Ion roll with broke girls either they are parasites and very bitter. Rich girls on the other side are very sweet. U self go enjoy d relationship sef no worries and excessive dependencies. No offense ladies but guys doesn't want a liability to. Go out there and do something useful for yourselves.

On the contrary most women date broke men because they are very little Rich men in Nigeria and they have no choice.

rheether:
Seriously who wants to date a broke guy? Do you even love yourself when you are broke? It's not our fault. Stick to your class.

I will date you by force

rheether:
Seriously who wants to date a broke guy? Do you even love yourself when you are broke? It's not our fault. Stick to your class.

I hope you are not broke too.

TINALETC3:
Op, u ar so right bt, I jst tank God I no Wat I wnt unlike most confused ladies out dere, even my mum cnt choose 4 me. My guy didn't even hv a bank account wen I met hm, he ws so cashless bt tank God 4 d level he is now, dere ar tins one shud luk up 2 first nt money

I guess you and the op are saying the same thing

Mariinee:
Goan buy milk nah
Iyamm a niggress

Where do they sell milk ?

IamKashyBaby:


I swear not to date a brokeazz and lazy MF again...

Juz thinking of that guy i wanna throw up

Just being curious what is the meaning of plurimi ?

IamKashyBaby:


I swear not to date a brokeazz and lazy MF again...

Juz thinking of that guy i wanna throw up

Just being curious what is the meaning of plurimi ?

sunshineG:
I don't get it

Why do people see the world as white or black
Infact I am tired of people trying to summarize the entire world into a simple write up

I have seen ladies marrying rich men, only to lose everything after some years, and I have also seen ladies marrying broke guys who then grow financially together

There lots of different senerios

Thus, my point is "not every thing always appear the way it seems"
The world is not that simple

You accuse people of seeing the world as white and black...then go on to shoot yourself in the foot.

Haven't you also seen girls that married broke men and they remained broke? And the ones that married rich men and he remained rich or got richer?

Not like I am interested in this overflogged broke topic. There are far more 'broke' guys than rich ones in Nigeria. They are in relationships, they are getting married every weekend.

majorbravo:
Guys, if you are conversant with the life cycle of a lady from low-income background, you would usually find a mother dragging her daughter's ears, warning her sternly, not to marry a poor man like her father (the mother's husband). You would hear words like "I married for love, look where it landed me, we are all suffering, all the beauty of my youth wasted on this nonentity of a man. My daughter don't make the same mistakes I have made, leave that useless boy today and marry a rich man". What you find afterwards, is a girl confused and haunted by the words of her mother and the memories of the hard life they have lived.

From the analogy above, many would be quick to judge the father as a useless man who couldn't fend for his family. Some men would call the mother wicked for asking her daughter to be a gold digger, others may choose to support the mother and urge the daughter to keep to the advice. Well who is right? at the end of this post I would give my verdict.

Most of our ladies face this dilemma in our world today, especially in African countries. However, the truth is, the mother has told the truth about their situation, but she hasn't thrown enough light on the context to properly enlighten her daughter in a way that can be deemed appropriate for a good life.

However, this is an eye opener to men who are still in the dark. The women are light years ahead of you in philosophical thinking though they may not appropriately communicate what has happened in a way you consider ideal reasoning. In order to deal with a woman, you must first of all understand they are wired differently from us men.

While a man is most likely going to be a realist, women are mostly fantasists. They are controlled 70% by emotion and 30% by fact, while the reverse is the case for men. If you doubt me, Observe a scenario of two people preparing to go to the post office (or any area where other people would likely be). Ask a woman why she put on the dress she's wearing and she will tell most likely say something like 'she wants to feel beautiful'. On the other hand, a man would probably just say: "I just saw this hanging on my wardrobe and wore it cos I have to wear something to cover myself". Notice, the man doesn't really have a reason for his color choices or design patterns. While the woman does, and this is usually because she desires some sort of validation from on-lookers. The benefit is what she gets(in this example, admiration). Whereas the man is more protective of what he already has(covering up).

This also affects how we make money, While most men choose to make money to improve their ability to protect themselves and those they love (eg a House to shelter them, Car for transiting his family, Bills for wellbeing), Women mostly require money to improve themselves and stand out (eg Gold jewelry to appear brighter, brazillian weaves and designer apparels to appear larger than life, get invited into big parties and road shows, even when a woman acquires a car, she does so for the prestige, don't be surprised when she hardly ever drives it herself but commissions her partner or a hired professional to take her around in it).

Now, what does all of this analysis above mean? Men, we appear to have been the dummies all along, we make sacrifices and put the needs of everyone else ahead of ours, we work so hard, save so much money in anticipation of a tough situation which everyone else looks up to us to solve, but never for once think about being as self-concerned as our female counterparts. Even when we spend money on ourselves, we do it in order to improve our ability to be of service to others. We hang out with a woman whom we protect from the elements by ensuring we have a car and/or umbrella handy. We open doors for her, pull out her chair so that she is comfortable, we crack jokes just to make her laugh, we also pay for the meals both of us enjoyed, we offer to take her home and we do not leave till we are sure she is safe, we then smile to ourselves feeling fulfilled, but what do they offers us? sex is evenly enjoyed by both partners, a woman will never have sex with a man she derives no benefit from either in the act itself or in exchange for some other good. So what does she really give?

This is why women don't date broke men but we date broke women, the women are the wise ones, choosing only to engage with people who benefit them. We on the other hand, choose people we have the capacity to help.

Now back to the scenario in the first paragraph. What should the mother have advised her daughter? To put it nicely, she should have asked her daughter to work on her intellect and marry a man who is cooperative but not lazy. Marriage is a two way journey, if that mother had married a man who fits this description, she would have been able to use her own self improved intellect and resourcefulness to help the man(whose natural inclination is to protect and provide) to reach the point she desired for herself and her children.

So there you have it guys, what shall you do? Shall you make all that money and look for a broke girl? in the hopes you could single handedly get her out of poverty? If you get broke in the process, how do you come out of it? The only hope you have is if she is resourceful and intelligent enough to not blame you for the situation but use everything you have invested in her becoming a better version of herself, to assist you in leading the family to greater heights. A woman has responsibilities in marriage too as well as the man, the man is an expert in protecting and providing for his family but the woman's natural instinct helps the family grow and stand out, they need to both work as a team, or neither partner would feel fulfilled. Is a broke man or lady a taboo? No, is a wise man or lady better? Yes. But in the end the choice is yours to make!


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At the end the man spends his life for the wife and children, and the woman spends her life in house work for the man and children too. So life goes on

Besides this is a fact of life: "there is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving" ~ Jesus

pocohantas:


You accuse people of seeing the world as white and black...then go on to shoot yourself in the foot.

Haven't you also seen girls that married broke men and they remained broke? And the ones that married rich men and he remained rich or got richer?

Not like I am interested in this overflogged broke topic. There are far more 'broke' guy than rich ones in Nigeria. They are in relationships, they are getting married every weekend.

my sis

Did you read where I wrote that there are different(many) senerios

So just cause some broke guys marry broke ladies now means the world is now white or black?
Or haven't you seen rich men marrying broke ladies too and vice versa?
Even with all these senerios nothing is guaranteed
Take for example:
Just because a lady married a rich guy today will not always guarantee financial stability like some ladies here on nairaland believe

So the world is full of many senerios and uncertain endings

trying to simplify the world by painting it one way or the other seems like a ridiculous task

Hope you get my message

sunshineG:
my sis

Did you read where I wrote that there are different(many) senerios

So just cause some broke guys marry broke ladies now means the world is now white or black?
Or haven't you seen rich men marrying broke ladies too and vice versa?
Even with all these senerios nothing is guaranteed
Take for example:
Just because a lady married a rich guy today will not always guarantee financial stability like some ladies here on nairaland believe

So the world is full of many senerios and uncertain endings

trying to simplify the world by painting it one way or the other seems like a ridiculous task

Hope you get my message

Of course I saw that and I saw you stuck to the scenario that suits your message.

The very 'smart' rich men, don't just get poor...it isn't Nigerian film...

rheether:
Seriously who wants to date a broke guy? Do you even love yourself when you are broke? It's not our fault. Stick to your class.

LOL when you get to 43 the story will shift from no broke guys to anybody responsible or sensible

rheether:
Seriously who wants to date a broke guy? Do you even love yourself when you are broke? It's not our fault. Stick to your class.

I sincerely hope you are on the rich class.

pocohantas:

Of course I saw that and I saw you stuck to the scenario that suits you message.

The very 'smart' rich men, don't just get poor...it isn't Nigerian film...

my dear you will be surprised I am talking from experience
Not my personal experience though

I know of a man who was once a regional manager for a first generation bank, but who is now poorer than me

I even think he maybe mentally unstable, I try to avoid him whenever I see him because he is always negative

sunshineG:
my dear you will be surprised I am talking from experience
Not my personal experience though

I know of a man who was once a regional manager for a first generation bank, but who is now poorer than me

I even think he may even be mentally unstable, I try to avoid him whenever I see him because he is always negative

He wasn't smart.

Bankers are fond of living for the moment...no savings,no investment...I am sure you know this. Lots of them go back to the starting point, once they lose their jobs. They are never good examples of smart rich men.

pocohantas:

He wasn't smart.

Bankers are fond of living for the moment...no savings,no investment...I am sure you know this. Lots of them go back to the starting point, once they lose their jobs. They are never good examples of smart rich men.

well you maybe right
He once had four cars but was still living in a rented apartment

I guess you see where I was going with my post

sunshineG:
well you maybe right
He once had four cars but was still living in a rented apartment

I guess you see where I was going with my post

I would never marry a man like that. Misplaced priorities...
Them full Lagos...

rheether:
Seriously who wants to date a broke guy? Do you even love yourself when you are broke? It's not our fault. Stick to your class.

Dear Rita.,

Let's hangout.

I'm not broke. I have a rented house in Bariga, I eat 3 meals a day; 1,1,1 (Garri and groundnut, Garri without, Garri and fish). I move around with the most trusted vehicle; legedis Benz.

Await your positive yes or negative yes.

Love Mika.

pocohantas:


I would never marry a man like that. Misplaced priorities...
Them full Lagos...

you are right oo
But some ladies will see all the bling bling
And start loving up ooo

They see niggas like me as fools

Anyway I pray I make better decisions, if I get his type of opportunities

Nice post bro..You write really well!

Double post.

Women marry up not down financially and age wise (studies have shown to prove this).


How many times will be this known to folks here?

Nobody wants be burdened unnecessarily, he or she,notwithstanding.

geronimoedeh1:
These broke ass ladies be rushing us lik almajiris...
Normally,broke ass ladies supposed to be dating only broke ass niggas...
they shud be boss ladies before looking for boss men...
that's why i always make sure i expand their vagina when ever i come in contact with ladies with that kind of mindset because i know they fall for me because of my money.....i already have a nice girl who loved me from when i was a broke ass nigga and I treat her like an angel now....only this year alone i have disvirgind 3 of those gold diggers and in all there mind now ,they got me.....
not all boss men are dumb....

Your post is damn hilarious...

Wow.... Thanks, the devil will love this. quote]

jamela:
op the problem is broke men always seem to be angry, it's impossible to please or cooperate with an angry person.

so unbroken guys are never angry?

When my great great grand father, told my great grand father that it was worthless to send women to school. He didn't listen. Whats the harm in trying was his reply. I liberate them all you want, their mind still will be enslave.

Fast forward to 2017..

All the education slot, job slot. And they still depend on us. Us that are more jobeless than they are.. I say they are program to depend on us. Shouldn't have wasted that education And job in the first place.

the problem with ladies these days is that the don't want to be productive and will always want guys that will spend on them.
that's why most girls end up as oloshos.
because even a with just a Lil money can easily brainwash them to get whatever they want from her.
who says a guy will remain broke forever?
and why do ladies feel that a guy should finance their well being.
but guys are becoming wiser. a guy could appear broke just to test a lady.
but most ladies will fall into this trap.
I don talk am ladies will continue be the weaker sex until they get sense.

pocohantas:


I would never marry a man like that. Misplaced priorities...
Them full Lagos...

you can't marry him?

But he fuvks you and your ilk on daily with the car showoffs

TINALETC3:
Op, u ar so right bt, I jst tank God I no Wat I wnt unlike most confused ladies out dere, even my mum cnt choose 4 me. My guy didn't even hv a bank account wen I met hm, he ws so cashless bt tank God 4 d level he is now, dere ar tins one shud luk up 2 first nt money

Dear....you're a jewel...
God bless you and your man

ladyF:
Ayam not understanding? So you are a broke girl and you dont want to date a broke guy like yourself? Who are you fooling?

And you think the guys that are well-to-do will want a liability as a partner?

lady F.....
always making sense since ages.....