MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

You can share your experience for others to learn.

Dem no dey telli person. Samankwe !

She won't leave because she hates you. She will leave just to play bad girl.

The world today likes taking advantage of good deeds..

Daeylar:


To me, she spoiling people's mind,
I never said you should give without emotions attached, I said give because you want to, because it's what you want to do. Not because you were cajoled or manipulated, because then you may feel resentful



I understand this that's why I said in my first sentence know who you are giving to

you can't know people..people will show you what they want you to see...a girl will pretend to like you because she knows you are sponsoring her education,once she is through and has a good job..she will show you herself.. We can't read peoples mind...prevention is better than cure

MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

You can share your experience for others to learn.

I totally get ur point. However, I don't see anything wrong in helping someone 'simply because you can' (no strings attached). Who knows, he/she might be in a position to help you or yours in future.

And even if it doesn't happen exactly that way, you still enjoy a feeling of satisfaction knowing that you have added value to someone. Besides sef, what goes around comes around. I'm a living proof of that statement.

babyfaceafrica:
you can't know people..people will show you what they want you to see...a girl will pretend to like you because she knows you are sponsoring her education,once she is through and has a good job..she will show you herself.. We can't read peoples mind...prevention is better than cure

I meant know the person before you start giving or show any intention of giving, before you start carrying yourself as someone who can feed everyone in nigeria,
Take time to observe and then give only because you want to.

babyfaceafrica:
you can't know people..people will show you what they want you to see...a girl will pretend to like you because she knows you are sponsoring her education,once she is through and has a good job..she will show you herself.. We can't read peoples mind...prevention is better than cure

Would I be stupid to grant you one wish (assuming I have the means) simply because I can?
NB- I don't and may never know you in person.

MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

You can share your experience for others to learn.

What if I decide to sponsor the girl just for the sake of it? No strings attached. What then?

Kaycee7:
What if I decide to sponsor the girl just for the sake of it? No strings attached. What then?

that is different.. What OP is insinuating is that gf/bf issues...where an uneducated or semi-educated man sponaoeea in gf to school with the impression and hope that they will get married,when when she finish ,only for the gal to dumb his sorry ass,when she is through..these things happen

Well said miss

babyfaceafrica:
that is different.. What OP is insinuating is that gf/bf issues...where an uneducated or semi-educated man sponaoeea in gf to school with the impression and hope that they will get married,when when she finish ,only for the gal to dumb his sorry ass,when she is through..these things happen

Op didn't insinuate that the post was for uneducated or semi-educated men.
IMO, whoever you are, "buying" a wife isn't a wise decision these days. These aren't the days when women just came into a house to do the bidding of the man. A girl who dumped you at the end is better than the one who married you and ends up making your life uncomfortable. Marriage should be for love and not a way of showing gratitude

illuminated93:
If I do anything for my gf or anyone,it's not really because I owe such person a duty or something, it's just because I'm the bigger person,and if I don't like,I won't do,no matter the noise.I don't do things for people because I expect a payback,that's a poverty mindset. But the idea is this, never allow emotional blackmail as a way of getting you to do stuffs

@illuminated93 :You are wrong bro. Everyone ,even God expects something from you in return for what he's done for us..especially when that person is your gf,you'd naturally expect a payback except for the fact that u chose to make a decision not to get along with her later..because you are emotionally attached,it pains u more. So,I strongly agree with Misscokie

You have an awakened mind.

alexialin:








God bless you for being a helper

Men like you, by the time your blessings start pouring in like water, the same Nigerians will say u are doing money rituals.
One thing Nigerian always forget is this.

God always goes over board to bless givers . Even if God forbid, she doesn't marry you.
Later u will end up with someone better, finer and a complete angel than her.
And Thats one secret in life and success

Kaycee7:
Op didn't insinuate that the post was for uneducated or semi-educated men.
IMO, whoever you are, "buying" a wife isn't a wise decision these days. These aren't the days when women just came into a house to do the bidding of the man. A girl who dumped you at the end is better than the one who married you and ends up making your life uncomfortable. Marriage should be for love and not a way of showing gratitude

love..lmao

freddywells81:


@illuminated93 :You are wrong bro. Everyone ,even God expects something from you in return for what he's done for us..especially when that person is your gf,you'd naturally expect a payback except for the fact that u chose to make a decision not to get along with her later..because you are emotionally attached,it pains u more. So,I strongly agree with Misscokie

After reading his reply, I realized that he did not understand, and i couldn't have explained better than you did.

Kaycee7:
What if I decide to sponsor the girl just for the sake of it? No strings attached. What then?

You will attach some things later. But, still yet, don't. Show that compassion to your family.

emorse:

I totally get ur point. However, I don't see anything wrong in helping someone 'simply because you can' (no strings attached). Who knows, he/she might be in a position to help you or yours in future.

And even if it doesn't happen exactly that way, you still enjoy a feeling of satisfaction knowing that you have added value to someone. Besides sef, what goes around comes around. I'm a living proof of that statement.

Why is every body trying to convince themselves that they can help a girl without any motives?. Anyway, if the girl is your GF, please don't waste your resources on her.

emorse:

I totally get ur point. However, I don't see anything wrong in helping someone 'simply because you can' (no strings attached). Who knows, he/she might be in a position to help you or yours in future.

And even if it doesn't happen exactly that way, you still enjoy a feeling of satisfaction knowing that you have added value to someone. Besides sef, what goes around comes around. I'm a living proof of that statement.

Why is every body trying to convince themselves that they can help a girl without any motives?. Anyway, if the girl is your GF, please don't waste your resources on her.

400billionman:


Dem no dey telli person. Samankwe !

She won't leave because she hates you. She will leave just to play bad girl.

The world today likes taking advantage of good deeds..

I have a friend, who made same mistake. He regrets doing what he did for the girl, I can't just help, but to console him. Although i warned him .

OrestesDante:


Sure

good.

Sierusvirus:


You are right. Some guys here will be saying everything to justify their mistakes and same guys will feel bitter, heart broken and start lamenting.
Even if I have the money I can never do it rather take the money to the homeless. Acquiring more knowledge is not a waste on myself, so I will work and invest the money to acquire more knowledge in order to meet high class of people in this world.

It's something I personally known that I can never in my entire life do.
That means the girl is not in my pedigree if she assumes that i will pay the bills, because I can't even date a girl below my pedigree ( my police in life) and has being working for me .
Can't say or lament that a girl did sure to me since I started receiving fresh air given by God Almighty.

Sometimes people prefer to act blind when they see the truth.

MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

You can share your experience for others to learn.

No objections.

MissCokie:
Why is every body trying to convince themselves that they can help a girl without any motives?. Anyway, if the girl is your GF, please don't waste your resources on her.

Hahahaha! I'm not trying to convince myself. Its something I've done severally (in my own little way). Unfortunately, I can't prove it cos I'd be calling them out - which would be very rude.

Madam, leave people who want to help jare. They might be saving lives. Just advise them to be careful and not have too many expectations. Enjoy!!!!

We have all done some crazy stuff in the past for love. I recall spending my monthly allowance in school on a girl i was madly in love with, thinking that that would please her and make her happy. But i was dead wrong. What i got in return was a girl who was always showing attitude issue. At a point she wanted to turn me to full-time ATM, that was when i had to borrow some sense and quit the relationship. Since then i drew the conclusion that giving gifts does not make girls happy. So, i won't advice any guy to train a girl he has love affairs with in school. That will not make her see you differently from other guys. You'll only end up with heartbreaks when she dumps you and falls cheaply for another dude.

Billyonaire:


If you must sponsor a girl's education, then do it out of charity. Do not do it cos you want to marry her and keep her for yourself. Except you have upgraded yourself or are upgrading your standard beyond the standard you provide for the lady, she will leave you. Even if she is the good-girl type that will not leave you, then it will be an unhappy union except you are rich. This is the truth and the fault is not from the lady.

We grow daily in life and as we grow, birds of the same feather naturally flock together. A lady can not be reasoning in terms of second order equation and you are talking about arithmetic all the time. It will be an unhappy union. So, it is best for people to do these things out of charity not because of your need to develop her to your taste.

Let's face it, even if you are educated and you fall in love with a not-so-educated lady, you were connecting with her on the soul level and now you are developing her mental level, which will in turn effect positive resonance on her soul level. Her solar energy will certainly become higher than yours except you are also developing yourself materially, in which case you can use that to manipulate her into submission.

Look at life on those three levels and you have a perfect union. Stability in marriages and relationship must be on these 3 levels if not, you can own the body, but the mind is with someone else. You can own the mind and the body belongs to someone else. You can own the mind and the body, and he/she meets a soul mate. At the soul level, sex is great but the three levels must equate each other for marriages to stay as perfect union.

Train a lady on charity or make sure you are training her to meet your level on all three angles. The genesis of the crisis of unions are efects of imbalances on these three facets.

Peace and Love to you all.

Even if you're sponsoring her out of charity, do not in anyway expect any favor from her, don't attach any emotions, because you would be disappointed when the time for action comes, and she's not present to answer the call.

emorse:

Hahahaha! I'm not trying to convince myself. Its something I've done severally (in my own little way). Unfortunately, I can't prove it cos I'd be calling them out - which would be very rude.

Madam, leave people who want to help jare. They might be saving lives. Just advise them to be careful and not have too many expectations. Enjoy!!!!

okay. I've heard you. Its feels good most times, when you're helping someone just for charity sake.

MissCokie:


Even if you're sponsoring her out of charity, do not in anyway expect any favor from her, don't attach any emotions, because you would be disappointed when the time for action comes, and she's not present to answer the call.

GBAM!!!!!! DAZZALL!

Jman06:
We have all done some crazy stuff in the past for love. I recall spending my monthly allowance in school on a girl i was madly in love with, thinking that that would please her and make her happy. But i was dead wrong. What i got in return was a girl who was always showing attitude issue. At a point she wanted to turn me to full-time ATM, that was when i had to borrow some sense and quit the relationship. Since then i drew the conclusion that giving gifts does not make girls happy. So, i won't advice any guy to train a girl he has love affairs with in school. That will not make her see you differently from other guys. You'll only end up with heartbreaks when she dumps you and falls cheaply for another dude.

Thanks for sharing. Now imagine i was advising you back then, not to sponsor her, I am sure you would hate me right?.

emorse:


GBAM!!!!!! DAZZALL!

DAZZALL

MissCokie:


okay. I've heard you. Its feels good most times, when you're helping someone just for charity sake.

I swear nothing beats that feeling. Its like drinking your favourite beer with your favourite plate of pepper soup, at your favourite bar, watching your favourite team beating their arch rivals at the champions league final. Chai!! lol.

MissCokie:


Thanks for sharing. Now imagine i was advising you back then, not to sponsor her, I am sure you would hate me right?.

I might not have taken your advice, but i won't hate you.

emorse:

I swear nothing beats that feeling. Its like drinking your favourite beer with your favourite plate of pepper soup, at your favourite bar, watching your favourite team beating their arch rivals at the champions league final. Chai!! lol.

But don't allow your favourite heart to fall in lust with that favourite girl, in order to avoid a favourite suicide, in your favourite grave. Such feelings.

Jman06:
I might not have taken your advice, but i won't hate you.

Yeah, because you would, i was trying to sow the seed of discord?. Such is life.

hmm