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Kondomatic:
Well, I can see the angle you're coming from but I have a great female friend. We have been friends from nursery school, we are still friends and will forever be friends if God wills it.

I have never for one day considered dating her, she simply doesn't attract me that way and we each have boundaries that were purposely set to curtail temptations. It is in the mind bro.

I also have a friend, now married that most people thought we dated but we didn't. She told her husband about me and the guy sent me one big MacDowell on my 26th birthday. We both communicate on phone till date, I and him but the communication isn't regular.

I once made the mistake of dating a close friend because I thought we would flow well as lovers but it was a disaster, I learned then that so many genuine friendships with great potential have been ruined by dating and I assure you that it is never happening again.

kman?

Me, I've just been reading comments and laughing.

I have a male best friend, not my only one but the one I trust the most. The guy is like my brother, he has a girlfriend and we're friends too.

Boys are way better as friends (even tho my absolute besties are girls), no drama, no jealousy, peace of mind.

To each his own sha.....

Prec1ous:
I still stand by my view.

A guy and a girl cannot be friends.

It is either they have a past romantic history, living in present romance or building the ground work for future romance.

Let us stop deceiving ourselves, the only relationship they can have and I will be half assured is if they are business partners.

All the girls I have dated, they all called me friends and I LOVE YOU entered into the equation from nowhere. Next, we were frolicking under the sheets, so called friend.

This is a secret, the easiest way for a guy to get a girl is to play the friendship card, along the line just change the game by adding romance, checkmate, she is yours.

If you as a girl cannot get female friends, then there is something wrong about you as a person and your attitude.

Guy also have problems and fights but the only time a guy calls a girl friend is when his game to see her pant is not in the advance stage.

Girls beware, you so-called male friends if given the chance will sleep with you without even thinking twice. Except you are transgender or have leprosy.

It is not ethical, someone will get confused along the way.

This is also a precursor to rape in some cases. The day they will gang rape you, your eyes go clear.

This is a guy's secret, we all want to sleep with that beautiful so-called friends of ours.

So girls, keep deceiving yourself.

If your best friend is a boy and he is not hitting on you then:

-You may not be as attractive as you think.

-You have a bad personality and we know guys are tolerant and pussy no dey bite.

-You are being preyed on the till you are vulnerable, he is watching till he can launch. When I don't know, a man can wait if he is certain to conquer.

- You are transgender or blocked.

Your only trusted male friends are:
Husband
Father
Brothers
Sons

READ THIS: How TRUST is the new SCAM: Stop this blatant lies about TRUST!

Man, we must have been born by same mother. This is exactly my thoughts and experience. Spot on Man!

I am seen clearly in this context, I have three male friends and it's been awesome together. put me in the midst of ladies I'll be totally lost but I'm always free with my (few) male friends.
less betrayal
gossip
most men are logical,rather than being emotional like the women (some).
having them around has really help in grooming me logically and understanding the men's world.
most importantly, my parents understand my kind. my Lady friend is about 15years older than me,and she's cool though.

Greene66:
Any lady who has male friends is laying with those 'friends' or will one day do so or be raped by one of those 'friends'.

I pity ladies of today how gullible they are. No man is your friend. All your male friends imagine you unclad. Some even masturbate on your pics at home. They will mate with you the day they have the chance.

You are a liar. Guys tend to respect that lady that decided to be amongst them more than their fellow girls. I am still with one like that I ve not seen her pant. Don't disrespect people that confide in you.

All these ladies claiming they prefer male female friends because male friends don't gossip and betray...

Ask them if they gossip and betray.
They'll say NO!

Who then are the females gossiping and betraying?

Gerrarahere mehn!

99% of my frnds are guys,they all know my boyfrnd and i tell my boyfrnd abt them too,though he trust me but his always like a boy nd a girl can't be frnds just be careful...... girls will just be snitching upandan I will rather be with boys nd be called names than be with girls nd not be happy

Shiz a lesnian....or a bi

Wow, a very intelligent mature discussion, with no derailing and names calling right here in the romance section?? Am impressed, I should frequent this section a little bit more

fineboynl:
I have never seen her with other girls. It has always been boys. Let me use this example so you can understand.

8 boys happens to be friends and they are A,B,C,D,E,F,G and H.

First time you saw them together in gathering with the girl. she came with A and left with A. you then have this believe that she is dating A. though they all gist and laugh together like they know each other before.

Another day she came with C and B and left with C and B. But A is not in the gathering.

She became very close to C. You see them on special days that is unusual for non lovers, like Sundays or val day then you think it must definitely be C.

But somehow it looks like the closeness with C drops. she is now very closer to F then you just conclude that she is dating F.

Then you saw her with A yesterday but today with F.

Now you are confused and then make conclusion that she is not dating none of this guys but they are all just only friends.

All this guys are Friends and they all know each other. and she is very beautiful and intelligent. just that she just like Being around with guys. and move with the ones with cars that pick and drop her off. before you think she is prostitute no she is not. you always see them arguing and discussing intelligent topic of argument.

But I was thinking maybe because majority of girls are dull. So she cannot get a good intelligent discussion around girls. The only thing most girls know is boob, butt, and boy's. I might be wrong though.

Many gays start by only moving with members of the opposite sex. I don't know why. They have them as friends.

Eventually, they start sleeping with the same sex.

Why it happens, I cannot say.

What I am saying is the truth.

Prec1ous:
I still stand by my view.

A guy and a girl cannot be friends.

It is either they have a past romantic history, living in present romance or building the ground work for future romance.

Let us stop deceiving ourselves, the only relationship they can have and I will be half assured is if they are business partners.

All the girls I have dated, they all called me friends and I LOVE YOU entered into the equation from nowhere. Next, we were frolicking under the sheets, so called friend.

This is a secret, the easiest way for a guy to get a girl is to play the friendship card, along the line just change the game by adding romance, checkmate, she is yours.

If you as a girl cannot get female friends, then there is something wrong about you as a person and your attitude.

Guy also have problems and fights but the only time a guy calls a girl friend is when his game to see her pant is not in the advance stage.

Girls beware, you so-called male friends if given the chance will sleep with you without even thinking twice. Except you are transgender or have leprosy.

It is not ethical, someone will get confused along the way.

This is also a precursor to rape in some cases. The day they will gang rape you, your eyes go clear.

This is a guy's secret, we all want to sleep with that beautiful so-called friends of ours.

So girls, keep deceiving yourself.

If your best friend is a boy and he is not hitting on you then:

-You may not be as attractive as you think.

-You have a bad personality and we know guys are tolerant and pussy no dey bite.

-You are being preyed on the till you are vulnerable, he is watching till he can launch. When I don't know, a man can wait if he is certain to conquer.

- You are transgender or blocked.

Your only trusted male friends are:
Husband
Father
Brothers
Sons

READ THIS: How TRUST is the new SCAM: Stop this blatant lies about TRUST!

reading this.... More wisdom fall on you

Never been in any serious relationship before, just there for the panty. , longest relationship I had lasted for 3 weeks, so I got no time to watch who you flock with or whatever,

But on a serious note, if you ain't ready to marry a lady, let her live her life the way it pleases her

Prec1ous:
A guy will just end up stealing your from your boyfriend.

All the sacrifice he makes is for one ultimate goal.

If you are not offering anything in return, you are setting yourself up for harm.

stop sayin wat u dont know oga...nt all guys r lyk dat....it depends onn howw d frndship is okay....... There r som guys who r real frnds and not pretendin with an ulterior motive for sex......so stop generalizing

some wil even end up callin d guys bestie...#naso... abegii.... hapi new month

makydebbie:
Bro why are you doing this to my ladies nau.

serious am nt finding it funny anymore though is jst fem that has been hurt by my actions and till 2day they saw me as wot i dnt knw, By God's Grace Am A Changed Person

for me ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo...keeping female friends is like rearing chicken because one day you will surely chop her....lol........my bad...i don ova yahn.... my female friends na yoke i dey yoke ooo.. but i love chickens tho.

adajoe555:
I have only 2 female friends and the rest are male. I know how they behave and there is a limit to everything. Some guys use such opportunities to start something funny . me just being careful sha


Boo boo have said I should limit my friendship with guys. So I'm trying my best

Your boo boo is mumu....Limit abi cut them off totally.

Acidosis:
Carry go dear, nothing do you. I agree with your points 100%. A guy and a girl can NEVER be "best friends" without one or both parties getting something sexual or sensual as benefits.

Sometimes, it is not always for s. e. x... Some guys are so s€x starved, they can befriend some girls just so they could peep at her boobs, thighs or even sniff her panties.. While the girl would be somewhere forming "my best friend is a guy and nothing is attached" babe, nigga is somewhere sniffing your undies both day and night; tapping currents like his life depends on it".

guy your post yeye die....do guys do that for real....na wa o

fineboynl:
I have never seen her with other girls. It has always been boys. Let me use this example so you can understand.

8 boys happens to be friends and they are A,B,C,D,E,F,G and H.

First time you saw them together in gathering with the girl. she came with A and left with A. you then have this believe that she is dating A. though they all gist and laugh together like they know each other before.

Another day she came with C and B and left with C and B. But A is not in the gathering.

She became very close to C. You see them on special days that is unusual for non lovers, like Sundays or val day then you think it must definitely be C.

But somehow it looks like the closeness with C drops. she is now very closer to F then you just conclude that she is dating F.

Then you saw her with A yesterday but today with F.

Now you are confused and then make conclusion that she is not dating none of this guys but they are all just only friends.

All this guys are Friends and they all know each other. and she is very beautiful and intelligent. just that she just like Being around with guys. and move with the ones with cars that pick and drop her off. before you think she is prostitute no she is not. you always see them arguing and discussing intelligent topic of argument.

But I was thinking maybe because majority of girls are dull. So she cannot get a good intelligent discussion around girls. The only thing most girls know is boob, butt, and boy's. I might be wrong though.

how e tek concern you? why you dey use panadol for the girl headache. must you discuss her, guy go find job abeg.

Na abana she be

makydebbie:
I'm coming back to modify.
Oya I'm done cooking.

Op firstly, I'll tell you, you're not insecure in anyway. You're even smart not to over look it and see it as something normal.

Our nowadays ladies, will say girls do backstab, gossip and other shitty things. Truth is, most guys that are 'acting' nice are not so nice. Ladies! Wake up! They just want to fvck you and move on. There's nothing like guys are more caring than ladies. Of course they want your honeypot so why will they show their real colors? From friend, to bestie, to confidant, to friends with benefits without you knowing how you guys ended up there. Guys are smart, they'll take your excesses, they'll listen to your rant, they'll comfort you. My dear, it's all for the greater good. If you don't like female friends, then be on your own. It's not every boy on the street that is your male friend. Most of them will even see your actions as green light, but then, you're just nice to your 'friend'.

At the end, they just want to fvck you. Later we'll see thread that "all guys are the same". Everything starts from friendship, they'll start from there, when they're done destroying your pussy, you'll be wondering why nigga doesn't have your time again. You gave him the opportunity on a golden platter. Guys are very patient, they'll wait, take your rubbish, fvck, move on and tell their friends. I don talk my own.
Ladies, be wise. You no fit keep yam and goat together, something must happen.

I don create thread on it sef.
https://www.nairaland.com/4025368/friendship-opposite-sex#down

My best friend is a guy, we've been friends for seven years. He had a crush on me and all, but we're past that. These days, we're cool with each other.

Of course, we are not like two female best friends who share everything, but we have an understanding. No, he's not trying to get into my pants (he kuku cannot even reach), I guess it all boils down to what you bring to the table. Some people are too valuable for a roll in the sack, it's not because it is not considered, but even more than that one-ten minutes of pleasure, you think of the value said person brings and you're like, "is it worth it?"

I'm not saying you are wrong, but to every genral rule, there are exceptions. I dunno about OP's example as far as multiple guys go, that should be a cause for concern in my opinion.

Prec1ous:
You are very funny, you are actually the one not thinking.

If we go back to ask you so called male friends, 90percent regret not sleeping with you. Just try it.

The fact that they respected you enough or mis-timed there strategy towards you does not rule out the truth.

And you are not special, you must have been too unattractive or worthless for them to bother.

A guy is telling you something about majority of guys, you are here countering with female oriented arguments and what you like.

You are married right?

I guess you still keep male friends, continue.

You will swallow bone soon

Gbam!!!!
Me I can't imagine keeping a babe as my best friend ooo. E no work.
The only way a guy and a babe can be besties without se.x somewhere in the plans is when the babe is bringing something else to the friendship table....... Cash, connections, academic intelligence, .............etc............ Something the guy values highly enough to forget ya.nshing her.

Rorachy:
I don't blame her, being friends with guys is a lot easier and quarrel-free, girls and their wahala too much.

Betrayal, gossip, backstabbing, boyfriend snatching, not every girl can stand it from their fellow girls.

If my ex should tell you he's my friend, it simply means they've done 3 rounds

Stellie:
stop sayin wat u dont know oga...nt all guys r lyk dat....it depends onn howw d frndship is okay....... There r som guys who r real frnds and not pretendin with an ulterior motive for sex......so stop generalizing

na lie.
Except the guy is so broke that he does not give u anything, in fact, na u sef dey spend. The guy will therefore behave in order to keep taking the freebies. Any guy who spends on u without ur reciprocation is nursing ambitions. Take it or leave it. Be wise, we guys are warning u.

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Oselu28:
99% of my frnds are guys,they all know my boyfrnd and i tell my boyfrnd abt them too,though he trust me but his always like a boy nd a girl can't be frnds just be careful...... girls will just be snitching upandan I will rather be with boys nd be called names than be with girls nd not be happy

ur saving grace is that dey know ur boyfriend. Just don't go cry to one of them the day u break up with ur boyfriend because is u do, jungle don mature for the kill.

Prec1ous:
I still stand by my view.

A guy and a girl cannot be friends.

It is either they have a past romantic history, living in present romance or building the ground work for future romance.

Let us stop deceiving ourselves, the only relationship they can have and I will be half assured is if they are business partners.

All the girls I have dated, they all called me friends and I LOVE YOU entered into the equation from nowhere. Next, we were frolicking under the sheets, so called friend.

This is a secret, the easiest way for a guy to get a girl is to play the friendship card, along the line just change the game by adding romance, checkmate, she is yours.

If you as a girl cannot get female friends, then there is something wrong about you as a person and your attitude.

Guy also have problems and fights but the only time a guy calls a girl friend is when his game to see her pant is not in the advance stage.

Girls beware, you so-called male friends if given the chance will sleep with you without even thinking twice. Except you are transgender or have leprosy.

It is not ethical, someone will get confused along the way.

This is also a precursor to rape in some cases. The day they will gang rape you, your eyes go clear.

This is a guy's secret, we all want to sleep with that beautiful so-called friends of ours.

So girls, keep deceiving yourself.

If your best friend is a boy and he is not hitting on you then:

-You may not be as attractive as you think.

-You have a bad personality and we know guys are tolerant and pussy no dey bite.

-You are being preyed on the till you are vulnerable, he is watching till he can launch. When I don't know, a man can wait if he is certain to conquer.

- You are transgender or blocked.

Your only trusted male friends are:
Husband
Father
Brothers
Sons

READ THIS: How TRUST is the new SCAM: Stop this blatant lies about TRUST!

bro my name Na ADOYii Abraham Kelvin from UniJOS..
this your post is the sweetest Nd educated piece I have read on nairaland.. I wanna be a friend.. no fagging bro. 08038036200..

makydebbie:
I'm coming back to modify.
Oya I'm done cooking.

Op firstly, I'll tell you, you're not insecure in anyway. You're even smart not to over look it and see it as something normal.

Our nowadays ladies, will say girls do backstab, gossip and other shitty things. Truth is, most guys that are 'acting' nice are not so nice. Ladies! Wake up! They just want to fvck you and move on. There's nothing like guys are more caring than ladies. Of course they want your honeypot so why will they show their real colors? From friend, to bestie, to confidant, to friends with benefits without you knowing how you guys ended up there. Guys are smart, they'll take your excesses, they'll listen to your rant, they'll comfort you. My dear, it's all for the greater good. If you don't like female friends, then be on your own. It's not every boy on the street that is your male friend. Most of them will even see your actions as green light, but then, you're just nice to your 'friend'.

At the end, they just want to fvck you. Later we'll see thread that "all guys are the same". Everything starts from friendship, they'll start from there, when they're done destroying your pussy, you'll be wondering why nigga doesn't have your time again. You gave him the opportunity on a golden platter. Guys are very patient, they'll wait, take your rubbish, fvck, move on and tell their friends. I don talk my own.
Ladies, be wise. You no fit keep yam and goat together, something must happen.

I don create thread on it sef.
https://www.nairaland.com/4025368/friendship-opposite-sex#down

Correct babe

" Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship." Oscar wilde

Just that all the girls says having male frnds never hurt them are lying..
Most of them have been raped repeatedly.
Gotten so many sexual advances from this so called male frnds..
End up having so many sexual partners.

tosyne2much:
It's pathetic to think that every guy wants to sleep with any lady her refers to her "female friend". It's even degrading to think that every guy's life revolves around pussy and boobs

Most ladies who comment on this thread really need to grow up. I mean where do they all meet these guys who claim to be their friends but are only nursing the idea of getting them laid ?

Their hypothesis about friendship is shallow and delusional in my own opinion

I wonder.

A couple my female friends met their hubbies through me. My buddies that the girls knew through me. These are very fine girls too. But I never for once considered any romance with them. Do not ruin a beautiful innocent friendship with love matter that fundamentally changes the equation & chemistry.

If you have a long enduring good friendship with a girl, do not bring romance in ever. Unless you were always "codedly" in love with her and were only bidding your time.

Remember that your dear female friend might have one or two aspects that you do not find attractive in a "woman". It can be her attitude towards money, lack of punctuality, etc. But does not diminish your "agape love" for her. Perhaps because she has many other endearing aspects or you just simply like her.

Not every "fine" girl is automatically romantically attractive. I found this out as a student when one had female student friends from across the world. Different attitudes, colours, shapes & sizes. You learn to crystallize what really matter to you in a woman.

I know many women with mostly male friends. For many reasons. Many claim that male friendship has far less drama, envy,bitching, hypocrisy but more honesty, genuine assistance & support, etc.

Growing up, I also had roughly more female friends than male friends. Until most got married. Knowing that most men would consider their their wives being close to a guy as unpalatable, I gradually kept my distance from those married female friends.

Which led to some of those female friends questioning whether I was unhappy that they are now married. I just try to explain that I do not want to cause any unnecessary issues in their homes just by being too available.

sunshineG:
She wasn't specific because she didn't state the type of good guys she was referring to but instead she used the word "most" in her post

yes there is no full proof sign and yes ladies that treat nice guys badly are also wrong

But don't you think the mentality of ladies who treat nice guys badly is similar to what she wrote in her post

Don't you think those ladies believe those guys are nice because of the honey pot?

Do you think it is fair to the genuine nice guys ? Since there is no way of diff them from "bad" good guys

Because frankly I beginning to think most ladies prefer snobbish and proud guys

I don't get u. Except on religious grounds, can u be genuinely and totally nice to someone without expecting something in return? (Must not be sex ooo) cud be cash, companionship, connections, knowledge sharing and knowledge passing, mentorship etc.
If a girl is giving u neither of this and u remain nice, bro u are aiming for the honeypot.

NB. U will notice I struck out companionship, cos I don't even understand how I can enjoy continuously the companionship of a girl, when we hardly have similar interests. Except she is a tomboy, in which case I will find her amusing.