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MissWrite:
Sometimes when a girl says she wants to see you upset, she's only looking for honesty. It's impossible for a human being to keep piling up another person's trash without eventually snapping under the pressure. Those who vent regularly, get mad and get done with it. But someone like you, the moment you eventually crack, it would be epic. Not in a good way. And that day, she would realize she done enter one chance. She wants to know what it would be like when you get mad, and if she can handle it.

But then again, she might just be looking for flaws to justify dumping you. You know her better than we do.

Khonifer:
Lol... This one is madness

My man is calm and gentle and respectful and I like him that way biko. Before somebody will comman be formin dominant nonsense on top my head

vicben27:
E be like say you never understand women! man women are complicated beings, a relationship where is all sweet without let it exceed that very day! it will help you understand her better! above all there is no standard formats or formula wen it relationship. different stuf works for different folks

But what if you purposely initiate a quarrel but her reaction is what you never bargained for?

antysocial:
I was chatting with my gf yesterday and was really priding myself on how I was a perfect guy for any woman. I couldn't believe it when she said I has a flaw. She told me I'm too gentle and Calm. She said I have never we gotten angry with her before . I was like what's wrong with that and she said she doesn't like that . She said she doesn't like me talking nonsense from her even after apologizing and all that. She was like she would just like to see me angry with her , shout on her or smthing. She told me whenever there was an agreement between us and she apologises , she wasn't expecting me to forgive her so easily, at least she expected me to snub her and all that. I have been very confused since yesterday after those statements. I mean : what do girls really want.?

tosyne2much:
But what if you purposely initiate a quarrel but her reaction is what you never bargained for?

tosyne2much:
But what if you purposely initiate a quarrel but her reaction is what you never bargained for?

Gofwane:
Enough of all this bull crap. Women want a guy who will bla bla bla..... is it a one way thing? They will always complain that they want a guy that is so so so.... but if we complain that they are fat, they begin to take offence.

@op, tell your girlfriend that you don't like a girl that doesn't expect you to behave like the gentleman you truly are.

vicben27:
a real man should naturally know how to calm his woman down with some level of psychological/emotional control. infact it should be both ways. the love you both shear should be proportional. if you show a woman you , women are different if she the understanding n well behaved ,then it won't be necessary. it should only be done if you notice some adnormalises.

Jupxter:
Too much heat

antysocial:
I just concluded that there is no perfect way to a woman's heart. Sm actually njoy being molested. Imagine

BiggyB242:
When you find yourself in so many abusive relationship, you finally thinks that's the norm.

Many MATURED ladies are looking for you type of person, don't become a monster because you want to impress a lady.

walepackage:
that was when a lady i met in benue also told me if a man has never hit her during the period of dating, its a sign that he dnt really love her.I was like'you mean it'.Some of these ladies are just confuse, or due to their past abusive relationship which has reshape their thinking faculty to see it has normal.Thou,i dont support 'weakling' as a man,you should react to some certain issue but dont hit,abuse or inflict physical pain to her.If she didnt apprechate you for who u are, someone else will do.

Jupxter:
They see abuse as the norm,which is why when they meet a gentleman, they feel like i don't deserve such niceness. What is it? What does he see in me? What does he want to do with me? But one attribute of nice guys is they have sharp eyes and see what other guys don't see in a lady. They don't just understand. Any lady that has this issues should be left alone, they've been bastardized by the bad guys in their past relationships and no matter how nice they're treated, they want to return home, " to receive the bad guy's treatment". Leave them bro when we see such species, let them go, imagine going through 7 men and all seven are bad, and the eight treats the lady nice, it will feel unnatural, like he wants her for her goodies, money, beauty, sex and whats not. In the end, the bad guy if he tarries a bit, will find a lover that would reciprocate all his acts of love and gentility. This is how it has always been !Every one with what works for him/her !

walepackage:
true said

walepackage:
that was when a lady i met in benue also told me if a man has never hit her during the period of dating, its a sign that he dnt really love her.I was like'you mean it'.Some of these ladies are just confuse, or due to their past abusive relationship which has reshape their thinking faculty to see it has normal.Thou,i dont support 'weakling' as a man,you should react to some certain issue but dont hit,abuse or inflict physical pain to her.If she didnt apprechate you for who u are, someone else will do.

LordKO:
@OP

You're in a relationship with a very honest, outspoken and smart girl. What she pointed out is your inability to maintain balance between tolerance and pretense. Embrace conscientiousness and eschew unconscientiousness. While the former will make you to always act spontaneously the latter will always make you to act premeditatedly/prejudicially. The truth is that behind every unconscientious person is a hypocrite personified - people of this leanings can always be counted for their servility but the least to expect from them in the long run/when the chip is down is loyalty. There's a tiny line between a good guy who's nice attitude and a servile guy who exhibits nice attitudes. She simply need a good guy and her action showed that she's the cognitive ability to know one when she sees one. However, she's not longing for a bad guy as many contributors above on this thread has erroneously asserted.

Every altruistic, honest, sane and sound person from both genders always long to be in a relationship with a good but no non-sense partner. What they don't long for as a partner is neither a servile nor a bad person.

antysocial:
I was chatting with my gf yesterday and was really priding myself on how I was a perfect guy for any woman. I couldn't believe it when she said I has a flaw. She told me I'm too gentle and Calm. She said I have never we gotten angry with her before . I was like what's wrong with that and she said she doesn't like that . She said she doesn't like me talking nonsense from her even after apologizing and all that. She was like she would just like to see me angry with her , shout on her or smthing. She told me whenever there was an agreement between us and she apologises , she wasn't expecting me to forgive her so easily, at least she expected me to snub her and all that. I have been very confused since yesterday after those statements. I mean : what do girls really want.?

ubunja:
THATS WHAT IM ALWAYS TELLING THESE N!GGARS
my brother allow me to explain the issue at hand here:
you argue with your GF and then aim to resolve the quarrels as fast and as painless as possible? good for u,but...
HOW U SEE YOURSELF:"im a gentleman i never make my woman suffer"
HOW SHE SEES YOU:"this guy cant even defend his opinions and beliefs against me,a poor weak woman how the hell is he gonna protect me from the big bad world if he cant defend himself against me "
and so she begins to resent you.
women are always testing a man to see if he is strong enough to count on.AND MOST GUYS ALWAYS FAIL THESE TESTS.
example: u go on a date and u order different foods. then as u begin to eat she leans over,scoop some of your food from your plate.
WRONG RESPONSE FROM YOU:u chill and laugh and think she is being cute.
RIGHT RESPONSE FROM YOU:u stop her or u scoop some of her food from her own plate.for goodness sake,do something to indicate u are not a 12yr old.
WHY SHE TOOK YOUR FOOD? :she is testing boundaries.how far u will tolerate her daring.testing the limits.your responses will indicate if later on u will tolerate worse things from her.strong men will challange her and indicate they are not a walk over.and by so doing earn her respect.

your crime is that you seem unable to stand up for yourself and bargain to get your way.in her mind that spells LOSER. now she is wondering CAN THIS GUY EVEN STAND UP TO HIS BOSS TO NEGOTIATE A BETTER SALARY SO THE FAMILY DOESNT STARVE? CAN THIS GUY EVEN STAND UP TO THE LANDLORD AND PREVENT US BEING THROWN INTO THE STREETS HOMELESS?CAN THIS GUY CHALLANGE ROBBERS AT NIGHT AND PROTECT THE CHILDREN?
and so far she thinks u cant
coz u are unable to stand your ground against a weak gal like her

Jupxter:
If it's this serious you're notin a relationship. A relationship should be 50/50, if a lady lovesyou let her meet you in between, don't go begging. Stop calling or communicating with her. Since she feels you are replaceable, leave her let her go.You will meet better ones after a while. You're enslaving yourself. Get your self esteem back and move on ! Only say hello once in a while but keep her that way ! End the relationship now !

walepackage:
that was when a lady i met in benue also told me if a man has never hit her during the period of dating, its a sign that he dnt really love her.I was like'you mean it'.Some of these ladies are just confuse, or due to their past abusive relationship which has reshape their thinking faculty to see it has normal.Thou,i dont support 'weakling' as a man,you should react to some certain issue but dont hit,abuse or inflict physical pain to her.If she didnt apprechate you for who u are, someone else will do.

BiggyB242:
Never be a weakling in relationship, I can't be in a relationship when I'm not the one in control, and still I haven't hit a woman during my years of dating.

Jupxter:
They see abuse as the norm,which is why when they meet a gentleman, they feel like i don't deserve such niceness. What is it? What does he see in me? What does he want to do with me? But one attribute of nice guys is they have sharp eyes and see what other guys don't see in a lady. They don't just understand. Any lady that has this issues should be left alone, they've been bastardized by the bad guys in their past relationships and no matter how nice they're treated, they want to return home, " to receive the bad guy's treatment". Leave them bro when we see such species, let them go, imagine going through 7 men and all seven are bad, and the eight treats the lady nice, it will feel unnatural, like he wants her for her goodies, money, beauty, sex and whats not. In the end, the good guy if he tarries a bit, will find a lover that would reciprocate all his acts of love and gentility. This is how it has always been !Every one with what works for him/her !

This is where you nailed it bro... Sometimes, I do not blame guys who treat ladies badly because some ladies'characters actually warrant such treatment. I have personally come across ladies who say they can only be handled by guys that can use resounding slap to call them to order

Nice guys are mostly taken for granted for their calmness and gentility and that's why ladies often take advantage of many of them

tosyne2much:
This is the same thing I'm saying.. Some of them are already used to abuse and any man who can't follow that same way of treating them with abuse is who they will never pay loyalty and respect to

kay29000:
I don't know o! Women are so complicated. I can never forget this girl I liked so much (as a friend) back in my teen days. She had this guy that used to beat her anyhow. One day, I saved her from the guy's beating, and she was so thankful and all. The next day, I saw her on Okada with the guy, holding tightly to the guy and smiling. I swear, the Gala I was eating fell out of my mouth.

It is like that movie, The Last American Virgin... The virgin guy helped the girl get an abortion when her 'bad boy' boyfriend abandoned her. He cared for her till she got better, and the next thing he knew, she was back with the bad guy at the end. The nice guy cried his eyes out. The movie was actually based on a true story. Most women don't like nice guys. #Fact


To be honest, I don't understand women, and I am not trying to understand them. I would rather try to understand money better.