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|No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by TkhGuy(m): 3:26am On Aug 08, 2020|
I came from a polygamous family and out of the four wifes I am among the first four, my dad pledge to be part of decision making on whom his first four sons go down the lane with,
I was worried cos I am too selective when trying to find a date, it's not just about attitude, all attributes must meet my specs,
Over the two years of my date with this girl I met in abuja, it has been 1 minute peace of mind 3 months break up and make up,
But these are 10 bad attribute that I kept seeing often and on in her, poses a threat to my peace of mind & prosperity.
1. She is always right & unapologetic
2. She is always eager to harass & disrespect me
3. She can't cook
4. 80% contact is guys
5. She Advertise her self on what's app status and facebook
6. Acting possed & trying to overpower me
7. She drinks alcohol
8. Wearing a waist bead and ankle bracelet
9. She is the kind of My way or nothing
10. Easily get upset & next ruin my day
These are red flag for me. cos in the sequel of these attribute, I am always left in the lane of emotional stamped that create more problem for me and rub of me off my peace of mind,
From this experience, I don't see the need of getting married to one wife, even if it means going against Christian doctoring that canvas against it, contrary to Bible teachings and man human nature,
Offcourse I wouldn't think any further to know it's western feminist propaganda that troll it way into the Bible to keep men locked to one women who might decided to turn Karen later and make his life a living nightmare, which is exactly more of the current happening in our decay world of today, which only few marriages that only scale through the eyes of plunging mans happiness into early grave, thereby generating more widows and single mother's in like that not even war could be compared to create.
I will be moving on, and this time, my strictness is my stronghold, if you don't like it, get the Bleep out of my life let me find someone who do.
I advice you, don't talk what you don't want back in return in this my thread, cos you will get it.............. ..
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Kriss216: 3:38am On Aug 08, 2020|
From this experience, I don't see the need of getting married to one wife
I'll advice, don't settle for two wives.
Two brings division. It's more noble to marry three or four wives than to marry two.
Your dad has four, and the Bible said "we shall do greater than the father", five will be okay for you, bro.
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|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Amb1045(m): 4:10am On Aug 08, 2020|
You really have a considerable opinion here . Getting a second wife is advisable.
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|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by MejiLoyon(m): 4:14am On Aug 08, 2020|
A woman with an ankle bracelet is an Olosho. If she like make she wear suit drive Lamborghini, na Olosho. Simple.
Bracelet on ankle means I'm a slave to sex and ready to have sex with anybody. If you doubt me ask google. So if you be my date and I see bracelet for your ankle nothing you go tell me about love Wey I go believe. Na to file my preeq shine your congo
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Goldp5988(f): 5:00am On Aug 08, 2020|
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by egopersonified(f): 5:01am On Aug 08, 2020|
This is as good as saying a guy that sags is an ex convict being that sagging originated from the prison system. Make una no dey use one rule judge everybody. Life is very complex.
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|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Hezzyluv: 5:23am On Aug 08, 2020|
No. 7 gat me cracking my ribs.
no. 10 is the main reason why I left the girl I dated for more then 3years.
My advice 2u,
Run for your life and never turn back. Na person wey dey alive they talk of marriage.
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|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by othermen: 5:25am On Aug 08, 2020|
What about her good attributes? Our characterisation of another often say much about our own character even.
I am certain that you have received many support to reinforce your decision as regards this matter from this platform. But I will be clear with somethings to you Sir.
She is always right and unapologetic-
This is ambiguous expression, why would anyone be apologetic for being right or being always right? I think what you mean to say, is that she is sometimes wrong and when wrong, she is unapologetic. This is no great attitude, however I think you are exaggerating…for instance to you, it is wrong of her to put her picture on WhatsApp status, and so because you have a circle of folks with like minds, they agree with you, you confront her, but she really don’t understand why she should apologise for not hiding her face.
What you want is not a wife, what you want is a slave… someone scared of you, someone insecure, someone that can’t disagree with your opinion or ideas. We apologise because we want peace, but she might choose not to apologise because you don’t deserve it and because it legitimises whatever request or position you held. You must deserve an apology to get one, Sir.
She is always eager to harass and disrespect me-
I am wondering how she could have harassed you and disrespected you, by disagreeing with you, you may feel disrespected, by her refusal to lick your ‘asss’ sir, that may be want you mean by disrespect. And what does she harass you with? Her free will, her intelligence, because when you say harass, I am sure you mean, she intimidates you.
Perhaps because of your background, you don’t come from a place, where women should have a voice…, you come from a place where you expect her to do your laundry. Sir, you have to grow beyond your background, and if she has been physically aggressive towards you, I could say you must have cultivated such habit in your relationship yourself. Again, you must earn respect and it is often from reciprocality.
She can’t cook-
This is just to get the bandwagon to follow you, and it is from expressions like this, that I began to perceive that you may not have characterised her in a just or fair manner after all. When a lady, comes to this platform and say, ‘he can’t even Bleep’ while this may be a legitimate concern, the context of such an expression is already coloured. It is an empty banter statement and it is incomplete, inordinate and incautious… she don’t cook is different from she can’t cook, she can’t cook well is different from she can’t cook. She is not your cook, at least not yet!
I can imagine your small kitchen, and she spend hours and tire herself making you a meal, and you open your mouth and dismiss her effort…you have not encouraged her to help with the meals. I however encourage everyone (both genders) to please learn how to cook and cook well. In some relationship, meals are important.
I don't think I am alone- I have stopped trying to figure out what this mean.
She advertises herself on WhatsApp-
Your characterisation again is lacking in good judgment. If you have absolute power, you would not merely have her use Hijab, you would also compel her to use Niqab. Sir, she being with you, does not create an obligation from her part, to shield herself from everyone else.
Women want to be complimented, married women use make-up to be admired. It is not an evidence of desire for lust, than it is what makes everyone of us human, and for you to think otherwise, shows that you may be unmindful. This is a symptom of paranoid personality disorder.
Acting possessed and trying to overpower -
So whenever she tries to overpower you , she is possessed and because you cannot accept that she is more powerful than you, she must be possessed, possessed by a dominant gene I suppose. Power based relationship often lead to revolt especially in this age. Accept that she is not inferior to you, treat her with love and respect, master her with care, and she will submit to you. But the more you think it is a matter of brawn not brain, you would likely be overpowered in other facet of life.
She drinks alcohol-
Young girls today, they go to club, they smoke, they do drugs and all manner of things. After doing so, they still go to mass on Sunday, some Muslim girls during the fast, break with Shisha. We live in an age that for social acceptance, you should know how to take a cup of alcohol or wine. What you didn’t say, is if she is alcoholic, I am sure if she is, you would have mentioned that.
Her drinking of alcohol however may not merely be against your desire but also your religious belief. But chill, Nigeria is a significant consumer of alcohol and yet highly religious, if it against your belief, and you cannot tolerate it. Then I think, of coz, give her a choice between you and it. In the end, it is your life, do what is best for you.
Wearing a waist bead and ankle bracelet- One good person here has already addressed this.
She is kind of my way or nothing-
This is not negligible Sir. It should be about the best way, the most reasonable way and the most advantageous way... not about her way or your way. If she has always had her way, then she is an asset. Many corporate organisations pay lots for such skills. But an extremely disagreeable person in a relationship can be overwhelmingly distressing, and what matters goes beyond the goal. But what is your goal? If your goal is peace, then the way to peace may be allowing her to have her way. You both win. But I am sure, what I have said is not so realistic, there would always be varying perspectives. Engage her, not forcefully, but reasonably. I am sure she will see reasons when you do that. Sometimes, concede to her needs, ask her counsel…and stop thinking she should have no intelligence and no thoughts of her own because this person is a she.
Easily get upset and next ruin my day-
Being upset is a reaction, and when she is upset, she is not having a great day either. She has given you two years of her life, and you can't find a single good thing to say about her, when she has assisted you with counsel, or tended your needs... Help her when she is upset Sir or walk away. Walking away is better these days, if you think you are not compatible, it is better than having to live a life of despair for the rest of your days, for her and for you, it may be the most advantageous.
But I needed to be clear with you, Your write up- projects you as a very weak person, and not just weak, but also as someone who can’t put with a stronger will. You cannot manage a relationship as at now, and your brain process suggest to you, that the solution is to marry two women. Don’t you think that something is inadequate with that brain? It is that same brain, that evokes all of the problem with her, that is why, it is essential another look is given. I hope you work on it Sir.
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|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Hezzyluv: 5:30am On Aug 08, 2020|
More anointing on your head man of God
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by MANNABBQGRILLS: 5:40am On Aug 08, 2020|
1. She is always right & unapologetic10 negative things about bae and not one single positive thing?
Guy, she is not your girlfriend not to talk of a wife,
it's only your turn!
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|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by dukeprince50: 5:56am On Aug 08, 2020|
A girl with waist bead and anklet nai u call girlfriend? Pls she is a public asset not urs, taking public asset is called embezzlement, be warned
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|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Nobody: 5:59am On Aug 08, 2020|
Some of the things you don't like about her are not reasonable (she can't cook, wearing anklets(which Indian women love) and waist beads) but well some of her qualities are horrible so trash her.
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by here: 6:03am On Aug 08, 2020|
Date and if isn't what you bargained walk
Don't know why people breakup second time and go back. Not everyone you ask out must end in marriage so what's this fuss about. That bad person will still find love. It just didn't work with you so move on
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Abia1111: 6:05am On Aug 08, 2020|
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by OkuFaba(m): 6:05am On Aug 08, 2020|
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Nobody: 6:11am On Aug 08, 2020|
I pity you. Seems you wan die young abi
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by chiommy123(f): 6:18am On Aug 08, 2020|
I think your points is nothing too serious like that. how are you sure the next person will be better.
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Nobody: 6:20am On Aug 08, 2020|
MejiLoyon:Wow so nice just like every bald headed man with pot belly is a thief, just like every choir master in church is a rapist, good good indeed.
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Benjaniblinks(m): 6:27am On Aug 08, 2020|
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Nobody: 6:28am On Aug 08, 2020|
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by unibenakpos(m): 6:28am On Aug 08, 2020|
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Angelacruz: 6:36am On Aug 08, 2020|
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by CaveAdullam: 6:38am On Aug 08, 2020|
Hope you didn't have sexual intercourse with her? That lady is a narcissist psychopath and will try to hurt you after break up if what you describe here is correct.
She's not done with her hoe/party phase, so let her enjoy. Now, you have distinguish yourself as a king from ordinary men, and I know at last a stupid simping beta idiot of a man will finally marry her as a housewife. Woe unto that man.
I pray she change genuinely. But thanks to God, you just dodged an asteroid.
I'm silent on polygamy. But to the best of my knowledge, monogamy is the right deal. I know man has an ingrained trait to converge with different women, but life for a man is more than women, sexual and other kinds of reserve energy and testosterones shoud be harness and channeled to more profitable works.
Before you launch into a new relationship, read this.
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by MejiLoyon(m): 7:13am On Aug 08, 2020|
egopersonified:I no get power argue.
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Nobody: 7:26am On Aug 08, 2020|
Remain single. It's not a must to get married. Else, marry your village wife.
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by DaddyRochie1642(f): 7:53am On Aug 08, 2020|
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Headlesschicken(m): 7:59am On Aug 08, 2020|
Whatever sails yuh ship....
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Rhaspody(m): 8:03am On Aug 08, 2020|
For me, cooking na number one o. I too like food. And I too like good food. So if she can cook, I for advice you to manage the good food for a while
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by emaxjey(m): 8:23am On Aug 08, 2020|
Do you whatever you heart goes with ..
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Nobody: 8:45am On Aug 08, 2020|
MejiLoyon:Good source from a Nigerian blog. And me what I said up there is simply the same thing na, or are you denying the truth.
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by Nicepoker(m): 8:52am On Aug 08, 2020|
TkhGuy:OP go ahead. competition increases productivity.
|Re: No Wonder Why My Parent Insisted I Must Marry From Village by placeofallure(f): 9:06am On Aug 08, 2020|
I wonder o. Imagine the confidence he used in saying it.
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