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timmykaydude:
have you experience it before.?

Yes...I have experienced this many times

Kings1930:
Yes...I have experienced this many times

did you overcome it? if yes how?.As for me, I distance myself from them.

charley94:
how do I get this book

Send me a pm and i'll send you the soft copy.

DonOms:
One thing is very clear about most introverts: the absurd rule "unlikes attract" does not only reek of fallacy (except in the context of magnetism, of course), it sure does not hold for introverts. In an extroverted world that can't keep quiet, Introverts search for quiet endlessly. So when someone with a similar personality is seen, it becomes so obvious who they are simply because it's easy to spot an introvert in the midst of plenty extroverts.

When this spotting happens, attraction takes place and the introvert is drawn to the other introverted fellow. This very rare opportunity is then what drives an introvert to reach out though he/she would ordinarily not do so.




Truth is, many introverts want to make friends but because they soon get tired of the idea of friendship and "too much company," they would rather not start what they cannot finish. This is why we don't like making friends though we may secretly want it and are totally capable of initiating it. So the reason you see making friends as vanity is because your mind tells you that you can't sustain it and it's therefore pointless starting it.

Now, "raised to epileptic levels" is a very funny way to qualify degree of shyness. I'd say it's normal and it's not so much about introversion really. This has been discussed a lot of times here so please go over the last dozen pages of this thread. I posted something on this page that might answer your question:

https://www.nairaland.com/1830091/introverts-lounge-extroverts-pls-keep/135

yeah
I checked dat up
a form of social anxiety...
buh I think u will agree with me that the introvert's nature of being already inclined to being quiet just reinforce the shyness.

an extrovert feed on energy based on a large quantity of social interactions and so shyness for him can be very frustrating...
but for introvert we make do with less interaction... for us we are only worried about shyness when the shyness has skyrocketed to extremely abnormal degree

DonOms:
Now, "raised to epileptic levels" is a very funny way to qualify degree of shyness. I'd say it's normal and it's not so much about introversion really. This has been discussed a lot of times here so please go over the last dozen pages of this thread. I posted something on this page that might answer your question:

https://www.nairaland.com/1830091/introverts-lounge-extroverts-pls-keep/135

yeah
I checked dat up
a form of social anxiety...
buh I think u will agree with me that the introvert's nature of being already inclined to being quiet and reserved just reinforce the shyness.

an extrovert feed on energy based on a large quantity of social interactions and so shyness for him can be very frustrating...
but for introvert we make do with less interaction... for us we are only worried about shyness when the shyness has skyrocketed to extremely abnormal degree

timmykaydude:
have you experience a situation whereby people look down on you, they sees you as a fool? have you experience a situation whereby you can't start a conversation with a stranger even if you try, you get stuck in the middle of it? Have you ever been in a situation whereby you are innocent and even on your right, you end up saying sorry even when you are really angry inside? etc I mean these things hurt.

Well, I understand you perfectly. And I know introverts can be capable of playing the "sheep" one time too many. However, you have to know that introverted or not, the onus is on you to defend yourself if wrongly accused. You may not be able to start a lengthy and heated argument but speak up anyway and let it be on record. That's what I'll do.

As for people looking down on me, I'm not so sure I've really had that experience. Though very quiet while growing up, I never really had people see me as a fool for that. If anything, I was respected and taken to be wise. I wouldn't know what worked for me but my guess would be my physical appearance (build) and maybe the way I spoke.

As for the talk with strangers, that's what happens to most introverts. We just can't help it talking to a stranger. We ask ourselves 100 questions in our minds and assess which is rightmost before even asking one question. But I can assure you if you do practice social etiquettes and attend more social gatherings you can easily improve this.

ObaofNigeria:
yeah
I checked dat up
a form of social anxiety...
buh I think u will agree with me that the introvert's nature of being already inclined to being quiet just reinforce the shyness.

an extrovert feed on energy based on a large quantity of social interactions and so shyness for him can be very frustrating...
but for introvert we make do with less interaction... for us we are only worried about shyness when the shyness has skyrocketed to extremely abnormal degree

I agree with the bolded. While shyness is not the same as introversion, introverts who are also shy tend to take longer time to get over shyness as compared to their extrovert counterparts.

Really, shyness being extremely abnormal is a problem of the mind mostly. So this is why a careful psychological analysis of the situation is required to ascertain what the root of the issue is and how to correct them.

timmykaydude:
did you overcome it? if yes how?.As for me, I distance myself from them.

can't find a way to overcome this....but I make sure i stay away from such situations

Olarewajub:
Send me a pm and i'll send you the soft copy.

I tried sending a pm, was not successful. you can send it to this mail address charlesosegi@Gmail.com

charley94:
I tried sending a pm, was not successful. you can send it to this mail address @Gmail.com

Mail sent.

Olarewajub:
Mail sent.

received thank you very much

Random question How many of we guys here currently have a girlfriend. And if any one does can you explain the process of how getting one was like

charley94:
Random question
How many of we guys here currently have a girlfriend.
And if any one does can you explain the process of how getting one was like

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charley94:
Random question
How many of we guys here currently have a girlfriend.
And if any one does can you explain the process of how getting one was like

Waiting for responses. Thanks for asking.

charley94:
Random question
How many of we guys here currently have a girlfriend.
And if any one does can you explain the process of how getting one was like

Like, serious, seriously...?

DonOms:
Like, serious, seriously...?

just fooling around

charley94:
Random question
How many of we guys here currently have a girlfriend.
And if any one does can you explain the process of how getting one was like

Still waiting for response

Olarewajub:
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Coman answer jor. Lol

DonOms:
Like, serious, seriously...?

Coman answer jor.. Lol

charley94:
just fooling around

How can you fool around with dis kain sensitive kweshion? You nor nice atal. Lol

Melsan:
Coman answer jor. Lol

I'm not eligible to answer the question. Nevertheless, it will be nice if you could share your experience...

Olarewajub:
I'm not eligible to answer the question. Nevertheless, it will be nice if you could share your experience...

Guys only

charley94:
just fooling around

Fooling around ke? Remember you're requesting for experience and not advice. Be serious o.

Melsan:
Guys only

charley94 modify your post so that Melsan can share her experience.

Olarewajub:
charley94 modify your post so that Melsan can share her experience.

He is just fooling around.

Olarewajub:
charley94 modify your post so that Melsan can share her experience.

Okay its open to everyone both make and female

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Olarewajub:
Fooling around ke? Remember you're requesting for experience and not advice. Be serious o.

Okay I am serious

charley94:
Okay its open to everyone both make and female

Melsan charley94 has spoken.

Melsan charley94 has spoken.

Melsan:
He is just fooling around.

No body is joking here jor. Dating and Introversion is a very sensitive topic.

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Olarewajub:
Melsan charley94 has spoken.

Melsan charley94 has spoken.

No body is joking here jor. Dating and Introversion is a very sensitive topic.

So true.

Melsan:
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