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Gwaihir:
I don't think there is any problem with that, as far as both parties can compromise, understand and be patient for each other without it getting heated or a need for a back and forth. I think that is mainly why people are harping on the submissive part.

ibkayee:
Hmm most of the younger generation aren't as archaic but it would be willfully obtuse to think that no man wants this, times have changed but there are still people carrying such ideologies

supersystemsnig:
Our sisters thesedays are ready for us...

majekdom2:
many of you that rant about this white folks don't even know what equality is all about. when you understand what equality is all about, you will understand its not about being a stupid person or not following principles

sukkot:
please do my kind sir

Sterope:
That is no longer submission, is it?

Gwaihir:
No joy for their eye at all, na make person dey carry helmet walk

We know say some men don f up badly but small small for we wey dey find joy somewhere na

ibkayee:
Lol it goes both ways my guy, men aren't perfect either. Lol like I said, it's up to the couple to set the dynamic they're comfortable with (whatever that is, it will differ) and keep to whatever their part of the bargain is and also, let's be honest

, a lot of Nigerian men's ideas of being submissive aren't always as civil and 'collaborative' as you've put it, so I can see why women would be averse to it.

Also don't expect the person to change if that's not how you met them. As for Chris and Dami I don't know what exactly happened with them

oshaosha2014:
Not correct. I would say it is the playboy that gets the submissive wife most of the time because they socialise well and know which one of the ladies to pick,
and they are sure to be in full control of their home. Any playboy you see with a wife that is not submissive must have chosen her without deep thinking, he must have been carried away by her fame, pedegree, whatever. And when you are in the limelight it is very easy to choose wrongly. This attoh guy must have taken many ladies to bed who are ready to be everything for him, but he chose the high-class, happening babe instead, maybe thinking with his kinda profession thats the kinda woman that fits him... The one that will arouse attention any day any time. But these kinda ladies don't deserve marriage, just bleep and move on.

selflessmaya:
Like i told u before:

Nah ... Dumbass you's a bîtch swerve

thesuave10:
There's a balance in the way you submit

Sterope:
I have heard and seen lots of Nigerian example of submission.....Not me and them .


When you tell it to some guys though, they will argue with you that those are not true examples of submission. I think they meant compromise with the man as the figurehead.


However the majority of men and women in my experience will disagree with them.

Gwaihir:
You welcome.

Erm madam, small small, we all want marriages to work no need to appear combative. It is enough to trigger an ego tirade from a man speaking on "a man not financial responsible bla bla" statement in your previous post.

Sterope:
I have gone through your history. We can never agree with each other. Bye!

thesuave10:
Let's get right into it. Now you said you don't make absolute statement which immediately contradicts the statement in itself because like you said you don't make absolute statement. However that is not my main issue

It's where you said you say spiritual absolutes.

1 that for action their must be a cause , a spiritual one at that. That one doesn't just simply act but is controlled and programmed by spirit and spiritual algorithms.

2 you second absolute is that these spirits direct humans for different reasons and to different places.

Now you have clearly failed to explain how this is done. What makes the spirit do things that they do. For like you said every thing has a cause and is programmed. If you also say that we are programmed to do certain things then we're also programmed to do immoral things. Why would God put immoral codes into our spirits when he himself is moral.
I consider your theories as mere hallucinations but the greater problem is the erroneous reasoning from such hallucinations.
Let me show you another fallacy. Carnal things are not absolute but spiritual stuffs are absolute. If the spiritual controls the carnal why is the carnal not absolute as well? I say this because you said "we are dust and earth and we have no control but our spirit controls us" . further more can you say you have a full understanding of the spiritual realm and of God himself. If yes, explain if no then you cannot call something you a part of as absolute. The bible? You mean a book that was written then edited then rewritten then re edited then translated from dead languages then re translated then edited then rewritten then given to kings to take their favorite parts then rewritten then rewritten then translated again then given to the pope for him to approve then rewritten then edited again then re-re-re-re-re-re-written all based on a story that was told orally some 30 to 90 years after the happened to people who didn't know how to write. That book yh?

supersystemsnig:
I mean mistrust has done a lot of damage to the younger generation...Everyone is quick to mistrust one another so fast...

Sterope:
Like a man who is not financially responsible but expects his wife to trust in him because he is the head of the family... People and their jokes

I admit I don't understand the word in the context of marriage. I understand that there are times when you go with everything he says but it is beyond comprehension to expect an adult to say ‘yes' to everything and be comfortable with someone else having his way all the time. I may understand submission in a business relationship but marriage with all its familiarity...Nope.

I might actually understand it the day my parents and I stop disagreeing.

thesuave10:
Submissive means to yield or accept to a figurehead. Don't be an ignorant îdiot

thesuave10:
I'm lecturing you not arguing. You don't know what you're saying

Sterope:
That is the thing..


Your ego is not bigger than the collective well-being of the family. How am I supposed to trust you or regard you as the head if you are not in terms with your weaknesses?

Sterope:
I want to be an ignor.ant idi.ot

thesuave10:
Nah ... Dumbass you's a bîtch swerve

Sterope:
Yes sir but I am not your student.

If you are so passionate about it, get a lecturing job and stop being an e-idiot.

In this case your my submissive foolish student

Gwaihir:
I agree with you madam, yes no one is perfect and companionships are so she compliments/completes you. I believe the rib out of Adam should be figurative enough for any reasonable man to understand.

Why i pointed that out was because the start of your post appeared combative with derision. Approach is the key thing madam and patience, if after all that, you can go ballistic all you want.

selflessmaya:
lmao u dont have what it takes to make me feel insulted. like.. ever!!! moreover, when one replies to bish bye, they're mad pressed. so stay as mad as i made u or reply again just to tell me u aint mad. as! if! haha

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Already made you feel insulted? Well that's what I wanted you scumbag

majekdom2:
Mosttimes, the things he expects you to say yes to are even things that matter in your life, if you ask me, I will give th0rough thoughts before saying no but women let sentiments cloud their sense of reasoning. For a financially weak man, yes there may be storms but a woman should be able to tell a 'MAN'. he doesnt have to be dangote before you think you can listen to him but at least above you or trying to be. Marriage is like a Business. most institutions in life are run like a business check around. Business is not always about a CEO, or a Line managers Decision. I have been in a company where the CEO had to listen to the advice of a very low staff. One soldier never wins a battle. saying NO without proper thoughts is one reason relationships have problems.

selflessmaya:
if u have nothing to say, dont mention me. i rarely call comments stupid.. but your comment was stupid, it really had no point... if u must voice it, why must u tag me? hian

sukkot:
VERY GOOD QUESTION. Now part of the program put in us is evil and part of it is good and then comes what is called FREEWILL. you are expected to choose the good part / path and not the evil. like they say ' the world is a stage and we are all actors '. so you are expected to dwell in your higher self and not your lower self. however the good and evil programs in you are created in you by GOD

ISAIAH 45 VS 7 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the Lord do all these things. << HE CREATED EVIL AND DARKNESS AS WELL AS LIGHT. SO NOW YOU ARE EXPECTED TO CHOOSE THE LIGHT OUT OF FREEWILL OF COURSE. ITS A GAME OF SORTS.

You ignored others? Hehehe spiritual is absolute and it controls the carnal . now the carnal has freewill? bros you don't know what you're saying you're contradicting yourself up and down. I'm not surprised sha. It happens when you feel you know the spiritual 100% Bible again. the bible? You mean a book that was written then edited then rewritten then re edited then translated from dead languages then re translated then edited then rewritten then given to kings to take their favorite parts then rewritten then rewritten then translated again then given to the pope for him to approve then rewritten then edited again then re-re-re-re-re-re-written all based on a story that was told orally some 30 to 90 years after the happened to people who didn't know how to write. That book yh?

majekdom2:
Typical example.... I just told you. check the meaning of equality
equality
ɪˈkwɒlɪti,iːˈkwɒlɪti/Submit
noun
1.
the state of being equal, especially in status, rights, or opportunities. So why would you see yourself as unequal with your partner in the first instance. Marriage presents you and your partner with equal rights and opportunities. you both have the 'married' status. you are both doing things as one to overcome the world. so why would you see it as a contest. Can you see your stupidity. many of you enter marriage with a ''difference'' mentality and not indifferent. you enter not because you see him as a complement, sometimes as a competitor. its a thought process.... perhaps what you have suffered from male bosses. Gender Equality has never been applicable to marriage 'quote me anywhere'. because the institution was not created to support inequality, however in any institutions there is always need for cooperation and many attributes. perhaps when this is lacking is where there is a problem. SO again, Get wisdom on the word equality

Lol leave that dog alone

sukkot:
LMAO GOD is real but the name GOD is a title. his name is not GOD. Holy spirit is a description and not the name of someone. you need to understand how to read the bible bro

supersystemsnig:
We are the beneficiaries of the past bad relationships they had. I've come to know i need to expect some baggages...Winning trust becomes extremely difficult... I go give up bro...Even engineering maths, designs we used to study back in the days were not these difficult. I still have some engineering models i need to touch up, maybe i should pickup my lost love, i.e. engineering and start giving up on love matter..


Have to go cya, appointment