obataokenwa:
Pls girl won't distract him. let him get a focused and reasonable girl.

Gen 2:18 And the LORD God said, [It is] not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

grandstar:


The problem with shyness is that you have a very negative view of yourself.

This negative blinds your eyes to cues the opposite sex gives.

For instance if you approach a girl and the girl is flattered and excited but tries to mask it by seeming uninterested, you may assume automatically that she rejected you and you reached that erroneous conclusion because of your low self esteem.

First thing you need to do to gain confidence is to be ready to accept rejections with s shrug or gracefully. That's the secret of most womanizers. They don't care much about rejections. They just go on to the next babe.

To get rid of approaching girls, give yourself this assignment: Approach 30 girls in the next 5 days preferably ones you don't know and ask them out. That is 6 a day. By the time you do the 30th, your anxiety would have reduced considerably. From a scale of 10, it will reduce to 2.

The next stage is to approach a girl or girls you like and would really like to date. Learn a few pickup lines

Example: hi, how are you? Has anyone told you you're pretty? Has anyone told you that you have beautiful cheeks( Make a genuine comment on something you really like on or in her). She would most likely blush and become a little self conscious, tongued and reply with a polite thank you. Try and recognise a blush when you see one. She may look down at her feet if standing which is an indication of blushing. Google women blushing.

Go further by saying you'd like to know her. That you'd like her number. If she gives you her number, you've done quite well.

Another advise is to be yourself. One fear you'll nurture is that you don't want the lady to see you as inexperienced as respects the issue of relationship. That'll be a big mistake. That will constantly put you under pressure and make you very defensive, nervous and apprehensive.

Winning a girl is the easy part. Entering a relationship is the really hard part. Be open. Let her know you've not really dated before and she's your first. Rather than look down on you, she'll be impressed that's she's your first. You can even say you're a little a shy. It's a manly thing to be honest. Only weakling resort to lies to hide their weakness.

With time, she'll show you the ropes and you'll learn.

Be careful of your friends especially when they give you advise. Friends can and do mislead..

Also, treat her the way you'd like your daughter to be treated. Learn to treat women with respect (Matthew 7:12)

Sarah20A:
Wait oo, are you a virgin boy ayam not understanding

FreeSpirited:
He has to learn from friendzoning to knowing the antics of getting laid. This Op doesn't even know how to get a lady who would friendzone him....So let him start from the basic. Is it your friendzone?

thesuave10:


You try but your advice needs a lil brushing up. You sound like a lvl 3 beginner

grandstar:


If he is the very shy type, he'll finding even toasting girls very very difficult. This is just to build his confidence.

alienhumam:
I spent four years in the university without a girlfriend, because am afraid to approach girls. I don't want to be rejected. people gossip about me that am gay. because am always in company of guys. even my male friends are even accusing me of been gay, which I know am not. The even joke with me with jokes like
I can't sleep in one bed with you and so on.

Now what I need is advice from Nairalanders on how I can get a girlfriend that can love me. Because very soon I will be going to national youth service. am depressed because of my situation I need help.

alienhumam:
I spent four years in the university without a girlfriend, because am afraid to approach girls. I don't want to be rejected. people gossip about me that am gay. because am always in company of guys. even my male friends are even accusing me of been gay, which I know am not. The even joke with me with jokes like
I can't sleep in one bed with you and so on.

Now what I need is advice from Nairalanders on how I can get a girlfriend that can love me. Because very soon I will be going to national youth service. am depressed because of my situation I need help.

kushercain:

You've not had sex for 24 years?? Your cahuretor oil definitely needs changing How do u change it

Sirnucee:
I had similar issue...but I was like in junior school...not that I couldn't approach girls...but I never fancied em.

blasterman:


Go find olosho fork make u calm ur konji.
Woman wey some ppl dey use clean Yansh.
Maybe u don't take or ur appearance or u don't make good use of your time.
I for train u if not be online
B4 b4 I dey give woman 72hrs grace period to comply to my demands or I fire am.

thesuave10:


See advice. Walk up to her and tell her you love her. As in Justin Bieber wey him be na

ScotFree:
I was impressed reading a comment by Jodha. That's how mature females behave. Not some uneducated ones that would just embarass the guy like he was filth.

PietroRico:
lol.

CooKeed:
And then what happened? You suddenly met someone you fancied?