Apus:




Cool!

Cool!
Do you know how I got over my shyness?
I simply pretend not to be shy. I put on a performance around people I don't know. I pretend to have a conversation with them, I pretend to care.
And that's how I got over my shyness, I forced myself to perform as an outgoing, sociable person to make everyone including myself happy.
Performance takes the “edge” out of being social. A performance isn't “you”, it's an act. You simply act like you aren't shy. If you act enough, it becomes real, second nature.
The things we think and do always end up becoming true. I performed enough as an outgoing person that now no one believes I am shy. My performance became true. I faked it 'til I made it....But what happens during my alone time ....I'm totally drained simply because unlike an extrovert i'm not energized by people. Quiet sometimes is refreshing. Bein Shy is one thing, but wrapped up in your own little world is another...

ghanc23:
being an introvert has some disadvantages
I can start a conservation or maintain it
people tink am not easy going, proud and can't be discussed with
presently is affecting my marriage cos I need communication to keep going

bubbleam:
Thank you for your sharing. Thanks to this article I can learn more things. Expand your knowledge and abilities. Actually the article is very practical. Thank you!
bubbleam, ludo game

You're Welcome

GloryIsaac:
Following the thread from the beginning with the argument that ensued, I decided to keep mute until everywhere was calm enough before I would post this piece (with modifications by me) that covers all that both parties here have been saying without igniting another battle. Hope you're patient enough to read it.

Ref: https://lonerwolf.com/the-extroverted-introvert

Sorry if this piece seems to long, I wrote it from a laptop.

corisande:
present! ! People think I'm a snub and not approachable I don't keep/have friends *boring*

Giel:
I was always of the opinion that shyness and introversion were separate things, so to see here that shyness is being thought of as an attribute or a trait of introversion is surprising, likewise with social anxiety.
Introversion does not come with shyness and/or social anxiety, i don't think they are attributes or traits of introversion,
Anyone (Extroverts and introverts) can be shy or have social anxiety.
These are not traits nor attributes of introversion.

ghanc23:
being an introvert has some disadvantages
I can start a conservation or maintain it
people tink am not easy going, proud and can't be discussed with
presently is affecting my marriage cos I need communication to keep going

DonOms:


It's very nice of you to share the article.

I, too, refrained from contributing to that little argument because I knew it was mostly a matter of opinion, choice-of-words and experience - all of which are relatively easily misinterpreted compared to facts. I'm glad everyone eventually made themselves clearer.

Speaking partly on your post and drawing general conclusions, I think it might make sense to agree that firstly, degree of introversion determines how much change (or acting) an introvert can embrace. And this then further break down to "finally" locating one's true 'identity position' on the continuum scale.

Secondly, introversion is introversion. It has its core nature but it also has peripheral attributes easily associated with it (e.g. Shyness, social anxiety, social withdrawal e.t.c.). While its core can never be changed nor outgrown (such as the need to recharge, and easily draining out in loud/large gatherings), some of the peripheral attributes get somewhat modified with change in personality, age, responsibility and/or environment.

So as a summary, yes, Introverts can get to act differently or change some things about them with time (as coping mechanisms) but cannot exactly 'outgrow' introversion in its core sense.

gidjah:
hmmmmmmm, this one is thought provoking sis, wanna lay more clarity on that, I can't remember ever meeting any 'shy extrovert'(though dosent mean they wouldn't be existing sha)

Giel:

Are you asking me to elucidate on why I said shyness and social anxiety aren't the same thing with introversion or are you asking me to explain why I said there anyone (extroverts included) can be shy?
or on both?

I'm sorry for asking, I need to understand you better to be able to explain well,

Giel:

Are you asking me to elucidate on why I said shyness and social anxiety aren't the same thing with introversion or are you asking me to explain why I said there anyone (extroverts included) can be shy?
or on both?

I'm sorry for asking, I need to understand you better to be able to explain well,

realtem:
kai, these introverts self , you're sorry for asking

Giel:


It's not an introvert behaviour jare, has nothing to do with introversion, it's a nairaland/chatting thing,
I don't want anyone to misunderstand me and therefore reply me with anger or aggression.

realtem:
Yeah, wise... Still i can't help but laugh when i read it.

gidjah:
both please, thanks

Giel:
I was always of the opinion that shyness and introversion were separate things, so to see here that shyness is being thought of as an attribute or a trait of introversion is surprising, likewise with social anxiety.
Introversion does not come with shyness and/or social anxiety, i don't think they are attributes or traits of introversion,
Anyone (Extroverts and introverts) can be shy or have social anxiety.
These are not traits nor attributes of introversion.

DonOms:
... Secondly, introversion is introversion. It has its core nature but it also has peripheral attributes easily associated with it (e.g. Shyness, social anxiety, social withdrawal e.t.c.). While its core can never be changed nor outgrown (such as the need to recharge, and easily draining out in loud/large gatherings), some of the peripheral attributes get somewhat modified with change in personality, age, responsibility and/or environment.

Weezybaby:
Hello All, newbie here!! Searched for this thread cos I jus lost yet another friend ... needed something to show me am normal..
That's by the way.. hoping for some realness here!!

realtem:
kai, these introverts self , you're sorry for asking

Dsholla:
Haylo my introv family! I guess we cld create a whatsapp forum to enable us pour our heartache, memories and experiences for closer monitoring and advices.... more like i cnt relate with any sort of pple except those who understand and knws how I feel

wonderfulwonder:
Yes....

Hello all...
been seeing this thread but just read through some few pages of late. didnt know it was this interesting

I am a newbie...