A young lady who found herself between the devil and the deep blue sea after her father threatened her for wanting to get married to a Christian man from Edo, has shared her story exclusively with NAIJ.com.

The Muslim lady identified simply as Adeola from Ilorin, Kwara state, who stated the odds and how far she has come to get to this point in her life also confessed to being raised in a polygamous home with her mother being the first wife.

Being the last child of her mother who had three children for her husband, Adeola whose father has other children from his other wives, considers herself to be a product of divorce as her mother single handedly raised her and her siblings. Her father neglected them while they lived with him and he did not bother to look out for them when they were no longer within his reach.


Being born into a Muslim family is starting to affect her chances of settling down according to her. She stopped practicing the religion the moment she left her father. She revealed she mingled with some Muslim guys before she started mixing with the Christians. Not being able to derive any satisfaction from the Muslim men around her made her find her present fiancé.

Read the full text she wrote below:
“Am a young lady who hails from ilorin,Kwara state.I was born into a Muslim and polygamous home,my mum is the first wife and we are just 3 in her hands and am the last born but my Father has children from other wives, Am in my early 20's, am a product of divorce Of marriage over 15yrs now and am set for my marriage as well.”
“I lived with my mother, she was the one who trained my elder brother and I my from primary to secondary and even tertiary, my father doesn't show us any fatherly care even when we were still living with him,his mother and his other wives,thanks to his mother who was our grandmother, before my mum came from Lagos to take us ,he doesn't call us but few years now, he called maybe once in a year, its almost 6years that have seen him last.”

“Now been born into a muslim family is now an hindrance in my settling down and this is the religion which I personally don't practice again as i used to since i left my hometown (my father's house)1999/2000.At times, when we got to Lagos,my brother and I do go to Nasfat,and also I do follow my friends to churches,I have been into relationships which I have just only 2 Muslim guys, the first one was married when I discovered I have to let go of him because he didn't tell me that he was married with kids, the second one was in an hurry to get married and we hardly see then due to distance and since then have been in relationship with Christians, but now, am ready to settle down with my fiance who is a Christian that hails from Uredo Local Government in Edo State, we have been together now for almost 2years ,my mum, brother and sister knows my fiance, but my elder sister do tell me and my elder brother not to bring Christian for her and my mum advised my fiance and I to be practicing Islamic religion because of my father which we didn't take serious.”

“My fiancé and I have been to 2/3 places both Christian and muslim to pray and check if we are good for each other, they were all saying,we are perfect match.The recent sallah,Sept 1st,2017 ,I took my fiance to one of my Uncle's place(my father's immediate brother) who is the chief Imam of his community, he also checked(using his own Islamic method) if me and my fiancé are perfect match, he also said we are good but the only problem is the religion aspect.”


Her father said she would regret it if she goes ahead with the marriage. Source: Facebook, Hollory Ardeola.
“That if i should marry him now,I will become a Christian, that I still have to take my fiance to Ilorin since my father is still alive but before getting home he had called my dad to tell him, immediately we got home that night, I received my father's call yelling at me, saying different things, the worst of it all, he said I WILL REGRET IT,IF I

abeg marry the xtian guy jor . you are sure of monogamy

Funny how a father who didn't raise you gets to exert his fatherhood and decide for you when its time for to marry.

I won't be surprised if he goes to babalawo to make good his threat

"the heart of man is desperately wicked"

It's far worse up north you might as well be committing suicide if you marry a Christian as a Muslim lady

So much for religion of peace.

You father says you will regret?Regret what?The dysfunctional way he raised you?Mcheeew.

ur father must be mad....check well

who will live with ur husband. u or ur Father. always please urself before family

na wa for some fathers. Somebody u didnt care for fa??

Heed your father's warning talking from experience.

The father is right,she will surely regret it. As long as you two have started having sex,it will be revealed you are compatible every time you check...

The last thing i will think of in my life is marrying a Christian or what do they call their selves. Out of all the guys in ilorin, you didn't see anyone to marry except these hypocrites, my sister i am not sure you were born with a brain.
Oya, let the devils start vexing

The religion of peace eh

This is absurd. The task of parents is to love, protect and nurture their children, to provide the environment in which they will flourish and reach maximum actualization of their potentials, in order to raise fine adults and great citizens, NOT to coerce them into doing things that satisfy their own selfish interest, not to rigidly mould them into the form and shape they desire, regardless of the wishes and happiness of the children, not to make them into mirror-images of themselves, not to create fearful, conformist, gullible idiots that can't stand on their own feets as adults to question their parents' WRONG, SELFISH and IMMORAL decisions, especially when it is going to affect their lives in a significant way.

Your parents can advise you on the right step to take - given the clueless and inexperienced child you are. They can try to make you see reason. But one thing they would never do is coerce you, as an adult, into doing things you hate and getting rid of things you love, unless they do not care about your happiness and only see you as a means to an end, and not an end in yourself.

Nobody should tolerate this kind of rubbish. Your parents brought you to this world doesn't mean they own you. You have a life of your own and you're nobody's property.

It is not the job of parents to force children into a rigid mould of parental, religious and social expectations. It is not the job of parents to bring up their children in their own image. It is not the job of parents to be dictators and tyrants over their children. Rather, they must be helpful guardians, guides and mentors.

abudawah:
Heed your father's warning talking from experience.

What did you "experience"?

Alao046:
The last thing i will think of in my life is marrying a Christian or what do they call their selves. Out of all the guys in ilorin, you didn't see anyone to marry except these hypocrites, my sister i am not sure you were born with a brain.
Oya, let the devils start vexing

Smh.

From my own point of view, this girl is just a muslim by name and birth but not by religion. Am very sure she is not using hijab. I have never seen a sensible devoted Muslim that will marry a Christian. For what? Muslim brothers has finished on earth?

You'd better wake up from your dream to reality. If you think you can't know peace in marriage if you didn't marry this Christian, I swear you won't know peace if you marry Christian. Better Sunnah brothers are out there.

Though the father too is wrong by not taking care of her but not wrong in telling her not to marry a Christian.

If my children marry a Christian, I will disown them in this life and the hereafter. What am I saying gan sef, they can't even think of marrying a Christian because the way they will be brought up will be in a way of a Salaf (pure Muslim) .

So, as a muslim, if your father didn't tell you, you don't know marrying a non-muslim is wrong, odte.

Just kuku convert since you are going to church already.

Mariinee:
So, as a muslim, if your father didn't tell you, you don't know marrying a non-muslim is wrong, odte.

Just kuku convert since you are going to church already.

But it's not wrong for a Muslim guy to marry a christian lady? Such hypocrisy!smh

thorpido:
But it's not wrong for a Muslim guy to marry a christian lady? Such hypocrisy!smh

It's vice-versa, sir.
A muslim shouldn't marry a non-muslim.

Legolast:
From my own point of view, this girl is just a muslim by name and birth but not by religion. Am very sure she is not using hijab. I have never seen a sensible devoted Muslim that will marry a Christian. For what? Muslim brothers has finished on earth?

You'd better wake up from your dream to reality. If you think you can't know peace in marriage if you didn't marry this Christian, I swear you won't know peace if you marry Christian. Better Sunnah brothers are out there.

Though the father too is wrong by not taking care of her but not wrong in telling her not to marry a Christian.

If my children marry a Christian, I will disown them in this life and the hereafter. What am I saying gan sef, they can't even think of marrying a Christian because the way they will be brought up will be in a way of a Salaf (pure Muslim) .

You do not have power over any man's life,not even your own children .
Just don't kill them if they choose a path different to yours.

Mariinee:
It's vice-versa, sir.
A muslim shouldn't marry a non-muslim.

The Quran gives liberty for the men to do it and it was done during the times of Muhammed.

thorpido:
The Quran gives liberty for the men to do it and it was done during the times of Muhammed.

You must be mistaken. The Quran doesn't and it certainly didn't happen during the days of the Prophet. Unless the person accepted Islam before getting married.

Mariinee:
You must be mistaken. The Quran doesn't and it certainly didn't happen during the days of the Prophet. Unless the person accepted Islam before getting married.

Go and read your Quran very well.Muhammed married a Jew named Safiyyah and she was even a war booty when Muhammed and his men invaded a town called Khaibar.

thorpido:
Go and read your Quran very well.Muhammed married a Jew named Safiyyah and she was even a war booty when Muhammed and his men invaded a town called Khaibar.

Loooooool. I don't need to read my Quran.
Stop peddling nonsense on what you know nothing about.

Mariinee:
Loooooool. I don't need to read my Quran.
Stop peddling nonsense on what you know nothing about.

Don't be like the ostrich burying the head in the sand.Read about the two Jewish wives Muhammed married.
Read the Sahih al-Bukhari Volume 1,book 8 and read about Juwayriyyah who was also a Jew.

Funny how he was absent when he was truly needed to train and put you on the right path but suddenly remembers he's got a daughter to help choose husband now that you're all grown... Indeed! some men are brain dead.

He only called after 6years to yell at your choice of man and you're taking him serious? . You sef phoolish small

The Lady might not be a good Muslim or she doesn't understand Islam practices on such issue. She should ask questions from good Muslims around her, if she is still ready to continue being a good Muslimah.

Inter-tribal marriage is mostly prevalent in kwara state where Muslims marry Christians and we all advising her to either marry or not marry a Christian aren't in her shoes to know how it feels. family pressure is real and the discrimination she is probably facing right now will be unthinkable and could drive someone to suicide.

I don't think it's easy on her family to lose there daughter to a brother religion and honestly, As a Christian I don't think I'll ever allow my daughter or sister to settle down with a Muslim,no pun intended.

A lot is at play her and if it were they western countries this wouldn't be an issue.we can only pray it goes well for her cos I really don't fancy her situation at all.Godspeed.

Legolast:
From my own point of view, this girl is just a muslim by name and birth but not by religion. Am very sure she is not using hijab. I have never seen a sensible devoted Muslim that will marry a Christian. For what? Muslim brothers has finished on earth?

You'd better wake up from your dream to reality. If you think you can't know peace in marriage if you didn't marry this Christian, I swear you won't know peace if you marry Christian. Better Sunnah brothers are out there.

Though the father too is wrong by not taking care of her but not wrong in telling her not to marry a Christian.

If my children marry a Christian, I will disown them in this life and the hereafter. What am I saying gan sef, they can't even think of marrying a Christian because the way they will be brought up will be in a way of a Salaf (pure Muslim) .

is better u kil Dem Na instead of disown cos Dy marry Christian only a selfish nd people who lack knowledge can do DAT think well sir.

Useless fathers wan Dy claim rights.

Dammytemmy:
is better u kil Dem Na instead of disown cos Dy marry Christian only a selfish nd people who lack knowledge can do DAT think well sir.

[font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font]I believe you can pass your information without insulting people.

I've stated it in my comment, they can't even go through another path different from mine once they [color=#990000][/color] bi ma sese nkan mi koyi pada, gaskiya

iyketex007:
Inter-tribal marriage is mostly prevalent in kwara state where Muslims marry Christians and we all advising her to either marry or not marry a Christian aren't in her shoes to know how it feels. family pressure is real and the discrimination she is probably facing right now will be unthinkable and could drive someone to suicide.

I don't think it's easy on her family to lose there daughter to a brother religion and honestly, As a Christian I don't think I'll ever allow my daughter or sister to settle down with a Muslim,no pun intended.

A lot is at play her and if it were they western countries this wouldn't be an issue.we can only pray it goes well for her cos I really don't fancy her situation at all.Godspeed.

Thank you very much, sebi na pesin talk with sense now unlike some idiot abusing