messages and call..along side sweet things..

If he's giving orders now what will he do in future...

Person like that jam me..sis nah one Chance... I'll show yhu if yhu don't give a damn..that I care less either.. That's how its supposed to be..jeez..

Flood u with gini?
Calls and sms?

Lekki flood is coming for u since u want flood.

Only a desperate man will be calling and flooding ur phone with sms.
What does he have to prove? That he loves u?
Lol

Who love epp?

ThatIgboBoy:


The ITK benita

The butterfly who thinks she is a bird

Always dispensing advice as if she is a Miss know all

Fvck yourself bae

Use rope if you're pained. And if you're the one on your dp, you should have sense at your age.

Who's your bae?. Rubbish!.

rman:
Some guys are not the calling type. If I do not have anything to say, I do not call. Thank God my partner understood this and we are still very close.

I can call once and talk for 30mins to an hour, maybe once in a day or 3 days sometimes.

Like you said, if my partner calls me, I pick or call back when less busy. Although, I have found out early that nearly 95% of phone calls in this clime are unnecessary. As much as I know technology has breached communication gaps, however our parents built lasting relationships even when partners can only communicate through letters that will arrive months later. Now with mobile phones, we actually think we show care by the number of calls.

The most important thing is he calls back.

For some strange reasons, I reply sms almost instantly which I rarely do with calls.

You are me

MissRaine69:
You need to chill seriously.
There are no rules or obligations that stipulate he has to call you first. That's just a weird mentality to have.
Are you one of those women who has to talk on the phone to a guy 24/7 even though there is absolutely nothing of relevance to talk about?
Maybe he is not one for meaningless small talk it's not a crime. He does call you just not when you want to be called. I bet you give him a hard time over not calling first which is petty. You have a good man stop being so needy. It's not attractive.

I love this bae