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Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by BudeYahooCom: 6:29am On Jan 02, 2018 |
Mr man, if you know what is good better build that house before you go into the ups and downs of marriage and family responsibility. All these morons asking your father why he didn't build a house won't be there for you when you start sleeping under bridge with your kids and probably become suicidal. If your father didn't build but spent the money training you in school then you strive to build and make him happy and proud. There is no need to be rebellious. If you disown that man, you'll still need him one way or the other when life starts throwing serious jabs at you. There is no need rushing into marriage and start producing kids especially in a wicked country like this zoo where nobody will give a damn about them when things go south and exposing them to suffering. Prepare for them. Build..invest. Build first and make hay while the sun shines. Marrige life will defintely cut through your finances. Be prepared. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Dindondin(m): 6:31am On Jan 02, 2018 |
coolestofall:its the financial issue. Marriage is so complicated that you v to do it only with the right person . If there is delay, the right person may walk away. It's obvious the op & his fiance are due for marriage. The father knew he ll v more financial responsibilities when he's married hence there may be delay in the village house. But it's better for him to v a delayed village house than a delayed marriage which is equal to delayed destiny. The guy's family should be fair with him. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by ushafe(m): 6:33am On Jan 02, 2018 |
coolestofall:Very very right |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by sinceraconcept(m): 6:38am On Jan 02, 2018 |
Alariiwo:getting old at 34? don't forget he isn't a woman and people should always forget about ounje omo,it mostly belongs to mums. the old man wants him to have a house before his shoulders are loaded with burdens and he wouldn't be able to build one again. father probably made same mistake spending his whole life bringing them up and doesn't want the same for the son. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Brightosman: 6:45am On Jan 02, 2018 |
armyofone: But why would you be blunt at a person fathers advice |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Iseoluwani: 6:46am On Jan 02, 2018 |
LivinaPatrick: I so much agree with you |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by alakuko: 6:50am On Jan 02, 2018 |
You better build Bro. A word is enough for the wise. Thatmay be what your Dad is waiting for before his death. It willl be an eternal regret if your father dies without him seeing a new houseon his head and that may hunt you for life. Also, who know your kind of fiancee |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by sleepingqueen25(f): 7:21am On Jan 02, 2018 |
keacy:I think Your dad is right. You are 34 and also the first child and until now you guys don't have a house in the village Haba mana where will you be staying with your family if u visit home If you have what it takes to start a home and you don't have at least a comfortable structure in your fathers house as the first son then you are definitely not fit for marriage. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 7:23am On Jan 02, 2018 |
JONNYSPUTE:What is this one saying? Is the Father not the one to build a house in the village? Abeg Op go and marry jare and pray against the spirit of delay. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Carter4luv(m): 7:28am On Jan 02, 2018 |
My advice: do as ur dad said, also try to save for ur wedding too. Before the middle of the year everything we be ready. U can go ahead and marry ur queen. Towards this time, I pray may the Lord bless ur hands that u will not lack as u carry on this project.amen |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by smulti(m): 7:32am On Jan 02, 2018 |
Collins4u1: Op take this advice, your father can never mislead you and probably doesn't want you to make the same mistake he made anybody can get married be it elaborate or on tight budget, (marriage is marriage) but haven built your own House is what distinguish boys from the men . cc keacy |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by hgnbello(m): 7:44am On Jan 02, 2018 |
ur dad is wise.. marry ha nd u wont be able to build dat house. do it 4 d man if u cn.. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by JONNYSPUTE(m): 8:00am On Jan 02, 2018 |
smulti:. Thanks for understanding the angle the father is coming from. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Fisfrank(m): 8:05am On Jan 02, 2018 |
JONNYSPUTE: is it his father town he is going to do his traditional marriage or his wife to be town ? |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by seniorkachion(m): 8:07am On Jan 02, 2018 |
tuscani: Don't mind him. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by tealaw(m): 8:11am On Jan 02, 2018 |
olalat: it is a complicated issue. Money doesnt come like dat to some people. Opportunity comes but once. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Lexmane(m): 8:14am On Jan 02, 2018 |
tealaw:haha,can u just gv a constructive criticism....we need sanity in this part of the world. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by JONNYSPUTE(m): 8:15am On Jan 02, 2018 |
Fisfrank:. So after doing it in his wife's town,will he sleep there?. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by holysainbj(m): 8:20am On Jan 02, 2018 |
OfficialAwol:Building a home in the village is not an investment? It's an act to impress people who don't matter You obviously don't travel home as often as you should and that's the reason for whatever you wrote up there. Personally I have to build in the village before getting married but that's without pressure from anybody, or to impress anybody, and not for cobwebs too, I like to visit home, you should try going home too more often |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by IMASTEX: 8:22am On Jan 02, 2018 |
LivinaPatrick:Seconded. Also the dad is playing some politics. He is scared that after marriage responsibility will increase. Therefore, the chance of paying for school need of the younger brother and even allowance to the father might be a challenge. Some dad are so greedy that they rob Paul to pay peter. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Rubbiish(m): 8:28am On Jan 02, 2018 |
alexialin:@bold Bad advise It is better for him to strike a balance Any marriage done against the wish of his dad maybe bereft of peace The words of our parents are powerful... |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by tealaw(m): 8:33am On Jan 02, 2018 |
Lexmane: Watever u owe him, uve paid back in d form of raising ur young ones. Cos i knw sentimental ppl here go dey shout 'ah, but he brought u up'! Dats his duty. U didnt beg to come to d world. N its not a crime dat u came to d world, so u not serving any form of sentence under him. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by deboysben(m): 8:34am On Jan 02, 2018 |
All of you asking the dad why he didn't build one. Let me ask you. Why do we bear children? |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by pawesome(m): 8:35am On Jan 02, 2018 |
keacy:you in thesame position with me..but am the first of 8..will be 30 august and he is saying i must build first..but at the end sha,all is just mouth |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 8:36am On Jan 02, 2018 |
Rubbiish: Such kind of dad will not listen until he builds a house in the village. But seriously, I wonder how his parents can dictate when he can marry and when not to marry? It's complete abuse of parental control. Just too bad. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Nobody: 8:39am On Jan 02, 2018 |
deboysben: See question? Do we bear children, so they can build house/ houses for us? Am not understanding this your logic. Well God bless the souls of my parents . They were not in that school of thought. No pressure whatsoever was placed on us. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by NwaliE01: 8:55am On Jan 02, 2018 |
keacy:Just go ahead with your marriage plans. He should ask himself, which house did he build before marrying your mother? He is expecting what he never offered. House will come and must not be from you. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by tealaw(m): 8:57am On Jan 02, 2018 |
Many of us wont be rich today if we took our parents advice. Gbam! I said it. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by OfficialAwol(m): 9:05am On Jan 02, 2018 |
histemple: Lolz. Subtly |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by OfficialAwol(m): 9:09am On Jan 02, 2018 |
holysainbj: You definitely need a definition of what an investment is. Maybe you should know that while every investment is an asset, not every asset is an investment. The house in the village is an asset, not investment. Because it's never yielding any profit. I'm not against building in the village, what I'm against is someone being pressurized to do it at the expense of what he considers a greater value. |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by adetes: 9:12am On Jan 02, 2018 |
Different opinion though, do wats best for ur self, take advice but not all |
Re: I'm Ready To Get Married But My Father Wants Me To Build First by Resees: 9:21am On Jan 02, 2018 |
Bro,don't stress yourself much If you have money to build the house go for it but if you don't go straight and get married.Did your dad's father gave him conditions before he married your mom Exactly!.Do what is best for .what makes you happy is what matters and stop making other people happy.Later |
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