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Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 10:16pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by bedspread: 10:16pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Brother I DONT KNOW HOW U WERE BROUGHT UP BUT I THINK YOU SHOULD BREAK AWAY FROM THAT PATTERN..... AND DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU YO DO |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by awa(m): 10:17pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Good advice |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by melexchi(m): 10:17pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
thinking what am thinking FortifiedCity: |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 10:17pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Your father is right |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by yvonnechaka(f): 10:19pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
CorGier: Ur opinion though but the father meant well, moreover before he suggested that he knows d son's financial power. Starting or building before he gets married is good |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 10:19pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Alariiwo: 10:20pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
CaptainJeffry: What happened to rented apartments? The dad has something he is not telling him jare. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 10:20pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
keacy: I don't mean to be rude. Your father was once a youth, what was his accomplishments? Why didn't he build the house in the village Now he want to disown you cos you are placing your priorities right...... Pray against him! 6 Likes |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Ranoscky(m): 10:21pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
LivinaPatrick:Not making sense. And so fvck what if the junior ones over take him? Abi dem dey stand for line dey make money? |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Yoshy: 10:23pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Aside stroking his ego of a proud father of a son that owns a house, your dads decision has some altruistic part, he probably did not build a house before getting married and from his Experience, he felt it will be better if you build first. You can start, then on the process, get married. The house is still yours after all. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 10:27pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
JONNYSPUTE:Why did his father not build the house? What was he doing when his mates were succeeding? 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by grandstar(m): 10:28pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
keacy: Get married if you love the girl. Your father's emotional blackmail is harmful. Many wise firstborns realise that there's a limit they can go and draw a mark. God loves a cheerful giver (Acts 20:35). Since this is not from your heart, then forget it. You can't work a willing horse to death. Our Heavenly Father remembers we are dust. (Psalms 103:14). Your earthly father shouls be mindful of that too 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Speedo17(m): 10:30pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Building a house in the village!!!! Not a good idea. Better get married fast and start humble with your wife. Build (& live in) your first home in a city conurbation. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by SirBunky85(m): 10:30pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
If ur financial status is Ok, u can start for house now and finish it even before d easter you've planned to marry .but, if u are not bouyant enuf, you shud plead with ur fada to see reasons with u. Though,i believe ur fada knows dat u have d financial muscle to build d house and dats why he's pressuring u |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by JONNYSPUTE(m): 10:31pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
reminiscing:. His father did not build a house when his mates were succeeding because he did not listen or took his fathers advice,so he doesn't want his son to make the same mistake he made.Are you OK now? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 10:32pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
If he had built a house in the village before getting married to your mother, he would probably not be asking you to do so. There you have your answer. #YourHappiness @ keacy 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by SirBunky85(m): 10:32pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
JONNYSPUTE:Is traditional marriage done at d grooms place?abeg,we dey do our own at d brides place |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by dabossman(m): 10:35pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
This one weak me o. Like seriously? I even thought it was a house he would live in with his wife. House in the village? Shouldn't his father have built a family house in the village? Well, You can go ahead and build it for the same of peace; but your dad's strong arm tactics reek of selfishness. This is all about him not you. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Aragon: 10:36pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
keacy: He should bury his head in Shame! First you are training his Child in school and now he wants you to build a house for him. Did you beg him to bring you into this world? Or did he bring you into this world to be used as pon to accomplish his own wishes? Whever I read stories like this, I have so much sadness, I mean why should parents to this to their kids? It is my dream to Leave Money and a good Legacy for my Kids and not take their own Money. That man doesnt fit the definition of a father so if you need to buy his Love and acceptance with money, then he is no Father so you might as well get on with it. Get married and disappear from him, cut all contants...Its your Life and you should decide how to live it. Your so called father have had his life and should allow you enjoy yours please 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 10:37pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
oga lay a foundation first to show ,na for bush u go sleep after getting married ? |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 10:38pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
JONNYSPUTE:First off, building a house where you dont live, and you wont rent easily, is very bad economics. Even if it is to spend the time of the traditional wedding there, the money spent exceed by very far the use. Second, even if the advice was sound, the idea of threatening your child so that he will marry when you want, and on your own terms, is despicable. Today it is about the mariage, tomorrow it will be something else. Disowning because of a house? Na by force to build house in the village? So he was born to build a house? Or is it a place of worship for the family? Be free from manipulation, from whoever it is. Let everyone loves you for who you are, not what you can do for them. @ keacy 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by paulbets: 10:38pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
@Keacy If you are saying that you have the financial buoyancy to build the house and that it will only affect your marriage plans by only shifting the date from April 2018 to December 2018 or probably early 2019... I would suggest you go ahead and build the house and then do the Marriage by December 2018. Don't let this be an issue for you expecially when you can do both without much effect on your pocket and marriage plans (except the few more months gap). |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by nuggarito: 10:38pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Your father wants the best for you, a wise man for that matter, how can you marry when you don't have anything to your name. The house will be there forever but you can take another woman. Follow your dad's advice, you may never know why he wants it so. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Empiree: 10:39pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
keacy:What your dad is saying is best known to him. It is unfair to judge situations btw both of you. I believe that your dad sensed that once you are married, your resources will be diverted and channelled on your wife and her family, which is true in some cases, especially when a man falls in crazy love with his wife. Some men would build a house for their mother in law in the name of love while neglecting their own. So from this perceptive your father may be right. However, this is not requirement to delaying your wedding. What you need is to sit down with him and COMMUNICATE. I know some fathers aren't open to communication or difference of option. Their opinion is "final say" which is very bad. Anyways, it is really up to you. If you can do both at a time go ahead. House isn't gonna build in a day but if you can afford to start the foundation while your wedding is on, the ball is in your court. I tell you what, building a house first if your resources are limited is gonna strain and divert you and you may lose your fiancée in the process. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by JONNYSPUTE(m): 10:39pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
SirBunky85:. So after doing it at the brides place you sleep at ur in-laws place? Shame on you for saying this. If this is the way you reason,then your father is very right because you ve no sense. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by thingsyoudo123(m): 10:45pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
When some ppl say "village ppl" r pursuing u, henceforth understand dat the term "Village ppl" might be referring to ur father sha... |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by alfred007(m): 10:46pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
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Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by sogud(m): 10:47pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
keacy: Sir if u ctnue following ur dad u wil get old n tru dis ur rytful partner may kum n go bcoz ur dad refus u to marry bcoz of hse. if ur dad truly want ur happiness n joy he wil alow u to marry, ur dad cnnt tire u down for eva bcoz u ve nt build hse in village....... chat me for mre advice 08063588264 |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by akanji4good(m): 10:48pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
Your father is 100% right, pls do as he says |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by JONNYSPUTE(m): 10:51pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
LoJ:. See its not by shouting. The old man knows exactly what he is saying. Have you asked yourself why the man was not able to build a house in the village? Do you know that guy can get married and by the time you know it his financial statue can depreciate? His father telling him to build a house before marriage might be as a result of his own experience,something might ve happened to him when he got married and been a loving father he doesn't want his son to experience such. Honour your mother and your father for ur days to be long is what the 5th commandment said. You are not wiser than the old man. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by anochuko01(m): 10:57pm On Jan 01, 2018 |
any father or mother that threatens me like this would only see my wedding pics on Facebook I just hate been commanded on how to live my life. that reservation is for God and myself alone. 2 Likes |
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