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How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 10:35pm On Oct 14
Hi.

My friend died around June this year and she was buried quickly. Before that, we were close pals, we weren't dating, but she was my friend, and I loved her, she loved me too. When I went through hard times she was with me. In her absence and in her presence, she sent me messages daily on how I should own the day and make it fruitful, we created memories together.

Even in my anger, she would hold me in silence, I've never experienced that kind of love from anyone, never before.

I honestly would have married her, when the time was right, I'm sure of that. The purest soul I've met.
She shared everything with me, as I did with her. And always wanted to know what went through my mind.

To the problems she couldn't solve, she held me and stayed silent.

I'm still broken till date, I cant move on, I just cant.
I still call her number to see if it would go.

How do I move on guys? It still hurts, that the only person who really loved and cared decided to leave this world.

I need your advice on how to move on. Thank you

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by uruba23: 10:43pm On Oct 14
Well it would take time to heal. Just keep yourself busy. After all life at the end of the day is simply memories left. We would also depart someday.

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Zzor(f): 10:43pm On Oct 14
never be too emotional about death,we all would go someday,though I understand it could be hard dealing with the trauma but you've got no options than to continue living and making sure you are happy since that was what she always urged you to do.Never forget praying for her

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Abouwaza(m): 10:43pm On Oct 14
If you can't move on, you follow him

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Zzor(f): 10:45pm On Oct 14
Abouwaza:
If you can't move on, you follow him
Be reasonable for once or are you always on drugs mtcheww

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 10:47pm On Oct 14
Zzor:
never be too emotional about death,we all would go someday,though I understand it could be hard dealing with the trauma but you've got no options than to continue living and making sure you are happy since that was what she always urged you to do.Never forget praying for her

Thank you

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 10:47pm On Oct 14
uruba23:
Well it would take time to heal. Just keep yourself busy. After all life at the end of the day is simply memories left. We would also depart someday.

Thank you

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Abouwaza(m): 10:50pm On Oct 14
Monchadam:


Thank you
Oga u no go thank me? grin

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 10:52pm On Oct 14
Abouwaza:

Oga u no go thank me? grin

Thank you

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by AmancalledGod: 10:52pm On Oct 14
We all understand it is a not easy but you have to move on bro Just keep on doing those things which she urges you to do when she was Alive with time you gonna get through it.

Some days are like that, we all have lost one or two of our loved once, but here we are still keep pushing forward.
Just keep on praying for her? Is well

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 10:54pm On Oct 14
AmancalledGod:
We all understand it is a not easy but you have to move on bro Just keep on doing those things which she urges you to do when she was Alive with time you gonna get through it.

Some days are like that, we all have lost one or two of our loved once, but here we are still keep pushing forward.
Just keep on praying for her? Is well

Thanks alot
Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by AmancalledGod: 10:56pm On Oct 14
Abouwaza:

Oga u no go thank me? grin
you are now happy laughing at someone misfortune till it's catches up with you, then u will know how hard it is to loose some so close to u

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by 3characterss: 10:57pm On Oct 14
Bro... honestly I'm so sorry you're going through what you're going through.
I might not have the best advice for you on how to move on, but you really should. I'm sorry again.

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by 3characterss: 10:58pm On Oct 14
Abouwaza:
If you can't move on, you follow him

Really bro??

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Fact1(m): 11:03pm On Oct 14
Sorry op,,, what killed her?☹️☹️


Back to your question,,,,,,,, this is the answer,,,,,,,


It's hurt when you lose yaa close pals,,, but you have to move on,,,,,,

Don't think about it,,,,,try to just move on,,,,,,,,,,,wink

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by vicraven(m): 11:03pm On Oct 14
You'll be fine.
Find a way to move on, everybody dies my guy
Take it easy

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Abouwaza(m): 11:04pm On Oct 14
3characterss:


Really bro??
I swear no time

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 11:05pm On Oct 14
3characterss:
Bro... honestly I'm so sorry you're going through what you're going through.
I might not have the best advice for you on how to move on, but you really should. I'm sorry again.

Lalasticlala

Thanks
Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 11:06pm On Oct 14
Fact1:
Sorry op,,, what killed her?☹️☹️


Back to your question,,,,,,,, this is the answer,,,,,,,


It's hurt when you lose yaa close pals,,, but you have to move on,,,,,,

Don't think about it,,,,,try to just move on,,,,,,,,,,,wink


Thank you
Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 11:06pm On Oct 14
vicraven:
You'll be fine.
Find a way to move on, everybody dies my guy
Take it easy

Thanks
Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Theempath: 11:10pm On Oct 14
Hmm...
I'm sorry for your loss.

Lost a friend too. Found a way to move on. You should too

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Fact1(m): 11:14pm On Oct 14
Monchadam:


Thank you

Hmmmm,, you're welcome ❤️❤️❤️
Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Ategberoson(m): 11:15pm On Oct 14
sorry for the loss bro, if you're game type, you could get over it then move with some positive niggas around you as well



is the said lady a sickle cell or what's behind her death? sorry once again

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 11:23pm On Oct 14
Ategberoson:
sorry for the loss bro, if you're game type, you could get over it then move with some positive niggas around you as well



is the said lady a sickle cell or what's behind her death? sorry once again
They said it was an unknown illness...
Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Ategberoson(m): 11:46pm On Oct 14
Monchadam:

They said it was an unknown illness...



sorry once again. if you're the game type, stick to many games like dream league that take attention away or GTA and if you're religious type, read more of Christian novels to engage your thought


don't isolate yourself, it's obvious isolation of yourself is making you to be feeling her around, if you don't tame that she could be appearing in your dream


I lost a friend like that too in university, a day to the day he had an accident will still talk. I heard about his death first in my dream, I woke up to cast it away with prayer not knowing he came to show sign that he's no more


just relate with friends, don't keep private moment this period

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by beatific: 12:26am On Oct 15
man I'm sorry for your loss, so sorry. but remember she always wanted you to be happy, she wanted you to survive, for you to survive now you've got to move on men... don't drown in the past like I'm doing, it's been more than 16 years now but my chest and heart literally aches and painfully hurts me anytime I remember mine.. things are really hard for me now, sometimes when I remember the incident I decline for 3months to 4months in every aspect of my life... nothing makes sense anymore you get confused. hope you never get to that stage where you will have to close your office door to cry in the office... I hope and pray. my hearts goes out to you, and try to express yourself to someone anyone, don't build a wall around yourself don't isolate .. try in all forms not to blame yourself for anything. cry cry cry
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by J111333(m): 2:52am On Oct 15
The reality is that you're gonna have to live with it for a long time.

I lost my best friend in 2009 and I have neither moved on nor made another close friend since then.

When they say time heals all wounds, I've come to learn that emotional wound is out of it.

My buddy was like the brother I never had, we shared clothes, shoes, several other stuffs, and I still see him in my dreams till this day.

Dude shows up in my dreams repeatedly to hang out and cheer me up especially in my times of emotional stress such as this time. Sometime ago, I had prayed the dreams stopped but I've come to realize that I never really needed it to.

Bro, allow yourself to heal naturally but don't force it else you hurt yourself. Some friendships last forever, even death don't stop them.

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 3:20am On Oct 15
beatific:
man I'm sorry for your loss, so sorry. but remember she always wanted you to be happy, she wanted you to survive, for you to survive now you've got to move on men... don't drown in the past like I'm doing, it's been more than 16 years now but my chest and heart literally aches and painfully hurts me anytime I remember mine.. things are really hard for me now, sometimes when I remember the incident I decline for 3months to 4months in every aspect of my life... nothing makes sense anymore you get confused. hope you never get to that stage where you will have to close your office door to cry in the office... I hope and pray. my hearts goes out to you, and try to express yourself to someone anyone, don't build a wall around yourself don't isolate .. try in all forms not to blame yourself for anything. cry cry cry
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️


I'm sorry for what you've gone through

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by Monchadam: 3:21am On Oct 15
J111333:
The reality is that you're gonna have to live with it for a long time.

I lost my best friend in 2009 and I have neither moved on nor made another close friend since then.

When they say time heals all wounds, I've come to learn that emotional wound is out of it.

My buddy was like the brother I never had, we shared clothes, shoes, several other stuffs, and I still see him in my dreams till this day.

Dude shows up in my dreams repeatedly to hang out and cheer me up especially in my times of emotional stress such as this time. Sometime ago, I had prayed the dreams stopped but I've come to realize that I never really needed it to.

Bro, allow yourself to heal naturally but don't force it else you hurt yourself. Some friendships last forever, even death don't stop them.


Bro cry cry

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by backbone503(m): 4:57am On Oct 15
Everything in life is transient. Hence, we should try not to be unnecessarily emotionally attached to anything/anyone.

For moving on, no amount of word will teach you that. Life (time) will!

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by okanlanwon44879: 6:08am On Oct 15
Everything in life is transient. Hence, we should try not to be unnecessarily emotionally attached to anything/anyone. For moving on, no amount of word will teach you that. Life (time) will!

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Re: How Do I Move On After My Friend's Death.. Still Hurts by ILoveDemMANNA: 10:40am On Oct 15
Surround yourself with a circle of support
Accept not having an answer.
Take care of yourself.
Take one day at a time.
Comfort yourself in your sorrow.
As you probably already know, there isn’t a quick fix to making the pain go away, nor does healing happen overnight.
You may feel as though the pain will never go away, and in a sense, that’s true.
But there will be a time when the memories will bring more smiles than tears, and good memories will outnumber the bad.
There will come a time when you will be able to look back and be grateful for having your friend in your life.
There will come a time you will realize that it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

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