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Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by enemyofprogress: 5:50pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Tell them to go to hell and go ahead to live your life but always watch your back 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by blezzymoore: 5:50pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
G |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by mine85(m): 5:50pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Take one of ur sibling out of the country too, find him a job there and tell everyone to shift attention to him while u will continue to help out where necessary. Also, provide one with significant capital to start up a business here in Nigeria. With this, they will be happy. You are supposed to have done this all these while. So don't see it as condition ur family giving you, rather see it as what should have done long ago... Family over everything, no matter what. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by dessz(m): 5:51pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
whitebeard:I was focusing on a game I saw so forgot nl use to exist bro . How u dey |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by whitebeard(m): 5:52pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
dessz:I dey jars, which game are u working on |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by whitebeard(m): 5:52pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
dessz:I dey jare, which game are u working on |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by Flatties: 5:54pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Bro if the collective resources of the household was used to sponsor you abroad at the expense of your siblings, then I can understand what they meant by "settle" but if not, bro do what your heart pleases and enjoy your life to the fullest. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by hahnsmall: 5:54pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
madridguy: You can only teach someone who wants to learn Many people are content receiving fish 9 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by dessz(m): 5:55pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
whitebeard:an online game called empire wars. Like coc but more matured |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by Lomprico2: 5:55pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Melian: Bigots everywhere! |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by femi4: 5:56pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
holyboii:Shut up! You are wrong, she is right You can't solve all your family problems. 6 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by Mrkumareze(m): 5:56pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Better start your life bro. It's a common thing among we Nigerians, they always see those in abroad as ATM . If you don't focus now you 'll never . Just get yourself a matured lady who can stand the pressure 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by whitebeard(m): 5:57pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
dessz:empire wars, has the game been launched..! |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by AntiWailer: 5:57pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Bros. Run away from them. U can rent family to marry. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by dessz(m): 5:58pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
whitebeard:Since 2015 |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by silasweb(m): 5:58pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Like seriously |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by whitebeard(m): 5:59pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
dessz:lol sorry when u said u were "working on it" I taught u are the game's developer. What is the game's full name..!? |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by thegrace: 6:00pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Please delay your marriage for now. Continue your regular support for the next six months. Cut it down in half especially your siblings after six months. Reason you give them is that things are hard over there, global economic meltdown is everywhere. Meanwhile, don't bring up the issue of marriage. After a year do a low key wedding. I am currently experiencing the betrayal of people you trusted at home and call family. You will be surprised that these people acting like paupers have properties you don't have. Milking you because you are, 'abroad' and can't see what they have. you owe them nothing by force, no sibling should give such altimatum unless you were trained by family property. Lord guide you. 8 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by abbaapple: 6:00pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
lalanice:Gerrarahia! |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by ivolt: 6:01pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
You are just an ATM for your family. No love is involved. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by dessz(m): 6:01pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
whitebeard:u really no well oh I said name is "empire wars age of heroes" |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by kelzgie: 6:02pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
hdeeman:they feel if you get married.. youd forget them and probably concentrate on your wife and her family needs.. and it's like that with most marriages.. so.. just assure them you are game |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by castrol180(m): 6:02pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
In simple term, you are stingy. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by Jethrolite(m): 6:03pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
hdeeman:You have made the right decision, follow your heart. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by DonConst(m): 6:03pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
hdeeman: Brother... for d sake of ur God d one who was n Is...and for ur wife to be, ur children.... settle them as they request in d best way u can afford....bcs they can't cook soup but they can rubish it. God's gift will continue to shine on u...amen |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by seangy4konji: 6:03pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
you made sense bro...they will ignore their younger ones..instead f carrying them along with how to fish,they will be giving fish and those one will be dependent..guess enjoying it that they ask him for change as chairman instead if teaching them how to fish..now the burden is too much and complaining..thats why they are you family..you need to carry them along.if your younger ones weh doing alright,they will even ask you to come home with no kobo and fruit your bills as better bro weh u be...they will be d ones taking care of parentss senf cos cash deh...giving money is different from teaching someone how to get money..the person wont be a burden, madridguy: |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by Iwaycee(m): 6:04pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Daeylar:I respect ur opinion, but dats not d best option in dis case. Can u visualize ur wedding day without any family member from ur side, although they ar still alive, truly speaking U won't enjoy dat, so I believe d man should try and sort tinz out with d help of elderly ones in the family |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by Willie2015: 6:04pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
enabledgoddess: Tks for this. Pls find a way of settling this matter amicably. One single African Magic arrow can send you back to Road One. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by Ezigbonmadu: 6:05pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
hdeeman: Ibu onyigbo? Everybody uses everybody there. You must drop money or no marriage for you. They mean it. The most ridiculous thing is that even after your marriage they will still come after you with demands. You will still "train" your siblings, cousins and extended family members. My brother/sister, if you see anybody to marry outside iboland please marry. Avoid them like leprosy because your spouse will also add her family burden to double yours. More importantly, most other tribes in Nigeria are also okay with registry wedding. That is the only legal wedding by the way. To hell with exploitative igba nkwu nwaayin. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by kelzgie: 6:06pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
mine85:true.. the guy shud av taken his immediate younger bro.. then that one wud help fix the family.. or pick up the one younger to/than him too... that's how it's done. sending money ain't Enof.. truth be told. once he gets married the likelyhood of taking care of his family is zero 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by whitebeard(m): 6:06pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
dessz:okay I just checked it on play store, I have played many other games of it kind, war and order, clash of kings, ocean and empires, pirates something sha (same maker of ocean and empires) I recently played on but I can't remember the name..! I might trying this empire war but it has a low rating 4.2, are people active in the game..! Chinese are a big threat to games like this. |
Re: I Want To Get Married But My Family Is Insisting I Must Settle Everybody First by Diso60090(m): 6:06pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
With your writing you must be a Benin person because na this kind life full there |
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