Windflower:

This your story is very strong o and like Donoms said I think their case is beyond introversion. If not someone should explain the term introversion again. I am exactly like that in the sense that I don't relate with people in my environment cos I can't stand gossips and hypocrisy.Something happened last month a woman that I do not have any rapport with,just casual greetings fainted,I heard shout from her room,I went there and rendered the little help that I could. Just because we are introverted doesn't mean we should neglect people completely,like people would say,your neighbour's are your immediate family,in terms of crisis they would be the one to come to your aid first before any of your family member arrives. To the point of a baby dying,I don't think they are both mentally stable

hahaha ha mental Kwa? That one na another level of. They are learned people o, the husband is a vice principal in a very reputable school up north. The woman sef na acada. They weren't just it that's the summary of the matter.may be they have issue of low self esteem too abi wetin we go talk?we intros really need to wake up and dig things up the right way. This our 'over shy and crude attitude' won't take lot of us far. I for one has out grown most of this stages..though I still cherish been alone like kilode! I value my. Privacy and perimeter too much. And if I have my way I would like to live alone till christ returns�. Any one in my shoes pls?

Me still think they know what they were doing.. They might have added some little element of 'mumuism' in to their life style but that's that Sha. The other flat mates were not happy about them at all, had to wade into their matter.

DonOms:


While those couple may actually be introverts, I think their reclusion goes beyond introversion. They're either both socially handicapped or somewhat mentally moronic or suffer from a severe case of shyness. To lose a child, a whole human being, because you couldn't get help? Even if there was no money, wouldn't one rather be in debt than 'kill?' May their souls be blessed!

The union of two 'normal' introverts should definitely not result to a couple as that in your example.

gidjah:
hahaha ha mental Kwa? That one na another level of. They are learned people o, the husband is a vice principal in a very reputable school up north. The woman sef na acada. They weren't just it that's the summary of the matter.may be they have issue of low self esteem too abi wetin we go talk?we intros really need to wake up and dig things up the right way. This our 'over shy and crude attitude' won't take lot of us far. I for one has out grown most of this stages..though I still cherish been alone like kilode! I value my. Privacy and perimeter too much. And if I have my way I would like to live alone till christ returns�. Any one in my shoes pls?

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gidjah:
Me still think they know what they were doing.. They might have added some little element of 'mumuism' in to their life style but that's that Sha. The other flat mates were not happy about them at all, had to wade into their matter.

Truth is, whether they knew what they were doing or not, they don't seem to understand the consequences of their actions. You see, some people by virtue of religion, environment, tradition and/or other beliefs have been brainwashed into accepting some erroneous and archaic things that make them do unimaginable things. These are far from personality. It's more about domestication.

gidjah:
hahaha ha mental Kwa? That one na another level of. They are learned people o, the husband is a vice principal in a very reputable school up north. The woman sef na acada. They weren't just it that's the summary of the matter.may be they have issue of low self esteem too abi wetin we go talk?we intros really need to wake up and dig things up the right way. This our 'over shy and crude attitude' won't take lot of us far. I for one has out grown most of this stages..though I still cherish been alone like kilode! I value my. Privacy and perimeter too much. And if I have my way I would like to live alone till christ returns�. Any one in my shoes pls?

Introverts by default are not 'shy and crude.' We all need to understand what it really means to be introverted. Those couple didn't do what they did because they were introverts.

I was a little shy as a child because I didn't understand why I felt the way I did in social settings.
As I grew and began studying human behaviour then knew about introversion, I quickly realised I was an introvert and the shyness i thought I had died a natural death. Even though I am not shy and I can address a crowd effortlessly, I still run away from parties and crowds and don't like entertaining guests.

Windflower:

I get you but that was when I was in school,now I just try to get along with people without too much familiarity but its would be nice to hear how you do it

Alright, but bear in mind that circumstances and people differ and results might differ too.

1. Smile often: The face is the door to the state of the heart. A smile is often a sign of approval. When one smiles, it creates an atmosphere of friendliness.

2. Kindness: Most introverts are kind and understanding people, but there are silent wicked folks too. Being kind to people creates a warm regard for you in their heart, hence their behaviour toward you is reciprocated in kindness.

3. Truth: No one loves a liar, nor would want to associate with them. So truth spoken without hurting the feelings of others makes them know you as a truthful person, meaning gossips won't "bring their market for you to buy"

Other striking qualities include hardwork, humility punctuality etc

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gidjah:
hahaha ha mental Kwa? That one na another level of. They are learned people o, the husband is a vice principal in a very reputable school up north. The woman sef na acada. They weren't just it that's the summary of the matter.may be they have issue of low self esteem too abi wetin we go talk?we intros really need to wake up and dig things up the right way. This our 'over shy and crude attitude' won't take lot of us far. I for one has out grown most of this stages..though I still cherish been alone like kilode! I value my. Privacy and perimeter too much. And if I have my way I would like to live alone till christ returns�. Any one in my shoes pls?

You might be a little right on the low self esteem,I used to suffer from it while growing up,then to open my mouth take greet people na wahala,even to pass on my street where people are closely watching was a crime,thank God have gotten over that. Honestly, their problem goes beyond introversion,being an introvert or extrovert during a time of crisis,you forget who you are at that moment and all you are concerned about is how to find a solution to the problem. Everything in life is about moderation, we intros should learn to get along with people in our own little way cos we can't spend the rest of our lives alone without interacting with our immediate environment.
About being alone,yes I also value my privacy a lot,infact right now my right to privacy has been confiscated because everyone is home for Christmas and its a full house.
I even think about it sometimes, if it was possible to live in seclusion as long as I have everything I need but truth is its not possible,and its not healthy for ones mind.we can't deal with life alone,we need people around us.

plavic:


Alright, but bear in mind that circumstances and people differ and results might differ too.

1. Smile often: The face is the door to the state of the heart. A smile is often a sign of approval. When one smiles, it creates an atmosphere of friendliness.

2. Kindness: Most introverts are kind and understanding people, but there are silent wicked folks too. Being kind to people creates a warm regard for you in their heart, hence their behaviour toward you is reciprocated in kindness.

3. Truth: No one loves a liar, nor would want to associate with them. So truth spoken without hurting the feelings of others makes them know you as a truthful person, meaning gossips won't "bring their market for you to buy"

Other striking qualities include hardwork, humility punctuality etc

Rightly said,I smile a lot,only with people am comfortable with,can't just begin to smile at a random person. Believe me,I am fun and loving only if I trust and am comfortable with the person. My family knows that,the issue is people outside,for example the route I take to work everyday,I got an info from a friend that the people there was gossiping about how I keep a stern face anytime I pass. Now that's a bad impression, you can't just expect me to start smiling when am walking,its doesn't make sense and I keep the stern face so no one would try rubbish with me,I hate forming familiarity with people because then they had take advantage of my kindness and my being transparent. That's why I don't like people getting close because of my past relations with people

Windflower:

Rightly said,I smile a lot,only with people am comfortable with,can't just begin to smile at a random person. Believe me,I am fun and loving only if I trust and am comfortable with the person. My family knows that,the issue is people outside,for example the route I take to work everyday,I got an info from a friend that the people there was gossiping about how I keep a stern face anytime I pass. Now that's a bad impression, you can't just expect me to start smiling when am walking,its doesn't make sense and I keep the stern face so no one would try rubbish with me,I hate forming familiarity with people because then they had take advantage of my kindness and my being transparent. That's why I don't like people getting close because of my past relations with people

Hm, I forgot to add "don't bother about what people say behind you. You cannot please everyone." If you keep a good heart and are kind to ppl around you, eventually the truth about you will speak and not lie

Hmm so so true, God born us to interact with one another.' No man is an island' I remamber that song way back in d early 90s.but I have never recalled ever wanting to talk to someone in most of my growing up phases. I just love to keep quiet and do lots of thinking. I really grew up been a lone ranger and it still get to me till date.you know... Been d only child from a momma and growing up from a poly home.... Always alone with no one to share my matter with (that's if there's ever any matter sef) just kept going on as if there's nothing that happened to you. Na so I take grow up o. But thank the heavens today, yours truly is changing and now a man too.

Windflower:

You might be a little right on the low self esteem,I used to suffer from it while growing up,then to open my mouth take greet people na wahala,even to pass on my street where people are closely watching was a crime,thank God have gotten over that. Honestly, their problem goes beyond introversion,being an introvert or extrovert during a time of crisis,you forget who you are at that moment and all you are concerned about is how to find a solution to the problem. Everything in life is about moderation, we intros should learn to get along with people in our own little way cos we can't spend the rest of our lives alone without interacting with our immediate environment.
About being alone,yes I also value my privacy a lot,infact right now my right to privacy has been confiscated because everyone is home for Christmas and its a full house.
I even think about it sometimes, if it was possible to live in seclusion as long as I have everything I need but truth is its not possible,and its not healthy for ones mind.we can't deal with life alone,we need people around us.

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Merry Christmas everyone. Do have a wonderful season and a productive new year 2018.

udo4 Wrong thread...
DonOms Thanks for the links. Merry Christmas in advance.

anything interesting planned for the holidays, or are we all gonna be indoors?

charley94:
anything interesting planned for the holidays, or are we all gonna be indoors?

Compliment of the season!
For me, I'm going to be indoors.

Olarewajub:
udo4 Wrong thread...

DonOms Thanks for the links.
Merry Christmas in advance.

Thanks. Merry Christmas to you too.

Rukkydelta:

I do
100% correct and I find it so difficult to visit others
I had a girl that stayed with me for two weeks here in school, she is a fresher so she stayed with me till when she saw an accommodation
I wasn't comfortable during the period of her stay
My personal space was just invaded. It was hard but it's an experience that was really worth it

INTROVERTS IN THE HOUSE HOW DO/DID YOU COPE WITH A ROOM/FLAT MATE?

Honestly, I don't think i'll ever have a roommate till I graduate

Olarewajub:

Compliment of the season! For me, I'm going to be indoors.

Lol. Why?

Gucciqueen38:
Lol. Why?

Hmmm...
Well have got lot of issues to tackle and whereas it's not as if I've got anywhere to go. Hehe

Merry Christmas.

RICKYMARIO:

Honestly, I don't think i'll ever have a roommate till I graduate

For me, having a roommate is one of the worst thing an Introvert can experience, especially in public hostels were 15 students can occupy a small room.
Your grades will suffer since you'll have to struggle to keep up and you might end up being a zombie psychologically. I hate it when someone is watching.

Olarewajub:


Hmmm...
Well have got lot of issues to tackle and whereas it's not as if I've got anywhere to go. Hehe

Merry Christmas.

D okay o.

Same to you!

Wishing all Christian inroverts, a joy filled season. As you celebrate His first coming, may you be worthy to partake and celebrate in His second coming too. JOY TO D WORLD! JESUS IS THE REASON FOR THE SEASON.

I know most of you guys gonna stay indoors just like moi...anyways,its part of the fun, God bless you all.

gidjah:
I know most of you guys gonna stay indoors just like moi...anyways,its part of the fun, God bless you all.

it's in the DNA

Hmmmmm.God is great.

charley94:

it's in the DNA

Merry Christmas homies.
How are you celebrating? I'll try to go out there and woo a lady. I go shame the devil today.
Yes! I'm beating my chest on it

locust:
Merry Christmas homies.
How are you celebrating? I'll try to go out there and woo a lady. I go shame the devil today.
Yes! I'm beating my chest on it

please do share the experience later

Hmm I feel.am.introverted pple say am shy
I feel.nervous walking during d day
I hate sitting at d front row
I hate pple.staring at me , jeez just kill.me
I dnt have friends , I rarely visit pple
I dislike calls , if I dnt call u dnt call.me
I hate crowded places
I can't maintain.eye contact, keep.my eyes to.d ground same as when.I walk
I cannot ans questions in public places even though I knw d answers very well, become nervous my heart beat races

I hate being compared

I rarely start conv, when I do I dnt knw hw to keep it going
Am.always by myself
I rather be alone than.with pple


I can't tell pple.am close to.my feelings , buh if I dnt knw.u ,like on.a faceless forum.I.would tell.u everything dats bothering me


Deh say alcohol would help buh it worsens d whole thing
Though I would feel intoxicated buh I just become more aware of my surrounding , my steps nd heightens d predicament

Also I Hate my parents
Mayb if I had grown up.under a diff condition.,I wouldnt have to face all this

Nd deh dnt seem.to notice any of this
Dis morning my dad called me abnormal

Deh keep.comparing me to.others forgetting those pple dnt have d same challenges I have to
Face everyday

Am 21

locust:
Merry Christmas homies.
How are you celebrating? I'll try to go out there and woo a lady. I go shame the devil today.
Yes! I'm beating my chest on it

Funny way to celebrate christmas..all the best!

Emzyme:
Hmm I feel.am.introverted pple say am shy
I feel.nervous walking during d day
I hate sitting at d front row
I hate pple.staring at me , jeez just kill.me
I dnt have friends , I rarely visit pple
I dislike calls , if I dnt call u dnt call.me
I hate crowded places
I can't maintain.eye contact, keep.my eyes to.d ground same as when.I walk
I cannot ans questions in public places even though I knw d answers very well, become nervous my heart beat races

I hate being compared

I rarely start conv, when I do I dnt knw hw to keep it going
Am.always by myself
I rather be alone than.with pple


I can't tell pple.am close to.my feelings , buh if I dnt knw.u ,like on.a faceless forum.I.would tell.u everything dats bothering me

Also I Hate my parents
Mayb if I had grown up.under a diff condition.,I wouldnt have to face all this

Nd deh dnt seem.to notice any of this
Dis morning my dad called me abnormal

Deh keep.comparing me to.others forgetting those pple dnt have d same challenges I have to
Face everyday

Don't hate your parents, do not!
Hate what they believe in.
Hate their domesticated ideologies
And the society that cloaked their vision.
Hate the tradition they have come to accept,
Which they blindly did without questioning.
Hate their judgemental disposition
And their warped myopic vision
Which has made them, as well as others
Compare you with another's
Without thinking how different you're designed.
Without a doubt, let your anger be at what is changeable
Not on the people who are grossly misinformed.

Don't feel bothered people don't understand you
Love yourself as you are and do everything you can
To better yourself and stand tall among the rest.
Take your back seat, no problem
Don't go out to public places, fine
Be alone and don't get a company, alright
But keep your head held high
And look into those faces
That they may see a confident you.
Let everyone know you're not broken
But your being you is default
And it makes you uniquely you.
Now, that's one sure way to make a difference.

DonOms:


Don't hate your parents, do not!
Hate what they believe in.
Hate their domesticated ideologies
And the society that cloaked their vision.
Hate the tradition they have come to accept,
Which they blindly did without questioning.
Hate their judgemental disposition
And their warped myopic vision
Which has made them, as well as others
Compare you with another's
Without thinking how different you're designed.
Without a doubt, let your anger be at what is changeable
Not on the people who are grossly misinformed.

Don't feel bothered people don't understand you
Love yourself as you are and do everything you can
To better yourself and stand tall among the rest.
Take your back seat, no problem
Don't go out to public places, fine
Be alone and don't get a company, alright
But keep your head held high
And look into those faces
That they may see a confident you.
Let everyone know you're not broken
But your being you is default
And it makes you uniquely you.
Now, that's one sure way to make a difference.

Wow tanx

Buh I can't see how I would hate what deh stand for without actually hating them

Emzyme:



Wow tanx

Buh I can't see how I would hate what deh stand for without actually hating them

Now that's what you think but it's actually very possible if you understand why people are the way they are. You see, truth is, many people are ignorant of the real truth due to their domestication. Their own 'truth' is all they know because they didn't question the teachings they were fed by the society and their environment. So it's not about them, but it's about the jargon that has been passed from generation to generation. So it's not so much their fault really, so why hate them for what they're not capable of helping?

You should determine to pass to your offspring the real truth about life and hope to correct the generation that roots from you if you can't others. That's what your energy should focus on, not hate of people who know little to nothing about the real truth.