LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

Svelte98:
Everyone is just focused on the whole rape story. All I'm interested in is the outcome of the "talk" she had with her boyfriend after the whole incident.
And to all the ladies here saying there's no justification for what the guy did, we all know that if something like this happened to a friend, the first question we'll ask the person will be "but why did you go to his house"?. I really don't wish this on anyone, but at the same time, I wouldn't advise any friend of mine to go to a guy's place and stay the night, especially a guy you barely know. I don't care how nice he was or how educated he sounded when you guys met, if you don't know him/trust him well enough, do not go to his house. Nobody deserves to be raped for any reason, but please think about what may happen the next time you're about to stay overnight in a guy's place.
And for the guys too, we all know its not easy to resist temptations, but if the worst comes to the worst, you can opt to sleep somewhere else, maybe on the floor or in the parlour. If after going to another room the girl follows you there with the excuse that she's probably cold or something, then we can bear you witness that you tried to stay away. Its just for a night. You won't die of starvation.
And let's not take away the infidelity part in this story, there's a part where she said "she didn't want it to get to this extent MOSTLY BECAUSE SHE HAD A BOYFRIEND" I think this was when the guy went down on her. So basically if she didn't have a boyfriend, it would have been okay? But I digress, we all know this girl had no business whatsoever in that guy's house. Ladies, if the tables were turned, if it was a guy that went to a girl's house, changed to his boxers or shorts and cuddled with the girl, we know we'll automatically consider that as cheating. And we know the number of curses we'll lay on his head. Practice what you preach. If you know you won't be cool with your bf going to a girl's place for whatever reason, then don't go to a guy's place for whatever reason. You don't have to be married before you respect your r.ship. All this little things matter.
As for the story, its only the girl and the guy that know what really happened that day.

PEACE.

misspicy:

Why will she visit a man in his house at night.
She wanted to be raped
In fact she got what she was looking for.
Nonsense girls everywhere

declaro:


I have read must of your comments here; you maintained that the guy is a rapist and should be punished by law because there was no consent before the sex. May I state here that both of them are adults and none is a minor. In "sex" there is no legal agreement put in place (written agreement or a signed document) before sex. Both of them are not wrong because they are adults that knows the consequence of the actions they took. Following the story bit by bit it all happened the way it should. This is a consensual sex that took gradual process, there was "Please" and there was "I Accept" between them starting from curling down to MouthAction. At these point there were no evidence of violent, it all happened while both of them were discussing it and agreeing to it from one stage to another. The stage of penetration can not depends on one party to determine whether or not it will happen. Every action must have an outcome; it is naturally going to result to penetration both of them know it because they are adults one can not be a victim of their actions. You can say she was deceived, fine and good, she is an adult with sound mind to know what she wants. She didn't try at any point to give it a stop with "Strong Will", she started crying after it all got to a stage were none of them can help each other, at that point, crying and begging will be invisible to someone who is sex drunk at that moment. Everyone knows that it is normal for a female to cry during a consensual sex and if her hands and legs was not tied why should she allowed him to penetrate her without her pushing him out and getting up from her position because she was free to do so.

However, no law will accept this has a rape if we want to be fair to our nature as a part of animal. We are human beings that understand better than other animals and can control our natural instincts and organs to an "extent" but can not give full control of them in all circumstances like this one.

All women should condemn her actions because this is a mockery to rape victims, a victim of rape will not be happy reading this lady's narrative of rape. A real victim of rape knows that this lady had multitude of chances to stop her claimed unwanted sex. Those that were raped had no chance to escape from their rapist. What I understood here is that the man initiated the sex which any of them can do and she agreed. It is not rape, if you still believe it then tell us how she can prove it that she was raped by the man she allowed to have MouthAction with her. If you still count on the consent from the lady. It is still baseless because they have no witness and it is unjustifiable to believe the account of one person without solid evidence. The lady didn't cried for help from the neighbors, she didn't shout for people around to hear her and give evidence to that act. She has no evidence at all and that is why he can not be called a rapist, she should apologize to him because he is the victim of blackmail. If we start persecuting people with this kind of stories of rape then men will be at a great risk of false accusations from females. We can not count this as rape, if you want equality between men and women it must be balance equality not a one side equality. Women are not the only people that can be raped by men, some men are also victims of rape by women.

Rape is very bad, it should be a concern to everyone whether it is male or female perpetrators or victims it should be treated equally, no one is affected more than the other. We should teach our male and female children to respect peoples' dignities and how to avoid the chances of being raped by opposite or the same sex. Don't rape and don't give yourself to be raped, human beings are part of animal, control depends on the individual so be very careful to avoid anything that you may regret later. Thanks.

declaro:


I have read must of your comments here; you maintained that the guy is a rapist and should be punished by law because there was no consent before the sex. May I state here that both of them are adults and none is a minor. In "sex" there is no legal agreement put in place (written agreement or a signed document) before sex. Both of them are not wrong because they are adults that knows the consequence of the actions they took. Following the story bit by bit it all happened the way it should. This is a consensual sex that took gradual process, there was "Please" and there was "I Accept" between them starting from curling down to MouthAction. At these point there were no evidence of violent, it all happened while both of them were discussing it and agreeing to it from one stage to another. The stage of penetration can not depends on one party to determine whether or not it will happen. Every action must have an outcome; it is naturally going to result to penetration both of them know it because they are adults one can not be a victim of their actions. You can say she was deceived, fine and good, she is an adult with sound mind to know what she wants. She didn't try at any point to give it a stop with "Strong Will", she started crying after it all got to a stage were none of them can help each other, at that point, crying and begging will be invisible to someone who is sex drunk at that moment. Everyone knows that it is normal for a female to cry during a consensual sex and if her hands and legs was not tied why should she allowed him to penetrate her without her pushing him out and getting up from her position because she was free to do so.

However, no law will accept this has a rape if we want to be fair to our nature as a part of animal. We are human beings that understand better than other animals and can control our natural instincts and organs to an "extent" but can not give full control of them in all circumstances like this one.

All women should condemn her actions because this is a mockery to rape victims, a victim of rape will not be happy reading this lady's narrative of rape. A real victim of rape knows that this lady had multitude of chances to stop her claimed unwanted sex. Those that were raped had no chance to escape from their rapist. What I understood here is that the man initiated the sex which any of them can do and she agreed. It is not rape, if you still believe it then tell us how she can prove it that she was raped by the man she allowed to have MouthAction with her. If you still count on the consent from the lady. It is still baseless because they have no witness and it is unjustifiable to believe the account of one person without solid evidence. The lady didn't cried for help from the neighbors, she didn't shout for people around to hear her and give evidence to that act. She has no evidence at all and that is why he can not be called a rapist, she should apologize to him because he is the victim of blackmail. If we start persecuting people with this kind of stories of rape then men will be at a great risk of false accusations from females. We can not count this as rape, if you want equality between men and women it must be balance equality not a one side equality. Women are not the only people that can be raped by men, some men are also victims of rape by women.

Rape is very bad, it should be a concern to everyone whether it is male or female perpetrators or victims it should be treated equally, no one is affected more than the other. We should teach our male and female children to respect peoples' dignities and how to avoid the chances of being raped by opposite or the same sex. Don't rape and don't give yourself to be raped, human beings are part of animal, control depends on the individual so be very careful to avoid anything that you may regret later. Thanks.

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

peterbello:


Biscuit bone, when I saw Unilag, I almost concluded that you were the victim geh.

Blackfyre:



@emboldened.....she does not deserve to be raped....

bukatyne:
How do they train girls these days?

You have a BF and decided to sleep over at another guy's place? Alone?

You slept on the bed and changed to your shorts? I am guessing hot pants here?

He wanted to cuddle and you let him?

You 'needed' free Wi-Fi and couldn't go there in the day to download or whatever?

He 'raped' you and still put you in Uber and gave you money for drugs?

If you go to a guy's house alone/with friends and comfortably change into shorts and share a bed with him, sex is on the table.... #commonsense 101.

Some ladies need brain surgery to reset their thought processing. This is typical fish brain I swear!

All these fish brained girls would not let genuine rape victims get reserved help.

Look, in the last one year, a lot of good men, very successful men have been destroyed by this newly found Weapon of Men's Destruction (WMD) called rape.
Women have sensed that the world has no tolerance for rapist (and that is okay!) and thus, have decided it is a valid weapon to be used against men, to ruin them and destroy their carreers.
It even went as far as some western countries even permitting a wife, who was legally married to a husband, who lives and sleeps on the same bed with her husband, under the same roof, to allege "Rape" by the husband, by claiming she did not say YES!
Just imagine the "Power of Control" women want to exercise over Men!

"Shouting Rape" has now become a Weapon, in the hands of women and Men must be wise to their antics.

makydebbie:
Firstly, the girl fumbled!!

My dear, in this 21st century of perverted minds and high libidos, you don't spend a night with a guy, on the same bed for that matter!


And she has a boyfriend too, what was she expecting? That they'll sing hallelujah together? And my dear, the guy already hinted sex.

I'm not going to put the entire blame on that beastly attitude, but she should face the consequences of her actions! Every decision we make in life have consequences, whether good or bad. What was she thinking? They could've gone on an afternoon date why would she spend the night with him on his bed? My dear, few guys have that self control. Maybe she has done this risky adventure with brother John, and thought brother Mike could control himself too..

She laid her bed, she should lie on it. The guy too is wrong sha, he shouldn't have done it. But the girl too, he was doing touching body and she couldn't leave the room for him?


Phew! They should be blamed. They're adults responsible for their actions and decisions they both made.

makydebbie:
I can imagine the fought off.

Yea, I agree.

Laveda:


I understand perfectly, if you read all my comments, I said she's got her own part of the blame.

That she slept over didn't mean he should rape, but the story she gave didn't just makeup for all these.

Like some girls will say, even if you dress in a very provocative manner, you shouldn't be raped, they forget these are the things that triggers rape.

No, I'm not justifying rape, but when you find yourself in a society like ours, one has to be very cautious.

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

Svelte98:



And why would you conclude that please?

Peterosky:
Girls can be very funny. I would have totally blamed the guy if she was stranded and the guy offered to help but ended up sleeping with her against her wish. Why on earth would you spend a night with a guy you just met and not even your bf if you don't want to to be bleeped?[b]But again, I have also discovered that no matter how much you struggle,you can't have sex with any girl except she allows you.[/b]I am speaking from experience, so the girl is only acting rape where sex happened as desired. Perhaps, the guy didn't settle nkangabang well.

Papiikush:
Slut!

A guy who is not your boyfriend, what in the world were you doing in his house overnight?

Forget the whole rape brouhaha...she is trying to play the victim card here because all I read is about a one night stand gone wrong.

Wait... How in the world will someone rape you with oral again?

I mean he was licking your pussý comfortably and you couldn't do anything? Ha aye mi!!!!

If a guy can be so comfortable to the extent he goes down on you, removes your panties and use his tongue to wipe your pussý clean without you breaking his neck with your laps, then you are a slut

I need to start telling these Unilag girls I have free WIFI maybe they'll come and spend the night in my apartment too. Awon olosho gbogbo

Forget self control, bìtch if you come to my apartment and you running around in your bumshort I'll fück that pussý.

If you are looking for men with self control don't sleep in my house go and sleep in your pastor's house.

Laveda:


@The emboldened.

Safe to say we should beware of men cause they are potential rapists?