send her contact,i wil talk to her on your behalf

Stop being a weakling and let her go, she doesn't know how to tell you, so attitude is what she can give until you get the message that It's OVER...

Love hard but don't show hard...

VargasVee:
We've said it and keep saying it still.

It's okay to be in love but don't ever make it look like you'd die off without your partner

The average human would want to exploit it to their advantage. You can't help it, it's nature.

Nobody wakes up to utter words like "YOU'RE NOT CARING ENOUGH FOR ME"

Don't ever force yourself on someone. Sometimes all a man needs is to shed the old skin so as to give way to a better one.

True.

@OP

The reason why you're this much frightened and drained over her actions and inaction - of which she's entitled to - is because you didn't lay your principle before venturing into dating. Don't always allow anyone the opportunity to either belittle or undervalue you when you haven't disrespected yourself or such other party. And always strive to be on the offensive side of life instead of the defense side of life. . . Although, it's a heavy task to be on this leanings but it worth it.

You can adopt my simple principle:

Reciprocity of goodness in all forms - not necessarily in equal measures - isn't negotiable. With this principle, I haven't experienced heartbreak from any lady before. For one, I'm never afraid of sticking out my neck fully for any cause I believe in, yet, I play no sycophancy for anyone or anything. Become a no-nonsense guy not a bad guy or a servile one as you are currently. Reciprocity of goodness is the soul of a healthy relationship.

Besides, the very moment you tell yourself that no human being is indispensable in your life and vice versa, the sooner you'll become emancipated from the grip of manipulators and outright evil people around you, whose main source of happiness is when they drained you emotionally and otherwise.

FutureLeader00:

Yes bro, this is my first relationship and am scared of heartache, my stduies will suffer because am so engrossed with her

When she told you she was sick on Saturday and couldn't go out. I guess you didn't care after that. or she expect you to come to her house since you guys planned it already.

Just give her some time, I'm sure she will soon come around.
You can send a text message to apologize again by tomorrow. Or visit her in person.

Use those items you bought for her

Ok

The fault oh Brutus is not in our stars, it is in us because we are weaklings

SuperSuave:
I swear down, I can never be this soft for a lady. See this guy calling, texting, begging her as if his life and hers have been entwined. What do you stand to gain out of all this wahala wey you put yourself? pūssy or something else? or has her father promise you a secured future? I just don't understand why you can't move on with your life guy.

To imagine you are a fresher in school dey vex me sef, you have so many things ahead of you in life yet you're so worked up on girl issue, I weak for you I swear.

He's even greeting her formally as in "good afternoon sweetheart", na this one burst my head

FutureLeader00:
Let me not bother you with too much stories, I will keep it short and concise.

My girlfriend has been acting strange lately and I couldn't find the reason why she's doing so. We started dating last year while I was still looking for admission, things has been going smoothly for us not until after ileya festival.

Before then, she celebrated her birthday on the 23rd of August this year had to sent a message to wish her, although I was around for ileya holiday as we both live in ibadan but am schooling in osun state.
She came to visit me on ileya festival(friday) which we talk extensively about her birthday, we both discuss on how to celebrate her birthday since I wasn't around then so we resorted to go to the cinema and have some few drinks.

Also, I promised to get her some women undies as a gifts before I left for school.

I ought to have been in school by now because the festive holiday has come and gone but have told her that I would love to spend some days with her before I leave. Before she left my house of friday I asked where she will be for the weekend, she told me she won't be around on saturday but sunday will be okay so I made up my mind to visit her on sunday and use the opportunity to see her mom and sibling.

I called on saturday to check on her but she inform me that she couldn't go out due to headache, the following day which was sunday I called her severally she didn't pick my call neither return all the messages I sent to her not until yesterday when she picked and told me that she intentionally not to pick my call because I wasn't caring enough for her. Asjed her what exactly have I done wrong, she said I didn't care for her meanwhile have been calling since sunday just to check on her but she didn't pick my call, mehn I was shocked!!.

As a gentle guy wey I be I asked for frogiveness and repeatedly told her "I'm very sorry" countless of time she cut off the line on three occassion, I was very furious by her action yet I keep cool had to call her once again she told me there's nothing she wants to discuss with me anymore except what she just did.

Till now, she hasn't pick all call neither reply my messages.

Now, have bought those things I promise to get her like pads, panties, bra, bum-short, and those girly things I even sent a text to inform her that have gotten her my promises she didn't reply me.

Pls I need your advice on how to go about this because it making me so sad.

below is the screenshot of my text messages I sent her
Help me to move it to the front page

guy you never get girlfriend, she is not your girlfriend, stop mumuing yourself before it becomes too late

guy it happen to me too.someone else has taken ur position.leave her after d guy is done with her she will come back begging

U can wear d panties,wear d bra and use d pad.lol

Use your allowance for jamboree my dear, uru di ya

Bro life is short dump her ass you'd thank me later

FutureLeader00:

Yes bro, this is my first relationship and am scared of heartache, my stduies will suffer because am so engrossed with her

and those your studies must suffer in a miserable condition.you are a real future mutula

Bros take an jeje...Na ur first relationship b dis....
If she value u, she kw go form for u one day
And face ur sch u have a tough years ahead of uoo
If Na private University u have a sweetness year ahead of u
But if Na state or federal University, Oga first leave this woman o

Come let's date I won't snub you

FutureLeader00:

Yes bro, this is my first relationship and am scared of heartache, my stduies will suffer because am so engrossed with her

You should be flogged to stupor!

What nonsense!!

Come on, face your studies!!!

mtcheeeew

Use your head, stop being a weakling

abels:
guy you never get girlfriend, she is not your girlfriend, stop mumuing yourself before it becomes too late

No b lie

FutureLeader00:

Yes bro, this is my first relationship and am scared of heartache, my stduies will suffer because am so engrossed with her

Your study will suffer cos your girl refused to pick your call? Omg, which kind of pikin be this God.just tell your Parent what you wrote here I think there reply might suite you...omoradarada. Sorry for my harsh words

Guy, your mates are using Samsung and IPhones. . .you still dey use Blackberry . . .


Your mates are buying girls new phones and Ipads. . .you dey buy girls underwear and pads. . .

. . .and you want her to take you seriously?

Oga, na school u dey....... face your book. This things don't help at all.

just logged into my 2go account now... Mehn!!! grass has covered everywhere ooo.. Go and check urs,u might kill snake inside

FutureLeader00:

Yes bro, this is my first relationship and am scared of heartache, my stduies will suffer because am so engrossed with her

Bros we don't want someone like you to lead Nigeria in the future. Being gentle man doesn't mean you shouldn't know when to use the word "sorry".

That your babe is seeing some dude that's showing or giving her something new that you have never done to her. Stop texting or calling her, give her all the space she want. If you are too worried about her well being. Reach her friends or family to ask if she's doing okay.

Give her the space and prepare to move on with your own life, when she comes back be ready to "HIT & RUN" my 2 cent

dingbang:
You are a sissy

Hey mate, u don't don't say that,this is a guy pouring his issues out...

OP, e be like say yourmumu neva do abi?

A day is coming when you will look at this write - up and shake your head you were once a sissy and mugu. You are too soft for my liking and you will remain a boy irrespective of your age if care is not taken.

Just stop the rubbish of texting and calling her. Haba na dude! focus on your studies to get a good grade. Forget about the premature relationship you are in now as whether u like it or not, your immature girlfriend would still leave u.

Shebi she dey do shakara now! By the time when she clock 30, she go dey open useless thread up and down quote "pocohantas" to support her yeye view on men. The time go soon knack. Na small e remain!

SuperSuave:
I swear down, I can never be this soft for a lady. See this guy calling, texting, begging her as if his life and hers have been entwined. What do you stand to gain out of all this wahala wey you put yourself? pūssy or something else? or has her father promise you a secured future? I just don't understand why you can't move on with your life guy.

To imagine you are a fresher in school dey vex me sef, you have so many things ahead of you in life yet you're so worked up on girl issue, I weak for you I swear.

easy bro he's just a naive boy inlove he will learn

ikp120:
A typical pussy nigga!

You have handed over your balls to her, now she is controlling you by the balls.

She was at her real boyfriend's place when you were calling that day. She obviously slept over. All the proof you need are inside her phone.


Just delete everything about her. Don't call her again or even text her. If she call, DO NOT pick. DO NOT chat with her or reply her texts.

Next time, DO NOT ever tell a girl that you love her. DO NOT ever apologise to a girlfriend. It's all a game to them so you should be sharp enough to spot her moves and beat her to it, and grab and control her by the pussy (just the way they grab and control pussy niggas by the balls).

Girls know how to play this game very well but the guys who should have sense are super stupid!

She told you that you're not caring enough in order to shoot the ball into your court ( unconsciously or consciously using reverse psychology on you). Instead of you to be angry with her, you will now be apologising to her.

Use your head! Girls are not complex! It's pussy niggas that are very very stupid and naive!

That's so wrong an advice. Well, there are kind of girls, guys like you date.

And your username is futureleader? Indeed. I hope you apply this heartache her absence will breed to your education?

I think the comments so far are in line. And for the heartache, you've not seen anything yet. The world is hard. Your heart will be broken and broken and... you get my point.

Never knew Nairaland has been overtaken by kids. No wonder the childish and plain senseless comments from most commentators. Imagine what is top-most on the mind of this young boy, a University fresher. Not how to focus on his academics and build a good CGPA or how to become a better person in life, but how a girl is snubbing him. I really pity for the future of this country having these types as the next generation.