That's very very bad. She doesn't trust you. A relationship without trust is headed nowhere and if she can't talk to you about something like this then the relationship isn't going to make it.

This is a relationship and so actions that affect the relationship should be decided by both partners.

Mariinee:
She didn't wait for the guy to reject first tho.

80% of guys will reject the pregnancy...
Her short comings is drawing into conclusions rapidly ...

Jodha:


80% of guys will reject the pregnancy...
Her short comings is drawing into conclusions rapidly ...

Shows how dangerous she is

makydebbie:
No dey justify this kain thing abeg. She didn't get herself pregnant. When things like this happens, you tell the other party then you guys can conclude. She was plain WRONG.

Im not tryna justify her actions....she took a wrong step and made a big mistake..shes prolly gonna regret for the rest of her life...

But that doesnt change the fact that some guys are chickens...she has maybe heard stories of guys rejecting pregnancies....
There are some kinda things that will happen to yhu unexpectedly thatll make yhu not to think straight...


Maybe she was under some kind of pressure..

Jodha:


She made a mistake....i bet she did it for the child....a child will suffer emotional truama growing up and been called a bastard...if the guy rejected...

Did wetin for the child? Killed the child for his/her own good abi, without talking to the child's father about it?

She couldn't tell her man about the pregnancy but had enough courage to tell him she aborted his child

She could still get rid of the baby if her fears were confirmed after telling the guy, yunno?

Mille:
Something similar happened to me and I feel your pain.

In my case, we were even cohabiting, 2yrs in at the time and I noticed signs of pregnancy in her. Went for a test and came out positive; 8weeks. I can say it remains the happiest moment of my life.

The next day, I discovered my girl was moody. It was all about one stupid hungry fake pastor that told her I would abandon her with the baby not marry her in future. A 'prophesy' I still find laughable till today. Calmed her down, promised her heaven and even swore on my life.

The day after, she went out to visit a friend (one who I discovered gave her abortion concoctions) while I planned to take her to my family in Lagos and get everything settled. When she got back, I told her to pack her bags and we headed for Lagos.

I remember that on entering the gate of my parent's house to introduce them to my 'pregnant fiancée', I noticed blood coming out. I didn't need anyone to tell me what has happened. Confirmed it medically the next day, and ended up paying for an operation for her because it caused some medical complications.


Since that day, Man or woman, friend or foe, if you are the overly religious type whose brain does not function, nor have the tenacity to think on its own without following some silly fabricated book or listening to conmen who hide under religion, I stay away from you.

Oh my God are you kidding me? I can't begin to imagine. Hope you booted the stupid girl out? Very silly thing

Jodha:


Im not tryna justify her actions....she took a wrong step and made a big mistake..shes prolly gonna regret for the rest of her life...

But that doesnt change the fact that some guys are chickens...she has maybe heard stories of guys rejecting pregnancies....
There are some kinda things that will happen to yhu unexpectedly thatll make yhu not to think straight...


Maybe she was under some kind of pressure..

She should know her guy, someone she has been dating for long. Her action cannot be justified.

She cannot think straight concerning her child?

pcguru1:


Shows how dangerous she is

All im trying to say is nobody is perfect...

Before he decided to relocate to another place and settle down with her....he must have seen some traits in her that are wife material...

If he loves her...he'll overlook her shortcomings..

H2Ossss:
The decision was meant to be made by you both.... I suggest you forgive her

You suggest? You seeing a bright red flag and you suggesting they forget and move on? She didn't give the op a chance to decide on d fate of that baby... That's if its the op's to begin with.

Op run faster than a cheetah

Blackhawk01:


Did wetin for the child? Killed the child for his/her own good abi, without talking to the child's father about it?

She couldn't tell her man about the pregnancy but had enough courage to tell him she aborted his child

She could still get rid of the baby if her fears were confirmed after telling the guy, yunno?

...
Yh yhure rght....but all im saying is ..nobody is perfect...

Maybe she recieved the wrong advice..at the wrong time...

Adaumunocha:
You suggest? You seeing a bright red flag and you suggesting they forget and move on? She didn't give the op a chance to decide on d fate of that baby... That's if its the op's to begin with.

Op run faster than a cheetah

Oga... Calm down... She made a mistake because of fear or insecurity.. If he really loves her he should be ready to forgive and move on.... Its not easy to start a new relationship

makydebbie:
She should know her guy, someone she has been dating for long. Her action cannot be justified.

She cannot think straight concerning her child?

What if he has never showed any sign of commitment...

See tension and frustration ...together with those amebo busy body advice...can make one do something...he/she will not do normally...

H2Ossss:


Oga... Calm down... She made a mistake because of fear or insecurity.. If he really loves her he should be ready to forgive and move on.... Its not easy to start a new relationship

Gbaam!

She is a foolish girl

Jodha:


...
Yh yhure rght....but all im saying is ..nobody is perfect...

Maybe she recieved the wrong advice..at the wrong time...

Finally! You're getting me now.

Mbanu! You can't be forced to take an advice if it doesn't suit you. She's the instigator and executor, 2in1.

Jodha:
Forgive her....its not totally her fault that some guys are thoughtless beasts.....

Abortion is not a good thing but...she made a mistake everyone does....

FORGIVE HER!!

If the Op was you blood brother, would you have advised him the same thing?

Jodha:


What if he has never showed any sign of commitment...

See tension and frustration ...together with those amebo busy body advice...can make one do something...he/she will not do normally...

Lol I'm done with this argument with you, you're trying so hard not to see sense in this. What sign of commitment are you waiting for when he's even planing to relocate because of her and planning to marry her?She's wrong she's wrong. She was never right. This is murder without telling the father. And what did she gain now telling the guy?

Is she a baby that can't make decisions? Yet she can jump into conclusion and kill the child. That's extremely wicked.

H2Ossss:


Oga... Calm down... She made a mistake because of fear or insecurity.. If he really loves her he should be ready to forgive and move on.... Its not easy to start a new relationship

When d ghen then start in marriage will you be there? If the op can forgive her and move on without bringing up the issue at d slightest provocation, let him continue.

@Sixhours, be a bigger man and forgive her d transgression as your lord forgives you. No one is perfect. You guys need to communicate more.

FortifiedCity:
If the Op was you blood brother, would you have advised him the same thing?

I actually came back to this thread with the same question for her.

Blackhawk01:


I actually came back to this thread with the same question for her.

Don't mind her.

That lady does not regard the guy at alllllllll and would do worst things if they eventually ended up

Jodha:


She made a mistake....i bet she did it for the child....a child will suffer emotional truama growing up and been called a bastard...if the guy rejected...

Jodha.....Jodha. ...Jodha...

How many times did I call you?
Kpachara Anya g!!!!!!

How could you even type this shyt that I quoted?

From today henceforth, desist from giving relationship advice because YOU SUCK AT IT

FortifiedCity:
Don't mind her.

That lady does not regard the guy at alllllllll and would do worst things if they eventually ended up

Gbam! Gbammer!! Gbammest!!!

Spot on! What's a relationship without trust and respect? Make them part ways biko.

Jodha:


Im not tryna justify her actions....she took a wrong step and made a big mistake..shes prolly gonna regret for the rest of her life...

But that doesnt change the fact that some guys are chickens...she has maybe heard stories of guys rejecting pregnancies....
There are some kinda things that will happen to yhu unexpectedly thatll make yhu not to think straight...


Maybe she was under some kind of pressure..

what a funny post

you can see the kind of person this one should is from her posts

this one can kill someone without you knowing

FortifiedCity:
Jodha.....Jodha. ...Jodha...

How many times did I call you?
Kpachara Anya g!!!!!!

How could you even type this shyt that I quoted?

From today henceforth, desist from giving relationship advice because YOU SUCK AT IT

Looolzxz yehz sir..m

Jodha:
Forgive her....its not totally her fault that some guys are thoughtless beasts.....

Abortion is not a good thing but...she made a mistake everyone does....

FORGIVE HER!!

Imagine what u re saying. This is murder for Christ's sake. It is her fault biko. It is 100% her fault. She knows the guy she is dating and she knows that he will accept that child, because there is no way he hasn't mentioned marriage to her once or twice in d past. Besides, if she wanted go stay with him, she will keep that child. He even wants to move because of her. Pls stop absolving her of d blame. It is her fault. No two ways about it.

FortifiedCity:
If the Op was you blood brother, would you have advised him the same thing?

Of course yes...i'll advice him to forgive her if he truly loves her...

H2Ossss:


Oga... Calm down... She made a mistake because of fear or insecurity.. If he really loves her he should be ready to forgive and move on.... Its not easy to start a new relationship

That "2".. In ur moniker should be removed. Good, now pronounce ur moniker..
Thats exactly the people u re talking like.. Ryt now.

Your woman did a horrible thing. To start with she was never pregnant for you or wasn't pregnant at all. That was why she didn't bother telling you of her decision to abort it. She's selfish and she's not to be trusted.
On the other hand, if she was pregnant for you and aborted ur baby without telling you, it means
She doesn't love you and she doesn't want a future with you, so she destroyed the only thing that may keep her tied to you.
She doesn't trust you to just conclude that you'll reject her in her state.
She's not going to make a good wife and mother. She killed a child without blinking, without telling you. That means in the future, she would do more terrible things and you wouldn't know about them.
I'm not trying to destroy what you share but she doesn't love you, she might be cheating and she's not trustworthy

fayded:

Imagine what u re saying. This is murder for Christ's sake. It is her fault biko. It is 100% her fault. She knows the guy she is dating and she knows that he will accept that child, because there is no way he hasn't mentioned marriage to her once or twice in d past. Besides, if she wanted go stay with him, she will keep that child. He even wants to move because of her. Pls stop absolving her of d blame. It is her fault. No two ways about it.

Im not saying shes right.....she is totally wrong...but hey ...no one is perfect...


Maybe her over sabi syndrome is her imperfection....they can work it out...

ScotFree:
Listen Bro... What she did was terrible. I'm not sayin terrible in the aspect of what is morally right or wrong. I mean terrible in the aspect that it wasn't just her decision to make alone. She didn't impregnate herself, neither is she in a relationship with herself alone. She SHOULD or MUST consult you before anything. What you decide and agree on together is what should be done eventually.

She didn't act like someone who believes in the relationship you guys have and share. If she did, she wouldn't take a serious decision like this without your knowledge. Now that brings me down to my point.

I doubt any girl would naturally abort a pregancy without involving or informing her partner. Girls here woud confirm this. It is a scary procedure and they must reach out to you regardless of whether they intend to keep it or not. So i sense a rat here. A very big stinking rat.

1. That pregnancy was never yours. ( She got pregnant while you were away and decided to remove it before you came back. And somewhere along the line, the guilt of the enormity of the act was too much to hide, it killed her inside and she couldn't hide it well. When you noticed, she then decided to unburded her heart while still telling a lie about who was responsible for this )

2. She was never pregnant in the first ( Don't know what she would want to achieve with that though. But the heart of humans can be very devious. She was probably trying to put you on a guilt trip for something you do or fail to do )

I wouldn't advice you to stay with a woman like that. I don't know how far along you guys have come, but you have to be objective when you are ready to make a decision on this matter. A woman who could do this , can do much more without you concert, not to think of the underlying motives behind this action. This is just one of the few things she might have done that you know of.

Sit her down, and talk to her. Speak your mind freely. Leh her know this could be the deciding factor on the future of your relationship. Tell her you want the truth and nothing but the truth. Tell her you don't believe her story and she had better start spilling the truth or you walk away without looking back.

The truth is i won't be with a woman like that after this. I smell lots of untruth in her story. Whatever she says eventually will affect my decision.

I cant tell you what to do. Read the comments, and do what is right. It's early, you're not married yet.

Your girl is not ready for a serious relationship

Your girl cannot make a good wife

Your girl sees no future in what you guys have

Your girl will do really horrible things when you're eventually married to her

Your girl isn't your girl

Your girl isn't ready to be a mother

Lefulefu
Pussyhunter
Sexybbstar
Augustap
Adaumunocha

Your advice is needed


I sent you a pm. Reply. We got something to talk about

I love everything about the way u think and or reason bro.

Girls are using our heads to much and its sad. We commit everything in a relationship and gets disappointements like this. Its terrible.

Surely, she is not worth this relationship anymore

Kennyprince:
I love everything about the way u think and or reason bro.

Girls are using our heads to much and its sad. We commit everything in a relationship and gets disappointements like this. Its terrible.

Surely, she is not worth this relationship anymore

You had to quote everything