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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Jman06(m): 2:19pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
The op is not talking about charity. That's a different kettle of fish. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Jman06(m): 2:21pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
MissCokie:Yeah |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by ICEMAN(m): 2:25pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
Miss Cokie is EXTREMELY correct. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Kaycee7(m): 2:28pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
MissCokie:And if my family doesn't need the money? |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Kaycee7(m): 2:30pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
babyfaceafrica:And what's so funny? |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Kaycee7(m): 2:30pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
Jman06:That's the thing. You spent to please her. You can't buy someone's affections. You presented yourself as an ATM & she took the opportunity. You share some of the blame 1 Like |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Nobody: 2:53pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
illuminated93: Yes I do very well. I know how God has blessed me financially, in all the efforts have wasted on exs. And I thank God the exs were not meant for me, they carry their wahala and deceits go. As an ungrateful one leaves, thinking he has played a smart move on me, not knowing he has even saved me from a disastrous and deceitful marriage if I had gone ahead with the whole fiasco. And me, I can't stay with a deceitful human being, how much more a partner . And strangely enough during my process of heartbreak, there comes an increase in my buisness, the next week and so forth.. And am like wow! Well if I can't have sincere love back then, at least money is coming. It's all good. 2 Likes |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Jman06(m): 2:59pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
Kaycee7:Yeah, because i was brought up to believe that men should fend for their women, and that women appreciate and respect men who fend for them. But things have changed. Women no longer appreciate men who care for them. 1 Like |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 3:03pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
Kaycee7: Invest in yourself |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Nobody: 3:20pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
I concur with op- It is natural to expect return on ones investment. Even God expects our worship, love and devotion in exchange for blessings and life given to us; Tho, not force us. I can only sponsor or invest in someone thru and as as part of charity organization thru a venture- school, business etc. When i sow a seed, i expect to reap the rewards somehow. The reward may not come from the same source but i expect a return nevertheless. Its really the most natural universal principle. 1 Like |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Kaycee7(m): 3:21pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
Jman06:Women appreciate men who care for them. They may not appreciate those who spend on them. But at the end, they fall for who their hearts want. That a woman appreciates you doesn't mean she will or should date you, talk more of marry. |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Kaycee7(m): 3:21pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
MissCokie:And if I'm already made? |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by lanre9ja(m): 3:24pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1: The guy above me make sense. i meant to understand one thing in life no one can make poor and no one can make u rich, if she deserve it, so shall it be, ' what goes around comes around' |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by sweetcherie: 3:26pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
No! Only a humane mind does that. Is jst like saying,y would you help a dear friend in need. vizkiz: |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by sweetcherie: 3:28pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
Xiadnat:well said |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by sweetcherie: 3:38pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
I choose nt 2 share in op's School of taught. Is ops saying Wen som1 is financially incapable it is wrong 2 help? Comon dats y u ar nt d only one in dis world,We all need a helping hand at one point or d oda in life. 1 Like |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Afritop(m): 3:40pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
SOME MEN ARE MUGU |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Afritop(m): 3:40pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
OrestesDante:MAGA DON PAY SHOUT HALLELUJAH |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Sierusvirus(m): 3:53pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
MissCokie:So right. Many guys have been conned into believing many things ( that's what a man does) that affects them in life and prevents them from thinking normally . My thought 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 3:59pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
Kaycee7: Nobody is already made. Bill gates still acquires knowledge. |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by lexy2014: 4:39pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
Daeylar:was Jesus also spoiling peoples minds? |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by lexy2014: 4:44pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
Kaycee7:are u certain about that?has that been scientifically proven? |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by imustsaymymindo: 4:48pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
MissCokie: Lol, if it is prayers and not being forgotten you want in return, it can be gotten from anyone. Have you not heard of IDP camps that you would invest to and the money would be diverted i.e the life you are thinking you would save would probably die? Have you not heard of family members who you sponsor their education and would instead squander the money and at the end of the day, that family member is still an illiterate? But should that stop us from giving to them? I think you are getting it all wrong. When we give, what we should expect in return is not gratitude through prayers nor future help nor all those things you mentioned. What we should expect in return is that the cause you did give to is accomplished. Therefore, a girlfriend that you sponsor her education and she moves a step higher in life even though ended up not marrying you as you would have thought is better than the example of the family member and IDP camp I listed above. NB: Giving should not be "no strings attached". It should involve emotions. You are meant to be interested in the life you are sowing to and monitor it. Even when you give to the church, IDP camp, monitor how it is used. If not, you might just be giving in vain because it might not accomplish what it is meant to. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by imustsaymymindo: 4:50pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
freddywells81: Even though God expects praises, salvation and all in return, if he does not get it, he would still give. If not he would have taken the gift of life from so many of us. That is the mentality we should have. Even if we don't get in return, it should not hinder us from giving. 1 Like |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Bambela(m): 5:14pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
illuminated93:Apart from the girlfriends,how persons you have sponsored or helped. |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:49pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
MissCokie: very funny, are you a comedian or single and actively searching to become a wife at all cost?! so you mean to tell us all that right before you decide to marry someone, they are "improper"?! but then again, if that is/was the case, then why would anyone even want to marry that "improper" person?! i in life there are stages, and if that person is proper the day you meet, then (unless she acts otherwise) its the same proper person that you will encounter 20yrs from that day, whether as a wife (or as a gf). here is what you fail to understand in my post.... so long as people help someone A) out their own free will and B) decide what that person deserve, and C) NO rewards is expected in return, then there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with it, even if that person later decide to go with someone else. the catch is when such "gift" is forced/begged/blackmailed out of you via cheap and cunning means. |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by davillian(m): 6:49pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
One of my elder bro friend made that mistake and I learnt from it. The guy Is not a graduate but he was making enough money and he decided to send his gf toa uni hopping that after she graduate,they would get married. After the girl finished he even helped her secured a job and the girl dumped him. Saying she can't marry a man that is not a graduate. She even told him to calculate all the money he spent on her uni, that she would pay him double. |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Nobody: 8:21pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
imustsaymymindo: Yes..because he is the all sufficient God. Do u have sufficient money at your disposal ? We are talking about real-life situation and the fact that people change without notice which makes it more painful . if u av sufficient money u can throw around ,u'd av assisted every gfs u ever had to getting B.Sc to Phd level without even having s..ex with them |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Kaycee7(m): 8:38pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
MissCokie:Guy, I don't know what that girl did to you. But it's no excuse to discourage other people from lending a helping hand to those who need it. All I'm saying is " Lend a hand. Don't try to buy a wife " 1 Like |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Kaycee7(m): 8:39pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
lexy2014:Has your own point also been scientifically proven? |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by imustsaymymindo: 8:48pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
freddywells81: It is well. |
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by lexy2014: 9:09pm On Sep 09, 2017 |
Kaycee7:I asked a question.i didn't make any point did I? |
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