ifydflow:
i hope it happens to you then you wld understand his pain

I av seen worst

fof1:



MY GOOD FRIEND. U ARE NOT D FIRST TO EXPERIENCE THIS PARTICULAR SCENARIO U HV PAINTED. PLS CALM URSELF DOWN FIRST. DON'T GIVE HEED TO ALL D BOISTEROUS ADVICE U ARE BEING LOADED WITH BY IMMATURE YOUTHS OR COS HERE. FIRST,LEARN TO FORGIVE URSELF & TO FORGIVE HER TOO. SEEK HER TRUE POSITIONS NOW. IS SHE REMORSEFUL AND VERY SORRY, THEN PLS MOVE ON WITH HER. GET HER OPINION ON D RELATIONSHIP. DON'T SHIP WREAK. GOOD CAN BE RECOVERED FROM D EVIL. GOOD BLESS UR HEARTS.

Thank you so much, sir.
The lady has been begging me. I saw her mom before I traveled back to Lagos yesterday morning, she kneeled down, begging me (she was heartbroken, she never believed until I played the confession recording to her).
Her mom have been calling to beg. I'm very Confused right now, I don't know what to do and how to go about it?

Women are scum

Oyindidi:
Still let go! She owe you nothing as you two are not married yet. Move on

how many times av u cheated on yah partner? Don't lie o.

GudPpleG8Nation:

Thank you so much, sir.
The lady has been begging me. I saw her mom before I traveled back to Lagos yesterday morning, she kneeled down, begging me (she was heartbroken, she never believed until I played the confession recording to her).
Her mom have been calling to beg. I'm very Confused right now, I don't know what to do and how to go about it?

Forgive.

HarunaWest:

N*gga your a blaady fool....she isn't married to yah she doesn't owe you any loyalty..she has a right to sleep about,if you decided not to,ain't her fault.....I hate when some guys come here to say a girlfriend cheated on them, like they were married to her,...mtscheeeeeew

Lol, your turn is coming

I have read what you posted as well as what other people commented. This is my point. You have two choice and each choice is based on our fiancé reaction. Ladies are very deadly, so you have to wise up at this moment. I know right now you will feeling so miserable but that is not the solution. Man up and wipe away your tears. Watch her from a far and check if she is still willing to be with you. Don't get in contact with her at lest for a week or two. During this period formulated a new habit of not tolerating nonsense. Also, check if she is doing her possible means to get in touch with you. Don't be faked by her cries and likes, let the week pass. Let her send people to you, let her suffer and realised her mistake. Now, come out as a boss with no emotion at all. Tell her what you want, word her to extent that she should want to quit herself. Let her promise you and let her confesses everything. At this moment do not show any affection and act as if you were not affected.Check your self up if you can still move on with her too. If she fail any of this test, kindly call it a quit. If you can't forget, kindly leave her life. I hope this will help you.

U see life!!! your type are hard to come by but guy don't kill anyone or do something u will regret just let her go...

She will surely regret

Karma is a biatch

MaziOmenuko:


Okk, which one do you want to do first? Committing suicide should the last because if you commit suicide first, you wont have the strenght to accomplish the other tasks like killing the 2nd guy. Now I will advise that if I am to arrange the tasks in order of importance, this is how it should look like...

1. making the girl useless to herself for the rest of her life

2. killing the guy

3. committing suicide

4. dying

No 3 and 4 can be interchanged; you can do 4 first before 3 or the other way round.

Thank me later.

GudPpleG8Nation:
I'm typing this with heavy burden in heart. I'm getting crazy and weeping.

I met this lady over 6 years ago during my higher institution days, she was a fresher while I'm in my semi final year in school. Things were going well, we had sex after two years of the relationship(I'm the one that disvirgin her).

I have been very caring, stood by her and also,I let go of any ladies that comes my way. I didn't want anything that will stain the relationship. That doesn't mean I'm perfect however I have been trying my best to make her feel comfortable, loved and happy.

I started feeling comfortable and worried about my future with her because I discovered that anytime we had a misunderstanding, before you know it she has find a guy she will be dirty chatting with. She always say she's doing that to hurt my feelings.

I proposed last year, met her mum and one of her uncle and introduced her to my parents officially. Presently, waiting for her extended family to send the list for the traditional marriage.

I traveled to Ibadan on Friday to spend the weekend with her, on Sunday I just took her phone to watch movie when a Whatsapp message, I checked it and I replied the message. The guy called her, she was reluctant to pick the phone, she picked and spoke with the guy. After which the guy messaged her on Whatsapp that he called to confirm she's the one chatting with him and not her bf. I play along and started chatting with the guy. The guy was telling her to come visit him, I started twisting the guy and he was splitting out how he won't touch her when she comes. I confronted my girl, it took her over 8 hours to confessed that they had sex.

Jesus! This is a lady I invested a lot on, build my world around, every other ladies are shit in my presence. Even when I had 1000 of reasons to let go, I still stay with her but right now my world is shattered, I'm going crazy.
I need help because I'm dying, where will I start from (I'm 30 years old). Every negative thought of this world is running through my mind (from committing suicide to killing the guy to making the girl useless to herself for the rest of her life)

Bro no de put woman matter for head at all bro.... it will drag you down and slow you down put it on your shoulders just a shrug and it will drop off just like a bad habit .... just forget the lousy girl and go get a drink and watch a good movie
PEACE BRO....

kajsa08:
@op pay her back, don't let her suspect anything, have vengeful s*x regularly, still promise her marriage and then dump her.

Wow

Coming from a 'lady'

So ladies also believe in vengeful/punishment sexxx

If OP wants to die so what? At least it will reduce one wasted sperm's burden on buhari

Free4man:
I have read what you posted as well as what other people commented. This is my point. You have two choice and each choice is based on our fiancé reaction. Ladies are very deadly, so you have to wise up at this moment. I know right now you will feeling so miserable but that is not the solution. Man up and wipe away your tears. Watch her from a far and check if she is still willing to be with you. Don't get in contact with her at lest for a week or two. During this period formulated a new habit of not tolerating nonsense. Also, check if she is doing her possible means to get in touch with you. Don't be faked by her cries and likes, let the week pass. Let her send people to you, let her suffer and realised her mistake. Now, come out as a boss with no emotion at all. Tell her what you want, word her to extent that she should want to quit herself. Let her promise you and let her confesses everything. At this moment do not show any affection and act as if you were not affected.Check your self up if you can still move on with her too. If she fail any of this test, kindly call it a quit. If you can't forget, kindly leave her life. I hope this will help you.

Forget about dating her again....u men don't forget thing especially infidelity he will surely use it against her if they get married.

Vikky014:
check yourself. you said you are 30 mine was 32 last few days with no meaningful relationship. so you can still find someone if at all you can't take her back just forgive and move on please. don't kill yourself over mere mortals.

There you go, OP. You both are made for each other, can you guys get married already? Vikky pls don't say no to a broken heart. Misery loves company and this dude right here can make a good company. What say thee??

Dump her, and now!

Oyindidi:
Still let go! She owe you nothing as you two are not married yet. Move on

Six year in a relationship and you say she own him nothing?
For someone to invest his or her time and commitment in a relationship, you own the person something.

Throughout the 6 years, were you faithful?

Op it hurts but, if you can't forgive then quit, a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

well u imagine how ladies reason atimes. first and foremost u must understand that it is not the end of the world for u( so erase every thought of suicide), also u must be the better person by not doing anything harsh or bad to her or the man. Let me cheer u up here with this thought ' if this had happen after u have married her, it would have been worst oo my brother. Forgive her but leave her and wait for u to heal, yes u can love again. Love another when u have heal so that u are in control of your decision. Avoid distant relationship and prolong relationship.

Hmm.. The best thing to do is to comitt suicide and end the life. It is so hard to believe that a girl you invested on and trusted with your life betrayed your love. Just kill yourself as you suggested and let the world just end for you but dont kill her or harm the guy so they can continue the relationship when you are gone. My take tho!

GudPpleG8Nation:

Do you think it's about money? Dear, it's not all about money, it's about my time, resources, trying to convince my parents to accept her due to tribal differences, risking my life on many occasions, etc

And you had sex with her when you are not married to her, i guess she cooked for you two when you are not married to her, keeps you company and advise you..

oga relationship is a two way street. not one way.

dont say you invested, like shes a property...lol

if you no wan continues, let go,
but if you feel you can continue, call her and sit down and talk.....

6 years and you still think you want to kill yourself becos of her ,,nawa o....

u de fuvk up ooooo


abeg incase you still wan kill yourself, let me know, maybe i can help you with the easiest means...oluku

Well dateing a cheat is funny
This what I'll do I'll make up my mind and turn her into my intimacy gadget
U know its just like eating with ur younger one, so once u feel ur satisfied with the little food , u leave the rest for your younger bro
Same applies here once ur done fuc***g some sences into her u dump her black ass for the other guy...
Who will still eat to his satisfaction and also dump her black ass ..

So u see that's the best way she can be dumped

Ooooo i forgot don't fail to send her your wedding invitation....


Saggat

Lol invest on lady? is like invest on MMM or Bet9ja possibility of 80% loss, we don't do this in china though.

reciprokal:
OP you be mugu. Are you the one who deflowered the girl or she deflowered you? What a weakass nigga you are.

If you're the one who delflowered her then you're in the driving seat. You placed too much value on virginity that's why her infidelity is hurting you this much.

And you're a week dude too, going into your girl's phone snooping around and chatting with her friends. That's fücking poo. Real men don't do that . This and other weak signs she must have noticed is what made her to cheat on you despite the fact that you're the first guy.

Anyways, brace yourself, get a good talk with her and if she's truly remorseful, go along and marry her. If you feel she isn't worth it, then let her go instead of marrying out of pity and desperation and carrying that thought of cheating in your mind.

And learn to stop peeping into your woman's phone except there's a good ground for suspicion.

I rarely look into her phone, I was watching movies on her phone when the Whatsapp message came in and I don't see anything wrong in replying your spouse messages.
She do reply mine sometimes, I don't even carry my phone around anytime we're together.

I can see Daeylar viewing this thread. Waht are you looking for here again? If i give u my heart promise me you wont break it *in jonsnow's voice*

Viergeachar:


Wow

Coming from a 'lady'

So ladies also believe in vengeful/punishment sexxx

'I' believe in settling scores. it's what i would do if i were a guy. Let him make his exit grand.

Chiamaka1:
Forgive and forget..I believe she must have learnt from her mistakes,u can't just tro away a relationship of 6years lyk dat...How re u sure that the next gal u will date wil b faithful..FORGIVE BRO!!

I will like to talk to u about something, I promise I am not trying anything fishy. would u be kind enough to drop ur whatsapp number?

And we are I the best position to advise you right?
Bringing your private problems to social network makes you a real man.
You are going crazy and you still had the patience and time to type?
Yours friends are so dumb that if you confide in them, none will be able to advise you?
My brother move on.

Adaumunocha:
The relationship cannot be salvaged? The double standard in this society is appalling though. You'd advice the lady to forgive the man if he was d cheater...

Nope. I always tell people to move if one partner cheats on the other. I can't stand infidelity. If I ever get married and for some reason mistakenly cheat on her, I'd ask for a divorce cos I wouldn't want to demand from her, loyalty that I can't give. The only reason I'd remain in the union is if she decides to forgive me despite me being unfaithful. But it wouldn't be me, demanding for what I do not deserve. Even if she forgives me, my mind won't be at rest cos my conscience would always prick me. I believe a woman shouldn't tolerate a cheating partner just as much as I believe a man shouldn't tolerate a cheating woman. Simple.

cococandy:
Sorry dear
Hugs

Heartbreaks are the worst.
Time will make you whole again.

smile....cococandy.... so caring and comforting. God bless you.

OP read cococandy's reply. Just breath...it's gonna be all right

And we are I the best position to advise you right?
Bringing your private problems to social network makes you a real man.
You are going crazy and you still had the patience and time to type?
Yours friends are so dumb that if you confide in them, none will be able to advise you?
My brother move and man up.

kajsa08:

'I' believe in settling scores. it's what i would do if i were a guy. Let him make his exit grand. :'D

Okay o
You are a lady and you got no chill

Whenever i think of failed marriages and relationships, i just weak to have one after my own failed relationships.
True relationships are hard to come by

Expectation of certain behaviours from loved ones usually set one up for offence. There are reasons to be worried but there is a greater reasons not to be. My brother don't quit a relationship because of mistake. It has happen unless she says she is no longer interested. When u say u want to leave we advice to stay put inorder to learn necessary experience and maturity. The devil i know is better than the angel i dont know.