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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by sisisioge: 9:00pm On Jul 22, 2017
ikombe:
Better wife material grin

Your dog is cute grin
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Nobody: 9:03pm On Jul 22, 2017
Nma27:
Don't get me wrong jor. Wait till u are millionaire sha afterall time will wait for you

I rather wait.

What's the point. To marry & give birth and children to suffer? Ordinary kindergarten school fees is ranging from 100k and above in Lagos. Unless its public school you want to send your children?
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Nobody: 9:05pm On Jul 22, 2017
truthsayer009:


I rather wait.

What's the point. To marry & give birth and children to suffer? Ordinary kindergarten school fees is ranging from 100k and above in Lagos. Unless its public school you want to send your children?
Definitely not.
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Nobody: 9:12pm On Jul 22, 2017
In this present Nigeria anything from 80+ with good savings is reasonable, Good savings is very essential, unless you want your wife and kids to suffer unnecessarily
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by MrHighSea: 9:17pm On Jul 22, 2017
What do a man get from fending for another woman and her family the rest of his life?
Rhetorical.
Truly, I'm a very happy single man. Though still exploring for better opportunities. I believe money is'nt the first question before considering Marriage. THE RATE OF DIVORCE, SLAY QUEENS AND DESPERADOS.
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by saabright(m): 9:21pm On Jul 22, 2017
Laralag:
Me I think couple should grow together, economically and other wise, therefore a man doesnt need to own fancy things before marriage from this analogy 150k can can be a bench mark . Saying 450 per month could be unrealistic as only a fraction of the jobs or biz in Nigeria pays that much for starts.
With good management,plan n support from the wife 150 can be enough

exactly......dats my plan

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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by walearoy(m): 9:21pm On Jul 22, 2017
NaijaElba:
Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.


My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.


Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_


Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.


Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen

*Ladies, please try and pass this across to Ur boyfriend or fiancé* *Guys please have a re-think and tell other guys about it too... And consider this advice*°°°°°°°°

So true
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Nobody: 9:23pm On Jul 22, 2017
Different people with different standards. For me, one thing I don't want is for my children to suffer.... when I say suffer I don't mean not having food to eat all. I mean I want them in the best of institutions... Ivy league. Havard and likes, holidays in the best place in the world grin. I want them to have the best of life from the start. I was doing well over 250 at sometime but I didn't find it enough to settle. I had this 700k to 1 mill mentality. Tho, I will be settling soon, I am not sure I can have kids if income per annum is not over 10 mill.
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Kanmi112: 9:24pm On Jul 22, 2017
In my opinion, I think 100k should do for a guy while at least 50k for a woman. But how many organisation now pay 100k for a starter? The most any average government agency pays is 87k for level 8 officer and before you get promoted to earn more is after 4years, how then do you now plan?
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by thesuave10(m): 9:24pm On Jul 22, 2017
lincs25:
Some people are saying 100K, 150k, let me not even mention above the one listed. If you join federal civil service even with your degree is few ministries that will pay you up to 100k. You guys will remain single, I am working in the North, here somebody that is selling water will got married to two women. A jerry can of water is 20n, do you think in a month the person will make up to 20k yet he survive with the two wives.

For me it's 450k monthly. And by the way I don't want to survive I want to live

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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Nobody: 9:26pm On Jul 22, 2017
Bisjosh:
grin

Im really enjoying this 9ice "living things" song

Kin sha ti lowo o..

Dancing
the one with davido or the main one?
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by concho(m): 9:28pm On Jul 22, 2017
NaijaElba:
Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.


My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.


Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_


Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.


Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen

*Ladies, please try and pass this across to Ur boyfriend or fiancé* *Guys please have a re-think and tell other guys about it too... And consider this advice*°°°°°°°°
And the one i have bn plannning to marry left n didnt call me again wen i told her dat my goods got damaged n my creditor {union bank is after me}. that was d same month i bought her phone n gave her 35k to aid her in skl. She didnt knw dt it was all lies........i over love d girl. Very cnfuzd now
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by seguntijan(m): 9:28pm On Jul 22, 2017
DEAR YOUNG GUYS AT THE AGE OF 22 TO 28 Don't make mistakes some of our Fathers made. Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with your wife. You will never finish making money or achieving your plans. You might still not succeed at your target year. So start your life early, with consistency you will grow. My Uncle said this to me: _When i was 22, i was talking about making billions before i marry. Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the love of my life very early, But my fear was, can i really take care of her? She's married now with two grown up children. The guy that married her was still schooling then, but had the courage. They worked hard and succeeded together. I failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry early, don't wait.
Don't make our mistakes, I see my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most of them are not doing as well as me.. But they are happier.. Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your happiness depends entirely on your wisdom. With a well planned life they are happier.. Trust me it isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy Rolls Royce, marry Sharon stone type, but Still we don't have those things we dreamt of, and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_ Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at that age? Their grand father. Please young men, take my advice seriously.
Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding fault in has many good qualities if you look well. Don't think you will get every thing before you settle down. God can change your life in a blink, with a good wife by your side, you will succeed by God grace....
*To All the Apons in the house*
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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Ishaq319(f): 9:31pm On Jul 22, 2017
thesuave10:
450k monthly
which u r going to remained single through out ur life. How much is ur income?
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by lincs25(m): 9:32pm On Jul 22, 2017
thesuave10:


For me it's 450k monthly. And by the way I don't want to survive I want to live
Are you working, are you a graduate, are you looking for job? Answer my questions let me tell you something from experience.

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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by larrypourl(m): 9:33pm On Jul 22, 2017
All of you saying 100k and above. Op just have a secured job and make sure u can pay ur bills and feed your family. All u need to start a family are d basic things of life bro. If na by 100k boys no go dey marry again now. But I'll advice u to study your kind of women to determine your financial strength.


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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by saabright(m): 9:33pm On Jul 22, 2017
NaijaElba:
Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.


My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.


Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_


Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.


Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen

*Ladies, please try and pass this across to Ur boyfriend or fiancé* *Guys please have a re-think and tell other guys about it too... And consider this advice*°°°°°°°°

tanx
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by perryy(m): 9:35pm On Jul 22, 2017
I was earning 54k when I married a nurse , a contract staff in one of government health centres collecting 10k per month. Though it wasn't really easy at first , but the weight of the burden got me stronger and today, I'm a proud multi millionaire. I didn't marry 20 years ago, I got married exactly 27th of November 2010. Sometimes, love for your wife and kids can make u go extra mile and think of something positive to change your condition. If not for the increased burden brought by wife and kids, I would have still be probably where I was then , without any change of status.

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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Trottle: 9:36pm On Jul 22, 2017
Humility017:

you're right dear....
I have seen this for myself
but these should not be reason for rushing into marriage when one is not financially capable...to cater for two.
I currently earn less than #100k and I have learn avoid marriage not until I start receiving more than that.....because many ladies I have meant always frown at my income....

Then kindly look for ladies that are accommodating of your income. Don't let the "income standard" of some ladies determine when you would marry.

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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by ikevictor: 9:41pm On Jul 22, 2017
Akposb:
This generation has placed money and sex above all else in marriage. The reality can be different if we recognize our peculiarity. No money is enough especially at the beginning, two financially strong partners can get far no matter how little. Marriage built on financial credibility can still fail.

So on point. Misplaced priorities and values.

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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by cozykozy: 9:41pm On Jul 22, 2017
jazinogold:
Am waiting for recession to be over before I marry
then u will marry by year 2089

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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by hartson(m): 9:42pm On Jul 22, 2017
Observation mode
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Trottle: 9:44pm On Jul 22, 2017
humilitypays:
early marriage has its ups and downs, don't concentrate on the advantages alone....consider the disadvantages too.

And stop the mentality that it is wrong for a man to be 60yrs while his kids are 20...it is not bad. Your message is one of the reasons poverty is widespread in Nigeria and Africa as a whole....look around Nigeria, you see children born without plan for them because their parents just married because they wanted to have kids early without any financial road map to give the kids a good future...we must stop marrying with the belief that miracle will happen....they miracle can still happen when u are single and focused.

Some of our fathers married at 27 - 30 during their days and some gave birth to 10 and above kids...now space the kids with 2yrs, it means some of our dads gave their last children up to 20 - 30yrs and they still look cool. So if a guy plans to give birth to just 2 kids and waits to be financial okay before he settles and finally settles down at 38 - 42yrs, its not bad. Populating the world shouldn't be the sole aim of modern day Nigerian youths but making sure your kids have a beautiful future should be smiley

38-42 years shocked shocked shocked wetin remain

It is good to start early if you can at least feed 2-3 people, earning a income, have shelter, and be able to carryout basic necessities of life. This would prevent the widespread fornication, and also ensure social sanity. I'm almsot sure such person cannot be entirely celibate till 38-42

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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by PotatoSalad(m): 9:45pm On Jul 22, 2017
NaijaElba:
Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.


My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.


Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_


Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.


Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen

*Ladies, please try and pass this across to Ur boyfriend or fiancé* *Guys please have a re-think and tell other guys about it too... And consider this advice*°°°°°°°°
Deep, you don make marriage begin hungry me. I'm only 24 sad
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by cozykozy: 9:45pm On Jul 22, 2017
fabre4:
many of you are deceiving yourselves here how many jobs pay 150k and above in Nigeria
dnt mind them...majority of dem nah ordinary schnapp nd kolanut there papa use marry dem mama
they will cm nairaland dey run mouth

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Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by mercyland93(m): 9:46pm On Jul 22, 2017
U people are just talking about 100k nd 200k. Is everybody collecting up to that amount, I know two of my friends who collect arround 30k monthly cus they are teachers in ibadan. But despite that they went ahead nd got married '(actually it's not easy)
Wot I see nd learnt from them is that they didn't marry a flashy or socially inclined lady, but a deeper life type.
Thus, guys if u re not earning much nd u are 35yrs of age, just don't waste your time luk for an SU lady nd get married asap cus time is actually not on ur side.
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Humility017(m): 9:49pm On Jul 22, 2017
Trottle:


Then kindly look for ladies that are accommodating of your income. Don't let the "income standard" of some ladies determine when you would marry.
thank you much
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Trottle: 9:50pm On Jul 22, 2017
Mypeople2:
Naso them dey talk.That is the reason why papa Johnny is it in one room with four children and unable to pay school fees.

And that is why uncle Paul is still chasing small small girls and bedding them in his three bedroom apartment and also using and dumping them till he realise that he's almost 50 and has varieties of STDs by then papa Johnny's kids would probably graduatesundecided
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Gerrard59(m): 9:52pm On Jul 22, 2017
lincs25:
Some people are saying 100K, 150k, let me not even mention above the one listed. If you join federal civil service even with your degree is few ministries that will pay you up to 100k. You guys will remain single, I am working in the North, here somebody that is selling water will got married to two women. A jerry can of water is 20n, do you think in a month the person will make up to 20k yet he survive with the two wives.

In all honesty, is that the kind of lifestyle you intend living? Tomorrow you'll come complaining when he has 10 children he cannot take ADEQUATE and PROPER care of.

Marriage is not a child's play. Someone accused the present generation of placing money at the top in marriage.

Newsflash: Things are different today. The economy is tough. Standard of living expectations is high. Finance plays a very important role in relationships of the opposite sex.

Yes, one must not be a billionaire before getting married. However, one should have a reasonable amount of resources to live a decent life.
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Trottle: 9:53pm On Jul 22, 2017
elyte89:
C as ppu dey shout 150k-350k as minimum,am sure those quoting such amount are not in d realm of reality,maybe mostly fresh graduate,undergraduate, or secondary school leaver,
Like say e easy,abi no b d same Nigeria we dey tgeda dey hustle, dis earnings re level 14 and above take home for civil servant or for private,u go don read and get experience tayya b4 taking such home at d end of d month,as an employee of a private/multinational companies.
Ogbeni,my peeps,don't let us b like uncle monsuru in my neighborhood, dt graduated early and got a job dt could feed his mouth but refuse due to d high standard he has set for himself, like what odas have quoted earlier
Uncle Monsuru is now 43,still waiting for dt target, grin
Let's face d reality,once u av a job dt can cater for u conveniently will cater for anoda person too,dts d logic,its more safe and less expensive as a married young man Dan live as a bachelor wout focus and budget, at d end of s day,d previous will turn out better Dan d later

Only one person with all these sense?? shocked shocked

Bro you too much o
Re: How Much Income Is Reasonable Before Marriage? by Trottle: 9:54pm On Jul 22, 2017
Humility017:

thank you much

My pleasure sir.

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