I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

3 times per day? That's breakfast call, lunch call and dinner call nah.

Quit because of this minor issue? Trust girls, they can break up over any excuse once they start seeing sm1 else they like.
Op, move on. She's tired of you

My boo calls me at least twice a day. that is what she want from you na, but she is not serious oh


only for call breakup

3times a day you d work for MTN.

call her and talk about what exactly? pointless and irrelevant things.

your girlfriend is not mature enough for a relationship, yes communication and attention is important but 3 times a day even when you chat on whatsapp.

are there no goals to be met

are both of you that jobless with so much free time

People don't understand that communication is key in any relationship

That's not an issue
If that's what she wants..then listen to her..maybe that's what she likes

Since you both chat on WhatsApp, atleast twice a day would do. Communication is important when you're in a distant relationship.

Communication is the key to a successful relationship, though calling 3X a day is kinda much, like stalking.

someone is destroying d kpekus

Just let her quietly go and die....

feed her with calls

That means she's jobless.

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student, in terms of financial needs she is self sufficient, but i don't really understand her, I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon, most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go, she sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue.

You'll be fine, you are on the right path, you have your life to worry about, I like your behaviour take care. I wish I could buy you a bottle of beer, am even in Ondo sef too, have fun

Bros even if you call am once for every hour on the clock, when she wan breakup she go find another thing use as excuse.


Just use your head (like Mutiu Adepoju).

Ur a corper, dat alone makes her feel ure probably with anoda gal that's y u don't have her time to call. I suspect ur gf has trust issues...yes she sent u a breakup text, trust me when a gal really wants to break up, she simply stop calling/chatting/texting....Nigerian gals don't breakup tru text, she was just kidding...go visit ur gal, hug her and bang the fork out of her...

MhizzAJ:
People don't understand that communication is key in any relationship

That's not an issue
If that's what she wants..then listen to her..maybe that's what she likes

why are we not asking how many times does she call him in a day?

It is not about the guy alone, does she make effort to call you at least 3 times a day too? If she does,then bros you have no excuse. It's either you talk to her about you not having anything to say ( well if you still love her) or you reciprocate.
Currently in a similar situation with a random babe( not in a relationship with her) and I don't reciprocate her calls but I am doing that to pass a message indirectly.....Move on, I don't like you

I can understand. My bae facetime me on all 3 of his breaks plus we live together. Am tired oo

Ordinary call 3x in a day is causing this breakup......if she does not pick your calls now you starting complaining now she want your calls Wahala.....Nigerian guys are bad lovers only knows open and close......(3mins)

Although she has a point, she is taking it too far . But I think once a day is preferable, it shows that you care about her and always have her in your heart.

I and my bae talk 5 to 10 times daily. That's what has kept us together all the years. She on WhatsApp but we don't chat. If I send "hey babes", next thing she'll send is "call me"

If you aren't perturbed that she broke up with you then I'm not surprised that you wouldn't call her three times a day. You probably aren't meant for each other. When you meet someone you're crazy about, you'll call her enough times to make her a part of your day. Not just the perfunctory (4) calls per week.

RaggedyAnn:
If you aren't perturbed that she broke up with you then I'm not surprised that you wouldn't call her three times a day. You probably aren't meant for each other. When you meet someone you're crazy about, you'll call her enough times to make her a part of your day. Not just the perfunctory (4) calls per week.

Word...

BeautyBaebee:
Quit because of this minor issue? Trust girls, they can break up over any excuse once they start seeing sm1 else they like.
Op, move on. She's tired of you

Yes. Once there's someone she's seeing, they start coming up with excuses till they leave, the same way Eve broke upwith Adam and went off with the serpent....

supersystemsnig:


Word...

How've you been, dearie?

[well she does calls, at least once in 2days, she said calling is my responsibility as a man. quote author=asjay post=61390672]why are we not asking how many times does she call him in a day?

It is not about the guy alone, does she make effort to call you at least 3 times a day too? If she does,then bros you have no excuse. It's either you talk to her about you not having anything to say ( well if you still love her) or you reciprocate.
Currently in a similar situation with a random babe( not in a relationship with her) and I don't reciprocate her calls but I am doing that to pass a message indirectly.....Move on, I don't like you [/quote]

RaggedyAnn:




How've you been, dearie?

Well... I have a black tag on my moniker as a traitor on the forum, so on a low key...

I do call my gf twice a day dough d distance makes me do such silly thing.

You ain't "perturbed", but you posted it here?
Nigga, what should we do?
For the girl, she must be high on crack most Christians only pray to God twice daily. Yet, she wants three times a day...like she's food.
Fuckgirl

Dis one na Puppy love. Next please........

Physically and mentally in terms of emotional aspect, your girlfriend is still a baby.