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Dammy774:



Aww dats sad. Seems you are not over the pain yet.
wish you all the best bro. Love comes at a time u dnt expect so dnt give up

Daeylar:
Oberyn and Eliara it is
May I not fall into cercei's hands

Yeah, they did have a wonderful love for each other

Hopefulman:
Op, lemme contribute too,


This exact same thing happened to me December last year, I even opened a thread here asking for opinions not cos I couldn't handle shit but cos I was emotionally broken. Same 6 years, I deflowered her too, taught her basically all she knows, force my parents into liking her, I was to wife her up traditionally this year ending, I am 30, same age as you she will 26 by December.



My brother forgive her that's she's sincerely sorry about it and shows great remorse, you dump her and hop to another woman you don't know what that one has done too , the devil you know is far better than the angel you don't know, besides reason life well, you will discover sex is not love.

I don't know about you, but my case I wasn't perfect myself cos me sef run few packages just cos I caught her of which she only wanted to explore knowing just one man all her life doesn't make her bad.


Do to others what you want them to do to you, good people sometimes make bad decisions making terrible mistakes which they tend to regret all their lives.


How many times our dad don jonse where our moms dey but yet dem still hold still, if na so God dey cut all of us off for our sins daily, then the world would have been empty.


Mine showed great remorse, her family and friends came to beg, she cried her eyes out for almost 6 months, but it's not the tears, I just couldn't throw 6 years away cos of one mistake, that makes you a better person and a man, I love her for the sacrifices and things we have both been through, I can't begin to mention them.


Finally, no matter what anyone writes here,, at the end you still will do your own mind, you wear the shoes and know the situation better, the decision still lies in your hands. Truth is that event made us got even better, and stronger. And stop allowing people tell you once a cheat is always a cheat, cos it is not true. He who is holy without blemish should cast the first stone.


Be wise. Stay safe. Sex ain't love.

freecocoa:
Dude forgive and forget ,proceed with the marriage ,that she slept with someone else doesn't mean she loves him, it was a simple mistake. At least that's what these men would say were the tables turned.

GudPpleG8Nation:
Bro,can I pm you?

pocohantas:
After the call she gave you back the phone? The girl never bad finish be that. The guy knows you sef, meaning he is the assistant boyfriend. Your own better, I wasn't this lucky

So...you invested in her? Is she treasury bills?

Rule 1: Love your partner, do your best to keep peace in the relationship, but don't overdo. Don't make anyone feel like the very essence of your living.

Na your choice o. I won't say you should forgive...but na your choice.

Timbuktuo:
Hello, old frenemy. Been a while. how ya been?

freecocoa:
Hey, been a while indeed. Been aite, hope all's been well with you?

Daeylar:
Well, where did you go? Did you see anyone? Did you see Ned? Did you get to ask about your mum, how do you feel about olly?

dotunbekro06:
Bros don't tell me you want to break up because of this.. Then you don't love her





Oga stay with your package... Nigerian men are the only ones I know can do crazy stuffs because a partner cheated.. Am not saying cheating should be allowed in a relationship but why can't he just calm down and sort it out.....So because my boyfriend cheated now,then I must break up with him....Beyonce with all the millions she had dint divorce her husband when he cheated,she still had to give him twins instead.......



Like my nigga do say "Drag Mr/mz Left and Drag to the Right...



No time biko

FireKing:
If you fit get mind to meet d girl parents & take d girl to see your parents Formally & expecting list for marriage
arrangements ........then, she fit get d mind to open her leg 4 another guy to fire � her treasure well so easily then she is not ready to be a wife. I know you love her but trust me with time you will celebrate for leaving her. I pray that you have a good woman to call a wife and you should also be a good man to get a good wife. Finally d decision is yours to decide my guy because I'm only trying to suggest ............good luck

GudPpleG8Nation:
I'm typing this with heavy burden in heart. I'm getting crazy and weeping.

I met this lady over 6 years ago during my higher institution days, she was a fresher while I'm in my semi final year in school. Things were going well, we had sex after two years of the relationship(I'm the one that disvirgin her).

I have been very caring, stood by her and also,I let go of any ladies that comes my way. I didn't want anything that will stain the relationship. That doesn't mean I'm perfect however I have been trying my best to make her feel comfortable, loved and happy.

I started feeling comfortable and worried about my future with her because I discovered that anytime we had a misunderstanding, before you know it she has find a guy she will be dirty chatting with. She always say she's doing that to hurt my feelings.

I proposed last year, met her mum and one of her uncle and introduced her to my parents officially. Presently, waiting for her extended family to send the list for the traditional marriage.

I traveled to Ibadan on Friday to spend the weekend with her, on Sunday I just took her phone to watch movie when a Whatsapp message, I checked it and I replied the message. The guy called her, she was reluctant to pick the phone, she picked and spoke with the guy. After which the guy messaged her on Whatsapp that he called to confirm she's the one chatting with him and not her bf. I play along and started chatting with the guy. The guy was telling her to come visit him, I started twisting the guy and he was splitting out how he won't touch her when she comes. I confronted my girl, it took her over 8 hours to confessed that they had sex.

Jesus! This is a lady I invested a lot on, build my world around, every other ladies are shit in my presence. Even when I had 1000 of reasons to let go, I still stay with her but right now my world is shattered, I'm going crazy.
I need help because I'm dying, where will I start from (I'm 30 years old). Every negative thought of this world is running through my mind (from committing suicide to killing the guy to making the girl useless to herself for the rest of her life)

HarunaWest:
N*gga your a blaady fool....she isn't married to yah she doesn't owe you any loyalty..she has a right to sleep about,if you decided not to,ain't her fault.....I hate when some guys come here to say a girlfriend cheated on them, like they were married to her,...mtscheeeeeew

Hopefulman:
Op, lemme contribute too,


This exact same thing happened to me December last year, I even opened a thread here asking for opinions not cos I couldn't handle shit but cos I was emotionally broken. Same 6 years, I deflowered her too, taught her basically all she knows, force my parents into liking her, I was to wife her up traditionally this year ending, I am 30, same age as you she will 26 by December.



My brother forgive her that's she's sincerely sorry about it and shows great remorse, you dump her and hop to another woman you don't know what that one has done too , the devil you know is far better than the angel you don't know, besides reason life well, you will discover sex is not love.

I don't know about you, but my case I wasn't perfect myself cos me sef run few packages just cos I caught her of which she only wanted to explore knowing just one man all her life doesn't make her bad.


Do to others what you want them to do to you, good people sometimes make bad decisions making terrible mistakes which they tend to regret all their lives.


How many times our dad don jonse where our moms dey but yet dem still hold still, if na so God dey cut all of us off for our sins daily, then the world would have been empty.


Mine showed great remorse, her family and friends came to beg, she cried her eyes out for almost 6 months, but it's not the tears, I just couldn't throw 6 years away cos of one mistake, that makes you a better person and a man, I love her for the sacrifices and things we have both been through, I can't begin to mention them.


Finally, no matter what anyone writes here,, at the end you still will do your own mind, you wear the shoes and know the situation better, the decision still lies in your hands. Truth is that event made us got even better, and stronger. And stop allowing people tell you once a cheat is always a cheat, cos it is not true. He who is holy without blemish should cast the first stone.


Be wise. Stay safe. Sex ain't love.

Ballmer:
. Na wa for NL O ! So she as a right to Bleep around because they are not married ?
My guy I won't encourage you to leave the girl just like that instead I will advice that you study her countenance henceforth. Some girls after being caught grow bold and turn gangster Olosho while some are genuinely sorry it happened and take it as a learning curve never to let it happen again.

Now the reason I'll advice you not to let go is because of what is out there. My EX cheated during orientation camp I broke up the relationship thinking I will get another and indeed I have had tons of other girls but my ex is married to the older man she cheated with and they have two lovely kids. Now every single girl I have met after her live a life dedicated to deceit & cheating those I met in NL inclusive. There is none that does not have strings of bf labelled toasters waiting or servicing their honeypot till the mugu to put a ring on it comes around.

Here is a beta appreciation of the situation the guy she cheated with understand the quality your girl posses and he's seeking to covet her, if you slip up which happened to me bro they might be married in 6 month just like my situation. Now I have no idea how out going you are, how knowledgeable you are about finding "good marriageable girls" in Nigeria but trust me you'd NEVER find a beta girl than her so long you can vouch today she is a good girl but you need to figure out if her apology is genuine or not so you don't end up with a gangster Olosho or keep her in the wings faking forgiveness & search for a new girl. If a new good girl comes along well n good if not make do with her. What is out there is more dangerous.

GudPpleG8Nation:
I'm typing this with heavy burden in heart. I'm getting crazy and weeping.

I met this lady over 6 years ago during my higher institution days, she was a fresher while I'm in my semi final year in school. Things were going well, we had sex after two years of the relationship(I'm the one that disvirgin her).

I have been very caring, stood by her and also,I let go of any ladies that comes my way. I didn't want anything that will stain the relationship. That doesn't mean I'm perfect however I have been trying my best to make her feel comfortable, loved and happy.

I started feeling comfortable and worried about my future with her because I discovered that anytime we had a misunderstanding, before you know it she has find a guy she will be dirty chatting with. She always say she's doing that to hurt my feelings.

I proposed last year, met her mum and one of her uncle and introduced her to my parents officially. Presently, waiting for her extended family to send the list for the traditional marriage.

I traveled to Ibadan on Friday to spend the weekend with her, on Sunday I just took her phone to watch movie when a Whatsapp message, I checked it and I replied the message. The guy called her, she was reluctant to pick the phone, she picked and spoke with the guy. After which the guy messaged her on Whatsapp that he called to confirm she's the one chatting with him and not her bf. I play along and started chatting with the guy. The guy was telling her to come visit him, I started twisting the guy and he was splitting out how he won't touch her when she comes. I confronted my girl, it took her over 8 hours to confessed that they had sex.

Jesus! This is a lady I invested a lot on, build my world around, every other ladies are shit in my presence. Even when I had 1000 of reasons to let go, I still stay with her but right now my world is shattered, I'm going crazy.
I need help because I'm dying, where will I start from (I'm 30 years old). Every negative thought of this world is running through my mind (from committing suicide to killing the guy to making the girl useless to herself for the rest of her life)

GudPpleG8Nation:
I'm typing this with heavy burden in heart. I'm getting crazy and weeping.

I met this lady over 6 years ago during my higher institution days, she was a fresher while I'm in my semi final year in school. Things were going well, we had sex after two years of the relationship(I'm the one that disvirgin her).

I have been very caring, stood by her and also,I let go of any ladies that comes my way. I didn't want anything that will stain the relationship. That doesn't mean I'm perfect however I have been trying my best to make her feel comfortable, loved and happy.

I started feeling comfortable and worried about my future with her because I discovered that anytime we had a misunderstanding, before you know it she has find a guy she will be dirty chatting with. She always say she's doing that to hurt my feelings.

I proposed last year, met her mum and one of her uncle and introduced her to my parents officially. Presently, waiting for her extended family to send the list for the traditional marriage.

I traveled to Ibadan on Friday to spend the weekend with her, on Sunday I just took her phone to watch movie when a Whatsapp message, I checked it and I replied the message. The guy called her, she was reluctant to pick the phone, she picked and spoke with the guy. After which the guy messaged her on Whatsapp that he called to confirm she's the one chatting with him and not her bf. I play along and started chatting with the guy. The guy was telling her to come visit him, I started twisting the guy and he was splitting out how he won't touch her when she comes. I confronted my girl, it took her over 8 hours to confessed that they had sex.

Jesus! This is a lady I invested a lot on, build my world around, every other ladies are shit in my presence. Even when I had 1000 of reasons to let go, I still stay with her but right now my world is shattered, I'm going crazy.
I need help because I'm dying, where will I start from (I'm 30 years old). Every negative thought of this world is running through my mind (from committing suicide to killing the guy to making the girl useless to herself for the rest of her life)