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Jupxter:
One thing that astonishes me is our character, it's not a woman problem, we pray to God for a kind of person, somehow we meet them, when we meet them, we don't do what we ought to do, when things start deteriorating or the opportunity has passed, we remember the person was exactly what we prayed for. We start rushing to make amends because we were blinded all through the relationship lasted. We become victim of missed opportunities and chances. It has happened to me twice so i know it's an issue that affects both genders. We need to be smart in relationships so we can make the right calls at the right time, other we soon fall out of love even after finding it.

On the other hand, people are victims of their past relationships, my next one will seal the deal i'm sure. But i'll ask how many past relationships have you been in. Once it's more than 5 i may bounce, many of these ladies have been spoilt and damaged by their past relationships and tag along with them, one would end up dealing with alot of needless baggage !

tosyne2much:
This is where you nailed it man.. When a lady is already used to being treated like poo, no matter how much you try to shower her with love and affection, she won't still appreciate it.

It's just like clothing a pig in nice attires, it will never appreciate it

obataokenwa:
I was surprised the day my girl told me her happiest moment is whenever I'm angry and mad at her. She loves seeing me angry and cautioning her while I always feel guilty after every annoyance....from that day I knew she intentionally makes me angry...

A times she will cook rice and refuse to prepare stew knowing fully well I will soon be back just to see me angry and shout...


I weak for girls matter.

Some ladies programmed in such a way that they don't value responsible but irresponsible men.

Imagine a scenario when you as a graduate woo omo alata girls, they will surely take you for granted and will rather channel their attention to garage boys who know how best to handle them in a local way . That's exactly how some ladies are

tosyne2much:
Some ladies programmed in such a way that they don't value responsible but irresponsible men.

Imagine a scenario when you as a graduate woo omo alata girls, they will surely take you for granted and will rather channel their attention to garage boys who know how best to handle them in a local way . That's exactly how some ladies are

ubunja:
THATS WHAT IM ALWAYS TELLING THESE N!GGARS
my brother allow me to explain the issue at hand here:
you argue with your GF and then aim to resolve the quarrels as fast and as painless as possible? good for u,but...
HOW U SEE YOURSELF:"im a gentleman i never make my woman suffer"
HOW SHE SEES YOU:"this guy cant even defend his opinions and beliefs against me,a poor weak woman how the hell is he gonna protect me from the big bad world if he cant defend himself against me "
and so she begins to resent you.
women are always testing a man to see if he is strong enough to count on.AND MOST GUYS ALWAYS FAIL THESE TESTS.
example: u go on a date and u order different foods. then as u begin to eat she leans over,scoop some of your food from your plate.
WRONG RESPONSE FROM YOU:u chill and laugh and think she is being cute.
RIGHT RESPONSE FROM YOU:u stop her or u scoop some of her food from her own plate.for goodness sake,do something to indicate u are not a 12yr old.
WHY SHE TOOK YOUR FOOD? :she is testing boundaries.how far u will tolerate her daring.testing the limits.your responses will indicate if later on u will tolerate worse things from her.strong men will challange her and indicate they are not a walk over.and by so doing earn her respect.

your crime is that you seem unable to stand up for yourself and bargain to get your way.in her mind that spells LOSER. now she is wondering CAN THIS GUY EVEN STAND UP TO HIS BOSS TO NEGOTIATE A BETTER SALARY SO THE FAMILY DOESNT STARVE? CAN THIS GUY EVEN STAND UP TO THE LANDLORD AND PREVENT US BEING THROWN INTO THE STREETS HOMELESS?CAN THIS GUY CHALLANGE ROBBERS AT NIGHT AND PROTECT THE CHILDREN?
and so far she thinks u cant
coz u are unable to stand your ground against a weak gal like her

obataokenwa:
I was surprised the day my girl told me her happiest moment is whenever I'm angry and mad at her. She loves seeing me angry and cautioning her while I always feel guilty after every annoyance....from that day I knew she intentionally makes me angry...

A times she will cook rice and refuse to prepare stew knowing fully well I will soon be back just to see me angry and shout...


I weak for girls matter.

doctorkush:
first relationship tho. I have seen this scene before.

antysocial:
I was chatting with my gf yesterday and was really priding myself on how I was a perfect guy for any woman. I couldn't believe it when she said I has a flaw. She told me I'm too gentle and Calm. She said I have never we gotten angry with her before . I was like what's wrong with that and she said she doesn't like that . She said she doesn't like me talking nonsense from her even after apologizing and all that. She was like she would just like to see me angry with her , shout on her or smthing. She told me whenever there was an agreement between us and she apologises , she wasn't expecting me to forgive her so easily, at least she expected me to snub her and all that. I have been very confused since yesterday after those statements. I mean : what do girls really want.?

Xiadnat:
Dude, read between the lines!!!

Let me translate to you what she is trying to say:

You are:

1. Boring

2. Dry

3. Passionless (ie; you dont care).

4. Ball less ( you are not man enough, no proper aggression if you will)

What she is not saying is this:

1. Physically assault her
2. Verbally assault her
3. Emotionally assault her

Goodluck

antysocial:
U dnt deserve a reply. Buh knw that ure dumb asf

walepackage:
that was when a lady i met in benue also told me if a man has never hit her during the period of dating, its a sign that he dnt really love her.I was like'you mean it'.Some of these ladies are just confuse, or due to their past abusive relationship which has reshape their thinking faculty to see it has normal.Thou,i dont support 'weakling' as a man,you should react to some certain issue but dont hit,abuse or inflict physical pain to her.If she didnt apprechate you for who u are, someone else will do.

MENZPRIDE:
That's the complicated and contradictory natures of women.
I once had a female friend - more like an aunt, who broke up from her man, coz the man is not Domineering!
'she wants to travel to Lagos, to see her aunt, the man gives her transport, she comes back after some days, she wants to go to Aba to see her Sister's family, the man gives her transport. She comes back, one week later, she wants to go to the village to see her grandma, the man gives her money without complaints..... The man needs sex, she complains of headache or not being in the mood, the man relaxes and told her 'rest yourself, maybe next-time'.
She broke-up with the man, complaining that the man does not really love her enough, if the man had love her enough he would not permit her to be traveling upandan. If the man had loved her enough, he would have demanded and insisted on making love to her wether she is in the mood or not, after-all, she is his woman.

walepackage:
Then what did they want?

MENZPRIDE:
My guy, I'm still trying to find out, when I see, I will let you know.
Just in case you find out before me, just holla your guy!

MENZPRIDE:
My guy, I'm still trying to find out, when I see, I will let you know.
Just in case you find out before me, just holla your guy!

kay29000:
I don't know o! Women are so complicated. I can never forget this girl I liked so much (as a friend) back in my teen days. She had this guy that used to beat her anyhow. One day, I saved her from the guy's beating, and she was so thankful and all. The next day, I saw her on Okada with the guy, holding tightly to the guy and smiling. I swear, the Gala I was eating fell out of my mouth.

It is like that movie, The Last American Virgin... The virgin guy helped the girl get an abortion when her 'bad boy' boyfriend abandoned her. He cared for her till she got better, and the next thing he knew, she was back with the bad guy at the end. The nice guy cried his eyes out. The movie was actually based on a true story. Most women don't like nice guys. #Fact


To be honest, I don't understand women, and I am not trying to understand them. I would rather try to understand money better.

lmao




na so u take waste ur gala fa

Adasun:
lmao




na so u take waste ur gala fa

antysocial:
Altho she doesn't do what can actually make me get angry with her. Infact d highest she does is like sleepn off while we are chatting in d nyt and then waking up in d Morning to say good morning and apologise. I can't get angry cos of that and I can't even feign anger.

obataokenwa:
I was surprised the day my girl told me her happiest moment is whenever I'm angry and mad at her. She loves seeing me angry and cautioning her while I always feel guilty after every annoyance....from that day I knew she intentionally makes me angry...

A times she will cook rice and refuse to prepare stew knowing fully well I will soon be back just to see me angry and shout...


I weak for girls matter.

tomtyte02:
I perceive a long distance relationship.

johncallidon:
Av Learnt quite a lot. through this topic. thanks to the OP.😀😀😀

Quickly summarize what you learnt sir

antysocial:
U don high

walepackage:
funny guy.Even the best 'social scientist',couple with the best 'behavioural psycholologist' have not provide a study or research that gives a deep 'grand theory' that explain their 'personality' .Then,who am i,to discover the predisposing factors to these trait of behaviour that is exhibited by them.