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Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 10:12pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
PaperLace: Nobody has said men are angels. The point is that we must weight all the factors before deciding who the aggressor truly is. It could be either of the marriage mates. What we are against is simply blaming the man by default. Ps Your mouth is obvious corrosive too. 2 Likes |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 10:13pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Angelovic96: Your spouses and mothers are always good. |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 10:14pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
dicefrost: I learnt from the head of the home. dicefrost: Same way he should make sure he doesn't end up eating food seasoned with rat poison. The cat and dog fight might continue till one person ends up dead. That's why marriage is for tolerant, mature and forgiving people. Not kids who believe in an eye for an eye. 2 Likes |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by JONNYSPUTE(m): 10:16pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
PaperLace:. .All this insult u gave me was just because I said we should learn to call a spade what it is,abi? Well no wahala keep it up sis. |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by SalomonKane: 10:17pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
PaperLace:I read the exact post and the wife got what she deserve. Life is always about course and effect. And yes, I'll vomit this same beautiful garbage if it was a woman beating her husband, afterall, no sane man or woman will wake up and starting beating his wife or her husband. Shey u hear me well well Oyin? |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by TinaAnita(f): 10:17pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
dicefrost: I agree with you absolutely |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 10:20pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
PaperLace: Please feel free to dish him one or two slaps next time he is out of line. But just make sure you win the fight that follows. Don't come here with pictures of swollen eyes to beg for sympathy 2 Likes |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by TinaAnita(f): 10:24pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
hotspec: Hehehe |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by officialmcfresh1(m): 10:26pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Shut up that mouth you're using to say no matter what a woman says to a man. Why must say those nonsense, don't you know words have power and you can kill a man with just words. Go and tell your own blood brother rubbish and see if he will walk away. Nonsense. If men must learn to be mature enough to walk away from a woman then the woman must learn to shut up and respect the man. We all humans and no one deserves to be violated physically or emotionally. Evaberry: 1 Like |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by encrypt(m): 10:32pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Evaberry:Your points are valid but i always say this. You do not sleep with a snake and then act surprised when it bites you. Neither do you poke a bear and expect it not to react. You have no idea what it means to be provoked trust me.. It's different from being just angry |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by ssogundele(m): 10:36pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Evaberry:"very few men are victims of domestic violence (DV)" wrong! Many men are victims of worst form of DVl. Caustic words from women does more damage than blows and punches. Women uses there mouth to remove every resemblance of human from their men with their cutting remark and incentives and expect an Angel Gabriel of a man abi? Women, help your man to be a better person with your seasoned and up building words! 1 Like |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Cannonleo(m): 10:37pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Evaberry:I should run because she is angry, what rubbish I have experienced a whole lot of verbal. And even physical abuse by women in my area so your assertion holds no water Jeez 1 Like |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by AbuMikey(m): 10:45pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Evaberry: You are never making sense. Never! 3 Likes |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 10:48pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
nikkyshyne:God bless you. Each gender have got what they need and want. A woman is care, love respect and sometime sex, a man is respect and sex first. A man is wired to want respect whilst most women are wired to be pampered |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by cartoona(m): 10:50pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
imam07:well said |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 10:51pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
elantraceey:God bless your kind again!!! |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by imustsaymymindo: 10:52pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
If it was a much stronger man that did all what that woman did, he would not fight back. The best thing is to have this psychological view of your wife as a stronger man to avoid domestic violence. There are better ways to punish a woman that she would put her in discomfort, which in turn would lead to communication and attitudinal changes, ultimately saving the marriage. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 10:54pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Melakuchikala:a man walks away comes back home and still meet same poo. How una dey reason self. What's wrong in being a peaceful human being. So the woman wey start fight should be left alone. Na wao |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by QuietHammer(m): 10:57pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Fortissimo502:Pianissimo |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 10:57pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
betty616:you are blessed. 1 Like |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 11:02pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
PaperLace:thank u o In my case my mouth is very sharp but I am definitely not abusive and i respect him really well in public. He has learnt to practise the waka pass thing (he will just ignore me) when I am being really rubbish and after 30 mins I would have forgotten what I was fighting about which usually makes me feel really silly. Violence is not the answer. Has never been and will never be. Be a man, walk away, learn to ignore or just plant a kiss on her nagging mouth...I promise you, she will apologize herself |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by imam07: 11:02pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
PaperLace:Go back and read the story again. I don't think you understand the story the way u responded to guys comments. And you don't sound like a married woman. Is lady like u will not take any shit from your daughter in law. I can't just come home and start beating my wife, even if there is a reason. Don't abuse my mum and don't tell me I don't love my kids if u don't want trouble. 3 Likes |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 11:06pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
benedictac:men attached to this kind of women, who don't take a fast walk don't go far in life!!! The woman knows clearly what she is doing. Women are spirit... check the records of the bible. From eve, a woman who her husband gave instruction not to eat a fruit but disobeyed. Any woman that cannot listen to a man will lead that man to doom. 1 Like |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by TheSociopath(m): 11:09pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Evaberry:You don't have any brain at all 1 Like |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by lozanni(m): 11:11pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
tosyne2much: LOL. It might sound funny, but too much of certain hormones in the body can cause aggression and even irrational behavior in both males and females. I guess there will be ways of treating the above anomaly through medical science. 1 Like |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by otdollar(m): 11:17pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Evaberry:a man who is preparing 2 go 2 church 2 go out and rest somewhere?... wat if it happened on Monday morning koor....abeg let us call a spade a spade, d woman is a devil and she deserved something worse than that 1 Like |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by inkdbetty(f): 11:18pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Frenchfriez: Well, you are right, considering the society we live in and they way people think and take things. But if you do not look at it through the sexist and bias eyes of society, you will realise that both parties are in truth second hand, passed down from one person to another person. What the woman did was unnecessary sha, (could be her village people sef) the man was provoked and you except nothing of a typical NigeriaN man, they do not enjoy insults and jabs their ego, they will fight you. |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 11:19pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
But sincerely, most of the people I see here commenting and disrespecting women makes me understand why some of their wives turn to parrot at home. You guys just drive her up the wall and she gets frustrated and talks and talks her frustration away...then you claim you married a spirit. A little secret, very few women properly loved and respected behave like this. Na frustration cause am. The op only saw the wife calling the man a pig...do u know if he sleeps with their maid? Just pointing out...you don't know what the genesis of the problem is, you just saw the result. 2 Likes |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by imustsaymymindo: 11:19pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
@op, dicefrost. Dont let your mentality change abeg. One thing you need to understand is that there are 3 ways people react when they are angry. They either take on direct aggression, indirect aggression or withdrawal. Men, tend to be directly aggresive, a large majority of women are indirectly aggressive showing it through strong verbal words, gossips and other forms and the last is withdrawal. But, personally. Out of these 3, the one I hate most is withdrawal. I prefer you reign a lot of abuses on me, nag from morning to night, infact, you can beat me up. But if you continually withdraw from me when I do something wrong and never get to tell me, I would end that relationship one day. Because withdrawal leads to lack of communication and this is the beginning of..... The truth is that issues of direct and indirect aggression can be properly managed with proper communication. In fact, if your wife slaps you and you dont respond back and instead communicate your displeasure when she is most comfortable, I doubt if she would ever try it again. But if you respond, you guys might become the next Anthony Joshua and the other boxer. Sames go for verbal aggression. But then again, people are different. Lastly, to prevent aggression, let us always talk about issues that we are unhappy about with her partners frequently. Unless, we keep them in our hearts, and one day when the devil is happy, we pour it all out through the various means of aggression. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 11:23pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
Treasuredlove: Hahahaha. I like as you admitted, that's exactly how he admits _and I like him for that. My hubby can go on and on about something, you begin to wonder what he is on about. I had to learn to ignore, I realised two people no dey mad at the same time. Then I talk about it when he is calm. Only a spouse from hell won't change with time. People don't know the power in silence. This woman was obviously confrontational, so__ I can understand his defence, though taken too far. Maybe if she had dashed into the house and stabbed him, one person will now rest (in peace). 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Today's Experience Changed My View On Domestic Violence by Nobody: 11:24pm On Sep 17, 2017 |
lozanni:logical tho. I know ladies get maddest when they are turned down sexually or not satisfied but does she have to humiliate her husband publicly. Any woman that can cover the inadequacies of her husband is not a virtuous woman. For instance, why call a man you know is trying his best to provide for his family jobless publicly because he has no job and can't do as much as you wish for. That man may find it hard to break through no matter how hard he tries 1 Like 1 Share |
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