I am an introvert. My ex wooed me. My relationship with her was going on perfectly until she told me that she doesn't loved me, I was angry to the extend it leads to her and my family quarrelling 5years ago. I broke up with her, along the line she and her family reconciled with my family (except me because i don't want anything to bring us together again).

She was impregnated by another guy last year, so she gave birth last two week Thursday.

All my family members went to her visited her at the hospital (except i). She did her naming ceremony which i was invited but i didn't attend but she named her new born baby my names because she still love me (which my elder brother told me she told him). I felt bad after hearing that.

Should i visit her just to say hi or i sholdnt?
Please dont mind my english, I am familiar with french more than english..

Please I need a mature advice, kindly move it to the front page

From your story which definitely will have behind the scene, I advice you pay her a visit and confirm if that child isn't yours my dear.

She was "impregnated" by another guy or she got married Was she a "lowlife"

Zeze06:


She was "impregnated" by another guy or she got married Was she a "lowlife"

she didnt get married,she is just like the normal Nigeria girls with numerous boyfriend

Nwodosis:
I advice you pay her a visit and confirm if that child isn't yours my dear.

Never,i didnt have sex with her even though we romance each other

DabLord:
Never,i didnt have sex with her even though we romance each other

Very weak defence in the High Court of Konji.

évidemment toujours amoureux de vous mais tu n'aimais pas vraiment tu l'as juste utilisée pour la romance.

la prochaine fois woo votre chic.

BlackDBagba:

évidemment toujours amoureux de vous mais tu n'aimais pas vraiment tu l'as juste utilisée pour la romance.

la prochaine fois woo votre chic.

I can speaks french,yoruba and hausa but i cant understand it properly

Stop associating yourself with an Ex who has become worthless....

DabLord:
she didnt get married,she is just like the normal Nigeria girls with numerous before

Zeze06:
Stop associating yourself with an Ex who has become worthless....

Op this is the answer u seek
Or
She will soon be forced on u

The lady is as confused as I am right now She loves you yet she get paid by another man What a world!

Pls kindly let the sleeping dogs lie...

Except if you yourself have caught the feelings again really bad... That u needed her like you needed an oxygen...U know like the old school song " no air" by Jordan spark

If not, pls stay on your lane... Do not rekindle what you cannot finish..

I am kinda curious though.....If u go there, what are u going there as? Family friend?... Lover?... Ex...? father..? pls tag yourself for me

Its even very difficult for me to walk with a girl on the street, (or even associate myself with a girl), unless she's a "complete package" How much less "stray" girls...


But if your ex is intelligent and cool you can stay in touch, someday who knows, things might get even....

KELVINXY:

Op this is the answer u seek
Or
She will soon be forced on u

You didn't really like her and used her for 'romance'.

Next time, woo your chic.

Better?

DabLord:
I can speaks french,yoruba and hausa but i cant understand it properly

DabLord:
I can speaks french,yoruba and hausa but i cant understand it properly

But you said we should not mind your English, because you are more familiar with French and now you didn't understand the simple French he wrote...
That means you are not really good in any of the languages in written form...

lol ..wicked u

or ur d*ck no dy work?

DabLord:
she didnt get married,she is just like the normal Nigeria girls with numerous boyfriend

OP show mercy on our sisters

Bros the babe don dey use your mind dey play ludo, very soon she's manipulating you to come shoulder her responsibility of she and the child all in the guise of love.

Keep us updated sha cos I know you would soon be coming back to get more advice from nairaland

Don't mind her, continue with your life and don't look back.
She is just trying to manipulate you into getting closer..
If you get to her, the next child will be yours..

Florblu:
The lady is as confused as I am right now
She loves you yet she get paid by another man
What a world!

We know na.. Na una way.. Very Confused gender

@OP... Go and see her if it makes you feel better and let her live her life.

DabLord:
she didnt get married,she is just like the normal Nigeria girls with numerous boyfriend

waow :othat means ur sisters also have dozens of boyfriend including ur Aunties :Dpls I hope ur mom is not a Nigeria woman else u need to check if ur father is ur real father o
O de oshi
Coman beat me, am in paris

DabLord:
she didn't get married,she is just like the normal Nigeria girls with numerous boyfriend

please where did you get this assertion from that "Normal Nigerian girls av numerous bf"
hun ans me o

Move on bro..there are better ladies out there

DabLord:
she didnt get married,she is just like the normal Nigeria girls with numerous boyfriend

The normal Nigerian girl don't have numerous boyfriends so don't be silly ok?

Then how was she your girlfriend? My friend go and sleep. She just trying to get to you ... let go of the salt too. You are most likely the only one with a grudge ... she is getting laid and naming beautiful babies. Guess who becomes grumpy and gets the wrinkles in the end? You're damn right!

DabLord:
Never,i didnt have sex with her even though we romance each other

TheEminentLaity:
Then how was she your girlfriend? My friend go and sleep. She just trying to get to you ... let go of the salt too. You are most likely the only one with a grudge ... she is getting laid and naming beautiful babies. Guess who becomes grumpy and gets the wrinkles in the end? You're damn right!

She offered me sex but i don't trust her and i'm a kind of guy who don't put condom in my wallet that's why i didn't have sex with her

MizAijay:


The normal Nigerian girl don't have numerous boyfriends so don't be silly ok?

Then prove me wrong

Condoms aren't so far away I would like to believe. Anyway, your thread suggests that you are still into her but intuition tells you that it would be a bad decision re-uniting. You're too emotionally invested in her for someone you didn't sleep with for my liking.

I think women connect more with people they've slept with, esp when there's a baby involved, as opposed to one they haven't even done anything with like you... Except the baby daddy is a complete lunatic, I don't think you'll be placed higher that's why I think she's playing games with you. She likes you, yes but that's where it ends.

DabLord:
She offered me sex but i don't trust her and i'm a kind of guy who don't put condom in my wallet that's why i didn't have sex with her

Florblu:
The lady is as confused as I am right now
She loves you yet she get paid by another man
What a world!

pls what then do a lady want in a relationship? Maybe as a lady can give me the possibly answer.

Oma307:

pls what then do a lady want in a relationship? Maybe as a lady can give me the possibly answer.

Attention
Care
Respect
Love
Unhindered communication
And all other things sha

BlackDBagba:

évidemment toujours amoureux de vous mais tu n'aimais pas vraiment tu l'as juste utilisée pour la romance.

la prochaine fois woo votre chic.

Ton français est un peu bizarre en mon avis personelle