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Donvitalis:
I got hooked reading this.

Setting boundaries is everything.

makydebbie:
Thanks.
Sometimes, boundaries ain't enough. We tend to break it when things get out of hand.

Donvitalis:
It gets difficult at some point, but it's less suicidal to know what you want and make sure the other person understands it - fully.

makydebbie:
Sure.

princ007:
Morning sis.
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Fussbot:
Adopting the words of an earlier poster as mine, as you grow older u'l realize if you purport to have sex with every girl that comes ur way, it'll be difficult bfr u make it in life

I have a lot of female friends and maybe it's pride or smtin, asking them out is totally weird to me. First reason being that, I eventually do get on with their boyfriends. Second, I have gfs I straff anytime! I'm not pssy starved!
My female bestie knows she has to leave few minutes after my gf comes...and if it's a day I want to spend with her(bestie) I don't allow any girl to come visiting...
that's my own life

One particular female friend sleeps over anytime. She baths, dress up and wears my shorts sometimes. Over one year now, nothing has happened and cannot happen.

As a man I blf u shouldn't be controlled by mere seeing a fresh body or smtin. Self control maybe? or maybe some of us have had enough sex and see it as no biggie again.. Lol..



U are also right about the leading on and boundary part. A girl we were just getting close slept over my place the third or fourth day. I picked the wrong signal and made the move at midnight. We talked about being friends only and it's been that since then..and trust me, the things I've learned and gained through her, I wld never have gotten if it was a sexual friendship.

So OP, don't mind my epistle. My point is u can have female friends without thinking of having sex with them and all..maybe I belong to the 10% sha. Although I do tell them I don't and never will rule out anything between us. If fate wld have it I can marry any of them. They are that amazing!

And lastly, having said all that, that doesn't mean a niiiga should reject a ppssy If offered one no matter level of closeness. U know, I have my ego and reputation to protect....winks

makydebbie:
I slept off
But I've replied since myself. Good morning.

princ007:
Seen ! I want to oo ! you better go and start typing o. Lolz !

makydebbie:
Replied.

BBLOOD:
I hope you haven't done the one corner dance yet.

makydebbie:
Fortunately I love the dance very much same with my sisters.

BBLOOD:
Jeez! This would be a perfect time to be in Gh.

I'd love to see you do the dance.

Fussbot:
Adopting the words of an earlier poster as mine, as you grow older u'l realize if you purport to have sex with every girl that comes ur way, it'll be difficult bfr u make it in life

I have a lot of female friends and maybe it's pride or smtin, asking them out is totally weird to me. First reason being that, I eventually do get on with their boyfriends. Second, I have gfs I straff anytime! I'm not pssy starved!
My female bestie knows she has to leave few minutes after my gf comes...and if it's a day I want to spend with her(bestie) I don't allow any girl to come visiting...
that's my own life

One particular female friend sleeps over anytime. She baths, dress up and wears my shorts sometimes. Over one year now, nothing has happened and cannot happen.

As a man I blf u shouldn't be controlled by mere seeing a fresh body or smtin. Self control maybe? or maybe some of us have had enough sex and see it as no biggie again.. Lol..



U are also right about the leading on and boundary part. A girl we were just getting close slept over my place the third or fourth day. I picked the wrong signal and made the move at midnight. We talked about being friends only and it's been that since then..and trust me, the things I've learned and gained through her, I wld never have gotten if it was a sexual friendship.

So OP, don't mind my epistle. My point is u can have female friends without thinking of having sex with them and all..maybe I belong to the 10% sha. Although I do tell them I don't and never will rule out anything between us. If fate wld have it I can marry any of them. They are that amazing!

And lastly, having said all that, that doesn't mean a niiiga should reject a ppssy If offered one no matter level of closeness. U know, I have my ego and reputation to protect....winks

makydebbie:
Sure you would.

BBLOOD:
I'd shoot you a PM if it works.

makydebbie:
I'm wary of alternate accounts.

BBLOOD:
Na, you know me already..My other account was banned for a long time so I had no choice. Thanks to your supermod b.f.

makydebbie:
So what's your main?

BBLOOD:
I'll tell you in private.

makydebbie:
I'll prefer a dead thread.

makydebbie:
Friendship with the opposite sex most times don't end well. Most times, I find ladies saying; their fellow girls do backstab, lie, take their boyfriends, gossip etc. See as a lady, I will say this. If you cannot have a single female friend whom you trust, then the problem is from YOU and YOU alone. If you're always complaining that your friends do take your boyfriends, then stop being friends with olosho and boyfriend's snatchers. By the way, do not forget you're what you attract.



Yes we know we ladies have issues, we fight, and gossip. (But wait tell me who doesn't gossip? Have you seen when guys are gossiping? If they table your matter among their friends for you ehn, you'll change that twisted mentality).

You that do not have issues because you're miss perfect. And you're tired of girls that you don't want female friends or bestie. You know, at the end most times, these guys just want to fvck you right?


My dear, this is how it start. It starts from friendship. Mind you, I'm not saying that it is wrong to have male friends, of course we learn things from each other. But it also has to be defined and you must set the records straight, tell him the boundaries. My dear ladies be straight forward! If you're single let him know, if you're not ready for a relationship, let him know! Don't lead him on that's wicked!! And then if the guy is persistent, he will be your bestie and that's how it starts.


When you ask your boyfriend for money and advice and he's not ready to give you, sheybi it's bestie you'll tell abi? That one will now give you money and advice because he's BESTIE FATHER CHRISTMAS shey?
You've started building your foundation for a future romance with bestie.


Then you'll have issues, boyfriend is annoying you. After you've friendzoned bestie against his wish, it's bestie you'll run to who will capitalize on your boyfriend's flaws and get you nak.ed on his bed.



You say guys don't have issues because they take your excesses. Hope you know it's for a prize and it's all for the greater good? Sometimes, you'll see them as nice because they comfort you, they make you laugh, not a dull moment shey? And you'll equally be nice and these besties will misinterpret your nice gestures and see them as "green light".


From bestie to confidant, to friends with benefits and you'll be wondering how you guys got there, you'll even say the guy took advantage of you. Some cases even leads to rape. If you're kuku a fool you'll say it's chemistry.

But then, ladies let's not castigate all the guys. There are genuine mature guys, who'll just like you as a friend and would want the best for you and they are 10% out of 100%. (Mind you, I'm being generous with my figures.)

Also, ladies let's not forget guys are logical and ladies emotional. Maybe the guy just likes you and your company and its possible you'll see it as "green light" because of the love, care, affection, and attention he gives you. We ladies can't deny we love attention from the opposite sex. And then, you start catching feelings, you'll get confused because you're now in love with someone who doesn't feel the same way. And if this guy is a fvckboy, he'll use it against you, your case is finished. But if he doesn't, your friendship will become awkward and permit me to say RIP to that friendship.


If you're a guy and your girlfriend has alot of male friends then I'm almost sorry for you, but then, if your girlfriend has alot of male friends and will be telling them everything that goes on in your relationship, then I'm definitely sorry for you.



"And those of you that shares your relationship problems with male friends and besties. And that one will be comforting you, the day you will realize he's not the Holy Spirit the comforter, I hope it won't be the day you'll find yourself na.ked on his bed"~ MzLarem.



Original writer- Makydebbie

callmemikel:
You just keep ignoring my mail even tho you are the only friend I have in Ghana here.

makydebbie:
Err "friend" from?

Piiko:
your dp is nice, I like ur nose

makydebbie:
Err "friend" from?

callmemikel:
Lol... Collins. Telecom Engineer, Ghana.

makydebbie:
Oh, I don't use that mail anymore.

callmemikel:
I see. Can I PM you for your new mail dear?

colossus91:
i keep female friends only online its very risky having a physical opposite sex friend speaking from experience!!

Lol, i don't have gfs cos mi o raye oshi.