Evaberry:
very few men are victims of domestic violence. Women always bear the brunt of a man's anger


No matter what a woman says or does, a man should never hit her, a man is physically stronger than a woman so hitting her will inflict serious physical damage, whereas a woman may not cause any real harm to a man.

Op the husband in your write Up should have quietly left the compound and go relax somewhere until he was sure his wife had calmed down. when a woman is angry she throws all reason and caution to the wind, it therefore falls on the man to be understanding and reasonable


Engaging in a fisticuffs with a woman is wrong and should be condemned.

Xbee007:

Even if the person is about to kill you?

oladayo63:


I totally agree with you bro.

I have a first-hand experience of what Evaberry is saying with my former gf.

She would do some things that would make the most cool-headed guy loose it.

In situations like this, I get out of the scene. No phone calls, no contact until she eats the humble pie to beg.

Then, she will say somethings like (1) I gave her the silent treatment - a man is not supposed to do that.(2) she did what she did - because she is a lady.

I will be like so because you are a lady, you are qualified to do whatever pleases you while you expect me to rub your ego, abi?

I've moved on ever since sha.

Lady, females love eating their pie and having it.

I pray that we will never marry a lady who will send us to our early grave.

lozanni:


Sexual frustration has really set in for the woman. This might really be what is causing her anger, as the husband is not satisfying her sexually, she lost total control and went on an uncontrollable rant and was abusing her husband. I wonder if she is experiencing a hormonal imbalance, estrogen, somewhat like the hen that chases away another hen that is lying on top of eggs it had laid, just to claim it.
The woman should have sat with her husband to discuss the above issue, as things like fruits (carrots, bananas, date palm, plaintain), good excersise(jogging, skipping, lifting little weights), good pre-intimacy and sexual technique can help him overcome the problem of weak sexual performance.
The above is true for most couples as they, always fail to discuss their sex lives, which is very important.

lozanni:


LOL. It might sound funny, but too much of certain hormones in the body can cause aggression and even irrational behavior in both males and females.
I guess there will be ways of treating the above anomaly through medical science.

elantraceey:
Some women can bring out the beast in a lamb

chisco82:

God bless you.

Where is pocohantas.
Oya come and pass ur own judgement lets see.

majekdom2:
many of you are failing to understand the point here. No perfect relationship. Disgreement must always happen as we are human. Ask any 2 friends that have been friends from childhood till old age how many times they have fought, they will tell you uncountable times. But the truth is I am not sure there was any 3rd party involved in settling their fight. If there was they won't still be friends. I am sure they never embarrassed each other in public when they fight. They never revealed each other's secret in public. They got each other's back. Now this is what marriage should be. Fights, yes but not humiliating, embarassing and exposing secrets in public. Many couples are not even friends. I hate scenes, if we must click, you must hate scenes too... .a reason I left a chic

pocohantas:


Keep beating yourselves...
If your wife pushes you to the wall, beat her.
If your husband pushes you to the wall, deal with him...
Nobody should tolerate any nonsense from any spouse

Evaberry:
very few men are victims of domestic violence. Women always bear the brunt of a man's anger


No matter what a woman says or does, a man should never hit her, a man is physically stronger than a woman so hitting her will inflict serious physical damage, whereas a woman may not cause any real harm to a man.

Op the husband in your write Up should have quietly left the compound and go relax somewhere until he was sure his wife had calmed down. when a woman is angry she throws all reason and caution to the wind, it therefore falls on the man to be understanding and reasonable


Engaging in a fisticuffs with a woman is wrong and should be condemned.

johnson232:

Oh! I saw it
You do not support any abuse but later went on to studiously justify verbal abuse?
If u dont know verbal abuse is a precondition for physical, knw now
Even a mad man won't jump into a fight without first exchanging words

Have u seen two people or nations fight without first issueing threat statement?
What led to python dance in eastern part?
Do not under rate the power of hate speech ooo...It is very destructive
u cant address physical abuse without first addressing verbal
I have told u...

eyinjuege:


Physical violence usually doesn't end with a damage to the body. It equally damages the soul.
Do you think the real victims of domestic violence only suffered a burst kidney, a broken tooth or head?
They are equally damaged emotionally. Physical violence doesn't just coexist on its own. It's usually accompanied by emotional damage to the soul.
But you still cannot rate both as same. Even by law. The law isn't concerned if you're insulted and called names. If you can't take such shit, then walk away forever and say never again. But she's very much concerned about having mad people roaming about using their fists and weapons to damage others when such fists could have come in handy in Sambisa.
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt/ break me"
The average life expectancy of Nigerians is barely above 50. Why would anyone play God, by cutting it shorter?

TheKingIsHere:


Am happy that you said you have never insulted him in public. Since you think men can just swallow any bullshit you dish out, then try insulting him in public let's see if he will walk away or if you won't come back crippled by then.

Even the bible has warned us about our mouths

Prov 21:23 - Those who guard their mouth and their tongues, keeps themselves from calamity.

Any woman who doesn't want calamity to befall her should learn to keep her tongue

Evaberry:
very few men are victims of domestic violence. Women always bear the brunt of a man's anger


No matter what a woman says or does, a man should never hit her, a man is physically stronger than a woman so hitting her will inflict serious physical damage, whereas a woman may not cause any real harm to a man.

Op the husband in your write Up should have quietly left the compound and go relax somewhere until he was sure his wife had calmed down. when a woman is angry she throws all reason and caution to the wind, it therefore falls on the man to be understanding and reasonable


Engaging in a fisticuffs with a woman is wrong and should be condemned.

boiz2men:
How do you not know during courtship that your girl nags. I lost interest in a pretty girl after we had several discussions/argument and each time she wanted to be right without facts

Evaberry:
very few men are victims of domestic violence. Women always bear the brunt of a man's anger

Evaberry:
No matter what a woman says or does, a man should never hit her, a man is physically stronger than a woman so hitting her will inflict serious physical damage, whereas a woman may not cause any real harm to a man.

Evaberry:
Op the husband in your write Up should have quietly left the compound and go relax somewhere until he was sure his wife had calmed down.

Evaberry:
Op the husband in your write Up should have quietly left the compound and go relax somewhere until he was sure his wife had calmed down. when a woman is angry she throws all reason and caution to the wind, it therefore falls on the man to be understanding and reasonable

Evaberry:
Engaging in a fisticuffs with a woman is wrong and should be condemned.

nikkyshyne:
@evaberry easier said to walk away. Men are humans with blood running thru their veins and can get physical when pushed to the wall. They are known to have ego. Woe betide the person who tries to tarnish that image. Bottom line, it only takes the grace of God.

majekdom2:
do you embarrass your best friend in public. You keep each other's secret. Why is it that couples these days find it easy to embarrass themselves... no respect whatsoever. Will you call your brother a pig. No maid story here. Insulting a man's joystick means your are seeing some other persons already. Obviously, This marriage is filled with hate. Why hasn't she taken a walk yet??

chisco82:

Really?

majekdom2:
meaning you will not call him a Pig in public. Make una read the post again. I am not supporting a man hitting a woman but we should condemn this lady first. He ignores you because you still have sense. I can bet your husband will not ignore a senseless woman that insults him in public if he were to be one.

majekdom2:
There are always 2 sides to a story but what I found out is most women that are victim of domestic violence are usually the cause... For instance, If you know your husband is a mad man, why exchange words with him. If you know the next thing he does is to hit you, keep quiet when he is talking, tell him sorry. You don't have to argue with him or insult him... for peace sake. As a guy myself, when I encounter a mad man, I just tell him sorry, no vex even though I am right or well placed than the person. The sorry no go kill me or reduce money wey dey my account.
The above is for a mad man, only a jobless/ No future ambition man can turn to a mad man. A man looking to breakthrough or make money or fly high can't be referred to a mad man because he is occupied by so many things but the thing is there are some women that can't just live in peace. They can't be taught, they don't listen, they don't learn from mistakes. They are never progressive thus argument will always breed and they will in most situation cause a man to hit them. Men and young guys, please run away from any woman that can't be taught, corrected, never listens or learns from her mistakes. Such women are usually a big hinderance to one's success. No matter how high and placed you may seem to be, they will bring you down to a level you won't believe. This is because, they have a bad spirit that's not progressive. Run from these kind of women no matter how beautiful they seem to be. I call women spirit, they either break or make a man. Check stories in the bible, they are there. Eve was not satisfied with the instruction she was given by her husband not to eat the fruit, we saw how she led Adam to his fall. This kind of women will bring shame to you both. Solomon that said he who findeth a wife findeth a good thing know what he was saying. Not all women are good for a wife. Perhaps why he had so many concubines . Not all women are to be called wife. Wisdom , very important in choosing a wife. My experience with my mother, sisters, GFS have taught me loads about women. Any woman that cannot stay humble and maintain peace with a man is a doom to whoever she calls a husband.

imam07:
Jay -Z cheated on Beyonce but she still covered him and loved him. Not because Jay Z has money, know that Beyonce also has money. If she leaves, will will she go to. She loves the family that is the reason she stayed. If you understand your husband u will have very few issue with him. If your husband drinks and smokes understand him. If you can't restrict him from drinking or smoking don't fight him.
Short courtship between a man and his woman doesn't allow them to study and know each other's characters. This is the major factor affecting marriage. A man see a beautiful lady and after three months they got married. A lady meet a rich guy and after three months, she agreed to marry him.
Obaa efon labata, oyobeti. Orope omi lomu yo.Some to help me interpret this into good English language.

Luisema4luv:


I disagree with dis, a lady once said to me that instead of me to use my bad mouth on her dat she will use her own money to buy koboko dat i ll use on her, so ur premise does nt hold

Evaberry:
very few men are victims of domestic violence. Women always bear the brunt of a man's anger


No matter what a woman says or does, a man should never hit her, a man is physically stronger than a woman so hitting her will inflict serious physical damage, whereas a woman may not cause any real harm to a man.

Op the husband in your write Up should have quietly left the compound and go relax somewhere until he was sure his wife had calmed down. when a woman is angry she throws all reason and caution to the wind, it therefore falls on the man to be understanding and reasonable



Engaging in a fisticuffs with a woman is wrong and should be condemned.

imam07:
Devil knows is easy to use wives to destroy marriages in our society. Marriage is the foundation of a good social live in the society. And if marriage is broken, the home will be faulty likewise the family. With these problems, the society is in a big mess.
If the family is still peaceful, it means the bastard one in that family has not grown up.
In a society where they embraces bastard child, u will find out there are always social crimes. It takes the grace of God for a bastard child to be well behaved in the society. This social problem starts right from faulty marriage.
Whenever a criminal is arrested, the police will first ask for his or her parents.
A home is not complete without a woman. Even if there is no man, a good wife can make a home with her children.
Husband love your wife and wife respect your husband because he is your head.
There some men out there that behave like women. If u behave like a woman there will be problem because two women can't live peacefully together. If a man is a man, there will never be a problem unless the wife is extra ordinary troublesome.
Money, age and ability to have sex is not equal to marriage. Maturity and spirspiritual wisdom is equal to marriage.

kimbraa:
Mr op, this story doesn't add up.

Modified.
Those of you quoting me should get a life. You'll believe anything.

A woman would start calling her husband names from a "Pig" to the "Size of his manhood" just because he walked on barefoot. Use your brains!.

pocohantas:



Yes, they brought out the beast in you. Deal with them, remove their teeth, but don't kill them. Only when you kill them is it a crime.
Some spouses need to be dealt with

I hope it's settled now. So...don't mention me to hear my argument on this topic again.

Treasuredlove:
my husband was not trained to hit women. I have watched him deal with his army of sisters and female cousins. He just ignores or walks away. That is one thing I really respect about him. His level of self control. So whether on public or private. I just choose to respect him and he knows my rants hold no water so why waste time responding?

Na True

Evaberry:
very few men are victims of domestic violence. Women always bear the brunt of a man's anger


No matter what a woman says or does, a man should never hit her, a man is physicastronger than a woman so hitting her will inflict serious physical damage, whereas a woman may not cause any real harm to a man.

Op the husband in your write Up should have quietly left the compound and go relax somewhere until he was sure his wife had calmed down. when a woman is angry she throws all reason and caution to the wind, it therefore falls on the man to be understanding and reasonable


Engaging in a fisticuffs with a woman is wrong and should be condemned.