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Good day fellas...i came here to give God all the glory first for saving my relationship of 6yrs + wth my heartrob which was abt to crash...

I was here to seek counsel from u gyz few days back when the tension was really just getting underway.The truth is I held back sm truths, or shud i say I hadnt realised dem den, I will say dem now and give u gyz a picture of the currenr situation and den advise...

I noticed i wasnt too impressed wth many of the comments given, just few i culd relate wth.

Kk fyn, i caused it all.everything was my fault.She wasnr givin me enof time, she pulled off greatly(exams period) i didnr think that was enof reson, cos i mean shes my entire world.

So i got irritable, suspicious, rude, and she unleased her other side in me...(men takia)no mata how good ue woman is, she has a beast inside, that can only be unleased by u.

I had neva seen her in that state, this continued even long after exams, she began to give me monosyllables, dont call, i call like foreva b4 a respns, there was even a day i said i love u and she brilliantly ignored, i then brot her attension to it and guess what am hearing "ooh prob it skipped my mind"


That made me more intense, i began thinkn so loudly, i called oo, tired to settle, but we kept on fighting..til d day she made a statement on the last fall out and I,in my unbalanced emotional state, made a rash statement

I said,its ova and hung the call.apparenrly what i feared was coming on me....but then i tot i will be able to bare the repercussion and av her come plead if she was still interested in me, cos at that time ,i was already feeling like a trash, insecured and all.

Bur den, my wildest suprise came the following day when she replied and said, shey u say its ova, no p den paraphrasing her...i was like , seriosly...

Days began to roll in and out,and we werenr talkn.for the first time in 6yrs 24 hours passd without a word from her, i was loosing it slowly...i lost my peace, joy,apetite, as the break up was begining to look real..


Then, I tot so does it mean she doesn really care, six yrs, i said its ova and she says kk, just like that, without any attempt to alist salvage the relationship.

Anywz, i took it to God in prayers and i was humbled.I on the 4th day, sent in a msg of apology , retracting my statements and all.and promising to change, to be more loving, caring ,patient, understanding etc as this were the issues she mentioned i was havn .

She took like foreva to reply.....howeva before she replied, i wenr to God again, i was like baba God , am coming to u as a fada to son, can we tlk. .not the normal conventional way.and i said.God, av apologized to her, once she sees this msg, let her reply be what u want. If this relatnship is good fr us, let her find space to forgive me and we reunite, if not no need, if the later is the case I was already programed in my mind to bare the loss....

If she saw my apology and still maintained a no no decision,there and den i no, she was actualy done wrh me and i helped her wth it...like Merlin magic, i was hardly done talkn to God o when she came online after hours i had sent in the msg

I kept apologizing again, til she spoke and said, i av already forgivn u.i was like when, how..we werent talkn ,etcc....and she opened up to say I really hurt her...at that point i realzed how weak i was emotionaly....i sha stil aplogized, it wasnt few seconds away she mentioned my name and said she loves me...

That gave a soothing feeling to all the heartpains i had been living wth.it wsnt far frm then that i spoke to her extensively, reasuuring her of my love and all....all this happened ystday. We spoke for so long again today, i delibrately went into future plans to decipher her heart to see if her plans and goals are still in sync wth mine which we did...alis to secure my investment on her

We had a great soothing time talkn tonyy...
Lessons av learnt

That i need to be more commited to keeping the conversation lines open, calls, text , vedio, irrespective of my tight schedules or cost

A womans love is like GIGO, garbage in, garbage our. If u wnna see a womn love u, just show her love first and if u want her other side unleashed on u, start by showing it ursef first

Majority of ou fears are foundless. All the people saying shes already been bleeped ,etc i had the fears too mysef, but wen i reflected on who i had non ova d yrs, i culd vouch fr her. Trust is essential fr any relnshp

the God facttor, obviously frm my story , u culd see how he helped smoothen the rooof edges wen e was called upon..

An decided am not going to build my life around any one again, i didnt like the way i felt when she wasnr there, i felt like a walkn corpse....i will still love and stay commited, bur i need to build support systems for mysef .

Some timed a lady can be chocked wth love, she needs space ...

I av come to share my near break up exp so maybe someone culd learn....not evry break up is because someone cheated or smone isnr loving anymore, it culd just be "ego". Imagine if i didnr go plead wth her, thats how i wud av missed out.


Kk gyz, any piece of adice to me on the best way forward will be most appreciated.u gyz will be among d first to see pre-wedding pic soon God willn.. .
So am listening..
Thanks and Good mornin.

Ok

I doubt this relationship will work..
I see a man fighting alone for his Relationship, idolizing a girl
you went to plead with her and u guys made up but the question is till when?
they are no guarantees ..

My dear, relationships at times can get so frustrating especially when you ain't too sure of your partner's feelings for you. Anyways, just keep loving her (ladies appreciate being loved, cared for and pampered though she should reciprocate the love and care as well) and keep praying for the relationship (I do that for mine especially when I'm troubled).

Destinyy22:
My dear, relationships at times can get so frustrating especially when you ain't too sure of your partner's feelings for you. Anyways, just keep loving her (ladies appreciate being loved, cared for and pampered though she should reciprocate the love and care as well) and keep praying for the relationship (I do that for mine especially when I'm troubled).

Thanks dear...well noted

eeewise:
I doubt this relationship will work..
I see a man fighting alone for his Relationship, idolizing a girl
you went to plead with her and u guys made up but the question is till when?
they are no guarantees ..

Oga...y nt keep ur doubts to ursef...Did u read the part i said she expressed her how hurt she was by my rash statements.No lady gives an excuse to break up if they really want to, dats if they even tell u.

And i rightly said to affirm that we were truly bak, i jad to revisit her future plans , mine, the relationship and see if they re still in allignment. Doubt u saw that....

Idolizn her, call it whTeva u can, it tells u the quality of the lady in question....

Anywz, thanks fr commentin....
U shud be invited fr the wddding wen its official to clear ur doubts Mr thomas...

Bro, I am happy you made up with her its always an amazing feeling having your love back.

But I don't think calling eeewise a Thomas and all is worth it. You asked for advise and he gave his share of it. No matter how you try to make irrelevant of his opinion, he is right in his own way and believe me no matter how you've hurt your girlfriend, coming together takes two people to happen.

You hurt her with your reaction, fine, your fault. She said something that led to your reaction, her fault. Believe it or not the urge to get back should have being mutual instead of you begging, praying and all.

Believe it or not, deep down you still wish she showed some level of eagerness to get back instead of calling your bluff.

#shalom

Risky venture.

I think she played you brother.

You just gave up your lead.

PS: I might edit this later

I know of girls who decided to loose their virginity against their will in order to hold on to the ones they love.
At Least he said he expected her to come begging Instead she called him bluf
well.....