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Dear all,
I will like to share my experience with you.
I have a girlfriend that we been in a relationship for 3years, she is everything a man wants hard-working,Godfearing has an good business she handles.
I supported her in all her endeavours in the best possible way I can..I worked with a FMCG company even before I met her till April this year i was relieved of my job..
Prior to April we had issues of ego,pride, etc relationship issues but the issue of my friends,family attention of priority always was a heated argument btw us like I spend too much on them..for instance my sis cousin in school said I send her 5k it became a serious issue..I always tell her fine I know these people,they moulded me directly and indirectly to who you are dating..ok..my relationship with my family friends are even meant to be controlled by me not you vice visal cuz you know your family and friends better than I do and I can only advise on your dealing with them when it's called for.
Moreso, after April I lost my job she has been acting funny always threatening with breakup cuz she started handling some bills and I won't lie she assisted me ..I just see her change to I am in charge of everything..now raising more issue on the family and friend..
Everyday I prayed to God I get a new job which a month ago I got and be resuming soon.
Now she is still standing her grounds on the family issues and I have made her realise she must accomodate them with their good,bad and ugly same way I have done towards her family or we chart a new path and everyone goes his/her way..
No doubt I really love her...i sacrifice for her loads of times and she same back, she is non-materialistic and intelligent woman but her character and attitude towards my very close family and friends just makes me pained and hurt towards her....
she has decided either them or her...and I now look..
A new job on the horizon God did it....what do I do pls?

Have a heart to heart talk on why she doesn't like your dealings with Friends and Family.. Not one with swearing and cursing.. . Discussion between 2 adults...

My fellow men, in whatever you do, try not to get broke. Life becomes a torment for you. It is rare to see a woman who will see you through your struggles

is that one an issue sef?! you either drop the charity with your buddies and family to be happy in your r/ship OR you drop the babe and be happy with your family and friends..... no other solution here.

What advice I will give you is to sit her down an talk about the issue. If she can't cope with your family and friends when you are still dating, how will she do so when you eventually marry. Hw do u feel about a girl talking you into not taking care of a woman that trained you into what you become through her labour. She is indirectly telling your family they can't benefit from you after so much labour. Such a lady is a Jezebel in disguise.

God knows what I will do to any lady that speaks shit about my family especially my mother.

The advice I will give you is to sit her down an talk about the issue. If she can't cope with your family and friends when you are still dating, how will she do so when you eventually marry. Hw do u feel about a girl talking you into not taking care of a woman that trained you into what you become through her labour. She is indirectly telling your family they can't benefit from you after so much labour. Such a lady is a Jezebel in disguise.

God knows what I will do to any lady that speaks shit about my family especially my mother.

blessedvisky:
Have a heart to heart talk on why she doesn't like your dealings with Friends and Family.. Not one with swearing and cursing.. . Discussion between 2 adults...

Done that loads of time..

Wait??.

She wants you to choose between ur family and her??

Honestly, if that's what ur story is insinuating, mehn, find someone else, that'll love u and accept ur family biko.

How can we not talk about family, when family's all that we've got.

She is good but she needs to be Tolreable!!!!..talk to her

Why is it when guys get a girl who gives dem a portion of the cookie jar, they always feel they r in love? Dnt let a girl hold u hostage because of pussy. Let her loose already n move on. Thank God u got a new job. Go get a new girl n start on a new slate.

She should to take others along joor

lot14:
Dear all,
I will like to share my experience with you.
I have a girlfriend that we been in a relationship for 3years, she is everything a man wants hard-working,Godfearing has an good business she handles.
I supported her in all her endeavours in the best possible way I can..I worked with a FMCG company even before I met her till April this year i was relieved of my job..
Prior to April we had issues of ego,pride, etc relationship issues but the issue of my friends,family attention of priority always was a heated argument btw us like I spend too much on them..for instance my sis cousin in school said I send her 5k it became a serious issue..I always tell her fine I know these people,they moulded me directly and indirectly to who you are dating..ok..my relationship with my family friends are even meant to be controlled by me not you vice visal cuz you know your family and friends better than I do and I can only advise on your dealing with them when it's called for.
Moreso, after April I lost my job she has been acting funny always threatening with breakup cuz she started handling some bills and I won't lie she assisted me ..I just see her change to I am in charge of everything..now raising more issue on the family and friend..
Everyday I prayed to God I get a new job which a month ago I got and be resuming soon.
Now she is still standing her grounds on the family issues and I have made her realise she must accomodate them with their good,bad and ugly same way I have done towards her family or we chart a new path and everyone goes his/her way..
No doubt I really love her...i sacrifice for her loads of times and she same back, she is non-materialistic and intelligent woman but her character and attitude towards my very close family and friends just makes me pained and hurt towards her....
she has decided either them or her...and I now look..
A new job on the horizon God did it....what do I do pls?

See, u understand her... If you accomate too much families... You'll suffer (financially)... I'm not saying you shouldn't assist them(esp. Ur extended families) but please, don't let them depend on you...

@OP

She has a domineering attribute (not even attitude), so if you're not ready to be subservient to her till the end of time, kindly quit the relationship for good. To a domineering person it's either s/he subjugate you or peace will never reign - nothing gives such a person pleasure than when she remember that she has you as a conquest. However, if she's ready to humble herself and acknowledge her vice and work on it, you can consider to continue with her - but bear it in mind that no matter how hard she tries to manage it, she'll always mete it out to you once in a while.

[color=#770077][/color]She is just selfish, self-centered nd over domineering.Am sure if it was her family u r carting for she won't raise an eyelid.Give her d same conditions she gave u, there u will find d answer u r seeking cuz u will be surprise with her responses.Family comes first before anything.Just an ordinary girlfriend nt even fiancee and she z segregating, wot happens wen she becomes d wife.

Pls restructure your write up.
I stopped reading from where you mentioned Ego, Pride, Family, Friends...
I feel you are too young for a relationship. Yet you are about to be sucked-in and trapped in a very, very deadly one, with such a lady that seems way more skillful, whom you mistook for an apprentice of life and love.
Becareful dude.